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If we try to live on the perceptions of others, we are basing our lives on a pile of sand. Everyone's way of thinking is different, and ideas are changing all the time. If anyone wants to please everyone, then they will only become exhausted, and probably not one person will be pleased.
So, from now on, stop thinking that people care about you, and don't desperately expect people to care about you that much. Slowly, you will become less and less concerned about what others think of you, and at the same time, your mind will gradually become independent and will not just stay in other people's thoughts.
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First of all, change the external control cognitively, I am me, others are others, others don't have time to pay attention to me, I don't have time to pay attention to others, others don't need me to be responsible, I don't need to be responsible for others, I have too much to do, why should I be self-inferior and let others control me, are others more important than myself? This slowly moves the control point inside itself.
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None of what others do is because you do it. Everything is for them to do. They don't want to please you, hurt you, or influence you.
All people live in their own dreams, in their own hearts; The world they live in is completely different from the world we live in; If we insist that everything concerns us, we are assuming that they understand our world, and we are trying to impose our world on others.
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The impact of things on people is inversely proportional to distance, and the closer we get, the more they dominate our mood. Therefore, the way to mitigate and get rid of its effects is to find a foothold that can distance us from things. If that foothold is still in the world, a limited distance from things, we will gain a sensible attitude.
If that foothold is placed outside of the human world, at an infinite distance from things, we gain a detached attitude.
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There is no one in the world who will never be slandered, and there is no one who will always be admired. When you talk a lot, others will criticize you, when you talk little, others will criticize you, and when you are silent, others will criticize you. In this world, there is no one who is not criticized.
You shouldn't be arrogant about what you can do. Don't be presumptuous about your own flaws. You should cherish what you have, appreciate the strengths of others, and look at what others say about you with a peaceful mind.
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Strive to improve yourself, when you have the ability to refuse, but also when you live in your own world. For me, that's what I think, that's what I think.
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I can't live in my own world, if that's the case, wouldn't it be boring and lonely, and I don't want this kind of life, so I don't think it's possible to live in my own world without being influenced by others. After all, the world is still so realistic.
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As long as I didn't do anything wrong, I wasn't afraid that they would isolate me, and I couldn't do it knowing that it was wrong in order to cater to them. There is a saying: pandering to others is the beginning of the fall.
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1.Stop living in the eyes of others.
Schopenhauer said, "One of the most peculiar weaknesses of human nature is that it cares about what others think of itself." ”
99% of the things that happen to you have nothing to do with others.
What you really need to care about is not the eyes of the people around you, but your own inner feelings.
Learn to shift the focus of your life to yourself, so that you can live the most shining life.
2.Stop regretting.
There is a psychiatrist who has been practicing for many years and enjoys a high reputation in the field of pathology.
He said that many of his patients spend their time remembering the past and regretting what they have done or not done.
Momentary reflection can push us forward, while long-term regret will only make it difficult for us.
Instead of dwelling on the past that cannot be changed, it is better to let go calmly.
After all, we can't change the regrets of the past, but we can decide whether we can leave no regrets in the future. Which line.
3.Stop demanding perfection.
Around us, there tend to be two types of perfectionists.
One is to have high standards and strict requirements for yourself, and to do everything to the extreme; Blind.
The other is to demand a lot from others, be strict with others, and do not allow people around them to make a little mistake.
Because in this world, it is impossible for everything to be as you wish.
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only cares about oneself and does not respond to the emotional needs of those around him; The people around you can't attract you; There is no desire for the outside world; Other people's thoughts have nothing in common with you.
According to psychologists' research, people living in their own world usually have the psychological characteristics of being sensitive and suspicious, self-esteem, and strong self-esteem.
If you live in your own world, you must be a weirdo in the eyes of outsiders. They will even think that you are sick, suffering from severe depression, do not like to communicate with others, do not like to go out for a walk, just live alone, live in your own world, and do not have any contact with the outside world, they sympathize with you, and they also despise you.
As long as people live, they must contact and communicate with the outside world, which is actually our mission to come to this world, which we must complete seriously, sincerely structure, and communicate with others, which is also one of the necessary skills in our life, the way of survival. People who don't know how to communicate and don't know how to accept others have no future. If you meet such a person in life, people don't love it, they don't like to deal with such people, and they don't like to be friends with them, so people who live in their own world are destined to be lonely people all their lives, because even if they still have ideas, work hard to do a lot of things, and have achieved a lot, but no one can understand him, so they can only do nothing and be obscure.
