My mom didn t approve of my engagement with my boyfriend and I was conflicted by can t figure it out

Your mother's mood can also be understood, but too much interference with you, as long as you are sure that your boyfriend is really good to you, it will not change, my husband was in love when we were not in the right temper, always quarrelsome, but now we basically do not have contradictions, and after getting married, my husband's business is better than before, I don't know how much, so now being poor is nothing, I really love you will fight for you, at least I won't let you suffer, distance I think it shouldn't be a reason, does your mother love you love it? Can't live without you at all? You have to communicate with her well, no matter what, if you identify the boy's character and ability, don't give up easily, on the one hand, you can also let your boyfriend work hard, let your parents see his sincerity, you don't want to see that your boyfriend is so good to you now, I don't know how many girls around me regret getting married, my boyfriend was good before marriage, and once I got married, it was completely different, I was lucky, and I recognized that my husband was not that kind of person, so first of all, you must see clearly, If you see it clearly, you have to stay the course.

In addition, I agree with what Yaya said above, he is poor now, but he must be able to be able to make you free from sin and not suffer in the future, and he is willing to give everything he has for you, there is a man who has a million, he is willing to spend 10,000 for you, and another man only has 10,000, but he is also willing to spend 10,000 for you, the same is 10,000, I believe you understand how to choose, I think it is necessary to test your boyfriend kindly, so that it is more powerful to say it on your mother's side.

I hope you and your mother have a good exchange, what is the reason why she does not agree with the marriage of the two of you, I think marriage is a big thing, my mother is against it, there must be her reasons. So you should calmly communicate with your mother and listen to her opinion, I don't think your mother would do this for no reason. Don't be impatient.

Second, you have to communicate with your boyfriend about what is going on, what went wrong, find the cause, and prescribe the right medicine, but also remember not to act impatiently, otherwise it will not be good for both of you.

Third, I hope you can also calm down and think about whether this marriage is suitable, and synthesize your friends' opinions, after all, you must know that there is an old Chinese saying that "the authorities are confused and the bystanders are clear", and we must not let the excitement get carried away.

In the long run, see if your boyfriend is suitable for you to stay with him for the rest of your life before deciding whether to get engaged or stay together.

1. Character. 2. Ability.

3. Sense of responsibility.

4. Whether it is filial piety.

5. Whether I love you enough.

6. How much are you willing to pay.

7. Feelings are always based on material. He can be poor, but he must be able and willing to share with you, otherwise, the poor couple will mourn

8. Mothers will never be allowed to hurt their children.

9. Getting engaged means that you are willing to marry him for the rest of your life, and your two families have been together for decades, are you ready?

10. I wish you happiness!

Think about your boyfriend in every aspect, and your parents won't pick and choose.

Your parents didn't have a crush on your boyfriend! It depends on what you think!

Raw rice is cooked into rice, so it's always okay.

My mom didn't let me get engaged to my boyfriend, originally when we talked for a year, my mom had to let people get engaged to me, I think there was too little time, now I've been talking for more than two years, I want to settle down, my mom has to let me get engaged! Say you didn't order it before, don't book it now! Alas!!

It's uncertain, my parents want to come and meet my parents to talk, but my mother doesn't see me, I don't know what to do!! Alas!!

Summary. You can tell your boyfriend that you two can endure together for a while longer, and your mother won't be able to stop you anymore after you get married.

After getting engaged to my boyfriend, my mom still doesn't agree with me and my boyfriend living together occasionally, how should I convince my mom.

First of all, you have to figure out that although you are engaged, your mother still does not approve of you living with your boyfriend. This is because although you have just gotten engaged, you are still a long time before you get married, during this time. It doesn't have to happen that something will happen, if you break up with your boyfriend in a blind contradiction, then you give him your body too early, and it will be more troublesome for you to find a partner in the future.

Your mother is doing this to protect you, because he is from the past, and he thinks about you in everything.

I want to ask you how you can convince my mom.

You can tell your boyfriend that you two can endure together for a while longer, and your mother won't be able to stop you anymore after you get married.

It is necessary to use the method of soft grinding and hard foaming.

Threats can also be exploited.

First of all, you need to really understand what is the reason why your mother disagrees, there is a saying that "mother-in-law looks at her son-in-law, and the more she looks at it, the more she likes it" Is it really these on the surface? If yes, then provide the following suggestions.

1. "Demolition problem" like what I said above, such as black, figure, etc., these are congenital and difficult to change, what needs to be done is that there are no bad habits, and improve personal image, which is easy to solve. Without talent, these are not a big deal. So do a picture of the image of the fastest this.

2. "Mention benefits" You are the bridge between your boyfriend and your mother, and your role is very important. You can talk more about his advantages in front of your mother, how good he is to you, such as being able to cook, it can be said that he takes care of his family after he gets married, and he doesn't have to cook himself (you can compare the neighbors who don't cook.) If you don't have talent, you won't be able to participate in the activities of the set, and you'll be fine, and you'll just get some blessings in the future, and you won't get three highs when you're old.

