What children learn when they are young can develop a good character

Extraction code: y7f5 Some people say that character determines fate. Although it may not be completely true, there is also a certain truth, a person's character begins to form at a very young age, in order to let children have a good character, how should parents cultivate it from an early age?

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As the saying goes, three years old looks big, seven years old looks old, this sentence just shows that the background color of a person's character is formed in childhood, so let children develop a good character is a major event related to their personal life or failure, there is no doubt at this stage. The people who can influence children the most are their parents. Content recommendation What kind of character a person has, there are innate factors in it, but the greater influence is the acquired factor.

One of the things we often see is that the personalities of children and their parents are very different, for example, parents are more introverted, but children are more extroverted.

Therefore, a person's character is often more determined by his acquired education. When a person is a minor, his personality has not yet been finalized, and he has great plasticity, which is the best period for receiving character education. If he can develop a good character at this time, it will play a positive and beneficial role in his life.

This book strives to combine advanced educational theories with the reality of Chinese families, and introduce some scientific concepts to young parents who cultivate children with good character. In the last section of each chapter, specific operation methods are also proposed, so that every parent can "take action" and start their own training plan while reading this book. This book can be used as a standing educational book for young parents and as a business reference book for educators.

Table of Contents Preface Chapter 1 A good character benefits children for a lifetime There is no trivial matter in character development Introverts and extroverts can succeed Overcome personality weaknesses Act now: a psychological test to determine your child's personality type Create a democratic and harmonious family atmosphere Give children a free space Spoiled children will not have a good character Discover the signs of bad character in time Have a "house rule" with clear rewards and punishments Avoid letting children be polluted by the outside worldShow all information**Read some chapters Chapter 1 Good character benefits children for a lifetime Personality is closely related to an individual's social activities, it embodies people's attitudes towards the world around them and the real society, and manifests this attitude in their behavior. A good personality can make it easier for people to have a positive and optimistic attitude towards life and bring more social support, so a good character is undoubtedly one of the important factors for success.

But in real life, not everyone is able to have a good character, and it can even be said that everyone has weaknesses in their character, and these weaknesses often become obstacles in the way of a person's progress. Therefore, an important line of people's life is to constantly improve their character, correct and overcome their shortcomings. As the saying goes:

Three-year-olds look big, seven-year-olds look old. This sentence shows that the background color of a person's character is formed in childhood, so letting children develop a good character is a major event related to their life or failure. Undoubtedly, at this stage, the people who can influence children the most are their parents.

On the one hand, the formation of a child's personality is related to genetics, and on the other hand, it is related to the acquired education of the parents who have changed the law. Some time ago, a sentence circulated in the public's social circle--- how much influence the original family has on children, and it is enough to see the importance of family education to the formation of children's personalities. Therefore, how to cultivate children to develop a good character is something that every parent needs to know.

So what should parents do to help their children develop good character?

One. Teach by example

Parents are their children's first teachers. When children are still babbling, they are consciously or unconsciously imitating their parents' words and deeds. If you want your child to become an elegant and cultured person in the future, please keep calm when you are on the verge of an emotional outburst, your child will watch you from the sidelines, and under the witness of many times, the child will subconsciously encounter a problem and burst out as the first reaction.

Two. There are clear rewards and punishments

There are no rules. The same is true in family life, where reasonable house rules are set or some kind of agreement is reached. Mom and dad should also be involved, and every member of the family should abide by it.

Three. Home and everything is prosperous

The positive effect of a good family atmosphere on a person's growth is self-evident. A harmonious family relationship is more conducive to the healthy physical and mental growth of children. A particularly prominent feature of children who grow up in a family atmosphere where they quarrel all day is that they are very insecure.

A child who is busy protecting himself does not have much time to grow into a good young man.

Written in the end, the child is not the private property of the parents, he is a living person, he and she have an independent personality, the quality that parents want to see in their children may not be in the children, don't be depressed, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, everything or pay attention to a fate.

Hopefully, the child who cried around him would one day shine with his own light.

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1. Encouragement method: In life, parents must encourage their children more, children's good temper and good character, but also parents boast, no matter what children do, parents should encourage children with words of encouragement, the more praise children will do the best, at this time when encountering things, you can also restrain yourself, let your temper become better and better, and your character will naturally develop in a better direction.

2. Set an example: children and parents have frequent contact, if parents do not set a good example, children will naturally have the same character as parents, must not be able to play temper at will, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds, if they are angry and scold children, it will also make children's character unable to develop in a good direction, after all, children's imitation ability is relatively strong, so adults should set a good example, children's temper and character will be better.

3. Create a harmonious environment: In order to cultivate the child's character better, parents must create a more relaxed environment, do not force the child to do things that they don't like, and let the child take the initiative to do it, which has great benefits for the child, and the child's character will get better and better. Let children taste the taste of "losing", the road of life is never smooth sailing, success and setback, success and failure are often intertwined.

When children encounter difficulties, the psychology of negativity and giving up is naturally born, so we should teach them the courage and determination to overcome difficulties, help them analyze the reasons for failure, guide them to deal with setbacks with a positive attitude, and enhance children's ability to resist frustration. Gradually let children understand the truth that "failure is the mother of success". Because some young children have lived in praise since childhood, full of superiority, coupled with the doting and unlimited compliance of parents, they develop an arrogant psychology, often look down on other children, and are self-centered everywhere.

