I m the kind of person who holds things in my heart, why do my colleagues say I m scheming?

Because your colleagues don't know about you! <>

You say that you are the kind of person who holds things in your heart, and you may rarely make real friends like this. Because you haven't opened your heart yourself, you haven't opened yourself, and you're living in your own world forever, which is actually very bad. Over time, you may be withdrawn and dislike socializing.

This is actually very bad for yourself, if you know you a little better at the same time, you won't feel that you are scheming.

Because holding things in your heart and scheming are completely two different concepts! Originally, you were a harmless person, and it was as if you were scheming and brought a bad influence or loss to everyone, which is actually very unfair to you. So the only thing you can do is to change yourself more.

I think you still have a personality problem, you must change your personality and learn to integrate into your work and colleague circle. Only if you really integrate into them, they will not find you pretending to be mysterious, because understanding will accept you more, and then they will like you more. Although you may feel that it doesn't matter much whether you fit in with everyone or not, you can't feel the helplessness and passivity of being excluded.

Either way, it's always good to settle into a new environment quickly. <>

Only by changing our thinking can we change our behavior and then achieve a change in our personality. In this world, many people are changing, because not changing will only make your path narrower and narrower, and only by changing can everyone accept you. At that time, I believe that my colleagues will also change their opinion of you, and they will understand that you are just not good at talking and expressing, and you are not a scheming girl.

There is a saying in Chaoshan dialect that also has similar meaning, which means that if a person does not like to talk and hides his words in his heart, such a person will sooner or later give a fatal blow. <>

In fact, for the workplace, according to the general working hours, the day is eight hours of work, and if there is another 2-3 hours of overtime, then it is more than 10 hours. Therefore, it is true that you spend more time with your colleagues than you do with your family and friends, so it is important to live in harmony with your colleagues.

A harmonious colleague relationship can make the life and work of people in the workplace more efficient, smoother and simpler.

Aside from your personality, it is actually a bad habit to keep things in your heart, and I think you must be aware of this yourself. When you don't speak, others can't understand what you're thinking, especially when there is a conflict, and if the conflict is not well resolved, then it is more likely to intensify.

First of all, you can take the initiative to talk to your colleagues, communicate with them more, and express your feelings sincerely, no one will always ignore the kindness of others (and pay attention to a certain frequency at first).

Secondly, when you encounter something you don't understand, take the initiative to ask your colleagues for advice. The workplace requires teamwork, and one person will inevitably solve bad problems, mobilize everyone's strength, and brainstorm.

Finally, in the workplace, you should give others more opportunities to speak, listen patiently to others' ideas and suggestions, and do not recommend responsibilities when encountering problems, so that you can live in harmony with your colleagues.

In fact, in the final analysis, no matter what the occasion, it is always right to communicate more, it can make us understand each other's ideas better, and team communication can also get problems and solutions faster. Try to communicate more with your colleagues so that your work and life will be smoother.

Maybe they don't think you're gregarious enough.

The so-called unsociability may simply be because you don't take out your own private affairs and "share" them together, don't participate in the topics they like, and don't really fit into the small group they are grouping into.

So he was considered unsociable and was identified as scheming. This situation is really not strange in the workplace.

In fact, it is a very normal thing to have something in mind, especially a colleague is actually a very fragile and sensitive relationship, so it is naturally good to get along happily, if not, it is not bad for the well water not to interfere with the river water.

On the premise of not affecting work, there is absolutely nothing wrong with keeping some personal private matters in mind, let alone showing favor to colleagues.

I once read a joke.

A has a privacy and wants to talk to someone, so he says to B: I have a secret, but you can't tell anyone else.

b Promise to come down.

But then B couldn't help but want to find someone to tell A's secret, so he found C again and told her the same: I have a secret about so-and-so, but you can't tell anyone else.

C also agreed, but soon after, she couldn't help but want to talk to D.

After turning around like this, you can imagine how many people know about privacy.

