How do we listen? How should we listen?

Hello, sound is a wave produced by the vibration of an object. It travels through the air to the outer ear, where sounds at frequencies of around 3,000 hertz, which are particularly meaningful for speech intelligibility, are amplified as they pass through the external auditory canal. The sonic vibration of the tympanic membrane drives the movement of the ear chain and causes the oval window of the cochlea to vibrate.

The sound is again amplified due to the area ratio of the tympanic membrane to the egg window and the lever of the listening tympanic chain. The vibration of the oval window causes the lymphatic fluid in the cochlea to move, and the lymphatic fluid moves, causing the corresponding hair cells to oscillate. Hair cells convert mechanical movements into electrical impulses that are transmitted to the nearby spiral ganglia, and through the auditory nerve to the auditory center, we hear sounds.

This is the air conduction of sound, which is most commonly used by normal people. In addition, sound can also make the cochlear lymphatic fluid move by vibrating the human bone, swinging the inner ear hair cells to produce hearing, which is the bone conduction of sound.

The pathway of sound to the human ear is divided into two parts: air conduction and bone conduction

Air conduction: sound waves--auricle--external auditory canal--tympanic membrane--malleus-incus--stapes-vestibular window--external and endolymphatic organs--auditory nerve--auditory center.

Bone conduction refers to the transmission of sound waves along the skull to the inner ear, causing the lymphatic fluid of the inner ear to vibrate and cause the corresponding vibration of the basement membrane, and the subsequent conduction path and mechanism are the same as those of air conduction.

When we communicate with people, we use expression and listening. So, do you know how to listen? Or rather, will you listen?

You may think that listening is not easy? In fact, in my consulting industry for so many years, I have found that many people do not listen. Not to mention listening.

Let's first look at the traditional Chinese character of this character: Listen to Zen Jane.

When our ancestors invented this word, they told us that hearing is ten eyes and one heart, and hearing is king. That is to say, when we listen, we don't just listen with our ears, but the most important thing is to see (observe) with our eyes and listen with our hearts. That's what really you listen to, that is, you listen.

There are three levels of listening: content, framework, and mode.

The content of listening is divided into: language, tone, speed of speech, intonation, facial expressions, body posture, and physiological phenomena.

The framework of listening is divided into: information, feelings, intentions, desires, hypotheses, conclusions, decisions, choices, meanings, values, metaphors, identities, cause and effect.

The mode of listening is divided into: behavior habits, and behavior patterns.

Don't you think it's easy to listen now? At first, we only hear each other's messages and think we understand, but if we add different tones of voice, or body movements, the same sentence will have a different meaning. This leads to why we sometimes can't understand what our bosses, family members, and friends really mean, and as a result, it causes confusion.

The good news is that when you see this micro headline, you understand it and pay attention to it in future communication, practice more, and you will become a master communicator.

Listen: From the ear to the order, let the sound of the model. "Ling" means "command".

"Ear" and "order" are combined to mean "listen to commands".。It means listening reverently and attentively, with respectful overtones". Hence the word in generalIt means that the subordinate listens to the opinions and reports of the superior, or the junior accepts the teachings and teachings of the elders

For example, "listen to the teachings and open the mouth".

The speaker himself uses "thank you for listening", which gives people the feeling that he is a little ashamed, putting himself in the position of the elder and the venerable, and taking his words too seriously, as a teaching to others, which is worthy of your listen. I think that even if the speaker is an elder or a venerable, it is not appropriate to "carry a sedan chair", because traditional Chinese culture still emphasizes the virtue of modesty. Saying things like "thank you for listening" is not in line with the basic etiquette culture of oral communication.

Both listening and listening refer to the auditory act of a person and are often used conflatably in everyday life. Listening can mean listening to or listening to a certain sound,** or language, usually showing a state of passive receiving. Listening, on the other hand, emphasizes active listening, which refers to the commitment to understand and perceive information in terms of language, sound, and environment.

