I ve been talking to my boyfriend for four years and he s going to marry someone else, what should I

Updated on psychology 2024-04-02
23 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    You've spent four whole years loving your boyfriend, and she's choosing to marry someone else, do you think it's still necessary for you to ask what to do? I think there's only one way, and that's to forget about this person completely, and never think of him again.

    A person who has hurt you so much, you don't have to spend too much thought on him, don't punish yourself for his mistakes, I think what you should do is to forget this person as soon as possible, the more completely forgotten the better, and then tidy up yourself well You can do a lot of things, empty yourself during this time, you can go around to have fun and walk, meet more friends, distract yourself, don't always entangle you to talk to him for four years, But he's going to marry someone else.

    Because the past has completely passed, he is already getting married, which is already a fact, and I don't think you have any need to try to redeem it, because after all, you have been talking together for four years, if he had you in his heart, he would not have made such a decision at all, a person who is so cruel to you, is it necessary for you to be sad for him? If you do this, it will only make him feel very important, then isn't he too proud?

    I said that now you should live your life well, after sorting out your mood, try to contact new feelings, if one day, you can find someone who is better than your ex-boyfriend, ten times and a hundred times, I think that is the best revenge for him, let him understand what a good person he has lost, what kind of treasure is the person he lost in the eyes of others? Let him regret and be sad, which is the most important thing you should do.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    If a man has been in a long-distance relationship with you for four years, but in the blink of an eye he is married to another woman, if you meet such a man, just don't do it. The fact that he can abandon you after four years of love with you shows that he doesn't love you at all, only treats you as a plaything to polish time, and never really plans to get married. You should feel fortunate from the bottom of your heart, and you should thank him for making a timely decision, stopping your tracks, and starting to find a true relationship that belongs to you again.

    If such a ruthless and unrighteous man abandons you, you should cheer up again, adjust your mind and emotions, and strive to get yourself out of this relationship and live a good life. Summarize what the problem is between you and why he abandoned you. If it's his reason, don't look for someone like him next time you look for a boyfriend, if it's your reason, be sure to correct your shortcomings, learn a lesson from that relationship, and don't encounter the same problems in a new relationship, which will cause two people to break up.

    In addition, we must learn to dress ourselves well, make ourselves look more temperamental and feminine, become better than before, forget all the unpleasantness of the past, and let yourself have a new start. As long as you are willing to work hard, you will always have no worries about a boy chasing you, so that when you enter a new relationship, you will make yourself glow again and charming.

    With a new relationship, the whole person will become energetic, and you can also plan for your future plans, so that you can live a more enjoyable life, live a better life than before, live a happier life than before, and find a boyfriend who is more attentive than before. Everything is better than before, that is a girl's greatest wish, and let her ex-boyfriend know more, let him see, how beautiful you are, how blind he is, let him know that losing you is a big loss in his life.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Why did he marry someone else, you must first be clear, because when he got married, you were already his ex-girlfriend, although they were together for four years, but you didn't get together. <>

    I hope you can reflect deeply, after all, you also have a four-year relationship, and a four-year relationship is not so easy to break off, but you still did it.

    Keep a good attitude, I hope you send your ex-boyfriend some blessings, after all, you have held hands together and spent so much time together, you still can't let go of your relationship with your ex-boyfriend.

    Try to let go of this relationship, leave a good memory for each other, believe that you can both have a good future, and you also have to look for the next relationship, don't dwell on the present.

    There is also a trip to go, the world is so big, it's good to go anywhere, relax your mood, don't think about it, maybe you can meet the boy you like during the trip. Harvesting another love is your best help and relief.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Let it go, he belongs to someone else after all, can you kidnap him on his wedding day? Even if you can get his person, his heart no longer loves you, and why bother to force someone you don't love? His bride is not you, and your bridegroom cannot be him.

    Why make yourself so tired?

    Some people have been in love for many years and have not entered the palace of marriage, some people have known each other for three or two months and got married in a flash, love is not the length of time you have known each other to the end, there is still no fate between you, or not enough love, otherwise you will not know each other for four years and have not been married.

    All you have to do is to forget about him completely, he has his happiness, he has a beautiful bride, a small family, and even a few years later they will have the crystallization of love. They are all moving forward, they are having a good time, only you stop not money before, this is not love, this is stubbornness.

    You don't have to wait for him any longer, he's a married woman, and you don't have anything to do with it, even if the previous four years were good. You won't forget him in a short time, the reality is like this, if you don't forget him, the one who hurts is yourself, everyone has already let go of everything, only you are stupid and still love him.

    Loving him doesn't have to get him, sometimes it's good to love someone and watch him have a good time, since there is no possibility between you, then why force it? He has his life, and you have to continue to live it. It is only a matter of time before anyone who leaves this world can live.

    Time will heal the wounds left by love, you will eventually meet what you like, this person does not necessarily have to be him, don't get entangled in this knot, ignore it to make your life more comfortable.

    What is yours is yours after all, and if it is not yours, you will lose it no matter what you do, everything is fate.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    What can I do, I will carry it strongly. My ex was the same way, saying that it was okay to be false.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    I have been in love with my boyfriend for a long time and suddenly find out that she is married. You don't know what to do. Men like this.

    You shouldn't be nostalgic for him. Because he deceived you, he was already married, and he was still in love with you, which means that he deceived you, and you have to leave him decisively. One month.