Therefore, I have always believed that no matter how good friends you are, you should have a certain bottom line. If it's a secret that you don't want anyone to know, then you must bite it out and not let go, and you'd rather the secret rot in your heart than tell it.

Because once you tell this secret to others, it is equivalent to telling the whole outside world, and if it is just an ordinary little secret, it is harmless to share it with your friends.

However, if it involves your own weakness or sadness, it is recommended that you keep it yourself.

As for your colleagues who think you're scheming, let them continue to think about it, after all, it's not them who pay the salary.

Seeing this problem, I empathize, I am also the kind of person who doesn't like to talk very much, there are times when I usually hold it in my heart, I feel that there is nothing to say, unlike some people, how small a thing feels, can be described by Balabala.

As for some people saying that you are scheming, I don't think I understand it. As a man, I'm not the kind of person who complains about a little pain or illness. If you usually encounter something casually, you have to complain to everyone, others will only think that you have no city government, you can't hold your breath, and you are not worth shouldering.

But there are still people who say that you are scheming and thoughtful, and I can only say that this person must be much more complicated than you. Whatever the purpose, such a person is not worth associating.

In fact, there are basically such people in the workplace, especially some people have broken mouths, or they can deduce a shocking secret about anything. Although it is said that there is no wind and no waves, some people can set off big waves even if there is no wind. Usually, if you have a relationship with such a person, you can definitely say that others are useless.

Of course, some people who may not talk much and look honest will also be bullied.

So, that's what you're going to be in. Seeing that you don't usually talk much, and you're relatively low-key, I want to find out what you are not. Then he began to say that you are scheming, that you hide everything very deeply, and that you are very good at camouflage.

What can you do if someone says this, after all, personality dictates, and not everyone likes to talk about what happened to them. The workplace is like a battlefield, sometimes you want to be alone, but you can't, you may be gossiped about by others. Don't pay too much attention to it, unsubstantiated remarks are untenable, don't dwell too much, they will pass with the passage of time.

Like you, I'm the kind of person who would rather say what is in my heart to myself, hold it by myself, and don't talk to others, but I have another advantage, that is, I'm very good at listening to others, I don't know if it's because of this, so no one has ever said anything like I'm scheming.

People subconsciously think of people who are used to hiding and concealing as "conspiracy theorists", not only because they are afraid of being plotted and insecure, but I think there is also a kind of rejection of people who are different from themselves. Since high school, a few of my buddies often told me some of their hearts, or some secrets, I didn't realize this kind of problem at first, until I was pointed out by a buddy, he said, "I don't know why I have something to tell you", at that time I knew that I still have this characteristic, and then I thought about it again, but I haven't told them many things about myself, this relationship is unequal, unbalanced, I feel that if I continue like this, there may be a rift between me and my buddies, So I also found an opportunity to tell them some of my inconsequential little things.

Once something happens to me now, the first reaction is to hide it, and the second reaction will be to think about the pros and cons of sharing it with others, etc., I think your colleague thinks that you are scheming just shows that he is the kind of person who is more straightforward, direct, and straightforward, and can't hold back his words, and when you get along with your colleagues, you can also adjust it appropriately, say some small things about your past, and share an unimportant love experience, which can quickly close the relationship.

Moreover, a lot of things are just holding back by yourself is also very uncomfortable, my personal experience is that sometimes it is easy to be cranky at night, and it is not good to play with mobile phones, so sometimes it is understandable to talk to others, it is a good way to relieve stress, I hope it can help you.

Colleague relationships in the workplace are one of the most important relationships in our society, and if you are not careful, it will affect your career development, which is why many people attach great importance to their colleagues! The subject said that he generally held back in his heart when he had something, and that should be a person who doesn't like to talk much in the workplace and doesn't like to express his thoughts very much, and this state is relatively disadvantageous in the workplace.

As the saying goes, a crying child has milk and doesn't like to talk, but once he makes some behavioral changes, some colleagues will think that this person is pretending to be a pig and eating a tiger. In fact, such people are only a small number of most mature workplace practitioners will not make some comments on this person because of one-sided appearances, after all, the rivers and lakes are so far away, who knows if they will see each other in the future, the road of the workplace needs to go wider and wider, and people who want to go wider and wider can always handle the relationship with everyone well in the workplace.

