How should people with different worldviews be friends?

Different ideals and different worldviews do not affect two people to be friends. The main thing for my best friend is to see how I feel about this person. It's the same with love.

As long as two people are in agreement, different worldviews are not an obstacle. So as long as two people can get along well, it's actually very simple for people with different worldviews to be friends.

To tell the truth, I used to believe that "different ways do not conspire with each other, different circles do not melt hard", "don't be friends with people with different views" and so on. However, as more and more people were met and more and more things were encountered, this kind of view was gradually overturned in my mind. When you come into contact with so many different people, you will find that you seem to see another world, a world that is different from what you once knew, which makes you think and improve yourself.

And you are always with people who have similar views, and the problems you see and don't see are almost the same, and your likes or dislikes tend to be paranoid. What you like, I like, and what you don't like, I don't like either. Such people will indeed enjoy the pleasure of "smelling alike" when they soak together, and there will be few quarrels and quarrels brought about by the disagreement of the three views, but after a long time, your cognition will become more and more one-sided.

I suddenly wanted to talk about the girl who was always with me, and who was also my roommate. She is from the countryside, and I am from the county, so the conditions are a little better than her. It can't be said that it is good, but it should be that the things that are exposed to different regions are different.

We are at odds in many ways. For example, aesthetics, vision, and so on. Girls often gossip together, and we rarely have **, what we often talk about is what to eat in the morning, what to eat at noon, what to eat at night and so on.

Or talk to each other about what you and I think about something, etc., I love the process of communication, to be honest, it seems to take your vision to a new level. Overall, we get along very well, thanks to mutual respect and tolerance, those who are willing to understand try to understand, and those who do not want to understand are allowed to exist.

I have two very good friends who have quarreled recently, and the fuse is nothing more than some trivial things, but all kinds of grievances and grievances in the past seem to be pouring out. Xiao Huang is from a first-tier big city, and her living conditions have been very superior since she was a child, and Xiao Cao is from a third- or fourth-tier small county like me. I think that the living environment since childhood, the two people with different cognitive education, the three views should not be very compatible.

There is still a lack of understanding, tolerance and respect between the two, we don't need to accept other people's views and ways unconditionally, but what we need to do is to respect others and have a different way of life from us.

Environment, geography, humanities and other factors lead to the fact that each person's three views are different, and it is difficult to find two people with the same three views. Therefore, it takes a run-in period for people to get along with each other, and some people will feel that the difference between two people is too big to be friends and look for someone who is suitable for being friends; And some people can also smoothly run in with everyone and become friends with different people. This may also be a kind of outlook on life, about making friends.

I don't want to judge this approach with a "bias", but I still encourage people to be friends with different people, and if you don't want to be friends, you should have more contact, try to understand that you will really find a different society.

Since the two people have different worldviews, let's start somewhere else. For example, find out if you have a common hobby, even if two people have different worldviews and have the bonds of common hobbies, they can become good friends.

People with different worldviews can naturally be friends and seek common ground while reserving differences, but he is not destined to be your best friend.

I think it's not a big problem to be able to make friends and seek common ground while reserving differences, but in fact, you and anyone else must have different ideas in some way. So I think it's okay for two people with different worldviews to be friends.

In fact, it is very difficult for such two people to get along. Because of the difference in world views, there will be very right friction in the process of getting along with each other. Therefore, if you want to get along with such two people, one of you must make sacrifices and change your worldview.

In the course of a person's life, they will meet a variety of different people in the process of studying and working. They come from all over the world, grow up in different environments, have different personalities, have different hobbies, and have a variety of ideas, and in the process of communicating with them, there will be a collision of ideas, producing a lot of sparks of values and so on, but this does not mean that you and they can't be friends because of different views, but if you can do this, even if you have different views, you can become friends with them:

Learn to accept each other's differences, have an accepting and tolerant mentality, and different points of view can also make you friends. If you have the mentality of accepting others and tolerating others, even if there will be a certain gap in ideas due to the different environment in which others and you grew up, you will accept and tolerate the differences between them and you, such as personality, hobbies, favorite things, and things you appreciate. Others will also empathize with you because of your acceptance and tolerance, and have the opportunity to understand each other better, thus promoting a friendship with her with different points of view.

Learn to appreciate how others are different from you, and discover the strengths of the other person, learn from their strengths, and make you friends with different perspectives. Appreciation is a good quality that allows you to discover the beauty of others, only you know how to appreciate others, and learn to look for shining points in others, learn their strengths, and appreciate their excellent places. Even if his views don't agree with yours, they will be attracted to each other because of your behavior, and they will appreciate the sparkle in you.

For people with different views from themselves, we must learn to accept different people, to tolerate the differences between others and ourselves, but also to know how to appreciate the differences between others and you, find advantages, learn from each other's strengths, even if the views are different, but also because of your acceptance and tolerance, your appreciation makes each other cherish each other and become lifelong friends.

I don't think that I also have a lot of friends with different views but we still get along very well, and the relationship is also very iron, I think the contact between people is like-minded, similar views are important, but more important is the mentality when getting along with people, if both parties can understand each other, understand each other, is it so important to have the same point of view? (And I personally think that being friends with people who don't agree with their views is more helpful for me and better understanding what empathy is).

