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From the perspective of traditional Chinese medicine, this is a vigorous liver fire.
In terms of personality, look at how his family is, the child's personality has a lot to do with his family.
If it is simply a bad temper with a strong liver fire in the body, then conditioning will be better.
If the temper that has been habitual since childhood is not good, then you think about your ability to adapt.
Love and marriage are two different things, let me say first, if you are looking for love, and you can tolerate your temper, then you can only endure it; If you rush to marriage and patiently let yourself suppress it, it can only mean that you are really not suitable. It's not my crow's mouth, living a life, living this kind of thing, it's day by day, if you can't stand his temper, then there is really no way to live. Of course, if he can change, at least his temper won't be so bad, that's still a bit hopeful.
It's up to you.
Seeing your specific situation, I can only say my tendencies, and I can't completely influence your thoughts. I think what you have to think about now is not just whether you want to be together, but also to calm down and what you are here for.
Whether it is friends or lovers, the reason why they can come together at first is that being together can make both parties feel relaxed and happy. If the relationship between two people has become a burden, it has become unbearable, it has seriously affected physical and mental health, etc., then you have to think about what the reason for being together is. If you enter a marriage, you have to think about it more, you must include responsibility, now although there is cohabitation, but after all, you have not entered the marriage, calm down and think about it.
People make mistakes, but it's not right to make mistakes again and again. I was obsessed with it, but in the end, I learned a lesson. Marriage affects your life, think about what kind of future, what kind of life, what kind of marriage you want.
At least I'm sure that marrying him, after marriage, you will be in a worse mood, and integrating into his family, from your current situation, is really difficult.
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Whenever he gets mad at you, you smile and look him in the eye (be sure to let him notice you're looking at him) until he calms down, doesn't talk, turns and leaves!
There are 3 times like this, to ensure that he will never go crazy again in the future, hehe.
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How bad it is, then don't him, it's worthless to send it to the door yourself.
Let him taste it, too, and in a few days he will soften himself and be good to you.
The more you can't get it, the more you want it
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It's better to break up as soon as possible than to get married and then divorce.
Besides, mental and physical trauma is not always ......
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There are three specific ways to solve the problem of temper tantrum: attention transfer method, reasonable venting method, and rational control method.
The specific methods of distraction are: playing, playing ball, playing chess, listening to **, watching movies, reading newspapers, going outside for a walk, and playing in a beautiful environment.
The specific method of reasonable venting: crying - crying appropriately; Complaining - confiding in relatives and friends; Movement – to perform strenuous exercise; Write – write it down silently.
Specific methods of rational control method: humor resolution method: such as self-ridicule and self-mockery; Autosuggestion:
For example, tell yourself not to be angry and not to grieve; Self-motivation: such as self-motivation through famous sayings and aphorisms; Psychological empathy: think from someone else's point of view; Recognize the Law of Change:
Change our perception of things that cause bad emotions to change our bad moods.
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Haha, ask the right person, I also have a very explosive temper, but I usually endure it, usually I don't lose my temper, if he loves it, he will restrain his so-called small burst of temper
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Is it normal to have a bad relationship with your boyfriend, your temper becomes very bad, and you get angry easily? Because of the bad relationship with your boyfriend, your temper becomes very bad, which is a very normal thing, and if your heart is not good, your temper is not good, and it is easy to get angry, which is normal.
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It's normal! If the relationship is not good, the mood is bad, and if the mood is bad, it is easy to lose your temper. But you can't let your temper go, you have to find the cause of the emotional disagreement and try to solve the problem.
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If you don't have a good relationship with your boyfriend, your temper will become bad and you will get angry easily, which is normal. Because the relationship is not smooth, it will put the nerves in a state of tension, and when the tension is long, people's patience will deteriorate, the temper will not be good, and it is easy to get angry.
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If this happens often, it is not a normal thing, so communication is needed to solve the problem.
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There can be a variety of reasons why a boyfriend has a bad temper, and here are some possible explanations:
1.Stress and emotions: Your boyfriend may be under pressure at work, school, or in life, causing emotional tension or tantrums. He may not have found an appropriate way to deal with stress and emotions and thus show a bad temper.
