How to deal with the problem of parents interfering too much in your search for a partner?

As I grow older, sometimes I am tired of some of my parents' behaviors, and I always feel that my parents interfere too much in my own affairs, and even very disgusted. <>

I'm sure you must have the same experience as me, when you're older, when you come home from work or go through **, you are always urging you to deal with the object, or arranging various blind date activities for you, once you have a girlfriend, sometimes you will hate this and that, and make you very tired of your parents. For parents interfering too much in your matchmaking, I think you can try the following methods to try to change this behavior of parents:

1.First of all, you should understand that no matter how old you are, you are a child in the eyes of your parents, because they have been worried about you for twenty or thirty years, so they will interfere with you to find a partner, this is a kind of concern for you, and you can't be disgusted with your parents because of their behavior, which will lead to a rift in the relationship with your parents.

2.I usually care more about my parents, talk to my parents more, and tell my parents that I have grown up, I have my own preferences, and I have my own requirements for another partner, so I hope that my parents will not interfere too much in my own finding a partner.

3.After having a partner, encourage the target and parents to meet often, create opportunities for them to run in with each other, adapt, and let the parents feel your object's respect and love for their two elders through the relationship between the object and the parents. This can avoid your parents from interfering too much with you because they are afraid that the object you are in will hurt you, and can enhance their understanding and affection.

All in all, parents don't really want to restrain your thoughts, restrain your freedom of love, they are afraid that you will not be able to get out of the object, afraid that you will be hurt, they are also out of a kind of concern, sometimes it may be a little excessive, but you can't get bored with your parents because of this, and your parents are estranged, but you should be more considerate of your parents' good intentions, communicate more with your parents, and gradually improve this behavior.

First of all, this is a difficult problem, on the one hand, you have to follow the advice of your parents, after all, there are no parents in the world who do not think about their children, but on the other hand, some of the concepts of their own parents are wrong, due to the different ages, some of the views of the parents and us are very different from each other, which requires a trade-off. <>

Let's talk about parents first, parents take most of the problems of their children looking for a partner very seriously, after all, it involves a long time in the future, we don't live with our parents It's better, each has its own life, there will not be too many intersections, if you live together, such and such problems will definitely occur, so when looking for a partner, you must deal with the relationship between the object and your parents, otherwise you will suffer in the future. For some correct views of parents, we should listen carefully, after all, they have more decades of life experience than us, as the saying goes: do not listen to the elderly, suffer in front of you, but those wrong old-fashioned and outdated views, as children, we can not come up to deny, we should slowly and calmly tell them, one day does not work for two days, two days does not work for a week, I believe that parents love their children, they will slowly understand, will accept.

Then there is the problem of yourself and the object you get along, you should understand your parents more, you can't play a temper, and you don't want to worry about my business at every turn, in fact, this is very hurtful to the hearts of parents, for a long time, family conflicts will definitely break out, the gains outweigh the losses, in the case of parents interfering with their own partners, you should understand more, remember not to contradict, so that you can often only get the opposite result.

It's not easy to bring them back a girlfriend, but their wish is good.

Now we are in this embarrassing age, you have to find a job after graduating from college, and your parents think that you have reached the age of marrying a wife and having children, but you yourself are not willing to find someone to pay attention to, every time you go home for the New Year's holidays or call ** greetings, you will be told to hurry up and find a daughter-in-law to come back.

In the past and now, there are certain differences in the criteria for choosing a future wife between parents and children. In ancient times, this phenomenon was a little worse, children basically did not have the right to choose marriage, and they were all in charge of parental rights, and they paid attention to the orders of their parents, and the words of the matchmaker directly waited for the parents to arrange everything, even if they didn't like it, there was no room for refutation.

Later, with the reform and opening up, this tradition also disappeared, which is also the gospel of our younger generation, but this has not changed the thinking of some parents, thinking that the future daughter-in-law should also meet their own standards, which has caused conflicts with children.

In fact, we don't have to resist in the face of such parents, sometimes the method may be inappropriate, but we must understand that parents are thinking about us in their hearts, in front of their parents, you can promise them how old they must bring back a girlfriend, and will choose according to their requirements, and the promise will be fulfilled for as long as possible, so as to avoid them from telling you this thing for a long time.

