Do you like the opposite sex who often chats with you?

I won't like the opposite sex who talks to you a lot, becauseI know I just"Habit"I can tell"Dependency"with"Like", the opposite sex may be in"Cast a wide net"。

❤"Habit"It is possible to have it for a long time"Like"It could just be a momentary thing.

It's easy to form habits, but likes come by feeling.

Frequent chats can only explain and share common topics, but falling in love requires not only a common topic, but also a match for the family background and personality characteristics of the two.

Girls are more emotional and easy to mistaken"Habit"Dang"Like", like is something that needs to be exciting, not just enough to chat.

❤"Dependency"with"Like"are very different, and we need to make them clearer.

Dependence is actually too lazy to do it yourself, thinking about it yourself, and wanting someone to help you do it all the time.

Like me, I rely on my mom who always has my luggage ready for me to go to school. She bought my clothes, her my shoes, and my skincare because I didn't know anything about it. But,Now I've started to try"Independence"Because I can't rely on my mom for the rest of my life!

Like is to think about a person all the time: think about whether he has eaten, drank, or slept.

This feeling is by no means with"Dependency"It can be compared.

That person of the opposite sex may just be enjoying the feeling that someone cares.

Some of the opposite sex are there"Cast a wide net", deliberately find some girls who want to fall in love and are not deeply involved in the world to chat, and then the girls will think that they like each other, and pay a lot for the opposite sex: make him a small snack, save money to buy him a more expensive gift.

As a result, the girl wasted her youth in vain, and the scumbag still lived a chic life!

I think girls need to recognize the person they are talking to, and even need to ask their own questions directly, and don't be stupid and pay silently, which is just wishful thinking.

The person you're chatting with, you can't be sure of what he's really thinking, don't jump to conclusions"Like"One needs to be cautious.

Recognize the situation and give up illusions.

As a college student, I personally don't fall in love with someone of the opposite sex just because I often chat with him, and there are several reasons.

Delusion of love.

Chat with a fixed chat partner for a long timeInevitably, there is a sense of familiarity. Imagine that there are regular people who say morning, lunch and good night to you every day, share daily anecdotes with you, complain about some unpleasant experiences with you, and confide in each other ......Maybe it was just an ordinary friend at first.

But over time, there will be a sense of anticipation and familiarity, and every day I am looking forward to the same morning, noon, good night and hush cold greetingsOver time, they are more likely to become dependent and feel as if they are in love with this person, which is called the "love illusion." In the course of a real-life relationship between a man and a woman, sometimes one party will give to the otherEmotional comfort(sometimes it can be unintentional),Over time, a kind of dependence will be formed, so that the other party will be distorted in perception and produce the illusion of love. Underlying logic.

It's the communication across the screen for a long time that makes you feel a sense of dependence, which in turn triggers this psychology.

Caught in illusions, trapped in habits.

Frequent chats will give you the illusion that you like himIt's really indulging in a fantasy – an idealized companion with your imagination. Due to the screen,Distance produces beauty, coupled with the modification of language and the hazy sense of words that do not reach the meaning, but also to make his perfect image in your mind constantly perfect, and finally let yourself convince yourself that you have fallen in love with someone.

As a result of the long chats, the daily daily sharing, before you know it, you have dissected your heart to himSubconscioushas accepted the existence of this man。But in fact, this is just a habit, and habits are hard to break. Get used to which way to go every day, what clothes to wear every day, who to meet every day, and who to chat with every day......At the end of the day,It's just a reflection of your heart, it's a habit, that's not love.

Love should be based on mutual sincerity and mutual respect. When you come into contact with this person face-to-face and go deep into his spiritual world, and not just rely on the hallucinations and self-deception generated by online chats, then you can really clarify what you want in your heart and judge whether it is worth it.

No. Short-term topping, long-lasting dependence, does not represent"Like

For me, this problem just doesn't exist. One: I don't like to chat; Second:

I only talk to boys I like. I always think that chatting across the screen, there are many words in different contexts, obviously you are out of inner unhappiness, but if you add another emoji, the other party thinks you are coquettish. The whole process is moving in an uncontrollable direction.

Like is the sublimation of good feelings

The most important thing is to distinguish what likes first. Like is the sublimation of good feelings, the basis of love, and an impulse of hormones. Chatting often is just a dependence of life, in fact, it is dispensable, but you don't find it.

We can do a quiz to snub the person of the opposite sex you often talk to"Three days", even if he looks for you during these three days, you don't have to reply to the message. I believe that you must have been in an unhappy state for these three days, but after these three days, you are your own life again. The answer is already obviousThat's how I used to tell the "likes on the web".

If you really like it, after choosing not to chat with him, you will not only be unable to swallow, but also burst into tears every day.

Ambiguity is nothing

Your own loneliness is not the same as liking. Two people keep each other warm when they are lonely, and it's a broken dream that no one wants to wake up, let alone shatter it. Looking through the entire chat history, you can't find a single word of his clear expression of love, the whole article is full of ambiguous words, your love is like sugar cane; It's sweet at first, but at the end it's just dregs.

Like is unique and irreplaceable by others. And chatting is anyone's go, and I suggest less chatting with the opposite sex online, and girls are fast。Usually the boy chats with you for a long time, and he has not confirmed his mind, most of them are raising fish, and you are part of a fish pond.