Since you become friends, you must get along well, don't worry about each other because of a little thing, suspect each other, and more importantly, trust each other, don't deceive each other! If you do something wrong, you must dare to admit it, otherwise you will regret losing a true friend at that time! True friends should comfort each other when each other is sad, share happiness together, find a way to face difficulties together, support each other when tired, such friends are real friends, such friends are worthy of our lifelong friends, such friendships are real friendships, such friendships will last forever!

I hope everyone answers the questions according to their own ideas! Despise plagiarizing my own answers! )

Theoretically.

It is impossible to become a confidant with different views, but only a confidant.

There is one exception, though.

That is, one of the two people has a good heart for others, and this kind of person can be friends with people of any character and character.

But according to what you say.

Your office is just 2 of you, and there is no other friendship involved, so it should be very stable!

It's not uncommon for you to say that we often get bad because of differences of opinion, and as a result, we don't feel happy.

I'm sure no one has the same personality preferences.

But they can all be friends! At that time, the quarrel was actually casual because of some different points of view, if you had to expand the matter.

He's a big deal, and it's okay if you don't care about it.

In general: the troubles caused by quarrels due to different points of view are not something that can affect a person's friendship, if one of them always cares, it is different, [please take this matter seriously, it is a matter not to take it to heart, and it is not a matter to laugh and talk to her as usual].

First of all, I'm not quite sure what you mean by "not a world"? If it's a physical world, then have you encountered aliens? Of course, this is a joke.

If it is a psychological world, then I can tell you very clearly that the inner world of each person in this world is different: because we grew up in different environments; Because our own personalities are different; Because we are not educated in the same way. Therefore, the same world reflects different scenery in everyone's eyes.

If you can talk to someone, it just means that the world you see and the world they see overlap to a high degree; If you can't talk to someone, it means that you don't see or deal with problems in a different way. So we don't have the so-called "you and my world are different" such a thing.

You could say that there is little overlap between me and a person in an area or topic of interest. Okay, then I can give you some ways to deal with it, in fact, there is only one way, and it is very simple, that is, please come into his world, become a part of his world, and please tolerate him in your world and make him a part of your world. That's easy to say, right?

But there are many ways to do it. I've answered similar questions before, and I remember the ways I proposed at the time: you can talk to him about his family, or you can talk to him about his interests, or you can talk to him about things that he cares about in particular.

In fact, it is annoying to say too much of this, so today we can talk about a more novel approach.

That is, date him or her more. Yes, whether it is a man or a woman, whether older or younger than you, please go on more dates with him, for example, you can ask someone you think is not in the same world as you to have afternoon tea a few more times. Some studies of social communication have shown that people are less defensive about others when they talk to others while eating and drinking.

So at this time, he is very likely to say something that he is interested in, please pay special attention to listen at this time, even if you really don't like what he says, please keep listening patiently.

Learning to listen is a very important quality, because we can't just speak vigorously in the process of communication, we should also be polite enough when listening to others, do not interrupt him, let him finish well, even if in the end he can see that you are not interested in his topic at all, he will admire you very much, because you are willing to listen to him talk about only about himself, and are willing to let him spend such a pleasant afternoon.

All in all, it's better not to be so limited, to open your mind more, to feel more about other people's world, and to accept other people's thoughts, which is the most important magic weapon for you to communicate with all kinds of people.

It is often said that people who are what kind of person you are can know by looking at the friends around you, the more diverse the people around you, saying that you are a little communicator, and that the higher your emotional intelligence. For this kind of person, it is easy for him to get along with others and find his place among friends. No matter what type of people, whether there is an age gap, an ideological gap, or a value gap, they can get along closely and harmoniously, and there seems to be no difference.

However, some people are different, they have a single type of friends, that is, the friends they make have the same values and cognitive system as themselves, that is, they will only interact with people who are in the same world as themselves.

So what kind of people belong to people from different worlds, and what is it like to be friends with people from different worlds?

First of all, families and social backgrounds are different. Although it is said that everyone is equal in front of the relationship, I think that this is the foundation of people who are based on the same economic conditions and social status. It is undeniable that I believe that people are divided into three, six, nine and so on, and it is not wrong that economic conditions determine the superstructure.

If the two sides of the two sides are friends, one side is so rich that they don't know that they are rich like Ma Yun, and the other side is too poor to open the pot, there is a world of difference in the economic foundation of these two people, not to mention the social status, how the two people can maintain a normal friendship relationship together, think about this possibility is zero. Because of the difference in economic conditions and social status, the cognition and values of the two kinds of people will be different, or the two kinds of people cannot understand each other and empathize with each other, and there is definitely a big gap in their thinking level.

Secondly, people from different worlds are also manifested in differences in values and social outlooks. Since cognition produces action, and because of values and social outlook, we produce cognition, so if there is a great incompatibility between values and social outlook, how can we produce the same cognitive outlook and the same behavioral approach? If these two kinds of people interact, they will definitely exclude each other, or accommodate each other, but they will never be honest with each other and rely on each other.

It will only bring pressure, confusion, doubt, and even a sense of distance to both sides.

In short, there will be a sense of distance from people in different worlds to be friends, and they will be very tired because of accommodation, and there will be a lot of differences in many thoughts and behaviors, although this is all negative, there are also positive ones such as learning from each other, learning from each other's strengths, etc., but I personally do not agree with people from different worlds to become good friends, even if there are feelings, they can't resist the objective differences, and this difference will slowly corrode some seemingly solid feelings.