Why do people suffer? How to get rid of life s troubles?

The reason why people suffer is because they are affected by something; Relatives, friends, money, fame, status, and life are troubled because of this. Pain will not solve anything, it will only lead to a greater loss of fighting spirit. No matter what level you live in, as long as you live a good life seriously and treat people and things at this level, there will be no worries in life.

Because the ideal is too high, because the goal is too big, because of the pursuit of perfection...These can make you feel the pain of the mind and no matter what happens, solve it with a peaceful mind, and the pain will be greatly reduced.

People are just confused and troubled, just like a lost person, can they not be bitter if they can't find a way out? Only when you find your true nature will you not be lost.

I'm also miserable, I have too much hatred in my heart, too much stress in my life, and I really hope that the end of the world in 2012 is real.

Man! There will always be pain, troubles, and troubles

Life between heaven and earth must resolve the four major relationships

Renhe (Confucianism, benevolence).

Man and nature (Taoism, quiet) Taoism is natural and quiet.

People and rules (legalist, stop) self-discipline, clear rules, unspoken rules.

People and self (Buddhism, and) take harmony as the top, seek harmony as the top, liberate themselves in the ordinary mind.

A: Eliminate evil knowledge and wrong opinions, and adjust the cognitive framework

Your troubles and your pain come from your cognitive framework, and if you have a dark and paranoid cognitive framework, for example, if people touch and touch and twist it, and you think about the darkness, then you are in pain. On the other hand, if you're a positive, good, bright cognitive framework, then these things don't cause you so much pain, and that's called a remodeling of the cognitive framework! Everyone has Buddha nature, and if you summon a book to summon self-confidence, you can change your state of life and state of mind.

People live in their own cognitive framework, and there is nothing outside their minds, so the only way to redeem themselves is to adjust their cognitive framework, to obtain correction and perfection from experience, and the unity of knowledge and action is the only way.

In life, a good attitude can make you optimistic and open-minded; A good attitude can enable you to overcome the hardships you face; A good attitude can make you indifferent to fame and fortune and live a truly happy life.

To handle the relationship with people, there are three sentences: look at people's strengths, help people's difficulties, and remember people's benefits.

Look at the shortcomings of people, there is no one in the world to make friends with; Look at the length of people, everything in the world is my teacher; It's been a long way. There are no enemies; It's all friends and bad teachers, and mentality is everything!

B: Remove bad emotions and keep your mind calm (Lin Yutang's "The Biography of Su Dongpo") is endowed with energy and stupidity.

C: Self-motivation and self-management of emotional ability: The reason why Su Dongpo became like this is because he has experienced things that others can't experience, and he has many setbacks, and he is open-minded when he wants to open up.

Enlightenment: If you are born between heaven and earth, how can you live under people for a long time? When the dream is the horse, live up to the time!

1.ABC theory completely relieves pain and trouble.

a represents the event; b represents your opinion or belief in the matter; C stands for outcome, i.e. your emotions.

When C is generated, there are emotions, and people usually go to trouble A, especially those related to A. But the only thing we can change is B, to change our perspective on the matter, and it's much easier to change B than to change A.

Moreover, an event has happened, and no matter how hard we try, we cannot change it, which is why many people have suffered for the rest of their lives.

There is one thing that you will never understand if you don't think about it, or even ignore it, and then do it according to the wrong logic and thinking for the rest of your life, and finally make yourself miserable for the rest of your life and don't know why.

Let's think about it, have you ever changed someone because of your actions and thoughts? Turned him into what he wanted?

If not, then let's think: your mother? Or the father? And your own children? Have you changed them?

You will find that you can't change their behavior and habits, you can't change their "nature", no matter how low or high you set demands on them, they will never be able to meet them. We can't even change our own relatives, and we still try to change others!

We all think wrong, we all want others to change for us, so that we don't have to "painfully" change ourselves; And in this we think about the wrong question, is it really easier for us to change others than to change ourselves?

First of all, the purpose of our coming to the earth is not to "transform others", it is God's job to transform others, our task in life is to "transform ourselves", and when we practice on the earth, we can make ourselves better, have a higher level of soul, and have a stronger mind, which is our purpose. We ourselves sometimes need "big projects" to transform, and as a result, you are busy running to transform others, and others may not appreciate it.

In fact, the results of putting forward various requirements and standards for others and hoping to transform others have proved that this kind of behavior and thinking will not work, and it also proves that the task you came to the world is not to transform others, if you have to go against the grain, just like these tragic facts of transforming others, God will continue to punish you and tell you: child, don't insist on going your own way, otherwise you will be more miserable.

Secondly, it is much easier to change yourself than to change others, in other words, it is really much harder to change others than to change yourself, and the only thing you can change is yourself, and more deeply, the only thing that can be changed is your own views and beliefs about this matter.

Every time I encounter something, I actually ask you: what do you think?

Then make a choice.

Truth be told, the only thing God wants to teach those who are in pain is this idea - to change their own perception.

One thing happens to you, no matter what, it is neutral, it seems to be a bad thing now, it is possible that the next 3 years, 5 years, 10 years will be a great good thing to achieve yourself. It's not about reciting ancient texts! It's the actual situation.

Her parents forced her to be an engineer, this.

Living a chaotic, painful, dissociating, depressed, and unhappy life can be difficult and challenging, but there are many ways you can improve the situation. Here are some suggestions that may help:

1.Seek professional help: If you're feeling depressed or unable to cope with life's challenges, consider seeking professional help. A psychologist, counselor or therapist can provide effective and supportive support to help you cope with negative emotions and stress.

2.Maintain a healthy lifestyle: Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can help you reduce negative emotions and stress. Establishing healthy eating habits, adequate sleep, proper exercise, and relaxation techniques can improve physical and mental health.

4.Find things you like: Finding things that make you feel happy and satisfied, such as hobbies, art, reading, etc., can help you divert your attention and reduce negative emotions and stress.

In conclusion, it takes time, effort, and support to improve the chaos, pain, dissociation, depression, and unhappiness in your daily life. Don't give up on yourself and believe that you can overcome the difficulties and find ways to improve the situation.