What s it like to be in a circle with a group of people who don t understand you?

Each of us has our own unique ideas and values, and we can't ask everyone to understand us, because there will always be some people who don't belong to the same world as us, and we live our own lives and don't have much intersection, as the saying goes—you don't understand me, and I don't blame you. But there will also be some people who obviously don't understand us, but they exist around us and can't be avoided, we intersect in the same circle, and then because the other party doesn't understand and are helpless, sad, and angry. Living in a circle with a group of people who don't understand themselves is really an extremely painful thing, it is a pain that we want to avoid but can't dodge, like a dog skin plaster, firmly attached to our lives.

My life is full of people who don't understand me at all, and I don't want to say too much about them, and I don't want to argue with them, because I know that no matter how much I say, they won't understand, they can only understand the set of ideas in their heads. The so-called playing the piano to the cow is probably like this. Living with this group of people is really painful and helpless.

I'm a girl, and most of the people around me are girls, but they can't understand my mind and heart at all, and we are people of two worlds. A long time ago, I tried to bring us closer, but in the end I found that I understood them, but they still didn't understand my thinking, so I chose to go with the flow and stop forcing it.

At that time, I was still single, and I was in the embarrassing stage of quitting my previous term and not finding the next one, so the girls around me were very concerned about my life's events. They often ask me if I have a favorite partner, and they will take the initiative to match me with other boys, and I am grateful to them for this approach, but they have always chosen for me with their own view of mate selection, and even imposed it on me, completely ignoring my opinion, and they are completely incomprehensible and even skeptical when I say it.

I have told them countless times that the boyfriend I am looking for must first have good character, and secondly, I must be self-motivated, and I explained to them how important these two points are, but they don't understand at all, they always only recognize their own set, that is, they must find a boy with good economic conditions, and the rest is not important. And they did, and they did their best to introduce me to all kinds of good men in the economy, but they didn't care about the shortcomings and shortcomings of other areas, and they instilled all kinds of ideas in me, and they didn't listen to my rebuttals and arguments from beginning to end.

Later, I couldn't bear it anymore, thanked them for their help, and told them that I didn't need to be introduced to me in the future, and I could find it according to my heart. Instead, they arranged for me to meet and blind date, repeatedly emphasizing how important their economic primacy was.

They didn't understand me at all, but we were friends, so when I lived in the same circle, I treated them well, but I never talked to them again, because all the heart-to-heart and lungs were playing the piano to the cow, and I was disappointed.

I think the reason why I was with a group of people who didn't understand me was probably because of a class reunion, and I think this kind of situation is the most problematic thing. Faced with such a situation, I would like to end it soon, leave quickly, and don't waste my life!

The reason why I have this idea is mainly because I can still play together with those classmates when I was in junior high school. After a long time, because of their different majors, it will lead to different thinking problems and their usual concerns, and it is inevitable that they will slowly withdraw from the previous circle, and they no longer like to be with those who are not in the same circle. <>

I think that when I was in junior high school, everyone had little contact with the outside world, and now they have graduated for many years, some students have been successfully admitted to high school and university, some students have taken classes in secondary school, and some students have gone out to work. No matter what you choose to do, everyone has gradually changed in many ways, and it is impossible to be as stupid as before, and everyone has gradually become less of a common language. It's not that I look down on them, but I feel that there is no common language, everyone can only hmmmmmmmm

If you're like me and don't really like to stick to them, you might as well go to class reunions or something. Although the class reunion is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for everyone to meet, maybe you may not even know some of your classmates, so why bother to torture yourself and cause everyone's embarrassment? So my feeling is that if I can leave quickly, I don't have anything to say, so I don't want to kill myself!

When I am isolated, I will think about whether I have done something wrong, and then I want to change myself, but I must not lack judgment when I change.

Sometimes being isolated is not because either of the two sides has done anything wrong, it's just that the three views don't agree. It's like a rabbit coming to live in a cat nest and living a discordant life, can it be said that the rabbit or the cat is doing something wrong, they are just themselves. Therefore, I think that when we change ourselves, we should clearly judge whether the change is more in line with morality and justice, or whether it is to conform to others.

For example, if everyone else is going to sleep, but you have to shout **, this habit will have to be changed, because your approach is not moral, and if it is just because you have different living habits, such as they are bathing first and then washing their hair, and you are washing your hair first and then bathing, because this is hated, then leave them alone and be yourself.

Anyway, I think it's good to learn some lessons from everything, and it's important to find your own principles.

First, skin care and makeup, but also to self-study first, but in the process of learning painful, whether you can persevere, such as learning halfway to find that you don't like, it doesn't matter, but you must know what you like, because everyone likes and pursues things are different.

Second, for the material, do you think it is a necessity of your life, such as: you personally feel clean, that is also OK, non-popular is also one of the current lifestyles, small fresh days can also be comfortable.

Third, the Tao is different, not conspiring with each other; If you find that you really don't like it from your relationship, it proves that you are not in the same circle as them, go your own way, and believe that you will always meet like-minded friends in the scenery along the way.

I think this feeling of yours is the effect of your heart, you don't think about these things every day, do your own thing, first you don't like these things since you were a child, and second, your family conditions do not allow you to wear famous brands, buy high-end cosmetics, etc., I think people have their own ambitions, what environment they grow in, what things they like are all based on their own situation, there is no need to envy others, learn well when you are a student, knowledge changes your fate, and you will find a job that suits you in the future and is also what you are willing to do. In the future, you can get a boyfriend and get married, and you can do it for the rest of your life!

1.These are not the most important things, you can be yourself and just be clean. (Of course, you may have to wear some light makeup when you work or need some occasions in the future).

2.You are still a student, the most important thing is to learn good cultural knowledge, lay a solid foundation for the future, more important than the outside is a person's connotation, ability, knowledge reserve, good character, character, quality, cultivation, friendliness. It is more important to repair the inside.

3.Skin care, makeup is also a skill, the same is makeup, some people wear it very suitable for themselves, it looks good, and some people don't wear it well. You don't have to use a famous brand, the one that suits your economic level and the best is the best.

4.It is not excluded that some people wear makeup because they are extremely unconfident and pay too much attention to the appearance, but most of the people who like to clean up themselves still have a lot of people who love life and know how to love themselves.

5.When you are a student, you don't need to follow the trend at all, just be yourself, clean without makeup is another kind of beauty, youth and pure beauty, in short, no matter what you do, you don't need to overly reject this thing or worry about it, everyone will not think you are bad because you don't have skin care, the main thing is to be friendly, and at the same time choose the right friends, you will also have your own circle, there will be real friends.

Hello! I don't think you have to be entangled, do your own borrowing, don't care too much about others, everyone has their own habits.

In college, everyone has their own business, and it's normal for you to be out of step with others, so you don't need to dwell too much on it, you have to know that one mountain can't accommodate two tigers, and often very good people are loners instead of getting together every day.

Slowly assimilating when you get along, you have to enter the circle where everyone is in, otherwise you will look unsociable.

Everyone pursues things and paces differently. Later, people warned you not to follow the crowd and forcibly integrate in college. Skincare can be simple or simple, and it doesn't matter if you don't want to, those are all big holes created by consumerism.