When the elderly help take care of the baby, what pitfalls need to be avoided?

Introduction: When the elderly help with the baby, everyone must pay attention to remind the elderly not to wear too much for the child. Whether it is in winter or in the summer to wear too much, it is not conducive to the child's heat dissipation, and in the winter to him to wear too much, it is not conducive to the child's exercise, can make the child's body immunity decrease, easy to get sick, in addition to inform the elderly not to feed their own chewed food to the child, to avoid the child by bacterial infection.

Parents are busy, in fact, the elderly also know better, is sometimes the way of education for the elderly is really no way to accept the time, the elderly may use the income from those taxes, and then just for the child at that time do not feel anything, but now it seems to be particularly unhygienic, particularly unsafe, there are some people who have stomach problems in their bodies, which means that there is Helicobacter pylori on the body, if this bacteria enters the child's body, it will also reduce the child's body immunity, And it may also make the child get gastritis, and the child's Wei Yan is very uncomfortable, so remind everyone not to let the elderly and children share utensils, and do not let the elderly feed the children, let alone feed them mouth-to-mouth.

In addition, parents should also remind the elderly not to wear too much for their children, I always felt that only parents felt that the children were colder, but later found that there is a kind of cold called, grandparents feel that you are a little colder, the child wears too much, the child can't move at all, go out to run a lap out of sweat, the wind blows a cold, you have to say that the child is cold, and then keep adding clothes to him, and the child sweats after adding clothes, so it falls into a vicious circle, The child's body immunity is constantly declining, and it is important to know that the child wears too thick is not conducive to their heat dissipation, which may lead to dehydration and shock in the child. In winter, you should dress properly and hydrate the corners.

The place that needs to be avoided is the elderly, don't spoil the child excessively, and then the elderly should also have certain principles, and there are some things that can not be done by the child, can not make the child lawless, and can not give the child food that adults should eat, because the child is still very young.

Don't let the old man beat and scold the child, don't let the old man condone the child, don't let the old man compare his own child with other people's children, don't let the old man deny the child, don't let the old man say that his own child is not good.

I think parents have to have their own bottom line, can not be afraid of family conflicts and give in, my family is my parents to help take care of the children, because my wife is an inpatient doctor, there are night shifts every week is usually very busy, I am on eight days off six, can only trouble my parents to take care of two children, the birth of my eldest son his grandparents are looking forward to five years, completely unconditional doting, many times our husband and wife have opinions on my parents doting on children, but I feel that parents with children are hard, and I feel that the child is still young and then change, As a result, the eldest son is becoming more and more bearish, and when he was two years old, he especially liked to hit people, and he would splash and roll around when he wanted things.

After we found out, we began to change our minds, he likes to hit people, then take him to play with the naughty big child, you do it, the big child will fight back, we first look at him and wait for him to be beaten wow wow cry and then go to pull, and then reason with him. If you like something, you must meet the conditions we stipulate before you can buy it, such as eating yourself or how many vegetables you eat, etc. Later, my eldest son went to kindergarten, and the teacher said that my son was the best child in their class.

In the meantime, I have argued with my parents countless times, my child's grandfather almost did it with me several times, but I did not back down, and now our family is only responsible for the children's grandparents to pick up and eat the children, and they avoid education and learning, and there are no disputes and contradictions after this division of labor is clear. There are contradictions, pay attention to the method of struggle, don't say anything, I think it is said in the book, it is necessary to start from the good of the child, the old man is also a child in the book, but the method may not be scientific, you cut in from the perspective of the good of the child, the old man may not understand but the degree of cooperation will be high, and there is another point, the child's parents should be financially independent, if the economy depends on the old man's right to speak, it will be less.

In fact, it is more important that you try to spend as much time as possible with your children. As long as it doesn't involve the bottom line, follow them, and then in ordinary life, communicate more. When the elderly take care of their children, try not to sell macros in the scene they are in, if they can bring it themselves, then they will accompany it all by themselves.

Take him downstairs to play, take him out to play, in short, create an environment where there are only parents and children. The elderly are old, and many of them have not received much education in the first place, and it is really too difficult for you to get them to change their habits for decades.

I think there are many ways to stop the fight between the children and the children, for example, no matter what the child wants, the old man will satisfy the child. When children make mistakes, the elderly will not educate their children, and will often buy some particularly expensive things for their children, but I think the most important point is that there are many elderly people who will not discipline their children, so I think these parenting methods should be stopped.

The elderly should not spoil their children, the elderly should not insult the children and accompany the children, the elderly should not speak loudly to the children, the elderly should not force the children to do things they don't like, and do not take the children according to their own experience.

Eat candy, add clothes, and be afraid of getting hurt. The elderly are generally more afraid of cold than young people, and the baby is measured by their own body temperature, and they will focus on wearing more clothes for the child, and the child will sweat when he wears too much, and the sweaty clothes are more likely to catch a cold. Once a child in the family falls, they will immediately go over and pick them up, and they will not go anymore.

