What should I do if I am in a different place with my partner and suddenly feel insecure?

Updated on psychology 2024-05-05
16 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    I'm also in a long-distance relationship, so I understand how you feel.

    Long-distance relationships are very difficult, and if you are not mentally prepared for long-term long-distance relationships, don't start this relationship easily. But if you start, you have to work hard to persevere, after all, it is not so easy to fall in love, and it is even more difficult to fall in love without seeing it. <>

    Two people in a long-distance relationship, even if the relationship has always been there, is very tolerant of mutual suspicion.

    While you feel that you are insecure, he also feels the same as you, if both of you are afraid of being hurt, it is easy for others to take advantage of the loophole. So if you want to maintain your relationship, you must overcome this feeling of unsteadiness, and communicate with him in time, tell him your feelings and thoughts, but don't be suspicious of him for no reason, which will easily hurt his heart. <>

    I also often feel insecure, when he doesn't reply to my messages in a different place, when he goes out to run errands, and when there are girls involved in his work, I feel a little apprehensive, and I am very reluctant to let him leave me to do something else. I know that these are all things that can't be helped, and these are the difficulties that long-distance relationships have to face.

    But I know that he loves me, for example, he will send me a message when he has time to go to work, he will call me as soon as he gets off work, he will mail me when he sees something I like and snacks from time to time, and he will introduce me to all his friends and colleagues in another city, so that they know that he has a good girlfriend, which can make me feel very relieved, even if we are in a different place.

    So when you feel insecure, don't always think about how far away he is from you, and don't wonder if there will be other people around him, but calm down and think more about how good he is for you, and look forward to your bright future, life is always full of expectations, isn't it?

    If he does something that makes you insecure, be sure to explain your thoughts to him in time, don't be angry alone, after all, two people are not together, he can't see your expression, and he can't feel your emotions, the only thing you can take care of is the things and moods you tell him every day. I'm sure if you talk to him, he'll comfort you and make you happy.

    If you really love each other, don't back down easily, don't say hurtful things because of your bad emotions, you should try to cross the physical distance to shorten the distance between each other's hearts, if one day you are extremely insecure and miss him very much, then go and meet him, or let him come to see you, because meeting is the best medicine to solve the relationship problems of long-distance couples. <>

    There is no long-distance couple who does not want to reunite, you have to work hard for this goal, you must carefully maintain your precious relationship, and wait for the day when such love can blossom and bear fruit.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Long-distance relationship, a word that makes people sigh, sounds a little sad. I admire those couples who are in a long-distance relationship, some are on one side of the North and the South, and some are separated by the Atlantic, although true love can overcome all difficulties, but I have to say that it really takes courage to start a long-distance relationship.

    I used to be in a long-distance relationship with my ex, we were high school classmates and college in different provinces. At the beginning, we knew that a long-distance relationship would be more difficult than in the same place and school, but at that time, everyone's hearts were together, so we thought we could persevere. But over time, we began to be busy with other things, each other's free time was different, and when we sent messages to each other, he might not be there, and at that time I might need each other very much.

    We persevered for a while, and we tried not to let the distance affect our relationship, but in the end, everyone compromised and gradually drifted away.

    I can understand how insecure long-distance couples can be, as I've had countless moments like this myself. There will always be a moment when I feel very empty, I really want to see each other, but I can't see each other, send a message and call ** to the other party, he may not be able to reply in time because of something. Even though I know that these are normal and should be understood, I still feel very insecure.

    I think people in long-distance relationships should first make sure that everyone has a fixed contact time, such as when they want to talk every week, and everyone should keep in touch, otherwise they will not be together, and if they don't have much contact, then the relationship will naturally fade. The second is to think about your future, long-distance relationships are only temporary, if you want to go on for a long time, there will be a long way to go in the future, and the separation at this time is just a small test. Finally, trust the other person and give them enough trust.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    For girls in long-distance relationships, I think insecurity is actually a very common thing.

    My boyfriend and I are in a different place, and even if we keep chatting daily, sometimes we just feel insecure inexplicably. I think when a girl has this feeling, don't choose to bear it alone, so that she will be very unhappy, and it is definitely not a good thing for the relationship between two people.

    Normally, when I have such negative emotions, I will tell my boyfriend at the first time, and my boyfriend will always try to find out what makes me feel insecure. It is often the case that he finds that this feeling is very abstract and cannot find an explanation at all, so he will silently choose to comfort him, and the daily communication will be more frequent.

    When I am generally insecure, that is, when a person has nothing to do, I like to think crankily when I am bored, thinking about a bunch of things that I have and don't, and the more I think about it, the more I deviate from the direction, and finally I become full of slow negative emotions, and my boyfriend has also said many times because of my bad habit. Although I always say that I try to keep myself busy, there is always time to spare.

    Later, I used this free time to do something to improve myself, sometimes to read books, sometimes to exercise, I think girls only continue to make themselves better, only have more self-confidence to stand by the side of their boyfriend, a person's self-confidence from the inside out, I think the most charming.

