Why do people resist getting married? Why are people nowadays so resistant to getting married?

Many friends around me are "marriage is the grave of love", so many people have been in love for several years, but they are never willing to get married. There are many, many reasons not to get married, and there are many factors to consider, so be cautious about getting married. <>

The first reason why people resist getting married is that they are not free. Because once you get married, it means that you are no longer living alone, you have to live with your other half and work hard for this family together. You have to really leave your parents and live a life of two people.

You also have to keep a greater distance from some friends of the opposite sex, and even they take the initiative to keep their distance from you because you are married. If you don't get married, you can hang out with your friends until late at night, but after you get married you have to come home, you can't drink with your brother until late at night, you can't talk to your girlfriends all night. If you still have children, then you have to start raising them.

The child grew up from elementary school, to junior high school, to high school, to college, and then to his marriage. In other words, you have to break the heart of your child for the rest of your life. Are you at ease?

If you quarrel as a couple, you will break up if it's a big deal, but if you get married and quarrel, you can only endure it, unless you divorce. But can this marriage be simply divorced? I think it must not be, marriage is not only a matter of the two of you, but also a matter of both parents, a matter of two families, related to all aspects, if you have children, you should consider divorce more carefully.

So, once you get married, you basically lose a lot of freedom.

There are also issues to consider before getting married. As a man, you need to have a house and a car, you have to have a stable job, and you have to be able to support your new home. As a woman, you have to go to live in someone else's house, away from your parents. As both parties, you have to support both of your parents.

There are also various factors that cause people to resist marriage.

When it comes to getting married, many men resist from the bottom of their hearts, the word marriage is sacrosanct, so they are subconsciously reluctant to get married, in fact, there are many reasons for resisting marriage, some are detailed reasons, and some reasons are personal.

If a person is often forced to marry, then he will definitely resist getting married. A man will always crave love, and when he is forced to marry when he especially wants love, his first reaction must be to resist. My friend's brother has never had a suitable partner after graduating from college, so his mother began to arrange a blind date for him, in fact, he was not so resistant to marriage at first, and he was also looking around for a suitable little girl.

But since he was forced to marry by his parents, he began to be impatient to go on blind dates, he began to regard marriage as a burden, he began to regard marriage as a task, so he would resist getting married.

In fact, there is another reason, most men in this society now regard love as a game, they have never thought of getting married, what they desire is freedom. Most of these men have a general plan for their lives, they know when they should waste, they know when they should get married, they are not really resistant to marriage, but want a period of freedom.

In fact, everyone has their own reasons for resisting marriage, and this reason can be small or large enough to affect a lifetime. I think the most important thing is that as a parent, don't push your children, because after all, everyone is an adult, and you know what you want mostly.

In fact, the unmarried or those who resist marriage are very fragile in their hearts, they all have their own reasons, we should be considerate of him, let him get out of the dilemma of resisting marriage.

In fact, the fact that we resist marriage does not mean that there is a problem with the marriage itself, but that after we have gone through some things, some of our views have an impact.

If he was born in an environment where family feelings are relatively weak, then I think some of his beliefs about wanting to get married may not be so strong, after all, he can't feel the warmth of home, in his opinion, marriage is really a dispensable thing, so he may resist getting married.

In fact, the problem is mainly to blame on their parents. If you don't love each other, you should separate as soon as possible, and don't have too much influence on your children, so as not to cause their future marriage to be unhappy.

There is also the fact that he has been in love several times, and may have a certain fear of falling in love, and then a certain fear of getting married.

The reason for this fear is that as long as the other party does not care enough about him, or his expectations are too high, the other party cannot meet his needs, so that he will think that he will be very happy and can satisfy himself, so he resists marriage from the heart.

Some people will think that they are enough to support themselves, and their spiritual life is not relatively barren, so they are more in pursuit of freedom, and they are more in pursuit of the feeling of living independently. So their feelings don't need to be given by others, so they will resist getting married, and instead of catering to others, it is better to live a chic life by themselves.

There is also a situation where your conditions are very good, you can't find someone who suits you, there is no matching person, you can't be high or low, so you are suffering in this state, this is a marriage that is resisted, and over time, you don't have much hope.

In either case, there is a certain reason, and if you find the cause and prescribe the right medicine, I believe that everyone will still want to pursue happiness.

China's economic development is getting better and better, and many people's living standards have improved a lot, but with the development of social economy, it must be accompanied by the occurrence of some social problems, and a serious problem in our country is now a serious problem, that is, the marriage rate has been repeatedly reduced. Even late marriage and not getting married has become popular, some people express that they do not want to get married after a round of starts, or they do not want to marry at a very young age, so why are there fewer and fewer people who want to get married in recent years, and why are many people reluctant to get married?

First, the cost of living has increased, and there is a lot of pressure after marriage. With the development of social economy, although everyone's salary has gradually increased, it has to be admitted that there are some regional price levels, and the house is also high, especially the house, and now most people who are married are all prescribed houses and cars, and some families have no house, and even the accumulation of their own life has no money to buy a house. It is difficult to get married without a house, and this is the reality of social development, so the increase in the cost of living will cause many people to have a lot of work pressure after marriage, and even the temple of married life cannot enter.

Second, many people are increasingly hungry for freedom. In the past, what everyone wished for was to be the year of establishment, to get married when they should be married, and to be at the age when they should be prospering, as if their lives should be lived in such a regular manner. But now it is different, many people have more and more knowledge, they feel that marriage should not be the overall goal of life, but should demand their own ideals, the pursuit of perfection they want to pursue perfect things, they need to pursue perfection in the distance, not a lifetime of compromise.