Chatting is just an illusion

Your daily chats are all unnutritious, and they are only fostering friendship, not cultivating relationships. The depth of the conversation topic grows as the relationship intimates. Don't like anything on the internet, including chatting, where nothing is unknown until everything falls to the ground.

After chatting for a long time, not only will there be a sense of dependence, habit, and inexplicable possessiveness, but sometimes you even feel that you are not good enough, and deny yourself in all aspects.

Don't use it too often"Chat "Judge like!"

I don't think I'm going to like it, unless he's the guy I like. Because I will give myself a scale in my heart, remind myself all the time, and know in my heart that this will not lead to results. So if there is no result, why do it, obviously it is not necessary.

People are often unable to find their own position and output their own clear cognition; Especially in relationships, people's intellect is more likely to be led by the nose by emotion.

One of the most affectionate behaviors between people of the opposite sex is frequent chatting

Especially the kind of people who met on the Internet and never met, referred to as online chat. Because not in the real society, but in the virtual network society, everything becomes less real, including the good feelings.

The good feeling in the chat may just be the side that the person you are chatting with creates in your heart, or you imagine it in your own heart. Look how unreal this isBe sensible and return to reality, and you will find that you really don't like it that much or don't like it at all.

Think of chat as a way to decompress, and treat the person you chat with as a tree hole. I once chatted with a person of the opposite sex on WeChat for two or three months in a row, during which I would chat every day, for long and short times, and the content was also very diverse. In the past two or three months, I have found that I will always look forward to the arrival of his news, to the conversation with him, and there is a day when we are not talking to each other, and then I realize that there is something missing that day, just a sense of loss.

I think most people doChatting and chatting will become a habit, and chatting and chatting will produce dependence. But I clearly knew that it wasn't liking, it was just "dependence", because I saw the chat between me and him as a way, as a catharsis.

You will like it, probably because you have too little contact with the opposite sex, so little that you think of the person you like as your liking, in fact, this is a misconception, when you try to chat with different people of the opposite sex, the result may be different.

However, liking is liking, disliking is disliking, it's all about feelings, remember, what we want to like is the person you chat with, not the person you chat with often. If it's someone I like and I talk to a lot, then I like it even more.

Many people have doubts about this question. People of the opposite sex who often chat may not feel anything every day, and sometimes even feel that if the other party keeps sending messages, they are still a little bored, and why do I have to reply? Is the other person's constant contact special treatment or is it just that kind of person?

But if you don't chat, there will be a kind of loss, as if you have suddenly lost something, but is this really like? Here are my personal views and experiences.

First: it must be divided, if the other party is very good, and he is a very talkative person, then the comfort of chatting may be due to the other party's accommodation, so we are easy to like each other, because not everyone can get along, if you can chat often, there must be a certain reason. If the other party often shares their lives, and they are not tired of finding topics for the sake of finding topics, it is very likely that the other party is because they like themselves, then if they feel that the person they are chatting with is also very suitable, it is easy to like it, after all, the desire to share is the greatest romance.

In the end, if you take the initiative to chat, and the other party doesn't respond very much, you need to pay attention, maybe you have a good feeling, but the other party doesn't feel so much, just politely reply.

Second: I think it has a lot to do with myself, some people can restrain their emotions and have a clear understanding of the type they like, even if they chat, they won't have much feelings, but if they are a sensitive and loveless person, they may be easy to have a sense of dependence, and over time they can't tell whether they like it or get used to it. But I like this kind of thing, if you can't tell the difference, don't chat for the time being, see if the other party will take the initiative, and whether you can't help but want to chat.

If you can restrain yourself, then it proves that it is just a habit.

Will like it, don't like it, it's fake.

Not necessarily, if I often chat with you, it may also be that the two of them are very close.

It's also possible! After all, the opposite sex who can often chat with you must be what you value!

If you talk to the same person of the opposite sex often, you will have a crush on each other, but you may not like each other.

Social and economic development is getting faster and faster, many people chat through WeChat, although this can be a good way to relieve the pressure in life, relieve the loneliness in the heart, but a little carelessness may make you like each other, so you must think twice when using social software to chat, especially for people with families. Only by keeping oneself clean can we avoid accidents.

1. What are the benefits of chatting with the same person of the opposite sex often?

Like-sex attracts, opposite-sex repels, and when people reach a certain age, they will have some unspeakable secrets in their hearts, and they need to find someone to talk to. Chatting with the same opposite sex often allows both parties to understand each other better, and can find more inner touching and warmth, of course, chatting with the opposite sex must be a willingness to speak, a willingness to listen, a gentleness, a sunshine, in order to prevent conflicts while chatting, we must communicate with each other more. However, it should be noted that you must not treat chat as love, and you must have a sense of boundaries in your life.

2. What are the disadvantages of chatting with the same person of the opposite sex often?

The current era is a high-speed development era, and many fraudsters use the form of online dating to obtain improper benefits, often chatting with the same opposite sex, and it is very likely that they will be deceived. I suggest that if you want to find a partner, it is best to introduce you through a blind date** or relatives and friends, so that it is more reliable, and at the same time, you need to pay attention to the fact that if you chat with the same opposite sex all day long, it will also seriously affect your normal life.

3. What is my personal opinion?

I think there are advantages and disadvantages to chatting on the Internet often, I must learn to use the Internet, so that I can better avoid accidents, and at the same time, it should be noted that if there is an online dating fraud in life, we must go to the police station in time to file a case for investigation to avoid losses.