This kind of child often fails to pass the test of failure, loses his temper or blindly blames others when something goes wrong, and Zao Chong does not know how to find the reason in himself. In response to this situation, we mainly let children suffer some frustration in sports activities, let them taste the taste of "losing", and make them realize that they are not shouting and defending.

It's not easy. This requires having genes. Have a child.

Family and social environment from the age of three. Parents who want to raise their children first. Be a good example and a good teacher.

Be a good guide in everything you do. All of them have to show the importance of emotional intelligence. and the ability to judge reasonably.

In fact, it is to tell the child. You're a little timid. Let's take a look at the situation first.

Make a decision again. This is a very important thing. Secondly.

It is to be forgiving and forgiving, and not to worry about others. Generous. Tolerance.

will give you benefits. Three-year-olds understand it all. is very important.

Under this culture. Before the age of 12. He will develop his own cultivation in food, behavior, clothing, speech, and behavior, and develop a well-read book.

Look at the way people do things. This is the emotional intelligence of a good character and high temperament. In fact.

That's easy to say. But really do it. Indeed it is.

It takes a lot of effort. Good luck.

Personality innate factors account for 7 percent, and acquired environmental factors, including parental upbringing, account for 3 percent.

Rather than cultivating a good character, it is better to cultivate good behavioral habits. Including morality, dealing with people, work habits, and so on. Wish.

Out of place. Adults should take their children to play in crowded places and encourage children to participate in physical exercise, so that they will find the fun of friends and become gregarious.

Children are a mirror of their parents, and if they want to be what kind of person their children become, parents must first set an example to become that kind of person.

Don't impose your will on your children.

Everyone has their own joys and sorrows, we are like that, and so are our children, and as parents, we don't have the right to ask them to do everything we want, even if you do it for their own good. For example, if you think it's time for him to do his homework, you have to ask him to stop the game he is doing, or you have to ask him to put down his toys and go to sleep, these impositions can only backfire.

We need to learn to respect our children and let them do what they want, so that they are not only happy and optimistic, but also able to develop an independent and assertive personality.

Consistent. Try to be consistent and avoid confusion in your child's thinking and judgment. If you allow your child to do this today and tell him that it can't be done tomorrow without any reason, it will cause confusion in your child's thinking.

You may forget your inconsistencies, but your child never will. Over time, you will find it difficult to carry out your orders. Is it the result of the child's willfulness?

Actually, a large part of this is caused by yourself.

Let your child have a healthy body.

A lively and cheerful personality is closely related to a healthy physique. Full of energy and physical health is the physical foundation of a lively and cheerful character, so it is necessary to ensure that the child has rich nutrition, sufficient sleep, and reasonable exercise, so that the child has a good physique.

Encourage your child. When a child does something wrong, don't blindly blame, first ask what he really thinks, and then tell him that he has done something wrong, reason with him, and let him take the initiative to admit his mistakes. Remember, encouragement is always better than criticism.

To get rid of the cowardly, honest and tolerant character, we must learn to refuse, establish a sense of boundaries, and pursue our own interests.

1. Learn to refuse

The first principle is to learn to refuse, you can take the initiative to help others, or you can passively accept other people's requests, but you can't accept too many requests at a high frequency. There is a very interesting phenomenon that you always accept other people's requests, and over time, they will take your acceptance of their requests for granted.

If you don't accept it once, he will target you, reject you, and scold you, so you must control this frequency at the beginning, you can accept other people's requests, but not too much, the specific frequency varies from person to person.

2. Establish a sense of boundaries

To establish a sense of boundaries, this requires us to prepare in advance, so that others don't want to trouble you at all, or want to trouble you, and pay a sufficient price.

3. Pursue your own interests

Many weak and honest people completely ignore their own interests when they act, so it is easier and easier to be bullied. In fact, the way to change is very simple, we focus on our own interests, let ourselves understand that everything should be based on our own interests, supplemented by the interests of others, so that you will become less and less weak in your actions.

A manifestation of a cowardly character

Most of the cowardly people are introverted, have a weak attitude towards things, don't know how to refuse, and can't refuse things that they don't want to do. When you have an argument with someone, you know that you are justified, but you can't argue with reason. When he was beaten by his friends, he didn't fight back, and he always went against the grain.

In short, the personality traits of weak people in the state are taciturn, not aggressive, have few friends, speak very quietly, have timid and evasive eyes, do things slowly, hesitate, often do not like to do things alone and dare not go out alone. For children, this can have a very negative impact on their lives.

Although the child's personality is related to heredity, but after the cultivation of the day after tomorrow, the child's character will be cultivated better and better, and parents are the child's first teacher, so parents must know the way to cultivate their child's good character. So how to cultivate a child's good character?

1. Encouragement: Parents must encourage their children more in life, children's good temper and good character, but also parents praise, no matter what children do, parents should encourage children with words of encouragement, the more praise children will do the best, at this time when encountering things can also restrain themselves, let their temper become better and better, and the character will naturally develop in a better direction.

2. Set an example: children and parents have frequent contact, if parents do not set a good example, children will naturally have the same character as parents, must not be able to play temper at will, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds, if they are angry and scold children, it will also make children's character unable to develop in a good direction, after all, children's imitation ability is relatively strong, so adults should set a good example, children's temper and character will be better.

3. Create a harmonious environment: In order to cultivate the child's character better, parents must create a more relaxed environment, do not force the child to do what they don't like to do, and let the child take the initiative to do it, which is of great benefit to the child, and the child's character will get better and better. Coarse medium.