What are the dangers of the elderly with a baby? What are the hidden dangers left behind by the lack

The disadvantages of coming with children.

One. I'm afraid of children, I can't run when I'm old at home, so let's watch TV series and play at home!

Such adverse effects:

1.Children stay at home with the elderly for a long time, and the human body lacks exercise and the body is weak.

2.There is not enough sunlight exposure, lack of vitamin D, and it is harmful to grow taller.

3.Elderly people who are not very good at English hearing will talk too loudly to their children, and turn their voices too high when watching TV dramas, which will damage their children's English hearing for a long time.

4.Always staying at home and lacking contact with others, resulting in a recognizable, introverted type, and not understanding how to communicate and communicate with others when you grow up.

Two. If you don't cry, you can buy you whatever you want to eat!

Such adverse effects:

1.Giving children waste snacks is not only not beneficial to physical health, but also foods with too many long-term food additives will continue to harm the baby's brain development.

2.Snacks are not manipulated, children have no appetite for eating, and they do not want to eat normally when it comes to meals.

3.Once the child realizes that "he can eat something delicious by crying", he will understand that he threatens his parents with crying and temper tantrums to achieve his own impulses, and he will become more and more arrogant.

Three. I'm afraid that the child will be hungry, so I'll chase after the feeding, and eat again!

Such adverse effects:

1.Children eat too fast, resulting in insufficient bite and digestion.

2.Overfeeding can enlarge a child's stomach and lead to obesity.

3.Children are always "disturbed" when feeding, and children's attention is very easily destroyed, and it is very easy to become more and more "inattentive" after reading.

4.Children who are accustomed to "feeding" have poor self-consciousness when they grow up, and it is very easy to form a psychological state of dependence.

What are the hidden dangers left behind by the lack of parents for their children's growth?

1. There is no accurate parent-child interaction and interdependence.

Children are not allowed to talk to their parents, so they will not be able to have a reasonable parent-child attachment relationship with their parents, and children will be unfamiliar with their parents. When I grew up, I didn't know how to get along with my parents.

2. Endanger children's childhood life.

Every day when the parents are not there in the child's childhood memories, the child will become more and more insecure, lack self-confidence, and will continue to endanger the baby's social **. Since there is no parental education, children will feel very lonely, and more serious will continue to cause inferiority complex.

3. In the future, children's emotional life and family life will also be affected.

Since childhood, there is no development in a perfect family atmosphere, children are also very easy to lose themselves, there is no harm in the daily life of parents, there is no reference to the role model of fathers, and children in the future should deal with their own emotions, married life, and family are all confused, and do not understand how to solve this problem.

Therefore, parents play a very key role in the growth of a child, if you have to educate your child to develop.

On the one hand, the children are more delicate now, but the old people are more careless when taking children, and because they are old and their memory is not very good, it is likely to cause harm to their bodies when taking children, secondly, if the elderly take this child for a long time, it is likely to immerse the child in a doting environment, which is very detrimental to the healthy development of children; If parents lack the growth of their children, then parents are not able to understand their children's personality in the short term, nor can they understand their children's educational progress, and the intimacy between them and their children will be poor, which is very detrimental to the overall healthy development of children.

I think the harm of the elderly with children is that the elderly do not pay attention to health and safety when they take children, which will easily cause a very serious impact on children; I think that parents missing their children's growth will cause very serious psychological trauma to their children, which will lead to children's low self-esteem, sensitivity and fragile character.

The child can swear, will not be clean, unhygienic, Mandarin is not standard, do not like to study, and the relationship with his parents is not very good; It will make children become very cowardly, timid, inferior, not sunny, not positive, and unable to face setbacks and difficulties bravely.

It is a good thing for the elderly to help their children in life, which solves the living conditions of many small white-collar workers, such as being able to eat different kinds of meals every day, without having to do household hygiene, and saving a lot of trivial and cumbersome things. However, the old man cannot spoil his little grandson, give what he wants, and do not accept criticism from anyone. Many parents know that it is definitely not good for the elderly to spoil their children so much, but they can't tell how bad it is for their children.