    A man in the family. He doesn't tell you that he's married. He cheats on your feelings.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    After falling in love with your boyfriend for a long time before you find out that he is married, then it means that he is a real scumbag, and your best way to deal with it is to stay away from the scumbag, never see him again, and start a beautiful love of your own again!

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Hurry up and break up, otherwise you will be a proper junior, but you can't do this, I can only say that this man is too scumbag, and he is still with you after he is married.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Immediately cut off all contact with him. Trust me, there will be good men who really care about you. He is an irresponsible person, both for you and for his own wife. He doesn't deserve you.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    As a girl, you should not hesitate to break up, because he is a man who already has a family, and if you continue to date, it will affect your reputation.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Well, if you want me to break up.

    The traditional Chinese virtue is not to destroy other people's marriagesEven if he truly loves each other, he is not happy, but he tries not to destroy other people's families as much as possible.

    This man is not worthy of being entrusted for lifeIf he really loves you, he should explain to you that he is married, when he will divorce, and deliberately concealing it for any purpose is not worth entrusting, even if he loves you and is afraid of losing youBecause if I really love you, I have to think about you and let you have the right to know

    3 You said that you have been in love for a long time, which proves that he has hidden it from you for a long time, empathy, he has also hidden his existing wife for a long time, so he hides it everywhereYou also suddenly found out that he was married, so you didn't find outCould he still be in collusion with other people?

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    You still have to break up with your boyfriend, because your boyfriend is now married, so if you don't break up with your boyfriend, your boyfriend will not have such a responsible idea for you.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Since this is already the case, then immediately cut off contact and don't be a woman who destroys other people's marriages and families. It's also asking for trouble for yourself.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Such a boyfriend will actually cause you a lot of harm, and the sooner we leave him, the better.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Go to his house and get him a divorce, and then you stay away from him, not with him.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    This man is too nasty, right? You're too simple, how long have you been in love? But within a year, it's not too long, some men he hides so well, some men even marry two people, one without a license is running at both ends, the current society is really too complicated, you better break up with him quickly!

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    See if you really love him, if you really love him, you should not give up and talk to his wife.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    I've been in love with my boyfriend for a long time, and I suddenly find out that he is married, what should I do, I should take the initiative to tell him Let's break up, you actually have a family, I don't want to break up your family.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Without him, he doesn't deserve love and you.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    If you've been in love with your boyfriend for a long time and suddenly find out that he's cheated on yourself, you can ask about this situation, right? And then don't look back.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Get a drink with a friend and celebrate that you didn't fall off a cliff.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    I talked to my boyfriend for four years, and he said that he would not marry me, and proposed to break up, and I thought I should break up with him. First of all, after talking for four years, the other party doesn't marry you, and they don't love you enough at all. Secondly, there is no happiness in barely being able to.

    Plus, you're wasting too much time on him and should stop your loss.

    Some girls have been in a relationship with their boyfriend for several years, but the end result is that the other party does not marry you and proposes to break up. Faced with this situation, the end of girls is often very tragic, and most of them will humbly beg each other not to leave them. Personally, I think you should break up with each other decisively.

    There are several reasons for this.

    First of all, after talking for four years, the other party doesn't marry you, and they don't love you enough at all. If a man really loves you, he may want to marry you after a year of love with you. If a man talks to you for four or three years and doesn't marry you, it proves that he didn't think about marrying you at all, or that he doesn't love you enough, he just rides a donkey to find a horse and uses you as a spare tire.

    If he finds someone better than you, he'll dump you right away. Since the other party doesn't love you enough, there is no need to keep it.

    Secondly, there is no happiness in barely being able to. If you beg the other person not to leave you now, even if he doesn't break up with you, you and him will not be happy together. Because it's a matter of time before he leaves you, soft-heartedness doesn't mean he really loves you, and being touched doesn't mean that he really can't leave you.

    The relationship is a two-way street, there will be no happiness if you are barely together, and the twisted melon is not sweet. Girls should be chic, and breaking up decisively is the best choice.

    Plus, you're wasting too much time on him and should stop your loss. A girl has several four years, you have already wasted too much time on someone who is not worth wasting time for him, and should learn to stop losses in time. If you're still going to be with him, you're likely to waste another year or two for him, or even longer.

    If you have this time, why don't you find someone more worthy, at least it won't be worse than him.

    The above is my attitude towards a girl whose boyfriend proposes to break up.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    1 What should I do if my boyfriend proposes to break up? Don't blame yourself. Many girls always blame themselves for being broken up at the first time, whether they did too much before, what they did wrong and didn't apologize to the other party, whether they didn't do well enough when they got along, and then had the urge to beg the other party to keep and start over.

    2 Since you have said that you have broken up, don't regret it, the other party has not responded, there is no intention to take the initiative to retain, and you have tried hard to apologize, and if you keep it, there is still no result, which means that the relationship between two people has come to an end, so don't force it to stay, it is also mutual respect to get together and disperse, no longer hurt, clean up your mood, and continue to find the right person. 3 Have a good cry. Find your best girlfriends, talk to them, and cry to them.

    I believe that tears really have a healing effect, and it is much better to cry out with all my strength than to endure silently by myself.

    4 Don't listen to sad love songs. When I fell out of love, the whole world was bleak, and I really wanted to stay alone in a corner that no one could see, and listen to sad songs repeatedly, and those sluggish lyrics seemed to be bosom friends. Stop, so that you will be mired in the memories and will only make yourself more miserable.

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