How to make yourself not overly concerned about small mistakes

Acceptance is a prerequisite for relief. If you want to let go, you have to accept it first.

Acceptance: This includes accepting yourself, accepting the mistakes you've made, and accepting all the things you can't accept.

First of all, you can't accept yourself, because you are inferior, self-deprecating, you are more inclined to deny yourself, more inclined to look at yourself negatively, to look at others negatively. So, when you get grades, you narrow down your grades; When you make mistakes, you exaggerate them, even if it's a minor mistake. As a result, you are haunted by your mistakes and cannot be forgiven.

The solution: accept yourself and treat yourself as an ordinary person, therefore, ordinary people make mistakes. After making a mistake, see what it is and pay attention to it next time.

In fact, the process of making mistakes is the process of growth and maturity. If you want to mature, you have to do more things, and if you do more things, you will make more mistakes, and if you make more mistakes, you will be able to mature faster.

I'm the same way, once I tried on the clothes to buy very expensive, I regret it, I didn't buy it, some things are difficult to forgive myself from the heart, I will communicate with relatives, sometimes I think some constraints and standards, I recommend you read a book, "Forgiveness is Love", learn to forgive yourself from the heart.

Since it is said that it is a small mistake, it will not have a big impact, and if you can't let go of the little things, how can you do big things?

There are several ways to do this, and you can give them a try

1. Broaden your horizons, jump out of your narrow thinking space, and shift your attention to another open space, which can be everything you are interested in or curious about, such as the mystery of the universe.

3. Make your life full and busy, and don't give yourself too much leisure time.

4. Pay attention to the people around you who are having difficulties and confusion and do everything you can to help them. You can do some volunteer work, or you can volunteer in the hospital to help those in need.

5. Think about your parents and relatives and friends who love you, make a ** with them, express their care and greetings, and think about how much they care for you.

6. Watch some realistic documentaries, wartime or major disaster events. You will find out how lucky you are, how unworthy, and even ridiculous, it is to bother with such a thing.

By any means, forget about him.

Go out and talk to friends and do more things to distract yourself. Don't let your mind be empty and think about it!

First of all, you should be able to deal with people, don't take jokes too seriously, but don't go too far. When others say a few words, don't always rest assured, you can think like this, he said that he won't lose weight after a few words, right? If you can bear it, press it down, and don't always be impulsive.

Young people are angry. If you spend more time with people who are a little older than you, you will understand and see a lot of things, and you will naturally learn to be patient. The ancients:

Endure the calm for a while, take a step back and open the sky.

Be generous and rely on your own actions.

You have to remind yourself from time to time, restrain yourself, and don't get angry and jealous about a little thing.

If you're feeling sad, talk to someone else and let yourself relax.

You can tell your best friend what is on your mind.

Jealousy is a kind of defective psychology from a medical point of view. It makes the individual feel bitter about the talents and achievements of others, and takes comfort in the misfortunes and disasters of others. Of course, jealousy is common to everyone, and moderate jealousy helps to promote people's progress and play a positive role in motivating.

However, excessive jealousy is harmful to others and even to society. Jealousy and envy are twin sisters, and while envy, they step into the alley of jealousy without paying attention.

1.Be open-minded and downplay yourself. There are people outside the world, and there are heavens outside the sky.

There is no need to be jealous of others because they are better than you. Jealousy is a trap that can cause you endless annoyance and pain once you get caught up. Therefore, we must make ourselves open-minded, take a far-sighted view, do not overly care about gains and losses, do not take honor too seriously, learn to warn ourselves, never fall into the trap of jealousy, liberate ourselves from self-centered concepts, break free from the fetters of jealousy, and face life in a chic manner.

2.Psychologically compatible, open-minded and studious. If a jealous person wants to save himself, he must face up to his weaknesses, directly find the person he is jealous of, be open and honest with him, and sincerely say to him, "You are stronger than me, I envy you so much, I hope you understand".

This shows that you are truly determined to eliminate and overcome jealousy. Your honesty, courage, and integrity will win the admiration of the other party, so that mutual understanding can be truly achieved. In addition, it is also necessary to learn from the strengths and strengths of others with an open mind, so as to improve oneself and achieve psychological balance.

3.Degrade yourself appropriately and exalt others. To belittle oneself appropriately is not to regard oneself as worthless and worthless, but to be wise and foolish and avoid being sharp.

To exalt others is not to blindly compliment, but to sincerely praise others and humbly ask for advice. This will not only eliminate jealousy, but also appear tolerant and generous.

Build a strong sense of self-confidence.

What you have to do is not to be jealous of others.

It's to make others jealous.

Then there will be a strong sense of superiority.

Give it a try.

No jealousy is too absolute to do.

But it can be converted.

Envy can be converted into envy.

Then it becomes a motivation to work hard for this goal.

Avoid it and just be a nodding friend. If it's a colleague, try not to make mistakes and become friends with him.