In a certain aspect, parents are lonely in their hearts, you have been away for a long time, your parents are two people living together, the home will seem very lonely, more I hope that you can get married and have your own children, and then bring their grandchildren for you to alleviate their inner loneliness, nothing to do, you go home and accompany your parents to talk about your gains in life, maybe they will also change.

I feel that parents always worry a lot about the object of their children, and after my parents know about my boyfriend, especially my mother, she always asks me about my boyfriend from time to time.

At first, I thought that after all, it was a matter of feelings, and parents should ask about it, but I thought it was quite offensive to ask too often. My mom is one of those who asks me if I'm coming back with my boyfriend every time I come home, and if I'm going to hang out with my boyfriend or something, which makes me feel like I don't have my own privacy.

The way I deal with the problem is to tell my mom more directly, hoping that she can give me more privacy, not too much interference in my emotional affairs, and when I need to ask for their opinions, I will ask her.

Because my dad is a more enlightened kind of dad, he will respect my ideas more on this issue, and sometimes he will help me persuade my mother not to continue to use her gossip strength. Because of the mediation of my dad, my mom still had a more obvious change after I talked to her.

I think if parents don't listen to you much after you say it, or fortunately, don't let them know that you are out with your partner, and that something is directly on your girlfriend, so that they don't have anything to talk about to continue talking to. Either you take the initiative to confess and say something they want to know, and they will keep asking you.

I think a proper confession is still needed, otherwise parents feel uneasy, and they will definitely use various ways to test you.

For us now, our parents are subject to more traditional thoughts, and when we reach the age of marriage, they will urge us or dry our choices, I personally think that I don't like my parents very much, but I will understand my parents at the same time, I will also make it clear to them, let them understand me, let them know that I have the right to decide their love, I believe that many parents will understand.

This is a must! When it comes to falling in love, marriage is a matter of two families. So it's important to ask your parents for advice. Of course, you still have to take the idea, and your parents' opinions can only be used as a reference.

In the past, people mainly relied on "the orders of their parents and the words of matchmakers" to find partners. Parents think that the other party is not bad and belongs to the door-to-door type, so it is settled.

Therefore, in the past, parents interfered in their children's marriages.

Now, young people can find a partner in some group on the Internet, they can be introduced by classmates and friends, or they may be in love freely.

Now, parents rarely interfere with their children's search for a partner.

However, there are also some unwise parents who will foolishly interfere with their children's search for a partner, and the result is not "everyone happy" as they imagined, but it backfires, and even some serious consequences.

The colleague's daughter found a boy from other places, because the other party's family is in the countryside and the economic situation is not very good, the colleague and his wife resolutely oppose it and force their daughter to break up with the other party.

The girl liked this young man very much, and this young man loved this girl very much. In addition, the young man is also quite handsome, and his colleagues also admit this.

However, the daughter was extremely unhappy, and under the coercion and temptation of her parents, she finally agreed to break up with the other party.

Since then, my colleague's daughter has a very negative and disgusted attitude towards finding a partner again, and every time the boy introduced by the parents is very good, and the family economic situation is also very good, but the daughter just doesn't like it, and there is no news in two days.

So a few years have passed, and my daughter is in her thirties, seeing other people's children happily married, leading their grandchildren to play, the two of them are very envious, every time they talk about their daughter's marriage, the two of them sigh with tears in their eyes.

Sometimes, a few good colleagues chatted together, and the colleagues talked about their daughter's marriage, and some colleagues said, you shouldn't have interfered with the children in the first place. My colleagues always regret it now.

I'm a college classmate.,It's a good girl.,But sometimes it's scary to resist.,It's obedient to his parents.。 For example, if you want to get a scholarship or bursary in college, you have to join the party, you have to take the certificate, you have to graduate with great difficulty, you have to take the teacher qualification certificate and the establishment, everything seems to be forced to be carried out, including your emotional life.

Sometimes, I also think she is very pitiful, I feel very tired of living, and I don't dare to tell my family about a love in college, and then I finally "report", but because it is a different place, I can't do it directly.

