I m so kind and so nice to my friends. Why do they always hurt me?

There are some things that don't necessarily pay off.

This is a fact that we do not want to acknowledge.

In the future, love yourself more.

Honesty between people, although it is already a luxury, is still worth pursuing.

Go make friends with people who are genuine.

It should be said that it was unintentional. They just think you don't mind.

But you shouldn't get too caught up with it.

If you have something on your mind or don't like the way they treat you, look for an opportunity to talk about it.

Otherwise, all the accumulated resentment will explode at once.

That's scary.

Hey, that's the question.

I asked a year ago.

Depressed

Don't be too simple. You can't just go with them. Maybe some people are friends and have no intention of hurting you, but some people don't deserve the word "friend" at all. See clearly so that you don't suffer.

People who are too kind in this world are always easy to be hurt, my personal opinion: you can keep your kindness, but you can do more good things with your kind heart, so that you don't get hurt.

You have to see that your so-called friends are not worthy of the word at all, and you don't have to be nice to them.

Some people hurt you by mistake because they think of you as a friend, maybe unintentionally.

People, in fact, are quite cheap animals, you can't blindly cater to them, you have to have a little bit of your own personality and expertise!It's too real to deal with friends, and you will be deceived, but you can't make real friends, so you have to be tepid and master the heat!

Friends, be realistic.

Only good people in these years will be hurt.

Because you are so kind and too good to them.

It's just too kind, and can't look at people...

You're not a good bunch of people. You add me, and I will help you share the burden.

There is nothing wrong with being kind, but at the same time, we also have to learn to be tolerant, discerning, and so on, don't you think?

Not all efforts are rewarded.

People are good and are deceived by others.

But. Don't take the good for nothing.

There are still a lot of good people in this world.

Friends hurt you, don't approach them anymore

First of all, kindness is the greatest advantage of a person who is aware of Liang, and kindness is also a person's nature.

However, in the real life of the present land, those who are wronged and hurt are often kind people. Tongyun is good at forbearance and tolerance because of kindness, and does not compare accounts and does not fight with others. Because of this, good people become the object of deception.

Some people say that kindness should be reserved for those who know how to be grateful, and kindness should be given to the right people. However, those kind people, they are not Sun Wukong, they don't have sharp eyes, how can they tell which one is a good person and a bad person!

If kind people are not treated fairly for a long time, their hearts will ache, and they will quietly close the door of good hearts!

Be a man, don't be too kind. People are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden. If you are too kind, others will think that you are a bully, and they will provoke you at every turn, blame, blame you, remember, you must have principles of being a person.

Walking on the road of life, don't be too kind, don't be submissive, don't be unprincipled. Don't be a wall grass, the wind blows on both sides. Others will take advantage of your purity, kindness, and good heart to bully you. Don't be too kind, you won't be bullied.

People don't want to hurt you because you're kind, and they don't hurt you. He went to hurt you, and it was because of his unkindness, then he hurt you. He has sown the cause of evil, and he will reap the fruits of his evil.

You just have to be good. You will sow good causes, and you will reap the fruits of your faith. They will reap the consequences of his misdeeds.

Self-reflection: First, you need to reflect on why you say such things, is it because you are emotionally out of control, or because some issue is making you feel dissatisfied or anxious? This helps you better understand your emotions and behaviors so that you can avoid similar situations in the future.

Apologize and admit mistakes: If you have realized that you have made a mistake in your words and actions, then you need to apologize to your friends and admit your mistake. This shows not only that you are responsible for your actions, but also that you respect and care for your friends.

Listen and understand: When communicating with friends, listen to their thoughts and feelings. Try to understand their situations and feelings that are affected by your words and actions, which will help you better understand their needs and expectations, as well as your relationship.

Seek a solution: If your relationship is affected, then you need to work with a friend to find a solution. It may take some time and effort, but as long as you respect each other and fight each other, it is possible to restore your friendship.

Finally, remember, we all make mistakes. The key is how to face and solve these mistakes so that we become more mature and confident.

I think kindness should be a little sharp, kindness is very precious, but we can't be blindly kind, such kindness will be called "weakness".

Kindness is a virtue, but in today's society, the more kind people are, the more they will be bullied, and their hearts are too soft to be pinched as soft persimmons.

Our kindness should be a little angular, kindness without edges and corners not only can not convey goodwill to the world, but will convey your comfort, kindness needs to have a bottom line, kindness without a bottom line, in exchange for endless harm.

I have a friend who is kind to her, not so much that she is kind, but that she is kind and has no bottom line, she is very willing to help others, as long as a friend asks her, she will never refuse others, when a friend asks her to borrow money, she never considers her actual problems to lend money to others, but others always can't remember to pay her back. I've talked about her many times, and I've said, "You're so kind, you're going to be bullied if you go on like this," she said

It's all friends, and they won't be bullied", later, what I said was right, she was bullied by her friends, and others relied on her kindness, so she didn't plan to pay her back, she was so angry that she couldn't do anything but had no way.

Your kindness, you must have a little edge, we don't want to be kidnapped by kindness, you can be kind, but you can't be senseless kind, sometimes, your kindness will only indulge the other party's laziness and evade responsibility, and few people will thank you for your kindness.

There is nothing wrong with people needing to maintain a kind heart, but if you are so kind that there is no bottom line, they will have no principles, and when kindness loses its principles, it will slip, and kindness will become "evil".

May our kindness be a little sharp and learn to protect ourselves.