2.Communication problems: The boyfriend may not be good at communicating or expressing his needs and emotions, causing him to be unable to express himself effectively or understand others. This communication problem can lead to misalignment and conflicts, which can make his temper worse.
3.Upbringing: Your boyfriend's upbringing and experiences may have an impact on his temper. He may have learned in his family or other environment ways to vent his temper, leading him to rely on this poor coping mechanism when facing problems.
4.Habitual behavior: The boyfriend may be used to throwing tantrums to get the results he wants or to control others. This behavior may have played a role in his life, so he will continue to use this way.
Whatever the reason for your boyfriend's bad temper, it is important to have open and honest communication with him. Express your concern about his bad temper and work with him on how to improve communication and ways to deal with emotions. It is recommended that he learn effective emotion management techniques by seeking help from a counsellor or an emotion management course.
At the same time, make sure that your feelings and boundaries are respected and cared for. If your boyfriend's temper issues are causing you to feel insecure or hurt physically and mentally, it's crucial to consider seeking professional help or reevaluating your relationship.
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I will definitely lose my temper with you if I don't love you, and I won't lose my temper with you if I love you. I think that the performance of loving someone is at least a little better temper when treating him, but a good temper is not without a temper. Blindly tolerant, everything goes according to you, this is not a good temper at all, 80% of them are pretending or tolerating.
A real good temper is to have one's own sound three views and standards, to judge right and wrong through one's own thinking, and then to express one's own views and thoughts normally in the right place and in the right way, and to obtain a reasonable result. It's reluctant to lose your temper with the person you like.
Good temper is a quality that is particularly important for a man, and I think sublimation can be described as "emotional stability". The advantage of "emotional stability" is a great plus for any gender, any age level, and any class level. All else being equal, a "emotionally stable" and a "moody" partner can bring twice as much happiness to the other as the latter!
I think a man who loves you should be able to express his emotions and thoughts normally, and not be angry with others and vent himself at will. If two people have a conflict and discord, he will not shout and show his teeth and claws, nor will he be extremely silent without saying a word. If there is a mistake, he will admit the mistake first, and if it is right, he will only reassure you first.
When you have calmed down, he will explain his thoughts and why he wants to be so stupid, he will propose a solution that he thinks is feasible, and then patiently persuade you to speak, and patiently listen to you express your thoughts.
But it's really bad to lose his temper with you at will, at least it shows that he can't control his emotions correctly, just forget if he can't control it, but also vent his negative emotions on the person he likes, there must be something wrong with his heart, don't think about whether he loves you or not, but you should think about your life after marriage, whether there will be violent tendencies and so on. Therefore, in this case, it is still recommended to break up early.
Although it is natural for a man to pay for a woman, I will feel that I don't want to go, and I think it's not good to spend men's money all the time, after all, most modern women have independent financial ability and should properly share it for their lovers, so I sometimes pay for my boyfriend, but in order to save face, I will quietly stuff the money to him before the waiter comes to check out, he generally won't ask for it, I forced it, and he gave in, hehe.
Boyfriends shouldn't care, right?
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It can only prove that his desire to possess is too strong, and it cannot be proved that he just cares too much about you and does it, whether it is a husband and wife or a couple, both should have relative private space, and too much possession of each other's space will only bring the opposite effect or even rejection. Therefore, it is recommended that you communicate or think about it, and a long-term solution is not a good solution.
Since you have seen that he is not a responsible person, and you have been disappointed, and you have discovered many of his faults through your interactions, if you feel that you can go further, then be tolerant, understand and cover everything, communicate with each other when appropriate, and give each other their opinions. If you also have the heart to let go, there is nothing to be reluctant to, willing to be willing, willing to be willing to gain, and then entangled for a long time, you may suffer the grievances will increase, and your feelings are constantly degenerating, he is kind, good people have their own place, rather than so tired to maintain this relationship is better to be a little simpler, just like in the end there will be no beautiful results, why bother to keep chasing it......You are also very kind, otherwise you wouldn't care about the emotional foundation that went through ups and downs in half a year, people always have spirituality, and it is inevitable to have emotional interactions, if you have another him, everything will fade away.
It is said that the person who climbed the mountain with her was a guest, and he was much younger than Chen Qiaoen, so they should not be suitable.