As a result, I have been single now, and sometimes I will complain to me, why can't I find a boyfriend, so I can only comfort her and say: Make yourself better first, your one will come sooner or later. Having said that, I still think about it after a long time.

Now his parents will also urge her to fall in love, and the sisters and sisters around her are all married, and Wu Liangzi, the birth stool for getting married and having children, is almost on her own anyway, so the pressure is coming again. At first, I would often complain to me, but after a long time, my heart gradually cooled down, and I felt that it was good to be alone.

Sometimes, parents interfere with their children's freedom to love. At this time, as a child, you can cope by calmly facing the three aspects of rational communication, explaining the situation, winning understanding and support, and empathizing to resolve conflicts. 1. In the face of parents' interference in the freedom of love, children should face it calmly and communicate rationally.

When one's parents interfere with the freedom of love, the first thing to do as a child is to face it calmly and communicate rationally. This can make the two sides communicate calmly and avoid conflicts, which is the most beneficial to solve the problem. The key to this is to stay calm and avoid impulsiveness, which is the only way to ensure that both parties communicate sensibly and solve each other's problems properly.

2. Children should explain the situation to their parents and win their understanding and support. No matter how big the contradiction between children and their parents is, the family affection between them is always the deepest. Because of this, even if parents do not agree with their children's free love, they still want their children to be happy in their hearts.

After understanding this truth, when children are faced with their parents' interference in the freedom of love, they should win their understanding and support by explaining the situation to their parents, which can effectively resolve each other's knots and achieve a happy ending. 3. In the face of their parents' interference in the freedom of love, children should resolve the conflict through empathy. The fundamental reason why parents interfere with the freedom of love is to hope that their children can find the most suitable partner and live the most fulfilling life.

Therefore, when children encounter a situation where their parents interfere with the freedom of love, they should empathize and look at the problem from the perspective of their parents, so that it is more beneficial to understand their parents' thoughts, so that they can find the best way to resolve the conflict, and finally properly solve the problem of love, and obtain the ideal result that satisfies both themselves and their parents.

There are many people who are sad after obeying their parents' arrangements for many years, and there are many people who regret not listening to the old man after getting married for many years.

Of course, there are very few male guests like "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" are so tough. When asked by the female guest how to deal with the relationship between mate selection and parents, how to deal with the opinions of parents when choosing a mate, and how to participate in the high guessing time. The male guest made something unexpected, he bluntly said that he would not consider his parents' opinions, and even Grandpa Meng expressed his amazement.

After in-depth understanding, I found that the male guest's hardness was not without reason, but because the original family itself was very tolerant, supporting him "I am the master of my life", and giving the male guest enough space to choose. But the truth is that not everyone's family of origin will be so tolerant. It has been said that "a marriage that does not have the approval of parents is a marriage of courage."

It takes a lot of courage because there are more difficulties and dangers to face, so it is best to have the support and approval of parents for love and marriage. And when facing the interference of parents, what we have to do must not be to worsen the existing situation, but the following three points: respect when there is a difference of opinion, first of all, we must respect, not only respect the parents, their opinions are for your own good, but the important thing is your own mind, you must know what kind of person you are suitable for and need, after determining the suspicion, you need to respect your own ideas, so that you can grow into a truly independent person.

Communication is followed by communication with parents, and no matter what the outcome is to be achieved, effective communication is always essential! Communication is crucial in how to convince parents to handle a good relationship. Attention needs to be paid to the tone of communication, attitude and logic, and it is necessary to communicate rather than arguing.

You can first ask them about the reasons for their objections, and then make targeted breakthroughs, combining theory and examples, and finally introduce your partner to your parents and achieve communication between them. Balance Finally, for parents interfering in love, we must remember "harmony" and "balance", in the face of parents' intervention in their feelings, we must stay sober, do not be carried away by emotions, no matter whether the situation is difficult or not, it is very important to maintain the harmony of parents, yourself, and lovers, and it is also a long-term consideration. Sister Fei still hopes that everyone's love can be blessed by their parents, and they can properly deal with the basic interference of the family, because love and family affection are very important.