I know such an aunt in my life, the aunt is in her 30s, but she never communicates with others, just lives in her own world. If you sit with him and chat, you ask, she asks, and sometimes even when you ask, she doesn't imply a fight. She stays alone in the house every day, and even rarely talks to her husband and children, looking at her, I always feel that she is thinking about problems, but you can't understand why she has so many problems to think about every day, and she has been in this state for three or four hours.
The most speechless and frightening thing is what the aunt does in her daily life. She doesn't talk to other people, she always talks to people when she's alone in the house, and when she's alone in the house, I'm always talking to myself, singing, and sometimes even dancing. Every time I pass by her house, I am frightened by her self-talk.
In my life, my old Jane is reluctant to contact her, and no one in my life wants to contact my aunt, because everyone is sad by my aunt. At the beginning, everyone was very enthusiastic and actively chatted with her, but she was always cold and indifferent, giving people a very arrogant look.
Living in your own world, not communicating with others, this is a patient, a person who can't use people's social communication normally, a person who can't live well, just living in his own world, not caring what others think of you, this is not right, we still have to try to contact the society, communicate with others.
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One should not only live in one's own world, which is so easy to be selfish;
One should not only live in the world of others, then you will lose yourself and will not be able to grasp your own happiness.
Only by believing in oneself and insisting on believing in oneself can we grasp our own happiness and live our own life.
People should live in their own world properly and not care too much about the strange eyes of others.
The world is changing too fast. We never thought about what we would become, but sometimes we can't believe what we have changed. Hiding yourself for too long will be very tiring, find a close friend to talk to and release yourself, that feeling is really good!
In the Internet, you will always experience the joy and ease that this kind of innocent friendship brings.
Therefore, one should not live completely in one's own world, only the right thing is good.
The above is my analysis and understanding that the HR department should live in its own world, and I hope it will be helpful to you.
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No, when you're a single, single Bitan laugh. You can live in your own world, when you're not alone. Not only do you have to live in your own world of faith, but you also have to live in her world.
And regret and live in the moment, over, I wish you happiness. Hope.
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If your life loses its meaning at the time you are apart.
I advise you to find a place where no one is left to fend for yourself.
How many people in this world have survived. It's so hard.
Love is not the whole of life.
We think that love is deep, but then you will know that the deepest and heaviest love must grow with time.
Then think about yourself. It turns out that I still have a favorite.
Love will make people grow, some things are indeed unbearable, but please don't run away, we should learn from it, not accumulate pain.
Divert attention and cultivate more interest. I don't have so much spare time to think about it so much, I slowly experience the pain and learn to grow up.
You can curl up in a corner and wait for the wound to regenerate.
But you just can't, decadent life.
Were you born for her?
There is no one in this world who can't live without anyone.
Your own mindset is important.
Hope you cheer yourself up.
Good luck.
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1: Affirm yourself in real life. For example, to do a good job, to do a successful thing, to hint to yourself in your heart: what I said today, what I did is great.
2: Abandon low self-esteem to build self-confidence, self-confidence is largely based on success, strong self-confidence is composed of countless small successes. Make more friends, read more newspapers, news, and learn more knowledge on the Internet, so that you have more and more information in your head, and you understand what you are talking to about with others, which will help you develop self-confidence.
3: Establish a positive, dare to challenge, not afraid of difficulties and setbacks, and have the spirit of not admitting defeat and getting up from there.
4: When encountering major events and unexpected things, you can be calm, do not panic, have your own opinions and are not affected by others, dare to face reality, and listen to others' opinions on some things.
5. Contact with different people, communicate, exchange their own and others' views on things, learn from each other's strengths, accumulate a rich, correct and objective outlook on life with time and understanding of things, and constantly improve their personality.
Although it is not comprehensive, I hope what I have said can give you some help and inspiration, and I wish you a happy and happy life.
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It is impossible and cannot avoid problems at home, let alone in today's society. In this society, there is no way to live in seclusion. Be realistic, I hope you can face it calmly and bravely!
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Go your own way and let others "hit" go!
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Go your own way and let others do the talking.
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