Some people feel that casual is the most important thing, and the change in the consciousness of everyone's life has caused more and more people to be reluctant to enter the temple of married life.

Third, they don't want to have children. After many people get married, they will encounter a problem of being urged by their parents to have children. But now more and more young people don't want to have children, they think that if they get married, then it is quite good for young couples to live together, why do they have to have babies?

And now the cost of living for shaping a child is indeed too high, and your salary can only make do with your own life, where can you get the money to raise a child. It is precisely because of the fear of being urged by parents to have children that more and more young people simply choose not to get married.

In fact, China's social economy is constantly developing, and the social problems that follow may have to be dealt with, especially the problem of marriage, more and more people are reluctant to get married, resulting in a decrease in the marriage rate in China, and the fertility rate in our country is also continuing to decline.

Because many people now feel that their feelings are unreliable and have been hurt in their relationships, they will have such behaviors.

Because there are many young suspects who are afraid of marriage, and young people feel that marrying a hand will put a lot of pressure on them, so they will refuse or dislike marriage.

This is because many people now have a fear of marriage, and they have an inexplicable fear of marriage, and there is a lot of pressure on young people nowadays, or they have been hurt emotionally, so they will be very disgusted with marriage.

It can be said that the marriage rate in China has declined in recent years, and many young people are becoming more and more reluctant to get married, and even show resistance to marriage. When you get married, you will be very afraid of life after marriage. In fact, most of the reasons why young people are afraid of marriage are family reasons or lack of confidence in marriage and their own love.

First of all, the reason why it is said to be family reasons is that there are many young people whose parents betray the marriage or have a discordant relationship between the husband and wife after forming a marriage. And young people have grown up in such a family environment for a long time. Slowly, fear of marriage will occur.

Think about it, if your parents can't manage their marriage well, then you, as their children, will you also be afraid that you don't have that ability? In addition to this reason, there are also those who feel that the person they are looking for now is not suitable for marriage. Either because the partner's job is unstable and the income is not high, there will be conflicts when they get married in the future.

Otherwise, they feel that two people have no emotional foundation to be together, and they may also divorce. In short, many people do not have the most basic sense of trust in marriage because of this reason. Naturally, there is no way to let yourself enter into marriage with confidence.

In fact, when I got married, I also had symptoms of fear of marriage, and what I was most afraid of at that time was that I couldn't manage a marriage well. I often see the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law on TV, or the conflict between the husband and wife over trivial matters at home because of work. I feel that getting married is a very scary thing, and it is said that marriage is a major event in life, and if you do it wrong, it will cause a very serious cost.

So that's why I'm so scared, scared of marriage. Later I talked to my family, and they told me that whether you marry this person or not, you will eventually have problems with the two of you. Instead of cowering and waiting for an opportunity to be missed, it is better to take the initiative.

If you think this person is unreliable, then don't choose to get married. After all, marriage is a very serious and solemn thing. Of course, the most important thing is that my other half gave me a lot of courage, and I did find that nothing has changed since I got married.

What kind of person was he before marriage, and what is he like after Brother Zhi got married? The reason for the major change is that he has concealed his original appearance. If he gets better, it means that he loves you very much and wants to give you a better life, and if he gets worse, it means that he was originally such a person.

It's rare to get married and completely change your appearance. If you are also afraid of marriage, then I suggest you talk to your family. Open your heart and really open your heart, then you can be happy.

Blind date during the New Year, there is more screening on the choice, usually the blind date objects are relatively single, all of them are the daughters of a certain parent's friend or the daughter of a certain relative, and only when they usually rest, there is time to arrange a blind date in the past, and some of them have just coped with the family in the past, and there is no intention of holding a blind date with the line. But let the other party who wants to go on a blind date, the probability of failure becomes much greater, during the Chinese New Year, everyone is on vacation at home to rest, many unmarried girls and boys are at home, and parents arrange blind dates sometimes they are looking forward to it, even if this one fails. Then the next one was picked up.

Many single dogs often use reasons such as "fate has not arrived" and "bad fate" to prevaricate themselves to prevaricate their parents, and use the pipe of covering their ears and stealing the bell to escape from reality, which will only increase the difficulty of solving things with lead and waste a lot of opportunities! Lei Jun realized that "the success of entrepreneurship depends on life". But what is fate?

He said, "Life is about doing the right thing at the right time. Blind date, whether it is successful or not, also depends on fate, but this kind of life is not "pie in the world", but by doing the right thing at the right time, and succeeding by doing nothing! Why not what advice is given for single dogs over 35 years old?

Except for a very few people, in the eyes of their parents, most of them are basically in the category of "exterminating masters", and they are the leftovers of the "tomatoes" that have been picked up by n rounds, and they are a marginal group that surpasses the mainstream of society in terms of ideology!

This can't help but make me feel that the popularity of matchmakers shows that the changes in the rural marriage market are astonishing. Those young women don't worry about getting married, but those rural men who have no interest are miserable. Playing a single, beating and beating will become an old single.

Free love, who do you fall in love with, and who do you fall in love with? This has also led to the sale of marriage in the rural market, and women after divorce are also very popular, no, the 40-year-old son of the old Wang family next door to me has been working outside, earning and spending as much as he wants, or has no savings, resulting in no woman taking a fancy to him.