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Many people have some misconceptions about psychology. In fact, for most people nowadays, they have more or less some common sense of psychology, so there is not much difference between those who have studied psychology and those who have not studied psychology in dealing with emotional problems. These methods are nothing more than catharsis, distraction, exercise, writing, etc.

Some people may say that people who have not studied psychology tend to be overwhelmed, anxious, nervous, and more prone to avoidance behaviors when they encounter negative emotions. In fact, this has nothing to do with whether you have studied psychology or not, but mainly related to people's emotional intelligence. People who have studied psychology do not necessarily have high emotional intelligence, and people who have not studied psychology do not necessarily have low emotional intelligence.

Those with high emotional intelligence may not have all studied psychology, but their success cannot be denied. Here are two real examples: the second uncle has not graduated from junior high school, and he is not particularly good at learning, but he is one of the most beautiful in the circle in his words and deeds, and the most important thing is that he is particularly accurate in judging the form of the industry.

When the country first opened up loans, he took out a loan of 130,000 yuan and opened a public bath in our county, which was the first bath with a sauna in our county, so it was particularly popular. Later, he successively opened a few in other counties, and then transferred the bathhouse and opened a restaurant, until now he is engaged in real estate and finance, and now he has become a businessman with a net worth of billions.

The other person is my eldest mother, although the grades are not as good as the second uncle, but there are still tens of millions. She doesn't have a high degree of education, and she usually likes to tease her grandson, but she doesn't understand psychology. However, she would tell me that psychology may not be very popular in recent years, but the market will be considerable in the future.

The eldest lady is one of the best people in the village, not only because she knows how to do business, but also because of her mouth. When my grandmother died, the originally chosen cemetery had an accident, and the original landlord said that he would not let him be buried, and he would ask for 20,000 yuan when he opened his mouth. The eldest lady saw that this was not a thing, so she went out in person, but she didn't expect the other party to ask for the last penny, and the eldest mother promised to compensate for two bags of corn after the autumn harvest.

People with high EQ and low EQ will have different ways of dealing with negative emotions, and it is not particularly relevant to whether they have studied psychology or not. When faced with negative emotions, most people will take catharsis, exercise, eat big meals, travel, etc. People who have studied psychology are nothing more than these methods when dealing with negative emotions, and the only difference may be that psychologists and counselors are more receptive.

Psychology is a very broad category, not everyone who has studied psychology will be different, especially in terms of resolving negative emotions, many people are normal people and do not have any special skills. However, if they have learned the psychological knowledge of psychological counseling, they may not force themselves to get rid of negative emotions at once, but will be friends with negative emotions, get along slowly, occur, dig out the origin of this emotion, and then dissolve this emotion.

Negative emotions are something that everyone has, and we allow them to appear. Many people do not regard negative emotions as a flood beast and do not allow themselves to have any negative emotions. For example, when negative and pessimistic, sad and unhappy emotions appear, many people will suppress their emotions and force themselves to turn their emotions around and become positive and optimistic.

But as someone who has studied psychological counseling, I think that every emotion exists for a reason. If you suppress this emotion intensely, or if you suddenly want to switch, it may make the emotional conflict more intense and make you more uncomfortable.

So when we are very sad, we let ourselves be sad and express it completely. Rather than trying to suppress this emotion. And often, the average person is ashamed of the appearance of negative emotions.

Deepens the effects of negative emotions. But we don't, when we are sad, when we are sad, when we are sad, even when we are angry, jealous, hateful, we will notice the appearance of this emotion, but why do we have to suppress the emotions that any normal person will have?

We just cry when we want to cry, laugh when we want to laugh, let the emotions develop naturally, catharsis.

Ordinary people, in the face of negative emotions, may be more self-blame, chagrin, or seek friends and friends, through eating, drinking and having fun to relieve their emotions. There are also those who adopt the method of escaping and not facing it.

We have a special psychological catharsis room, in which you can express your emotions to your heart's content, such as hitting boxing piles, and venting your inner negative emotions to let your psychology be better regulated.

You can also conduct an in-depth psychological analysis with your supervisor in the psychological counseling room to correct your bad views and negative emotions. In particular, psychological counselors who have been exposed to the negative emotions of clients for a long time will be more or less affected after persevering for a long time, resulting in psychological problems.