If the child falls, parents should confirm whether the child is injured and encourage the child to stand up bravely.

Feed the child with old silver clothes as diapers and chewed food. Using old clothes as diapers is a practice that is easy to breed bacteria and is not good for children; Chewed food is fed to children, and the food is no longer nutritious and easy to spread diseases.

The old people always think that they are not sick if they eat it cleanly, and then they do not pay attention to cleaning when they eat fruits and vegetables for their children, which often leads to their children's illness. There are also some elderly people who are afraid that their children will not be able to eat enough, so that their children's excessive diet will hurt their stomachs.

When the baby is crying and restless, the elderly like to use shaking to soothe the crying baby, so that it is easy to shake the baby back and forth, and it is easy to brain. The more you shave your hair, the better it will grow.

My mother-in-law takes the baby to wear very thick clothes, and I am often afraid that the child will be cold. From an early age, let the child pee on the feces and not let the diapers get wet. The child already knows how to eat on his own, and he has to feed the child. If you don't pay attention to hygiene, you often don't clean your child's bottle in time.

The misunderstandings of the elderly with babies are: shaving their heads at the full moon, eating salt to have strength, sleeping on a flat head, urinating on, feeding too finely, chasing children to feed, wearing too thick clothes and patriarchy.

Feeding your child too much, dressing her child too much, spoiling your child, not educating your child when she makes a mistake, often intimidating your child, feeding your child regardless of the reason when she is crying, etc.

We respect their concept of parenting, the concept of parenting is changing, try to avoid quarrels, and if you want to unify the concept of education with the elderly, you can negotiate with the elderly in advance.

The first is to tell the elderly not to use the concept of the older generation to educate when raising children. Then there is not to spoil your children too much. And when you are disciplining, the old man should not interfere.

You can't spoil excessively, condone your child's behavior, you must discipline strictly, and don't impose your own thoughts on your child.

The elderly take care of children, and the concept of children's education is not synchronized with the way of parents, so the elderly take children more doting.

Nowadays, many families will hand over their children to the elderly because they are dual-income families, and the elderly have advantages in bringing children, but there are also many unscientific behaviors, such as having to hand over children to exercise too early, which will affect the healthy development of the baby, and parents should avoid these behaviors.

The baby's body is to develop gradually according to many stages, and some elderly people think that the faster the child learns this professional skill, it proves that the baby is very intelligent. Although it is also a good heart, this way of exercising too early will affect the healthy development of the baby's spine, so Bao Mom and Dad still have to discourage it in time.

The tall nose bridge is visually very beautiful, and some elderly people will often pinch the nose bridge of the newborn in order to better let the baby grow a tall nose bridge. This method is also a mistake, due to the number of the bridge of the person's nose, which has been determined after the birth of the baby. It is impossible to pinch twice to get higher and higher, and it may hurt the baby's nose bridge, because the newborn's nose bridge and skin are all relatively tender, and it will hurt the baby if you are not careful.

So don't do it.

After the baby is born, there is a layer of vernix on the body or on the top of the head, and the top of the head accounts for the majority. Some parents or the elderly think that this kind of vernix is very dirty and not good-looking, they will think of some ways to forcibly get rid of it, this method is also quite incorrect, it is easy to make the baby infected, the operation is unreasonable, and it will continue to hurt the baby's skin and affect the baby's health. In fact, this kind of vernix does not have to be put in the heart, with the growth of the baby, gradually they will fall off, parents should not be in a hurry.

If there is indeed too much vernix to get rid of, it is recommended that parents use some vegetable oil or body lotion when washing the baby's hair, and check and treat this vernix slowly, it is best to divide it several times, not to get rid of it at one time.

In the past, it was a compulsory course for every elderly person to take a baby, and in the eyes of many people, it was all in the past from top to bottom, and I didn't feel that it was a problem. However, due to the development of society, authoritative experts believe that giving feces and urine to newborns too early is not conducive to the healthy development of babies. But in the hearts of the elderly, I feel that this is also the ability to exercise the baby's metabolism, which not only saves the money of diapers, but also makes it difficult for the baby to be covered.

In fact, this is not the case, today's reliable diapers, the ventilation is very good, it is not easy for the baby to have diaper rash, timely dismantling to ensure environmental hygiene, most of them are not easy to have too big problems.

They will yell in front of their children, and they don't care if they do anything wrong, especially spoil their children, swear in front of their children, and give their children some coarse grains.

It is easy to let the baby go and sit too early, often pinch the bridge of the baby's nose, forcibly dispose of the vernix, give the baby feces and urine, spoil the child, and gossip about the parents in front of the child.

Pay attention to cleanliness and hygiene, do not pay attention to daily education, and often have some bad habits that are learned by children, this education model is wrong.

When the elderly take children, especially in summer, they will often blow air conditioning for the baby, and in the summer, the elderly will shave off the baby's hair, and some elderly people will often bring diapers to their children in the summer, and some elderly people will add complementary food to their children too early, and the baby will not stop it when he eats his hands.