It is inevitable that people will encounter some unpleasant and unhappy things in their lives, and then they will be quietly uncomfortable alone, in fact, this will not solve anything, escape is not necessarily hidden, face is not necessarily the most uncomfortable, choose to face, choose to believe in yourself, is the best way to succeed. Why don't you believe in yourself, confidence is given to yourself, what others can do, why can't you do it, no, I can do it, you have to cheer for yourself all the time, give yourself confidence, others will not help you, because they are not you, can not understand the true feelings of your heart, but can give you some comfort, give you temporary spiritual comfort, and if you want to be truly happy, you must believe in yourself, there is no mountain that cannot be crossed, there is no river that cannot be crossed, as long as you can believe in yourself, Then everything will be solved.

It's funny.

Little boys. First of all, your height is a problem.

Boys grow late.

It's okay. to 18 years old.

Many boys will grow taller in the future.

Then I remember one of my high school classmates.

He was fat and short.

Then I went to play basketball every day.

Maybe he will also be embarrassed to be afraid that others will laugh at him.

So I found a stadium close to his house.

Waiting for the ball to play well.

before daring to go to school to fight.

If you're going to school now.

It's almost a year of high school.

I was a freshman in high school. A lot of boys are still in a state of stay.

Boys, if you grow up.

It's about leaps and bounds.

Actually, you have these three questions.

After all, it's still a reason, your psychological factors are at fault. You just think they're laughing at you, tell me a story, I've really been laughed at by others before, because I don't know who put a classmate's particularly expensive electronic dictionary in my school bag when I was a sophomore in high school... And then.

Say I'm a thief.

Whole school announcement. It was true that everyone else was despising me.

I was a year.

Not a word was spoken.

The first big exam.

It is the first in the city.

Really especially the guys.

If it's me.

The boy I admire.

It's all about appreciating their thoughts.

their abilities.

their talent.

Men have to be talented.

That's what it does.

It's talent that you say you think you're stupid.

That's your problem.

If I'm like you.

I know people laugh at me.

I don't have the ability. Then what do you ask, don't grit your teeth and say okay.

Let you despise you.

I'm going to make a show of it for you.

You don't care what you study.

You learn a skill first.

I have the ability. Learn the skills again.

In the process of your efforts.

You have a belief.

It's just that they don't have the right to laugh at you anymore.

If you learn well.

I have the ability. I made a lot of money with this ability.

Are you still worried? At that time, not only did a lot of girls find you.

The people who laugh at you may also beg you to help them.

Think about it, you don't care about it now.

Let's make a show of it first.

Just make it impossible for others to laugh at you.

Humans are especially good at complicating simple things, especially women (snickering).

So in Wanye's Law there is:

Making things complicated is a simple job, but making things simple is a complex job!

People in our time are very busy, and there are about 10,000 busy scenes here.

But actually, we all know the 2 8 rule.

That is, 20% of the work you do will bring you 80% of the value, while the other 80% of the work will only bring 20% of the value.

Should we think about it, find out the 20% of the work items with our hearts, and do it to the extreme?

I am the beneficiary of simplifying my life, for example, in June: R&D, teaching, and refinement.

R&D Courses: 3 types.

Lectures: 142 hours.

July: Spend time with family, study, and fitness.

A lot of things turned out to be very good options, and in July a couple of events were dropped, including a guest speaker for a big presentation, and three corporate trainings.

It is a firm choice in my heart, and I don't have to worry about it at all, which really comes from the change that simplifying my life has brought me, because I know how important it is for me to return to my hometown once a year to be with my family!

Today share a Brian'sSeven R simplification

1rRethink

When you find yourself overwhelmed by too much and too little time, stop, think carefully about your work, and have the courage to deny that the current approach is wrong.

You can refer to: 003 To find your key point is to find your key

2r: Re-evaluation

Like a pause button in a football game at home, pause for a moment and reassess your situation.

3R: Refactoring

Realigning the purpose of your life or work, reimagining your office environment, and reimagining your itinerary will all help you restructure your life.

4R: Reshuffle

5R: Rebuild (key).

This is one of the most powerful practices in simplification, making a list of all the steps of a job-specific process from hands-on to finishing, and then start rebuilding your work.

After doing it a few times, you will have a reconstructive mindset).

5 major ways

1.Merge several tasks into one

2.Assign several tasks to the same person

3.Outsource 80% of the work that takes your time and energy (hiring assistants, etc.).

4.Cancel tasks that don't work well

5.Change the order in which things are done, and maybe you can find a breakthrough.

6R retrofit

Renovate the details of your life and work every 3 months, and upgrade them every year.

I have been renovating every 6 months to 3 months, and I am currently doing upgrades every month.

7r: Regain dominance

Set your new goals and make new plans, make new decisions, and put in new actions.

The above is the seven R simplifying life, today I revisited it again, and also made a plan for the end of November, I hope the above content can inspire everyone

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As the proverb goes:

Life is simple. It's charming, people's hearts are simple and happy, learning to be simple, in fact, the version is not simple. ”

People, the older they get and the more they experience, the more they will understand:

The most beautiful life is Qinghuan, the simpler you live, the more precious and rich your life will be. Writer Yang Daxia feels that simplicity is a spiritual wealth.