How do you fight back against someone urging you to marry?

First of all, it is necessary to confirm whether it is the parents urging the marriage, or the boyfriend, or the relative, or the outsider. If your parents urge you to get married, then you have to work hard, and your parents urge you to prove that you are not young, and you have reached the age when you should get married. If it's a boyfriend, then talk to him about what concerns you have, what questions you have, and your own views on marriage, and then the two of you can discuss it well.

If you are a relative, it also means that they care about you and hope that you will get married as soon as possible, if you don't want to find it, then say two good words to deal with it, don't hurt people's hearts, if it is an outsider, you don't need to explain to be yourself.

Eat your own food, do your own thing, if you don't eat your own food, it's not your turn!! If they really help others, it's just that, they just can't get used to seeing the leftover men and women, so they are weird.

As a 30-year-old man who has been urged for nearly 10 years. I've tried to use all kinds of rhetoric, but your parents, seven aunts and eight aunts will always have tricks waiting for you, and you really can't play the family card with you, you still can't afford it. Therefore, there can only be silence, there is no way to break out, only to perish.

When faced with marriage urging, I usually say, as long as you find it for me, I can do it. Then the other party stopped asking.

I'll pick again, a beautiful girl like me is not in a hurry; My girlfriend is still young, at least waiting for her to go to college.

Take a gift home and say it's the object's heart. The most important thing is to throw out a sweet ** at the right time and put enough smoke bombs.

Parents promise to marry when they urge them, don't let them worry! Relatives and friends can directly go in the left ear and out the right ear! Let everything go with the wind.

My dad said that if I was angry, he would be a grandfather, and I said, "If you are angry and have a younger brother, you can still be a grandfather in the future."

So do you know how to deal with your parents' fancy urging to marry?

1. First of all, the mentality should be correct, I do realize that I am still young, there is no need to get married in advance, I said so in the past few years, and the general parents also understand that young people are career-oriented.

2. Give your parents a reassurance. Tell your parents about your requirements for this partner and your plans to get married in the future. It's best to tell your parents exactly how old you must be when you get married, so that your parents won't be too anxious about your marriage.

3. If you really have no plans to get married in the near future, you can tell your parents that you have someone you like, and at the same time show that you don't want to get married hastily, and believe that every parent likes their children to be happy, and they will not let their children get married hastily.

4. Respond positively and have a good attitude. You must know that parents are also out of a caring perspective, their hearts are good, maybe we don't necessarily like the way of communication, but understanding them and coping with them with a positive and good attitude is what we should do, and we can also avoid unnecessary expansion of the situation. On the other hand, if they refuse to communicate, or even respond with a negative and irritable emotional response, they will be more worried, which will lead to more trouble.

5. Communicate with your parents what you think about your relationship. Most of the blind urging of marriage stems from a lack of understanding and control of the current situation. Let them know what you have in mind, both to resolve unnecessary anxieties and to strengthen communication with parents, and they can also give us some good advice.

More importantly, this way of doing things will make your parents feel that you have grown up, are sensible, and can handle your own affairs independently.

6. For the blind date arranged by the parents, you can go to see it first, in case there is a suitable one, everyone is satisfied, even if there is no suitable one, you should make more friends, as long as it does not affect your normal life, 7, of course, there are many parents who may be too "vexatious", if you really can't avoid conflict, then moving out to live is a good choice, even if they will urge you to find a partner to marry, but you will not hear similar complaints every day.

8. Use busy work as an excuse to shirk. In the face of the urging of his parents to get married, there is another excuse to use his job as an excuse, indicating that he is now a new recruit, and he needs to work hard to develop as soon as possible. The above methods are expedient, the real problem is how to get married without a house and money, at least save some money to pay a down payment.

Therefore, if you are not married, you can consider solving the problem of the house first, and then consider getting married after solving it.

Respect their ideas and don't quarrel with their elders.

Maybe the urging of the elders will be annoying, but we still have to try to control our emotions and not rush to quarrel with them.

First of all, we want to regain our freedom and rights, but we don't want to become enemies with our loved ones.

More importantly, a soft attitude is more conducive to both parties to calm down and communicate slowly, so as to achieve better results.

Throwing a tantrum and slamming the door, or posing as a shrew, and confessing to tearing up their faces with them is not a wise way to respond.

Of course, respecting the other person's ideas does not mean that we should agree with the other person's point of view.

Prove yourself with real actions.

The urgency of urging marriage is directly proportional to how bad your pre-nuclear life is.

Therefore, what we need to do is not only to get rid of that hanging appearance in front of our parents, but also to be their "teacher".

Let your parents often find that "your skills are not as good as you", and feel that you have really become an adult who is in charge of your own affairs, and they don't need to worry about it.

If you can't even break free from the image of a "child", then how can you get your parents to respect your individuality?

Don't think of "single beggars" as "single aristocrats", because there is still a gap between tens of thousands of worries and thousands of elegant calm.

So please regularize your routine, live a delicate and not sloppy life, and at least don't let your parents worry about whether you eat or not.

In addition, you can usually start with new things to win the respect and even admiration of your parents.

In fact, when we reach the age of marriage, then there is not. Words for further action, so to speak. Parents will feel that they are very anxious, and then they will urge me, in fact, whatever we think in our hearts, we can tell them directly?