There are still some people in the workplace who are not doing well by themselves, and they can't see others good, so once others have any good changes, he will feel that this person is more scheming, and such colleagues will not have better development in the future, and the time between you is not so long, and such a person will not be too popular in the workplace, his career path will not go too smooth, if it is not too business-related, then you don't need to care too much about what he thinks of you, and there is no need to explain it to him.

But Kimchi still thinks that in the workplace, sometimes it is relatively difficult to take things in mind, and if necessary, you still have to learn to fight for some things, and you can express it to the right thing and not the right person, so that you can fight for what you should get in the workplace.

It is estimated that someone said bad things about you in front of the leader because of jealousy!

Do you just listen to your boss say that you are scheming or do you listen to your colleagues?

Scheming, do you think you're scheming? If you don't think so, that's good, because you're confident, but others say you're scheming, it may be that you don't treat others sincerely, but you are being thought to be fake. If you feel like you're scheming, don't say anything, just correct it.

As the name suggests, scheming is a heavy heart and a calculating heart. It doesn't matter if it's not simple, which one is simple now? No, so you still have to correct yourself in the eyes of others.

It is harmful, and their own interests are the most important.

You can read a book and release your grievances slowly, instead of waiting for an outbreak. That's dangerous.

If it's not good, you should release your emotions appropriately, talk to friends, or go out to play and relax.

Be brave enough to tell the person who makes you angry what you think, and don't be afraid to get beaten up!! It's really cool to say that it's heart-wrenching, hehe.

In the future, if you are in a bad mood, you will either shout or cry, or go to Xinfei**.

It's rare that he still has someone who can speak from his heart.

Tell him that his mother is a choice he can't make.

You have to raise what you have.

There is something to fight for.

Do your best to protect your own rights and interests.

It's okay to have less contact.

After all, it is his wife and children who accompany him all his life.

Mom will always be a thing of the past.

Then don't follow his words, your mother-in-law is not good. You can say that you still have me, and there will be our baby in the future, and our family will be happy.

It shows that your mother-in-law doesn't care about him very much.

To be able to tell you is straightforward. However, I think there are two possibilities for people to feel scheming, one is that you really have a lot of eyes and will come to things, and the other is that you don't usually talk about your own affairs to others, which makes people think that you are very mysterious, and they can't figure it out and say that you are scheming.

There are also many such people in society, and when you meet this kind of person for the first time, you will feel very excessive, but keep going, and you will find it"There are mountains outside the mountains, and there are people outside the people".There are several ways to deal with this. First, stay away, ignore them, and go your own way; Second, get along with them appropriately, do what they like, get in touch with places that are accustomed to them, and don't show all the advantages and disadvantages; Third, learn from their scheming and attack the shield of the son with the spear of the son.

But don't learn too much, don't be scheming towards anyone like they do; Fourth, talk to them cordially, put forward your opinions tactfully, and try to influence them, so that they don't have at least a scheming for yourself.

That's all, don't learn from them.

Go your own way. Courteously stand... If he really has to target you. I tried my best to play with him to the end. This kind of person is hateful.

There is everything in the world, villains, gentlemen, those who love more seriously, those who are poor-mouthed, and those who scold if they don't agree.

There are too many, you have to learn to deal with all kinds of people, those who are in harmony with your temper will have more contact, and those who are different will be more estranged!

Understand that we survive for our own sake, and that we can't change their personalities, so we have to change ourselves to adapt to these circumstances!

Of course, don't let you be as scheming as they are).

The so-called gentlemen are frank and open, and villains are often relatives, but in fact, they are the most pitiful in their hearts!

If you really can't stay, change the environment, you don't have to endure such a thing!

Trees die, people live, maybe a different environment is better than now!

Don't try to get revenge on them, once you think about it, you become like them.