Of course, there are some conditional consultation rooms inside, and there will also be hypnotic recliners on which people can rest more comfortably. If necessary, you can **soothe**, make some psychological hints to yourself, and get rid of negative emotions.

People who have studied psychology will have more comprehensive psychological knowledge and skills, and it is especially easy for them to enlighten themselves.

If a person does not systematically study psychology, then it is difficult for him to grasp what his heart is really like. Once a negative emotion appears, you can either distract yourself by other pleasant methods, or you can talk to others and hope that others can help you and give yourself a good way. Such people generally use methods such as listening to songs, watching **, and finding girlfriends to tell themselves.

If a person has received systematic knowledge of psychology, then he will have a very clear understanding of what kind of thoughts he has when. They will easily eliminate the interfering factors and get to the essence directly. So when they have negative emotions, they are the most sensible.

Willfulness will not happen to them, he will start directly from the source, and will not cut through the side door. For example, in the matter of whether to chase the goddess or not, normal people think more about the goddess's opinion of me, whether I can be accepted by her, so I have to figure out the goddess's thoughts in this matter. And they are different, they know that he just wants to be with the goddess in his heart, so he will not think about whether the goddess is interesting to him, but take the initiative to pursue her himself.

People who have studied psychology will have intuitive feelings and will grasp the trace of thoughts in their hearts. It can also solve the problem at the root. If they can't buy something they want, they won't bother with whether to buy it or not, and they will find a way to make money to buy it; If they are bullied by others, they will not think about finding a chance to get the field back, but to see who is right and who is wrong.

Whether or not we can really solve the problem at the root and whether we can grasp the real thoughts of the mind is the biggest difference between the knowledge of psychology and the average person.

In today's society, most people will have a little psychological foundation, and often the ways and methods of resolving negative emotions are different, so there is still a big difference between those who have learned and those who have not learned to resolve negative emotions. Ordinary people may encounter problems or difficulties, the first feeling is irritability, do not want to care about this matter, but after a short time will force themselves to deal with this matter, but the mood is still not high, and there is even resistance, so a thing will often drag on for a long time, or even not solved, which will cause unhappiness on both sides, especially for themselves will have a lot of emotional pressure. However, people who have studied psychology will not be like this, they will immediately change their thoughts and attitudes, they will immediately devote themselves to the solution of this matter, they cannot say that there are no negative emotions, only that there will be very few negative emotions, they will completely focus their attention on this matter, until the matter is perfectly solved.

In my own example, the teachers in my school and the vice principal of our school have completely different ways of dealing with problems. I remember one time, the male classmate in our class accidentally smashed a hole in the blackboard in the class, and the teacher in our class came up and scolded, completely ignoring our feelings, and asked the person who made the mistake to quickly admit the mistake and compensate the blackboard money, but no one admitted it after waiting for several days, and then the teacher told the vice principal, the vice principal came to our class, and told us whether the boy who broke the blackboard was injured when he accidentally broke the blackboard, if so, go to the school doctor's office to see, don't fall behind, A blackboard is not worth a few dollars, and the most important thing is that the person is okay and then leaves. The boy who made the mistake ran out on the spot and admitted his mistake to the vice principal.

We all admire our vice principal, who understands the psychology of making mistakes, which is a small thing, so why not turn a big thing into a small thing?

In life, we will always be happy or sad and miserable because of one thing or another. For example, a certain girl was dumped by her boyfriend, she was very depressed and painful, she kept running around the street, and she couldn't eat. You may ask:

Why is this so? Because people's words and deeds are often influenced by emotions, under the influence of emotions, people often subconsciously do some behaviors that are not controlled by reason. Between couples, such a scene often happens:

The two went to eat together holding hands, their faces were full of happiness, but because the two disagreed when ordering, the boy wanted to eat light and the girl wanted to eat spicy, so they didn't give in to each other, and finally the two walked out of the restaurant in a huff. After the end of the exam, there was also such a scene: a student was very sad to learn that he had made a mess in the exam, and later the teacher told him that he had made a mistake in the marking, but in fact he had scored a full score, and the student immediately cheered happily.

