How can I get along with my parents day and night with less quarrels?

Obey your parents, everything is subject to what your parents say, whatever your parents say is right, and you can do whatever your parents tell you to do. With this in mind, I'm sure that not only will you not quarrel with your parents, but your parents will smile when they see you. If, as a person with financial means, you live with your parents, you no longer have anything to ask for from your parents, at most, you can't afford to buy a house with your meager salary, and you don't need to rent a house, so you live with your parents.

I believe that most people have lived with their parents since childhood, and as we grow up to the rebellious period, we will also feel that our mother's nagging is becoming more and more annoying, and we have nothing to say to our parents.

But sometimes we forget that we grow up and our parents get older. After they raised us, they watched us soar freely, but they bent their backs, which we rarely noticed. We will only blindly feel that our parents are upset and feel that our parents are too careful, but we also forget that our parents worry about us because they are worried about us, for us, for their children.

When I was young, I was ignorant, and I felt that my mother was nagging and often coldly spoken. But then I heard a saying: never lose your temper with those closest to you.

At that time, I did not fully understand the meaning of this sentence, but when I got older and older, my conscience awakened at an invisible speed, and my parents became the most untouchable weakness in my heart. Compared to other people's parents, my parents are very special. I met them twenty years later.

My parents gave birth to me when I was almost forty years old, and for me, I was able to spend a lot less time with my parents than others from the beginning, so how could I not double down on the time I spent with my parents? When I was young, I was ignorant, I always hurt them, and when I grew up, I wanted to make up for it with everything I could, but I found that I couldn't give them anything. My parents are old, but I'm still studying.

I believe that my parents need me to be there for me, so once I am with them, I will always talk to them, and even if their nagging upsets me, I will not speak ill of them. Because I won't make them angry and sad anymore. Maybe I can't be strong enough to be their pride, but I can be something they don't have to worry about.

Under the same roof, it is inevitable that there will be some quarrels, especially with the people closest to you. Let me tell you about my own experience with my parents.

First, we are not at the same age as our parents, sometimes it is difficult to understand the parents' point of view, and it is difficult for parents to understand our feelings, at this time, I think we need to empathize with each other, think more about parents, and consider from the position of parents, in fact, many times, the starting point of parents is for our good, there is no parent in the world who does not love their children, so when we can't understand the point of view, think more from the position of parents, maybe we can know why parents think so.

Second, if it is really difficult to understand the behavior of parents, then we try to have less head-on conflicts with parents, once people are impulsive, they will say anything, at this time, we should calm ourselves down first, until we feel less angry, we can calm down and talk to our parents about their thoughts, I think most parents will understand their children.

Third, talk to your parents more about your thoughts, if you feel that your parents put forward a point of view, you can't accept it, sit down and talk to your parents, for example, before the cold winter, my mother will force me to wear autumn pants every morning, when I was young, because I don't know how to love beauty, the dress is acceptable, now I have grown up, a big girl, wearing a thick autumn pants out, always feel a little ruined image, so I found a time to tell my mother my thoughts, my mother also understood my unwillingness, Since then, she has never forced me to wear it again, but she will still remind me to keep warm, in fact, as long as we start from the perspective of our parents, many things can be solved, and there will be unnecessary quarrels at all.

(1) In the case of getting along with parents day and night, there must be a lot of contact, and the family atmosphere is very important at this time.

It is not so easy to change the family atmosphere, and it is not something that you will be effective in one or two actions, after all, it is difficult to change the personality and solidified way of thinking of parents for so many years, and it can only be affected by the environment a little bit, which requires you to make long-term efforts, although it is hard but definitely worth it.

(2) Don't be too sensitive to their words.

In this family, you are a leader who leads your parents towards a more harmonious and interesting relationship, rather than a child who needs their protection in everything.

(3) Respond to the words of your parents with humor, that is, you have to be coquettish when you are close, and you should be a guest if you are well-behaved.

Mom's menopausal symptoms are not bothered, you can express happiness that "we finally have a menopausal person in our family", and it is interesting to think of those behaviors as a research object rather than a mother's control over yourself. Be curious rather than judgmental about everything, and you'll gradually get out of your depressed and dull state.

(4) Love yourself a little more.

When you blindly give beyond your ability, you will be psychologically unbalanced if you don't get the corresponding return, and you can change to a more balanced way, love yourself a little more, instead of giving everything you get to others. Your sense of security and confidence mainly comes from your ability to generate income and savings, your own wallet is deflated, and being good to others will only become a burden for both parties. ‍‍

If you want to quarrel less with your parents, there is indeed a way to do it, and that is filial piety.

Eh, when you see me talking about filial piety, don't you want to look down? Let me tell you about my experience.

When we were children, we were all obedient and well-behaved children, and we didn't have a complete worldview to quarrel with our parents. When I was in adolescence, that is, in middle school, I often quarreled with my parents and even quarreled, why is this?

It is because during adolescence our worldview is being formed, and we feel that our wings are stiff, and we begin to disobey our parents' discipline. So there are a lot of fights, and this stage will go on for a long time, until you get to work, and you often quarrel because you have a disagreement with your parents about some issues. But have you ever wondered why you have been arguing for so many years but there is no result?

