What should I look out for as a stepmother? What should stepmothers look out for?

Respect children, treat children equally, do not be condescending and domineering, be good at listening to children's opinions, and usually chat with children.

Speaking ill of your own mother will make your child think that you are sowing discord and have bad intentions, and your mother will be very disgusted when it is passed on to your own mother, so there is an additional obstacle to winning the child.

You should pay attention to your attitude towards your children, and you must treat the children of your current family sincerely and handle the relationship with your stepchildren.

Don't listen too much to your child's words and give him the illusion that he can do anything, establish your own majesty and talk to him more.

Stepmothers should be the hardest career in the world. Since you have done it, you must pay attention: convince people with reason and move people with virtue. Don't be rude, or you'll really be scolded to death by your neighbors.

As a stepmother, you should pay attention to the way you get along with your children, because you are a stepmother, and your children may be more wary of you, so communicate more.

Don't speak ill of your child in front of your husband, this will have a great impact on your child's heart and make your child very disgusted with yourself.

I think we should treat our children and the children of my husband and ex-wife equally and not be partial, and although this is difficult to do, if I can't do it, there will be conflicts.

You should give your child enough love, but this care should be moderate, not too far into the range, which is easy to cause resentment.

When remarrying, you must think more about your children, and don't let the next marriage cause more harm to your children.

After remarriage, the relationship between the remarried elderly couple and the original children of the remarried parties objectively becomes the relationship between stepparents and stepchildren. The traditional concept formed under the long-term exploitation system is: "Kiss or not, bones and stools and flesh."

In this way, handling the relationship with the other party's original children has become the key to handling family relations after the remarriage of the slender brigade. Of course, the relationship between stepparents and stepchildren formed after remarriage in the elderly is different from the relationship between stepparents and stepchildren formed after remarriage by young and middle-aged people, the latter has a relationship of support and support, while the former generally does not have the relationship of support and support, and in this sense, the actual interest between the elderly couple and the stepchildren is less. But it's not easy to deal with it.

In order to deal with it well, the remarried elderly should take the initiative. For example, during the New Year's holidays, take the initiative to visit each other's children, or invite each other's children to reunite. When the other party's children suffer any misfortune, take the initiative to greet them, and if the other party's children have any financial difficulties, they should help them within their ability.

In this way, the relationship and affection between the stepparents and the stepchildren can grow day by day.

Marriage is not easy. Care for children, care for families. It is not only a complete family that gives the child, but also a warm love. Don't let those innocent children be hurt anymore.

Quick first impressions.

To alleviate the stress of meeting for the first time, say a brief hello and avoid long dinners or gifts from Angsan. Don't expect too much at first. Anything that stresses out a child can backfire, leading to rejection from a potential stepparent or stepmother; At a party full of anticipation, no one wins.

Let the child set the rhythm of the relationship over time; She'll let you know when she's ready for a more intimate relationship. It's much better for everyone than being rejected.

2.Give time for grief.

If you are a stepfather or stepmother and your marriage only started after your parents divorced, then give your stepson some time and space. Remarriage shattered the hope of the child who wanted his parents to be reunited. When their hopes are dashed, children tend to start a natural grieving process that they can postpone when it is still possible for their parents to reunite, and it is worth noting that their grief process sometimes includes trying to sabotage a new marriage in the hope that dad will return to mom.

Keeping this in mind, give the situation time and space. If a parent passes away, help the child remember his parents by listening to stories, showing their parents' ** in the room, or planning a commemoration on their parents' birthday. If you feel the need, give your child an outlet and get support from an objective person.

3.Treat your stepchildren as if they were family.

If a stepchild goes back and forth between two parents, they probably won't live with you 100% of the time. You might think that making a fuss about it makes them feel special when they're around. In fact, if you treat them as special guests, they won't feel like they're part of the family.

Instead, let them do the chores, let them share responsibilities, check their homework, attend parent-teacher conferences, and integrate them into the family. Listen to and respect their opinions, and praise them when necessary. When children are taught to take on certain responsibilities and obligations for the whole family, they feel better about themselves and are closer to their families, including respect, kindness, and helping others.

1. Create a good family atmosphere: A good family atmosphere is conducive to the physical and mental health of the children of the remarried family, and is conducive to the harmonious relationship between the husband and wife. Take a little more time to communicate with your children every day, take them for walks, parties, travel, visit relatives, etc.

From time to time, there is a small family evening party on the weekend, and the husband and wife perform some programs that are beneficial to the children, and also let the children tell jokes, tell stories, read poems, sing and dance, and so on. A good family atmosphere for remarried families is beneficial but harmless.

2. Treat children equally: Children from remarried families are generally sensitive and suspicious when they come to a new family and new environment. Husband and wife should treat each other's children equally, don't only care about their own children, favor their own children, and ignore each other's children, don't care less about them, and even often beat and scold, which will not only affect the children's perception of you, but will also seriously affect the relationship between husband and wife in the long run, and the consequences are unimaginable.

3. Let the children become good friends: Let the children study, play, and walk together, and share delicious and fun with each other, so that the children can become good friends who talk about everything. Even if the children don't live together, let them see each other often, get together and become friends.

Don't let them develop a withdrawn, selfish personality.

4. Take care of your own children: Maybe you will care more for your children from the bottom of your heart, but for the sake of family peace and harmony, please take care of your children first and cultivate their caring, generous, optimistic and tolerant character. When necessary, you should give more love to each other's children, smile more, care more, and the feelings will be deeper.

Whether you can handle a good relationship with your stepchildren will directly affect your future marital happiness, so in order to do your job as a parent, you must adjust your parenting style and need to accept and integrate each other's pasts.

It's important to remember that adults are married, divorced, or remarried.

Children are only willing or unwilling followers, and they must ask to be allowed to have a place for their original parents, and be helped to find ways for the new parents to join.

This process takes time and patience, especially at the beginning of the process. The stepparent is a stranger, and the child may even see him as an intruder, which has almost nothing to do with whether the child is kind and cute.

The most serious problem faced by remarried families is that children will feel that they are not free to love the father they want to love, because loving the parent who has left can cause problems for the children.

However, the most important thing for children whose parents remarry is that they have the freedom to love and that they are still loved.

Only by grasping this principle and understanding what children are most worried about and longing for can they integrate and manage the new family in their own lives, according to the actual situation, with lasting tenderness and love.