It can be seen that everyone's inner world is inevitably influenced by emotions. Emotions arise because of the gap between inner expectations and reality. When this gap becomes smaller, the mood is positive; When the gap widens, emotions are negative.

A medical school research institute in the United States conducted a famous experiment, researchers first divided 45 young people with completely different temperaments and temperaments into three groups. The first group is irritable, sensitive, suspicious, and prone to mood swings; The second group has a stable mentality, a quiet personality, knows how to be content, and is kind to people; The third group clearly shows an outgoing, positive, optimistic, and cheerful personality. Thirty years later, researchers compared the three groups and revealed significant differences:

Seventy-three people in the first group had cardiovascular disease, cancer or mental disorders, 25 in the second group and 26 in the third group. It can be seen that a healthy and stable mood is the foundation of physical health.

The more negative emotions a person has, the more various physical ailments he will have, because the emotions he represses will constantly hurt and attack his own body. Lin Daiyu in "Dream of Red Mansions" was frail and sickly, and her untimely death was caused by her sad and desolate emotions constantly suppressing herself.

What are the effects of emotions on people.

The basic emotions of people: joy, anger, sorrow, fear.

1）.Positive emotions can improve the functioning of the human body, can promote people's activities, can form a kind of motivation, motivate people to work hard, and can play a role in promoting activities. （2）.

Negative emotions can make people feel uncomfortable, inhibit people's ability to move, move slowly, react slowly, and be inefficient; Negative emotions will weaken people's physical strength and energy, and it is easy to feel tired, lack of energy, and lack of interest in activities.

The health of the body depends on the coordination of mind and body. Bad mood is the cause of all illnesses. Bad mood can easily lead to a decrease in resistance.

Emotion is a general term for a series of subjective cognitive experiences, which are psychological and physiological states produced by the synthesis of multiple feelings, thoughts and behaviors. The most common and popular emotions are joy, anger, sadness, shock, fear, love, hate, etc., as well as some delicate and subtle emotions such as jealousy, shame, shame, pride, etc.

Emotions can affect people's personality development, affect people's self-awareness and evaluation, and also affect people's cognitive thinking level, hindering normal thinking and learning. Emotions affect the body's immunity, emotions can lead to diseases, emotions can change endocrine and nervous system functions, and affect mental health.

The main effects of emotions on mental health are:

1. Emotions affect people's personality development. People who have lived with depression, depression or fear for a long time have an eccentric personality, poor interpersonal skills, and are unpopular.

2. Emotions affect people's self-perception and evaluation. When people are in a negative mood, they will lower their self-evaluation and will make"I'm always a failure"，"I don't have the ability"Such attribution.

3. Emotions will affect people's cognitive thinking level, hinder normal thinking and learning, nervousness, fear, irritability will hinder the speed of problem solving, and optimistic and calm emotions will help calm thinking. Anxious and nervous emotions will be formed not only with proper regulation"Learned helplessness", caused for a certain problem"Always"Can't fix it.

The main effects of emotions on physical health are:

1. Emotions affect the body's immunity, modern medicine believes that a good mood can make the body's physiological functions in the best state, so that the immune and anti-disease system can exert the greatest effect, and resist the attack of disease. Many medical scientists believe that the body itself is a good doctor, and that 85 of diseases can be self-controlled. Therefore, some psychologists refer to emotions as:"The baton of life"、"Healthy summer and cold table"。

2. Emotions can be ** or lead to diseases, psychologists have found that people will be flushed and hot when they are excited, and they will be pale and cold when they are nervous or angry. If a person's mood changes drastically, it can also lead to allergies, and even affect the hair.

At the same time, the right emotions such as happiness and joy can also speed up the healing of wounds and promote the healing of diseases.

3. Emotions can change the function of endocrine and nervous system, affect mental health, and often be busy and unhappy, which will cause insomnia, hair loss, and even neurasthenia and other symptoms of system disorders. Mental disorders can be caused if subjected to a strong, sudden, or long-lasting mental blow.

Summarize the role of emotions in physical and mental health with an old saying:"Anger is angry, joy is slow, sadness is dissipated, fear is angry, shock is angry, labor is exhaustion, and thinking is angry. "Emotions have a big impact on health.