For example, we are not ready, or we have to focus on studying and working. And they will take care of it. They will understand you.

I don't want to get married now, take my time.

We will always encounter the kind of elders who urge marriage during the New Year's holiday, especially during the New Year, many young people dare not go home, because they will be urged to marry as soon as they go home, which is actually the most fatal, and sometimes they don't know how to refute it.

In the face of the god who urged marriage, he replied:

1. Don't be in a hurry for the time being, wait for others to help me raise my wife for a few more years.

2. You lose ** first, and after you lose weight, I will be embarrassed to send you candy.

3. As soon as I opened my eyes every day, I began to be urged to marry, how much did I not reassure you?

4. There are so many people chasing me, I have to choose a good choice and choose the best one to get married.

5. How about you send me a big wedding red envelope first, and then I will look for a marriage partner?

6. If you want to drink my happy wine, you only need to wait for another second, and this second is a century.

7. I don't like twisted melons, I like the relationship that comes naturally, so marriage depends on fate.

8. I am not ready to be responsible for my family, and I still need to grow, so don't worry.

9. I also want to get married, but unfortunately I didn't find a suitable partner, why don't you introduce me to one, brother?

10. I have to make myself more perfect first, and then I can meet the perfect person and form the perfect family.

I would choose to ignore it when faced with a marriage urging, pretending not to hear, and if the other party kept saying something, I would be very angry and would be angry in front of them. I've had that experience, but I don't think it affected me very much, and I wouldn't listen to them.

You can try to accept it, you can also go on a blind date to see it, you can tell your parents that you already have a boyfriend, and now you are getting along, and when the time comes, you will bring it home, I don't have such an experience.

You can say that you already have a significant other and are talking, or you can say that you are currently very busy at work, on the rise, and have no time to fall in love. I also had this experience, and at that time I went on a blind date with this family.

Communicate directly with your family, or you can explain to your family that if you find someone to marry in your life, you will regret it for life and may get divorced, you have never had such an experience, and you are still young.

We may all feel uneasy and anxious when we are urged to marry by relatives during the Chinese New Year, but we must remember that there is a way to deal with anything, whether it is being urged to marry or the marriage plan is delayed, we don't need to be too anxious. Here are some of the best tips for refusing to urge you to get married, so you can stay on your feet:

1. Don't come close.

The best defense strategy may be to avoid it outright, not to have more contact with the problem, and even if someone urges you to do it, don't let the studio be discouraged and use your mind to move the conversation to another topic.

2. Shift the focus.

Once someone asks a question and you want to avoid it, you can try to shift the focus to other aspects, such as work, study, etc., to lead the topic to other aspects, even if others put the spotlight back on marriage, you can also move it to another place and maintain a calm topic arrangement.

3. Polite refusal.

If the pressure of being urged to marry is too much, the best thing to do is to politely refuse, you can say to the other party: "Thank you for your invitation and concern all the time, however, my marriage plan is not within the scope of my planning, I don't want to waste everyone's precious time, I hope you can understand." In this way, even if the other person does not agree, you can maintain a humble, sincere, respectful attitude and maintain your own posture.

Fourth, act according to the situation.

When you are urged to marry, whether it is you or your family, take action according to the situation, whether it is immediately refusing to urge marriage, or postponing marriage plans, there must be practical actions to respect the feelings of the family to the greatest extent.

The above is the best way to refuse to urge marriage, and the things related to the family, we must be more considerate, not forced, but to respect each other's needs, but also to adhere to their own position, and finally embark on their own determined path.

1. Don't have conflicts with your family.

Generally, only people who value you will care about whether you are married, so urging marriage is actually a manifestation of family love for you, in the face of relatives and friends urging marriage, we should first dignify our own attitude, understand their hard work, you can express your own opinions, but you can't conflict with your family, quarrels and running away from home are not advisable.

2. Be brave enough to speak out about your life plan.

Generally, there are two main types of young people who are not married: one is those who have a girlfriend or boyfriend, but have no plans to get married for the time being; The other is that there is no lover, and you still need to find the right one.

1. I have a partner, but I am not married.

People who have a partner can inform their parents about their attitude towards marriage and let them know their life plans, such as wanting to wait for their career to reach a peak before discussing marriage, or waiting for their financial strength to allow their other half to live a better life.

2. There is no object.

If you don't have a partner yet, you need to hurry up and find it, and be brave enough to confess to the person you like.

3. Special circumstances.

There is also a special situation that you are not married, and you need to communicate more with your parents, because the ideology of the previous generation has not changed, and it takes time to accept the posture. And even if you are currently unmarried, it does not mean that you will not get married in the future, if you will meet the one you are destined to meet, maybe you will change your mind and be willing to enter marriage.

3. Cleverly change the topic.

Going home for the New Year is definitely inevitable to chat and communicate with your parents, sometimes your parents will unconsciously pull the topic to "marriage", at this time you need to learn to control the scene of the conversation, skillfully change the topic, such as your work situation, or interesting things that happen in life.

Fourth, consider the blind date arranged by the parents.

During the Chinese New Year, most parents will prepare some blind date activities for their unmarried children, in fact, don't be too sensitive to these activities, if there is a suitable one, you may wish to meet each other, selectively go on a blind date, maybe you will meet someone who is destined.