In a word, it is to play to the strengths and avoid the weaknesses.

3. "Looking for assists" You said that your boyfriend can't be too good, otherwise as you said, your mother thinks that what happens to girls who are outgoing and unmarried, so find someone who has a greater impact on her, the first choice must be your father, followed by your grandfather, and then your grandfather, so that through a long period of accumulation, I believe that your mother's attitude will change.

At last! Of course, you can "threaten" a little, saying that you can't find a more suitable one except for him, and you yourself may not want to remarry in the future, etc., and it is better to say a little, and blind obedience is not necessarily good. Appropriate "resistance" is the best, and finding a degree is the best.

What your parents say may not be right, but it will not hurt you.

If both parents are against love, it's best to think about it.

It's not about breaking up with you or anything, you can communicate with your parents first so that you know how unhappy they are with your boyfriend.

You don't have to ask your boyfriend to change or anything, you just need to see if you can accept the shortcomings that your parents said. Then the most important thing is that you will live together in the future, not with your parents, but you must ask your parents more before getting married, and don't be too anxious to get married.

Instead of you arguing with your mother, you should learn more about your boyfriend. See if he's really fit to be together for the rest of his life.

Don't pay too much attention to a person who is good to you, no matter how good your parents are, no matter how good your parents are good to you. Your parents raised you so much, and you didn't feel very good, but he just thought he was very good to you when he cooked you brown sugar water during your period.

1. Active communication.

First of all, you should explain to your parents that you love your boyfriend very much, and he has many advantages. In today's society, money can't solve everything, the most important thing is to value people's feelings, as long as they are good to themselves, that is the most important thing. If after marriage, the man hooks up outside for money, then the wife of the family is very sad, and the family will not go to the end.

Therefore, when looking for a husband, you must first value the other party's character rather than money, money is something outside the body, and it can be earned by two people working together.

2. Show your determination.

After all, when you are in love, you will live with your husband in the future, not your parents and your husband. Although the opinions of parents also have a great influence on everyone, after all, they start their own family. If you choose to break up just because your parents don't agree, it's disrespectful to the other party, and it also means that you are very unassertive, so you can listen to your parents' opinions when looking for a boyfriend, but if your parents say something wrong, you should also correct it in time, and you can't just listen to it.

3. Listen to your parents' opinions.

Because my parents are very old, they have a lot of experience in society. They may be able to see at a glance what kind of person has what kind of character, so as children, they should also listen to their parents' opinions. But if you find that your parents have something wrong, you don't have to listen.

There are some girls who are in love, so they are coaxed by men. When you get married, you should still keep your eyes open and find a husband who suits you.

1. Emphasize the strengths of your boyfriend.

One of the most common ways to influence parents' perception of a date is to emphasize the good qualities of your partner. Leigh Leslie and her colleagues' findings published in the Journal of Marriage and Family at the University of Maryland show that many people, especially young adults, strategically share information about their dating partner with their parents, while those who primarily share positive information that emphasizes the strengths of their partner are more likely to be approved by their parents. While you shouldn't lie to your parents or glorify your boyfriend's good qualities, it's helpful to focus on your partner's qualities, knowing that your parents will agree.

2. Show your commitment to your boyfriend.

Research has found that one of the factors with the greatest degree of parental approval for a relationship or a particular partner is the level of commitment between partners and the stage of the relationship. In other words, over time, as relationships become more serious, parents tend to be more endorsing of a relationship or a particular dating partner. Sometimes, it simply means the best thing you can do to get your parents to recognize that your boyfriend is patient and let time pass.

Don't conflict with your mother first, your boyfriend is willing to make changes in order to be with you, which shows that he really loves you and wants to go on with you, so you also have to show the reason why you want to be with him all the time, to put it mildly, your mother is just an outsider in your relationship, only you can feel your boyfriend's love for you, your mother may be a little picky about his shortcomings, you can talk to your mother more about his advantages, so that your mother can feel your persistence and love for your boyfriend, Then slowly influence your mother, and tell your mother not to always talk about his shortcomings, he is also changing, I hope she can support you together, I hope your mother will not affect your feelings.

Your mom is turning a blind eye You know that you can't wake up someone who is pretending to be asleep (her reasons are just because she thinks you deserve better...It's not that he's not good enough, it's that you should find a better one) You also said that your parents don't have a retirement salary, in fact, it's mainly because of the conditions and family (hardware is most likely an excuse) After all, she has come over Some things are considered more and far you have to understand She also has her reason Grasp the key points to talk about it (conditions, your choice in the future) People, you see it, then you can still stop you from marrying, but you also have to listen to some of their real thoughts (not superficial, definitely have deep concerns, long-term) to talk about, and also clearly express their own views and positions If you don't let it go, no one can force you to let it go, after all, your own happiness (adulthood, do it yourself, but the consequences are good or bad).

If you like this boyfriend very much, then make it clear to your parents and let your actions influence her, so you can't mess with your parents, you can only say it well.

As long as the two of you really love each other and kiss your mother, she will still agree.

Dear, I suggest you elope.