I think it's too kind, because kindness is giving to those who really need help, not to those who think they are kind and can be bullied casually, you should put away unnecessary kindness and let those who bully you know that you are also a bloody person.

First of all, you have to learn to distinguish between the purpose of those people, whether they really need help, or whether they have something that they have the ability to do but don't want to do at all and let you help them do it, think about it, if you have something that you don't want to do, and you have someone around you who is willing to share everything for others, will you ask him to do it for you? They may feel embarrassed at first, but in the long run they will think that you were born this way, and if you don't do it for nothing, they will start bullying you. Do you think such people are not evil?

Shouldn't you fight back against them?

So you have to learn to say no, learn to say no to those who don't know how to be honest and think you are a bully! If someone asks you to do something they don't want to do and think you should do, give him a smile and say, "Goodbye!" I think it's reasonable, and you're qualified to say that to them.

In addition to the people who let you help in vain, there are also those who blatantly bully you, you must be tough, these people are veritable bullies who are afraid of the hard, if you don't resist, they will always bully you, and if you start to resist, I believe no one will dare to bully you anymore.

So in front of those who bully you, don't give them face, and you don't need to worry about not handling it well, only if you stand up, they won't bully you.

People are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden, this is a very reasonable sentence. People who can be bullied are always kind. No one dares to bully the wicked, because they don't dare.

It's also because wicked people aren't so easy to bully. In the same way, no one dared to ride lions and tigers, but only those who dared to ride horses. It is because horses are good and do not bite.

Even so, I still support you to face life with kindness. If it is your true friend, it will definitely not rise and fall you because you are kind. If you are really friends, you will care about your feelings.

Not only will it not fluctuate, but it will also take care of you in every way because you are kind and know your character.

So please keep your kindness up. Because kindness is not something that everyone will have. There may be people who are brave and there are people who are naturally smart.

But whether you're brave or smart. But not everyone can be kind. Because intelligence is innate, and kindness is indeed a choice in life.

A kind person can be bullied. But she must be a person with a clear conscience. There are no sorry people in this world, and there is nothing difficult about it.

The hardest thing is to be able to live up to your conscience. The bravest thing is to touch my conscience and say that I have a clear conscience.

No matter how the world changes, kindness will always be a virtue that is celebrated. And you have exactly that kind of virtue. So keep it up and don't change yourself because you're being bullied.

Remember, the gains and losses in a person's life are always conserved, and what you lose here will always be compensated to you at the next intersection.

What you have lost because of kindness, sooner or later will be compensated to you because of your kindness. So keep yourself good and keep going.

Please remember one sentence: those who bully you are definitely not your friends!

I don't know how they bullied you, but they say you're stupid, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that, I've been told by a lot of people that I'm stupid, including my husband, my parents, and they say I'm stupid because I'm really stupid.

And there is still an essential difference between kindness and stupidity, kind people can also be very smart, kind people can also have a high IQ, and kind people can have extraordinary emotional intelligence. And stupid, that's not the label of a good person.

People around you say that you are stupid, that you are too kind, that you are too easy to speak, that you are too unprincipled, that you are too inconsiderate and considerate. And if others say that you are stupid, then you need to reflect, are you really stupid and naïve, are you often endangering your own power in order to help others?!

You also said that the people around you bullied you, how did they bully you? Now that you know that the other person is bullying you, why do you still treat the other person as a friend? Why do you have to bear the bullying and even humiliation that the other party gives you?

If you have realized that the other party is bullying you, and you have to uphold your so-called kindness and be willing to let them bully, then you are not kind, you are really stupid! It's stupid! You're so stupid, who can they bully if they don't bully you?

When you find out that you are being bullied by others, you have to change your way of doing things, and stop talking about your so-called kindness! This society is not so beautiful all the time, and there are also gloomy places and gloomy people and things, and as a Taiwanese debater said: truly "good people need more intelligence."

IQ is needed to combat the gloom of this society.

Stay away from those who bully you, they are not your friends. People who are truly worthy of your kindness will not bully you, they will take care of your kindness, and they will protect your kindness!

You are really too sensitive, child, because this kind of family education since childhood has made you develop the character of thinking about others in everything, so you ignore your inner feelings. Even in order to help others, in order to show your kindness, you will do things that you don't want to do against your will, which also causes you to care too much about what others think and evaluate you, and you can't stand it with a little negative evaluation.

In fact, people around you say that you are stupid and that you are kind, but it is just a disguised compliment. It's like many people's evaluation of Lei Feng, isn't it that he is very stupid and kind, but the spirit of Lei Feng that he brought to our descendants has deeply inspired and influenced us. It may be because some of your self-sacrificing practices seem incomprehensible to them, so they say that.

The kind of bullying you describe is actually not malicious. On the contrary, it will also bring you good popularity, because your stupidity will make the people around you think that you are a reliable and credible good person!

In fact, at the end of the day, you are still not confident. Don't care too much about what others think of you, you are you, as long as you are helpful from the bottom of your heart, not against your own will, there is no problem. Grandparents are all from the past, and they must have told you that good deeds are rewarded, and foolish people are foolish!

Therefore, don't easily doubt yourself so much, or even self-denial, for the sake of other people's casual remarks, what's so sad about it. Think about the people you have helped, their gratitude and praise for you, and you will feel that you are stupid and worthy of it, and you will be admirable and stupid. We don't ask for anything in return for helping people, but we want to have a clear conscience.