The noisy and bad temper of the family affects me very much?

You should be an only child, you unconsciously carry the emotions of your parents, especially your mother's, you have been creating an idealized family in your heart, the scene of this family is that your mother has maternal love, tenderness and thoughtfulness; And Dad is responsible, humorous, and responsible; But this also forms a great conflict and contradiction in your heart, and it also makes your growth path more internal conflict. Therefore, the individual brought to you by the original family may be something you should cultivate at this moment. To give you some advice, you are now an adult, you need to keep boundaries with the internalized parts of you and the emotional patterns that you have carried on them, and then accept all the phenomena of your parents at the moment.

Chen Liangzhen. One Point Spirit (Shenzhen) Psychological Counseling.

The noisy and bad temper of the family affects you very much, which is the negative impact of the original family.

You find that you have the shadow of your parents, and you are afraid to be sad.

So why do people have a mimicry character?

To be honest, the imitation character is infiltrated unconsciously, and it is not learned at all under the imitation that I am willing to imitate!

That is to say, friends, as long as you leave your parents and find some excellent friends to chat with and work, then your temperament will slowly change.

If the original family really can't make you happy! Then you have to learn to be self-reliant.

Leave them! Spending time with the people you like is also a form of wellness.

If they are in a hurry, you should not be angry, and you should talk to them well, so it can also change the atmosphere, so be patient, and your good aspects can also affect everyone.

If your family is noisy and has a bad temper, it will affect you very much, so you should communicate well with your family and make your family more understanding and considerate of you.

If there are more noisy people in the family, then the temper is so bad, then in fact, I think it is better for you to stay away from green at this time, because when you are conscious, the original family still has a relatively large and profound impact on the individual's emotions.

There is a saying that goes like this: "We are always in the habit of leaving our good tempers to strangers, and our bad tempers to those closest to us". This is almost universal.

There are objective reasons for this, too

One is that close people get along day and night, stay together for a long time, face many things, like and dislike, willing and unwilling, happy and troublesome things have to be dealt with, there is no way to hide, there is no way to avoid it.

Erlu is a close person together, completely relaxed with each other, without scruples, most of the time by temperament. Good or bad temper, of course, there are personality factors, but the most important thing is everyone's ability to control their emotions, to put it bluntly, it is the reaction when emotions come. Good emotions reflect good temper, and bad emotions naturally bring bad temper.

Good emotions and bad emotions are always in the process of slow accumulation, and they have to explode when they accumulate to a certain extent, and relatives are the closest, which naturally becomes an outlet for emotional catharsis.

The closer people are, the easier it is to let go of their emotions and trust them because they have no scruples and guards. There is a very strange phenomenon in life, almost everyone often has a very different attitude towards their loved ones and other people in life. Compared with relatives, they are more patient with "others" and less likely to get angry.

In fact, this is determined by human nature. Because we always assume that "others" don't know us, and of course they are. In order to obtain the understanding and cooperation of "others", it is necessary to fully communicate with the auspicious group.

But our patience with our family is very limited, because we believe that our family should know and support us best.

In general, it is true that the closer people are, the more understanding and support they will be for each other. However, it is unrealistic for family members to be able to fully understand everything from point to point, and we ourselves cannot always understand and support the needs and ideas of our loved ones.

But when something doesn't go well, the first thought that comes to mind is usually: "It's just that others don't understand me, why don't you understand me either?" If others don't know how to cooperate with me and support me, why don't you understand it either?

The more you think about it, the more angry you get. It's all because we have high expectations for our families.