For the sake of family harmony, they can only turn a blind eye. As parents of children, they often do not know how to deal with the situation, they cannot argue with the elderly, they cannot discipline the children well.

Some parents, in order to please their children and let them stand on their side, will give their children delicious and fun, take him to play games, watch TV, and eat fried chicken. If this continues, the child will "stand" on your side, but it will become very utilitarian. As soon as you can't get something out of it, you'll be further and further away and won't "listen" to you.

When he grows up, the utilitarianism of "quick success" may accompany him for the rest of his life.

When a child makes a mistake and is reprimanded by his mother, parents who are not used to it often blurt out: "Go, go back to grandma's house, don't pay attention to my mother, my mother is not good!" "Instilling such a concept in children from an early age not only sets a bad example for children, but also makes children feel that grandma's house is a refuge from training.

As long as you don't want to do your homework, you don't want to clean, you don't want to eat, you can go to your grandmother's house. If it continues for a long time, it will lead to the child's inner escape, unable to face the problem directly, solve the problem, and is not conducive to the child's growth.

Remember: the elderly are not babysitters. Although he loves children, he has no obligation to take care of them.

If you want to give your baby a good education and a good future, parents should take care of their children, communicate with the elderly, and take their children to see their grandparents. If you have to live with the elderly, and you can't avoid the elderly taking children, it is best to make rules, make rules, and sit down to talk to the elderly. The thousand-year-old terrier of the elderly with children will gradually dissolve.

The establishment of parental authority is the foundation of a child's education. Reach a family consensus and form a joint force for children's education. Avoid confusion and ensure that children's education is orderly.

Our purpose is not to stop the previous generation from taking children, but to keep the previous generation on the same channel as us and work hard to educate the next generation, which requires our common wisdom and efforts. If the elderly in the family are still learning every day and keeping up with the times despite retirement. He was more enlightened and intelligent in the education of children.

He can use his life's social experience, wisdom and education to inspire the next generation. It's really an old family. If there is a treasure, it is the happiness of the child, the happiness of the whole family.

In this way, it will lead to some limitations in the child's growth, and it is also likely to lead to the child's incorrect three views, and it will also affect the child's self-care ability and independence, and it is likely to cause the child to be very doting or very selfish, and it will also lead to the child's special insecurity.

Personally, I think that the elderly with children may cause children to be relatively squeamish, children are easy to develop inertia, and the elderly are more doting children, the thinking of the elderly and the current thinking is still different, which is not conducive to the development of children's physical and mental health.

Letting the elderly take care of children may have some bad effects on children because of some different educational concepts, may cultivate some bad habits in children, and may make children not good enough in terms of politeness. Let children's minds not keep up with the pace of social development.

The elderly with children will definitely give children some pampered bad habits, because the elderly with children must be more spoiled, for the children's requirements will be as much as possible to meet, if the child is not with the parents for a long time, the child will also lack father's love and mother's love, psychological development is not sound.

The living habits are unhealthy, Mandarin is not spoken well, many of the living habits of the elderly are outdated, and many elderly people do not speak Mandarin, only dialects.

There are pros and cons when the elderly take care of children, and once it is not handled well, there will be more harm than good. The elderly are prone to spoil and pamper their children, and while spoiling, they will also do a lot of things for their children. Many elderly people have a kind of compensatory psychology when facing their children, and some old people did not give their children good living conditions when they were young, so they will project all this guilt on their grandchildren's children.

This kind of pampering often becomes unprincipled accommodation and doting, and will lead to the baby growing up to be self-centered, which will affect the child's consciousness development, then the child will become a willful and selfish existence. Many elderly people think that their children are still young and can't do anything, so they will take care of everything for their children.