    It's not so much that a long-distance relationship makes you insecure, it's better that you are not confident enough in yourself, since you have less self-confidence, then keep enriching yourself and try your best to become that attractive girl.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I think that husband and wife must have enough trust when they live in a long distance, and they must be prepared to become a strong woman and pay attention to spiritual food. If you can't do this, you will feel insecure, and you can try to adjust your mindset to live in a different place, or you can go to live in the other person's city.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend, and I am very insecure, first of all, I can often contact each other**, and frequent contact can minimize this insecurity! Secondly, improve yourself to become good, and having your own social circle can also make up for this sense of security! The last thing is to tell your boyfriend to find a way to end your long-distance relationship, which is the most fundamental thing!

    In a long-distance relationship, many people are very insecure. In response to this problem, I personally feel that the sense of security comes from the other party on the one hand, and from oneself on the other.

    First of all, we can talk to the other person often** and try to get the other person to reply to our messages when possible. The reason why many girls are insecure is because they have very few ** boyfriends, they are in a long-distance relationship, and they have no ** contact, no emotional contact, and they will naturally be very insecure. It is precisely because two people are in long-distance contact that they need more ** and need to communicate more.

    As for replying to messages, some boys are really slow to reply to messages, although they are busy with work, but you will always find time to reply to the other party, or tell the other party what they are busy with, which is okay. <>

    Secondly, improving yourself, making yourself better, and having your own social circle can make you feel more secure. When we feel insecure, we often feel that the other person will betray us, because we feel that we have no way to control the other person's heart. If we can't change others, then improve ourselves.

    When you feel that you are excellent, when you feel that you are needed by the other party, you will naturally feel safe. Not only that, but after having your own social circle, you don't have so much energy to focus on each other, and you often don't feel so insecure! <>

    Also, if a long-distance relationship really gives you this feeling of insecurity, you can tell your boyfriend that getting you to end this is tantamount to this long-distance relationship, and proper communication can effectively solve the problem. If you don't tell him what you think, he won't know that you're in such pain.

    In the relationship, don't hide it, timely feedback is the guarantee of the long-term stability of your relationship!

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Be sure to give yourself a good psychological hint, communicate well with your boyfriend, let him understand that he is very insecure, and hope that he can give himself more security at ordinary times, and play with his boyfriend whenever he has time, and he can go to see his boyfriend during a long vacation.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Share more of each other's lives, because you can't be together, sharing is particularly important, sharing more pleasant and interesting things to him, will make him feel very relaxed and happy to chat with you, I believe he will also be willing to show you his life. And when he is depressed, you tell him and let him talk to you.

    Questions. <>

    It's a long-distance relationship, he feels insecure, and I don't want to be separated from him, wait two minutes, I'll take a look at the chat history on the **.

    Questions. Okay, well, you can tell that you actually love each other, but because of the long-distance relationship, your boyfriend feels insecure. Under this premise, he proposed to break up, mainly because he couldn't see hope, and because he had poor self-control and couldn't bear the situation.

    At the same time, I am afraid that the last watch will turn into a parting.

    Questions. <>

    Have you been communicating less recently, and you can't really talk to each other about your feelings for each other?

    Questions. Maybe I should also consider my question, how long have you been away from home? How long did you spend together before?

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If the relationship between you is very good, you can communicate your feelings through ** every day. If your relationship is not too good, then you can choose to break up and you look for a secure boyfriend.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    At this time, the two of them must have a sense of ceremony, and they must often call their boyfriends, so that the relationship will not fade.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    I think you can break up with the other person, because it is not conducive to the development of the relationship at all, it is not conducive to the harmony of the relationship at all, and it will also make both parties feel very troublesome.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    At this moment, two people must have a sense of ritual and often call their boyfriends, so that their emotions will not fade.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    This problem is to come to the same city, many people in long-distance relationships are like this, where is the sense of security when two people are not together? He doesn't know who you're with, so he can only come to the same city, so that he can feel safe, and he can be with him every day.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    First of all, you have to know that no one takes care of your emotions 100%, and the sense of security is not only given by others, but mainly by yourself. Solution: First, build self-confidence and believe that you are worthy of love.

    Second, create a sense of security. Eliminate over-dependence on your partner and enhance your sense of self-worth. Third, see the essence of emotions.

    In the face of feelings, there is no fear or humility. Good at discovering your own beauty. Believe that you can have a stable and long-lasting intimate relationship.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    On the one hand, you must try to keep yourself busy, don't rely on this relationship, to manage your own life, you can also have your own family, friends, career, love is just the spice of life, it is not the whole of life, you only love yourself well, there will really be someone who loves you more, when your attention is on yourself and life, you will not be lost because he suffers from gains and losses, will not be lost because he loves you or does not love you, Don't be bothered by whether he loves you more or less today, your confidence and security come from yourself.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    This is very normal.

    2. Be sure to give gifts on holidays, so that it can warm her heart.

    3. If you have a holiday, try to get along with her.

    4. Find a way to end a certain situation as soon as possible, after all, long-term remote is not the way.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Long-distance relationship girls are particularly insecure, and the best way to solve this method is to often go to your girlfriend's side to accompany her, create more warm and romantic atmosphere for her, and send messages to greet him every day when they are not together, so that girls can feel safe.

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