Am I wrong? Can someone help me

You're right, it's your boyfriend who is too aggressive. When I got married, the man also gave 30,000 gifts, which is usually the amount. When I got married, I would use the gift money to buy some gold jewelry and bring it to the man, but in fact, this money was still brought to the man.

I can't help you, that's his personality, I can't help you change his personality, and you can't change his personality, so you can only change your personality.

Immediately prevent typhoons together Although I think marriage is a matter of two people, everyone should contribute some money, but I still feel very sad when I hear what I say, I don't get married anymore, what should I do in the future, who can help me, point out what I did wrong, my mother said that as long as the person I want to marry is good to me, the amount of gift money is not a problem, give more than the dowry, she will not keep a penny, my mother asked me to ask my colleagues and classmates how much to collect.

So I went to ask my colleagues, and some of them said 20,000, some said 30,000, and one said 80,000, and they said that now it is usually 2-30,000 yuan.

I told my boyfriend the answer I asked, and as soon as he heard it, he excitedly said that I was greedy for money with my mother, saying that my mother was not good like this, and that was not good, and he said that he would not give 80,000, and he would not give 20,000, and 10,000 asked me if I wanted it, if I wanted it, I didn't want it. I have always explained that I don't mean this, and I never said that I want him to give 80,000, I just said that it is generally given 2-30,000, this is just a reference, how much to give is convenient for the man, this price is what I asked, not what my mother said, but he didn't listen, he said that when his sister got married, his family only needed the other party to give 5,000, and his sister was married 17 years ago.

He said that at that time, their family also paid for a banquet, and he said that now it is his turn to hold a banquet, he produces chicken, and I also have soy sauce, and if you can't produce soy sauce, you shouldn't receive so much gift money...

Although I think marriage is a matter of two people, everyone.

Your boyfriend said that the elders are not for this little thing, and he doesn't know how to respect the elders too much, so he quickly kicked this man.

Many women regard marrying a good man as their ultimate goal, and what they think is good is to be able to provide them with better material security, so that they can enjoy a more high-end life.

And when they finally achieved their wishes, they became the rice worms of this family, and they relied on men to provide food and clothing.

Not only are they not ashamed but proud, thinking that this shows that they have vision and that their men are capable, but the happiness obtained in this way is short-lived and fleeting, after all, your value is not reflected in this family, so men naturally do not think that women are worthy of respect and kindness.

Therefore, the decision of your happiness is completely in the hands of this man, and when one day he is disgusted with you and abandons you, then you will immediately become nothing.

Therefore, women must not be too short-sighted, thinking that eating well, using well, and living well now is happiness.

When your happiness is in turmoil, when your happiness is completely out of your control, such happiness cannot be called happiness.

Women always think that women take their husbands as the key link. Therefore, after getting married, they will revolve around a man with all their hearts, and even carry out the man's words as if they were holy decrees.

But no matter how close the relationship between two people is, no matter how good the man is, the two of you are different individuals. His honor, his accomplishments, have nothing to do with you.

Therefore, at all times, you must stick to your principles and attitudes.

When the other party touches the red line in his heart, he cannot make endless concessions, but must express his attitude and principles in a timely manner.

Only in this way can you find the most comfortable state in the relationship between two people. In this way, while achieving self-achievement, it also achieves the most beautiful and healthy relationship between men and women.

It's good to open up a little bit, it's no big deal to laugh and jump.

No, in fact, you can also create an image of yourself, you can humorously retort and give others a step down at the same time, without speaking too extreme and showing that you are hurt. Sometimes when others want to communicate with you or need to deal with you, they will only think of the way you are submissive and fight back, and no one wants to do that. Therefore, you should observe how others communicate and how to be measured, and the usual conversation is originally a light and not particularly serious communication.

Take the initiative to speak, not the kind of insertion of the topic, and calm down when talking together. People who are good bullies are just not good at protecting themselves, as long as you have your own principles, you don't need to be too careful.

Since everyone thinks you're wrong, there must be a reason why you're wrong.

One situation may be that he wants to give it to you, but knows that you won't accept it, so he pretends to give it to your dad, but there is a problem with the way he speaks.

One situation may be that you simply can't speak, there is no deep meaning, and it is not that you don't need to send things, you are simply too unable to speak, and there is a problem with expressing the meaning.

Another situation may be that he values some of the benefits that your father can bring him, and he is not grateful to you, let alone speak.

The first and second are understandable and don't get too tangled; The third is purely that you have helped the wrong person, and it is recommended to reduce contacts in the future, or simply maintain a superficial relationship.

The specific situation also needs you to analyze according to his personality and behavior. The first kind has some human feelings, that is, they have this kind of heart, but they are stupid in their mouths; The second is that the person is more stupid in interpersonal communication, and may appear dull or clumsy in dealing with others; The third kind is a little ungrateful, don't be entangled, just help the wrong person, and go their own way in the future, no one asks for anyone, and no one gets in the way. It's good to relax.

It is estimated that people only asked you for help because of your father's power. This person has low emotional intelligence and can't speak, so don't help in the future.

Actually, I think he said that he treated you as a friend, after all, only friends are very familiar with this, and it is also a kind of respect and etiquette for him to give things to your father, because you helped him, so he will want to send things to your father, which can be regarded as always repaying.

Just look at your description, there's nothing wrong with this person.

When it comes to gift-giving, most people will be polite or refuse. It is indeed a good choice to find a third person, and he also hopes that you will not shirk it, he has chosen a third person to transfer it on his behalf, and if you refuse, then it will be difficult to send this gift.

I'm a little clueless, but there should be a little more white in the 8th row I hope it helps.

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