I believe you must have heard of the next generation, because many old people are very fond of children. While they like children, they will not feel that some mistakes should be corrected, but will condone such mistakes. For example, after a child plays with a toy, he scatters everything on the floor, and the elderly will take the trouble to help the child clean up.

When the child is hungry, he feeds the child, and when the child is thirsty, he drops water on the child's hands. They didn't think about letting their children do things on their own, they didn't think about developing their children's independence. At the same time, it will also make children lose confidence when they encounter difficulties when they grow up, and they will only let others help them, and they will not dare to try.

At the same time, I don't dare to exercise, only crying and losing my temper.

After being bound by traditional thinking, many elderly people want their children to become well-behaved and obedient, so they are a kind of indulgent education when educating their children. If a child does things in the wrong way, they will not change the child, but will let the child continue in the wrong way. They feel that children can help children take risks and be creative when they break things, and this behavior is good in the eyes of the elderly.

However, this will make the child unable to form a good moral character, so the elderly will also have a lot of accidents when taking children, so parents must also pay attention to this event.

The doll will be covered in dirt. The doll's immunity will deteriorate. Dolls often get sick. The doll will not speak very fluently. The moral qualities of the doll will deteriorate. Dolls are prone to injury. Dolls will be spoiled.

It will spoil the child too much, and it will also make the child become very willful, will let the child eat junk food, which is not conducive to the development of the child, will instill bad ideas in the child, and will also make the child become very casual.

Children will be arrogant and proud, will not be close to their parents, will be very naughty, make their parents very angry, easy to make children sick, easy to make children bad.

will spoil children, there is no way to teach children correctly, affect children's growth, make children very arrogant, and sometimes become very disobedient.

What are the disadvantages of letting the elderly carry their children all the time?

1.Bringing children all year round will accelerate the aging of parents, a cousin of mine does not let the elderly take care of the children all year round, but the couple usually work, and the children need to be taken care of by the elderly all day before they go to kindergarten. In the past, when I was menstruating, I was in good health and didn't have time to order.

Sowing and fertilizing are not a problem at all. I was born working on a farm and have never complained about being tired.

2.But since taking care of the child, my physical strength is not as good as before. She doesn't do farm work every day.

She just cooks, washes clothes, plays with the kids, but always says tired. When the child was more than 2 years old, he accidentally fell and injured his hand because he was packing toys for the child, and because he had diabetes, it took a long time to recover. Since then, his hands have often been so weak that the child cannot hold them.

After that, every time I saw menstruation, I thought she was old again. Including my own mother, after taking care of the children, she also ages quickly, easily tired, easy to sleepy, and the elderly can't afford to turn over and over. Therefore, during the off-duty hours and weekends, I am basically responsible for the children, giving the elderly time to rest and play.

3.How tiring it is to take care of children. Anyone who takes care of children in person knows that there are times when young people are physically exhausted, let alone the elderly.

But after reading so much, most people are talking about how bad they are to their children, saying that the elderly take their children for spiritual satisfaction, and so on. Very few people really care about the effects of this behavior on the elderly, and very little ......Some people say that it is okay to take the elderly around, but not all the elderly can adapt to the new environment. Living with the elderly often creates conflicts, and it is really a big problem with no solution.

However, I think it is ultimately an economic issue. Young people are really stressed to work hard and earn more money. It is good that the elderly are willing to take their children.

If they don't want to take care of them, they have to take them with them.

4.Because I was brought up by my grandparents since I was a child, they love me very much, but definitely not coquettish. I also have a good relationship with them.

Even when I grow up, I like to live with them, but the disadvantage is that I don't have a close relationship with my parents. Whatever the reason, even if the child knows that you are raising him for money, he cannot be intimate. After all, the time is there.

Of course, if the old man dotes on him, it is a very bad situation. My nephew belongs to the elders who spoil him when they see it. He always had some very impolite behavior, disrespecting the older generation, and everything was taken for granted.

So, if you can be a qualified parent, you will feel a lot better, probably.