Why do people get entangled, and what should they do if they are entangled?

The so-called tangled states are as follows:

1. Hesitation.

There are many options for doing one thing or not doing it.

Each of these choices has its own pros and cons, and you may hesitate to decide how to choose.

At this time, you will be entangled.

2. Undecided.

There are many ways to fix one thing. ......Each of these solutions has its own pros and cons. ......How you choose for yourself will be undecided.

At this time, you will be entangled.

3. Gain and loss.

When you do something yourself, you may gain or pay a price. ......Whether you get more or give more varies from one situation to another. ......At this time, how to choose yourself, you will suffer from gains and losses.

At this time, I will also be entangled.

4. If you don't care about things, if you care, you will be chaotic.

I don't care about things that have nothing to do with me.

Things that are related to oneself, I will pay attention to them.

When something is related to you, and at the same time you may be affected by it, you will be entangled.

The above is the specific reason why a person is entangled.

When you are entangled, you need to make a decision and take measures to solve the problem, so that you can eliminate the tangled state.

Specifically, you can eliminate the entanglement in the following ways:

1. Be clear about the facts.

2. Calculate the gains and losses.

When you understand the relevant situation, you should analyze it and calculate the pros and cons clearly. ......In this way, you can provide a basis for how to make your own decisions.

3. Make a decision immediately.

Once you know what you should do, you should make a decision to implement your decision. ......In this way, you can solve the problem and eliminate the tangled.

The above are the reasons why a person has a tangled psychology and how to eliminate it. ......You can respond to the specific situation according to the specific situation, so that you can completely eliminate the influence of the tangled mentality and re-establish your self-confidence.

In the face of choice, people wander left and right, hesitating, which is the common nature of human beings, and it is a way of self-defense and protection for human beings. In the face of things, we need a certain amount of time to think, make rational analysis and more accurate judgments after weighing, and make the most beneficial decisions for ourselves, which reflects the nature of human beings: to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.

Generally speaking, most of us can make a choice that is more beneficial to us. But there are also some people who are far more hesitant and entangled than ordinary people. Most people are just a little distressed, but after talking to the people around them, they will feel clear and directional, and then they will be able to make better decisions and pay corresponding behaviors.

But people who are too entangled, after communicating with the people around them, they are more confused, entangled, more painful, and more difficult to act.

The difference between the two is:

The problems they encounter in the process of growing up have been solved better, and they are confident in their hearts, and the current distress is just the distress of the moment, and once they make a decision, they believe that this is the best choice, and they also believe that they will be able to achieve their goals.

The latter's confusion seems to be the confusion of the current problem, but the unsolved problems of the past are hidden in their hearts, and these fears and uneasiness are stimulated by the current problems, which will inevitably lead to their lack of confidence to stick to their choices and the strength to resolutely implement them. So, even if the latter has a problem, using the same approach as the former will lead to different results.

Those who are too hesitant and too entangled, they often have a strong sense of unconfidence in their hearts, and have a strong sense of uneasiness about the outside world, which is often caused by not being well cared for by their mothers in infancy and early childhood, and some are caused by trauma experienced in the process of growing up.

So how should you get rid of your own tangle? So that you will not be so entangled and let yourself live more transparently?

The first lesson: choose from the heart. For example, a man goes to a rice field to look for the largest ears of wheat, and along the way, he finds many large ears of wheat, and he always thinks that he will eventually meet a bigger ear.

Walking and walking, it is best to find that you have unconsciously finished a rice field and have not chosen an ear of wheat. Then at this time, because of entanglement and hesitation, I missed the best choice opportunity in my life. What if you choose from the heart?

For example, when you are walking, you see a lot of ears of wheat with full grains, and when you are halfway there, you find that the general characteristics of the large and small ears of wheat are, and you have experience, so you find one on the road in the second half of the road that is similar to the largest one you saw earlier, so you can decisively pick this ear of wheat.

So this is a conscious choice, when you feel that you want to pick, you will immediately pick it decisively. Thus ** their own tangled syndrome. The next time you go to the mall to buy something, when you see two items that you like very much, but you can only buy one, you choose from the first feeling in your heart, then it is it.

The second lesson: deliberately leave a certain amount of time to think. In fact, there is also a benefit to tangling, that is, it will make your thinking more comprehensive, so as to make the best choice in the end.

If you dwell on it for too long, you'll miss out on opportunities. So deliberately train yourself to be tangled in time. For example, when faced with a choice, give yourself 5 minutes to think, and you have to make a choice within 5 minutes, and it is the choice you want to make.

Making choices within a limited time is conducive to your brain to keep thinking and making choices, so that you will continue to train your ability to make choices from a long-term perspective. The reason why some people are so bold is because they see something that others don't see, but they don't hesitate to carry it out. This ability is consciously trained by yourself, but others don't tell you.

People who are easily entangled, the main reason for this is the ideal of perfectionism.

Those who strive for perfection in life are usually entangled, and any choice they make will feel painful. The reason for feeling pain is that you can't accept the inadequacy. In fact, perfection is not meant to eliminate all imperfections, but to be able to appreciate both the perfect and the imperfect.

Psychologist Maslow believed that only by accepting the two sides of things can we reflect a sound personality.

Ways to break the inner tangled.

1. Regain a sense of control.

Start small, no matter how strong people exist around you, make your own choices. Even if it's what you eat, what you go to play, what drinks you drink, and what the topic of the chat is, it's up to you to control it. When they gain this sense of control, their decision-making skills improve.

