What does a white lie look like? Is there a price to pay?

Love is a feeling of loving and being loved, a tacit understanding of the heart, an unforgettable thought, a kind of willing to give without reciprocation, a kind of happiness for the lover to make a piece of the sky, a desire to be cared for, respected, understood and tolerated, a process of dependence on each other and treating each other kindly, a feeling of heartbeat (when missing) heartbeat (when we meet) heartache (when parting and hurting) Love someone, understand and understand, apologize and thank, admit mistakes and correct mistakes, be considerate and considerate, To accept rather than endure, is to be tolerant!!Words are words that are said in order to achieve a certain goal, conceal the truth, and obtain certain benefits. The difference is:

1. The interpretation is different. White lies are often for the benefit of others, with the aim of achieving a good result; For example, a loved one is suffering from an incurable disease and fabricates lies in order to relieve his mental stress.

True lies are generally for their own interests, deliberately concealing the truth in order to achieve the purpose of confusing the public and fishing in muddy waters. For example, some students skip school and make up lies to deceive their family members or teachers.

2. The psychology is different. White lies are passively fabricated in a last resort psychological condition, without mental pressure, and without worrying about the consequences of being exposed. The true lie is done on its own initiative in a psychological state of weakness, with strong mental pressure and a great fear of the consequences of being exposed.

3. The performance is different. A white lie is told with a calm and calm demeanor; True lies pale and flustered when fabricated. 4. The consequences are different.

White lies can also be understood and even increased by favor after being exposed; When the true lie is exposed, not only will it not be understood, but it will increase the hatred and disgust of the fabricator.

If it doesn't match the facts, it can reduce the damage to the listener. Take responsibility for everything

It's better not to use "white lies" too often.

Good faith is easily abused by liars, and deception is embellished in the name of good faith.

When the lie is exposed, not only the trust between the two people who have been established before collapses, but then every word said by the other party must be believed at a discount, and the self-defense mechanism caused by this makes the relationship between the two people suspicious and mirrors each other, and the development of things will develop in the direction of a vicious circle like a spiral.

The correct thing for smart people is not to do such high-risk and low-return things, because the moment the lie is exposed, your loss can be said to be endless, and to be honest, at least both parties can communicate sincerely and exchange views on things, at least it will not happen because a lie needs to be told more lies to complete the first lie, which is time-consuming and labor-intensive.

The word good will is easy to say, but it is too subjective to be judged by an objective standard, let alone falsified. Because if you want people to believe that you are well-intentioned, the premise of wheel picking is that you have won the trust of the other party through various things, and the most basic way to win the trust of the other party is not to lie.

Trust and lies are inherently mutually exclusive. If good faith is based on a lie, then the foundation of good faith will not be strong. Some people are willing to live in dreams, and they laugh when they are deceived by the other party, and some people are willing to pursue truth, goodness and beauty, sincerely regard the real jujube sedan chair as the highest standard of value, and hate lies and pursue the truth.

If the value evaluation and value comparison are carried out, and the pros and cons are weighed and the most beneficial solution is chosen: if the emotional loss of the other party after knowing the truth is greater than the damage to the relationship caused by the lie being exposed, it seems that this will become a direct reason and excuse for the white lie liar, but the paradox is whether the other party is hurt more after knowing the truth or the lie is more hurt by being exposed.

In the absence of historical data for reference, the liar cannot make a judgment in advance, and even if there is historical data as a reference, there is no guarantee of what kind of opinion the deceived person holds in this case alone. On the other hand, the harm of a lie being exposed is far greater than the harm of knowing the truth, and this is not the case where lying should be done.

The script of life is completed by you and the other party, not a one-man show written, directed and acted by yourself in order to save trouble. If you feel that you hurt the other party a lot, then you can communicate with the other party whether it hurts more to tell the truth or the lie is more hurtful.

Lies are easy to cause uncontrollable chain reactions, your behavior will cause the other party's suspicion, when you feel the other party's suspicion, you yourself will be suspicious, the relationship between the two parties will continue to deteriorate in this alternating suspicion and suspicion, the degree of deterioration of La Yanchang continues to escalate, and the fuse of the whole thing is just your own clever white lie.

We should understand and tolerate white lies. Sometimes, a lie may be told with good intentions, such as to keep the other person from being harmed, or to protect the other person, and this kind of lie is understandable to some extent. However, lies should not become the norm, and we should encourage honest and frank communication, as honesty is the foundation of building trusting relationships.

If we find that others have told us white lies, we should analyze the situation calmly and objectively, and communicate and solve the problem with honesty and understanding, so as to avoid more misunderstandings and confusion caused by lies. At the same time, we should also establish an honest and frank communication style, so that we can build a healthier and stronger interpersonal relationship.

1.Sometimes people say white lies out of a kind of Xiangfan mentality to protect the other party, but this method may make the other party stay in the wrong idea too early and fail to discover the truth. At this time, if we feel the need to reveal the truth, we should explain it in a gentle way, understand the other person's feelings, and tell the other person that we want to help them.

2.We should also be honest with others and explain the truth to our white lies, so as to avoid affecting our relationships because of lies.