Because they are parents and we are children, no matter how noisy we are, we can't break off the relationship.

However, the most important thing is that parents keep arguing with you because they are worried about you, because they will think, my child is so sharp at home, it will definitely suffer in society.

So if you are "filial", your parents will definitely not quarrel with you again, what is filial piety? It's just Shun. You are up to your parents, what else can you lose?

Besides, quarreling is a matter of two people, if you don't quarrel with them, you follow them whatever they say, can you still quarrel? When you are filial, they will naturally stop arguing with you, because they will feel that their children have finally grown up, and they will be relieved. You'll get the peace you want.

I don't want to say anything too sensational, so I'll give you an old saying, the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the child wants to raise but does not wait.

Listen more, talk less, do more. In fact, when you really become a parent, you will find that the hard work of parents. So while you're around now, do what you can to help them.

If children want to live in harmony with the old man Shenchun, they need to do at least the following eight things.

First, if conditions permit, the elderly are healthy, it is best for children to live separately from the elderly, usually visit the elderly, and the elderly will help in time if they are in difficulty, so as to avoid many contradictions due to concepts and living habits, which is the beauty of distance.

Second, as children need to accept all kinds of complaints from the elderly, parents want their children to live better, when they can't help but point fingers at you, although you don't like to listen, but don't balance against them, you think what they say is right, you listen, if you think they are wrong, you don't listen, don't confront your parents, don't hurt your parents' hearts.

Third, chat more with the elderly. People are most likely to be lonely when they are old, and sometimes the hearts of the elderly are very depressed, so as children, we must take time to spend more time with the elderly, which will make the elderly feel better.

Fourth, if you need the elderly to help take care of the children, then you don't have all kinds of criticism and accusations against the elderly, you have to believe that they love their children as much as you do, and even they love their children more than you, but parents are different from young people in terms of parenting concepts, but as a child, you have to get along with the elderly with a grateful attitude and talk to the elderly. If you really can't get used to the way the elderly take care of their children, then you can bring it yourself. Don't let the old man help you take care of the children while complaining about the old man, causing the old man to be thankless.

Fifth, the family should discuss things with the elderly, after all, the old man is a person who has come over, the accumulation of decades of life experience, he has more experience than you in some aspects, and many old people are particularly concerned about the affairs of their children, in addition to wanting to share for their children, there is also an important reason is that they do not want to become a burden on their children, so the family no matter how big or small things try to discuss with the elderly, listen to their opinions, they are right about you, so they will be very happy.

Sixth, give the elderly some monetary dignity, don't wait for the old man to run out of money and reach out to you to ask for money, you should take the initiative to give the elderly some pocket money every month, so that they can live with dignity and dignity.

Seventh, whether you were born into a poor family or a rich family, you should not complain about your parents, as long as they did their best when you were growing up, you should not complain about your parents.

Eighth, as a child, if you don't have the conditions to buy a house for your parents, then you can only choose to live with the elderly, if you live with the elderly, as a child, it's best not to think the old man is dirty, everyone has the day of getting old? Think about how your parents brought you up when you were a child, they have ever said that you are half dirty, your parents are the least dirty people in the world, so please be more tolerant of them, more understanding and caring.

The above eight points are very important, if you can do it, then you must be very happy with the elderly, and the elderly will feel very happy.

As far as personal life experience is concerned, with the gradual exploration of the world, contradictions will inevitably occur, learn to control your emotions, empathize in life, do not have a thorough argument with your parents about everything, and at the same time make a career outside to reassure them.

It just so happened that in my life, it was because I knew too much, so I had arguments and generation gaps with my parents on many things, which led to continuous quarrels when the trabecular was buried in the past. But as I grow up and experience more human feelings, I can also understand very well the hardships they have experienced in life and the heavy responsibilities they have on their backs.

Control your emotions and put yourself in your own shoes.

Whether at work or in daily life, emotional control is an important skill that we adults must learn to help us avoid unnecessary serious consequences in many situations where we are overwhelmed. Especially in the communication with family members, in the handling of many things, you must also learn to empathize, and don't always criticize and disagree with them with your existing attitude. Learn to take responsibility for your family and maintain peace in your family.

Don't argue with your parents and follow their thoughts.

When you see something that your parents are doing wrong or something that is very unacceptable, try not to understand more and argue with them less. Now that they are getting older, their original life experiences have long solidified their thinking, and it is unrealistic to ask them to change. What we can do is try not to make more decisions and live with them to avoid multiple problems.

Work hard outside to make a career and give them peace of mind.

On the other hand, many contradictions of parents also stem from the high expectations of their children, so they hope to let their children go their own way through their own guidance, so we must understand our own life goals and rules, and work hard to make a real career and high salary outside, and the real situation can greatly reduce the parents' criticism and dissatisfaction with themselves. <>

We must learn to empathize and think from the perspective of parents, after all, parents love their children, but the way of expression is different. In addition, in normal times, you must communicate more with your parents, and understand the real thinking of your parents.

When we get older, the generation gap and conflict between us and our parents will be more obvious, and at this time we must go to see Xi Suibu's parents. Try to do your duty as a child.