Listening is a positive form of communication that requires mental and emotional attention to what the other person is saying, and to understand what is being heard through thinking, asking questions, and giving nuanced feedback.

Listening plays an extremely important role in communication between people. First, listening helps build deeper relationships. By listening, we can better perceive the emotions and needs of others and give more honest feedback, which can both enhance communication and trust with each other.

Secondly, listening is also an important means of helping others solve problems. By listening, we can better understand the doubts and problems of others and provide them with more professional and intimate advice. Finally, listening also allows us to understand ourselves better.

By listening to the voices and information of the outside world, we can have a more comprehensive and objective understanding of our own situation and life, so as to better cope with challenges and risks.

However, listening isn't always easy. Our social environment focuses on expression rather than listening, and people are more inclined to talk to themselves and express their thoughts and opinions while ignoring understanding and perception of others. In such a social context, listening requires not only willingness and action, but also effort and practice to achieve it.

This process requires us to further improve our communication skills and cultural literacy, learn to pay attention to the emotions and needs of the other party, learn to express our own thoughts and opinions, and better understand and feedback the information of others.

Therefore, both listening and listening play an important role in our daily lives. Listening can help us access information and data, but listening can help us build relationships, solve problems, and achieve personal growth. We should try to shift from listening to listening, improve our emotional intelligence and social skills, and create a more transparent and effective communication and interaction environment, so as to promote the progress and development of society.

Listening. Han Yangxiong's "Five Hundred Words of Law":"Listening to the past life, the clear vision is below, and the insight is close to the sinister. "

The latter is mostly used in written language, and Tokino code refers to listening carefully and attentively.

Hearken. Turn your ears and listen respectfully to what others are saying. Or listen carefully to what others say.

Listening is more like a lecture from a superior to a subordinate, and listening is a kind of respect with people.

Listening in a broad sense includes written communication, etc. The subject is the listener, and the subject of the confiding is the speaker. The two sing and harmonize, and have the advantages of resolving conflicts or venting feelings.

As a sincere friend or counselor, the listener should be humble, patient, sincere, and willing to solve problems for the confidant.

Listening is a necessary part of effective communication in order to reach an agreement of thought and flow of feelings. Listening in a narrow sense refers to the whole process of receiving verbal information with the help of the auditory organs, and then achieving cognition and understanding through thinking activities.

1. Give a sign to the speaker at the right time.

First of all, to be a good listener, you can't just nod blindly, but take the initiative to give some corresponding signals according to the content of the other party's speech. That is to say, in the process of listening, you should give the other party an appropriate signal, such as a word or an action, a nod, a smile, which can not only show that you are listening, but also show that you are listening very carefully, so that the other party can feel your understanding and respect. At the same time, when communicating with others, look at the other person, but never stare directly into the other person's eyes, which will appear aggressive.

The best way to do this is to look at the tip of the nose or forehead so that the other person will feel that your eyes are softer.

2. Learn to concentrate your attention when others are speaking.

When you are listening, try not to think about other things, look at the other person, always be able to pay attention to the key points of the other person's speech, and when the other person is talking excitedly, you can use a nod or gesture to encourage him to continue talking, so that the other person will know that he is listening, so that the other person will also be very happy. If you have something else on your mind, you will listen to someone absent-mindedly, and he will think that you are perfunctory and will be dissatisfied.

3. Don't easily interrupt others' speeches.

Many people don't educate themselves when they encounter problems, so they usually tell their friends about their troubles. At this time, be more patient, understand the other person, and give the other person encouragement to keep talking. And you must not easily interrupt other people's bent speech, interrupting other people's speech is an uneducated behavior, and it is very impolite.

1. Listening to each other is a bridge for spiritual communication, and it is a very smart way to communicate. But listening isn't just about listening. Listening, as a form of communication, requires skill.

Conversations between people are carried out according to certain rules, and the speaker and the listener must cooperate with each other in order to make the conversation go smoothly.

2. If you master good listening skills, you will be able to better connect with friends or meet the psychological needs of others. Therefore, listening must do a good job in the above three points.