No longer indecisive, but able to choose the option you want with certainty.

2. Enhance the sense of responsibility.

People who are responsible for themselves, no matter what choice they make, no matter what kind of result they face, they must face it calmly and have no regrets. This is the positive force of personality traits, which can give you more courage to face failure and be more courageous to solve problems. If you don't have this power, you need to increase your sense of responsibility.

The choices you make should be accepted with tears in your eyes.

The reason why people are entangled is because things are very contradictory, so they will be entangled, for example, they want to choose to eat, very. It can be very conflicted and you don't know what to choose.

Tangle syndrome is mainly caused by the following reasons:

1. Personality or personality defects, such as low self-esteem, nervousness, and no friends, it is easy to be unconfident, and when you encounter problems, you will look forward and backward, afraid of wolves, afraid of tigers, easy to entangle, and difficult to make decisions.

Second, it may be caused by illness, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, which has a certain personality foundation, that is, to be strong and perfectionist.

When you are picky, want to be perfect, or even do everything perfectly, it is easy to be very entangled or even time-consuming when encountering problems or even making decisions, and it is difficult to make up your mind.

3. Bad habits or lack of life experience, such as making decisions that are easily influenced by others and even do not understand what they want in their hearts, always blindly compare with others, and have fewer opportunities to make decisions in the past, lack of experience and even people are particularly immature, if it is caused by the above reasons, it is necessary to actively adjust the symptoms. The mind is two things, and the mind is for the heart.

The heart is our true nature, or our nature.

It's something we're born with, and it's hard to be changed by the outside world.

Meaning is our consciousness, something that is processed by our mind, which is susceptible to external influences and is constantly changing.

And the reason why we are entangled is because our hearts and minds are constantly fighting.

This is the emotional problem to see if you are struggling with someone, or something, or something to someone:

1. You are entangled with someone.

So it means that you have been with that person for a long time, and you feel very entangled with that person. In fact, as long as you jump out, you are very close to him (her) that relationship, you can see that it is actually his nature, if you feel very angry with him, then there is no need for that, because the country is easy to change, and the nature is difficult to change! From the perspective of a bystander, you will actually find her ridiculous and pitiful.

Because no one pays attention to him, he still thinks it's fun to play a one-man show. So, there's no need to dwell on it.

2. Entangled in things.

It depends on what you're facing. If you are entangled in why you call your father father, then it is not a problem of entanglement, it means that you have reached a dead end. In fact, it is really unnecessary to be entangled in one thing, because if it is entangled, it means that it is a problem that cannot be solved.

Let go of your kinks and you will be happier.

3. Entangled in someone doing something.

If you can't let go of your emotions, you will suddenly encounter an incident, and you will think in one direction with all your strength!! Sometimes, if you put yourself in the other person's shoes, you will understand. If you can't think of it, then don't dwell on it, just ask clearly.

Strugglers will have some difficulty with their choices. It is difficult to choose if you don't know or can't grasp which way is better, and even if you choose either way, you will regret it. It's better to simply pick a result that doesn't matter.

<> in the final analysis, entanglement is often a combination of internal and external.

Internally, it refers to one's own heart. I am a little greedy and lack courage, which is the catalyst for entanglement.

Greed is the inability to accept the imperfection of one thing. I got the watermelon, which was sweet but heavy. Find sesame seeds that are not heavy, but not as thirst-quenching as watermelon. In his heart, he thought about finding something sweet and not heavy, but even if he found an apple, he would find a new tangle point - the apple still had to be peeled.

So the "perfectionism" mechanism in the heart began to work constantly, constantly looking for the truly perfect option. But you'll see that perfectionism is in quotation marks – because on the other hand, you don't have the courage to do so. Even if a perfect choice is found, due to the cost of time and energy, people who are entangled begin to struggle with whether to take action.

Well, there is no such option in this world. Take one of them, I feel that it is inappropriate, and then there is endless entanglement, so entangled that there will never be an answer, so it drags on.

When you see this, you will be very familiar with it, isn't this the psychology of many leftover women and men? I want to find a perfect other half, but I don't want to put in the effort to find it, but I have been passively waiting. To put it simply, I can't accept my own imperfections.

Externally, it refers to one's own lack of assertiveness. If people are struggling, they will tend to seek outside help in most cases. But because they don't have a sound psychological screening mechanism.

In the face of different opinions, it is only summed up in three words: "reasonable", and accept or reject it all. It has to be mentioned that Chinese-style education rarely cultivates students' ability to think backwards. So many people are incapable of thinking backwards about which suggestions are inherently untenable.

Because people are emotional advanced animals, they will have concerns when doing anything, and this so-called concern is what you call "entanglement", or it can be said that because people are thoughtful, just because this kind of thinking often makes people feel very annoyed, if anyone does not have [entanglement], then he is not a normal person. Be a man, don't complicate simple things, there won't be so many troubles [tangled], it's a day to be happy, and it's a day to be unhappy, so why not be kind to yourself.

In fact, happiness is very simple, as long as we know how to be satisfied

This question is a good question, it can be said that the development of human beings and the continuation of life will inevitably produce such and such problems, in which no matter what happens, including scientific and technological progress, there will be entanglements, not to mention society, even if the family or further even a person will have entanglements, because it is impossible to smooth sailing, there will always be difficulties and unpleasantness, so there will be entanglements, if there are no entanglements, then there will be no development and future, and it is unimaginable to live a lifetime without entanglements.