3.Sometimes, a white lie can lead to tragedy, such as a doctor hiding a condition that worsens. In this case, it is necessary to weigh which method is more conducive to choosing **, maintaining transparent and truthful medical records and communication can not only effectively avoid the occurrence of tragedy, but also make the doctor-patient relationship more stable and healthy.

In short, we can't get rid of lies, white lies, or malicious lies. We need to be rational and calm at all times, avoid lying ourselves and being deceived by the lies of others, and learn to communicate with honesty and understanding, and actively prevent the negative impact of lies on our lives.

Square: 1If a person often has lies in his mouth to deceive others, over time, he will lose people's trust.

2.The "lie" itself is dark, and the white lie itself is falsehood. Although he took off the cheongsam worn by the beggar, he still could not escape the essence of his lie, and a lie meant deception, and thus hindered integrity.

The starting point of a white lie is good, but often once this lie is exposed, the damage to the other party's remorse will be deeper. 3.In my opinion, distrusting others is not only irresponsible to oneself, but also disrespectful to others, and even to others, causing losses to the interests of the collective.

The most important thing is to lose the trust of others. 4.Zi said:

People have no faith, and they don't know what they can do. "I think that if people don't be trustworthy, they will have no place in society and they will not be able to do anything. The reason why "lie" is called "lie" is because it is false, untrue, and deceitful words.

If a person often has lies in his mouth to deceive others, over time, he will lose people's trust. 5.Another point is that if you tell a lie, it may be used many more lies to round that lie, and there is a high probability that lying becomes a habit, lying, it's like a snowball, it will get bigger and bigger.

Opposite: 1White lies are beautiful, and when we tell small lies in moderation for the sake of the happiness and hope of others, lies become understanding, respect, and tolerance.

Who doesn't want to be understood, respected, and tolerated? So, I think it's still necessary to tell a few white lies in our lives. 2.

White lies, all kinds of white lies from the starting point and result, are all to protect the other party's emotions, maintain the other party's mental health and pleasure, and are a kind of humanistic spirit. Because of the existence of white lies, the world will become better, warmer and more harmonious, and the world will be full of sunshine. 3.

When a terminally ill patient is sentenced to death by doctors, his parents, children, and all his relatives will not directly tell him: "Life cannot be saved" and "How long can I live in this world at most". They all use white lies to encourage patients and let him cooperate with doctors**, and the opposing party can't blame these people for being dishonest, right?

Although these are all truths, who would be so cruel as a judge to sentence a prisoner to death, telling the truth to his relatives who are already sick? Is this an undermine to integrity?

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In real life, we all know that honesty is the principle of many people's lives. But in some cases, we are forced to tell some white lies, in order to make others better, so is it right to lie with white intentions?

I think that when necessary, instead of telling the truth, it is better to use white lies to make the other person's heart feel good.

White lies can lead to positive results

Here are a few examples from my life. I have a very nice girlfriend who has a boyfriend. Then one day when I was on the street, I suddenly found that her boyfriend was holding hands with other girls, and they were very close together.

As a best friend, I was very angry at this time, and just a few days later my friend said that the boy had broken up with her.

In such a situation, although I can honestly tell my girlfriend that it was because this boy fell in love with other girls and stepped on two boats, so he broke up with you, but I think that saying this will make my girlfriend more angry, and it is better to make my good friend feel better than telling the truth.

Another example is to touch Wang Zhiru and said that when I was approaching the college entrance examination, in fact, there was a very big incident in my family, that is, my father had a car accident, his waist bent and went to the hospital, and he was also admitted to the intensive care unit. At that time, it was close to the time of the college entrance examination, I would call ** to my father every month, I suddenly found that my father's ** could not be through, only my mother answered, I vaguely felt that something was wrong and asked my mother, and then my mother said that my father had been very busy on a business trip recently.

But in fact, after I finished the college entrance examination, I found out that something happened to my father. If my mother told me the truth in that situation, it would definitely affect my mood at that time and affect my results in the college entrance examination.

Judge the situation and learn to turn

So many times, integrity is a basic principle for each of us. But in some special cases, when a white lie can really make the other party have a better life, I don't think it's necessary to die for that honest laughing principle. Integrity is a principle, but I also have to learn to turn.

We have to judge according to the situation at that time, for example, I gave two examples, during the college entrance examination, if I knew that my father had an accident, would I still be in such a good school? If a white lie can bring positive results and bring benefits to others, it is actually not contrary to the principle.

A lie is called a "lie" because it is false, untrue, and deceitful words. Good intentions are inherently contrary to lies, and since they are good intentions, how can they detect lies? White lies are not necessarily good and can ruin a person's life.

Example: A college student with poor grades said to him hopefully, "You are the best and smartest in our class."

He believed it, became impetuous, had no one in his sights, and his grades worsened.

Therefore, it can be seen that white lies are not good. White lies make people escape from reality and have no courage to face them. If it keeps going like this, what will happen to him in the future?

Sometimes, you tell a white lie like someone else, but when he finds out the truth himself, it will only hit him harder.

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