I don t think early love is a particularly serious problem, but why are the Chinese so feudal?

It's not serious, it's that Chinese parents always think that you are still young and can't look at emotional problems comprehensively, and you need to have more contact with people and understand people's hearts more so that you don't be deceived.

Of course, when you are young, there is indeed such a problem, and you can only say that you have more contact and contact, and you can't just agree to others. Also, be sure to learn to protect yourself.

Puppy love is not a particularly serious problem, it is an important psychological characteristic of adolescence. Parents are thinking about their children, and they think that your social experience is not enough, and you may be hurt. Of course, they also want you to be a useful talent, the so-called "hate iron does not make steel".

Adolescence is a critical period for learning knowledge, developing talents, establishing lofty ideals, and shaping a beautiful soul.

It's really not a serious problem, as long as it doesn't involve illegal acts, then it's a great asset in the future.

The Chinese are not feudal, they are just afraid that their children will be hurt because they are too young. Pity the hearts of parents all over the world, we should understand our parents.

Hehe, I used to want to fall in love, but I was busy, so I forgot. In retrospect, it was like a joke.

Oh, parents, the old traditional ideas are not acceptable, and there are a few who accept them.

When I was in early love, my parents didn't know = = and I came over like that.

Deep-rooted old ideas have been passed down from generation to generation.

Chinese parents love to tie their children to their side to feel at ease, in fact, I think what I experience will understand something.

1. Too much control

Chinese parents generally regard their children as their own private wealth and spiritual sustenance, and will regard their children as their own property, tightly control their children in the palm of their hands, and let their children develop according to their own ideas.

2. Affect students' grades

Falling in love can be a distraction for students. If you fall in love early, you will definitely think about how to fall in love every day, and when you go to class, you will be out of time, and when you go, it will affect your academic performance. And if your grades don't improve, you may break up for various reasons later, which is very unworthy, so this is the main reason for prohibiting puppy love in students.

3. Three views of harm

When I was in middle school, my growth and development at all levels was not very perfect, especially at the level of psychological state. Then it is very easy to suffer damage at the time of the first love girlfriend, if some people suffer damage because of this, it may cause the psychological state to be interesting, so that it will harm the three views, and it is very bad for the growth and development of the future psychological state.

4. Endanger future romances

Every student has a promising future, if they break up early in school for various reasons, it will bring a certain burden to their minds, and there will be some rejection of the future emotional world, some early love, if they are stopped by their parents and break up, both parties are likely to fall into the horns, into a dead end, and will have a certain impact on the choice of mate when they grow up.

Notes:

In fact, students and parents are not afraid of students' "early love", but they are afraid that the way and method of students get along with each other is wrong, which will cause great harm to boys and girls, and the impact of some breakups is very terrible. Therefore, parents must educate their children well.

Puppy love is a flower that does not bear fruit, not only that, but puppy love has also had a great impact on the study and life of middle school students.

Puppy love is not bad...

But the consequences are not good, if the early love can restrain their desires (not to taste the forbidden fruit) and encourage each other, and even make an appointment with a good university. Such things are not absent (but rare).

Because, being young, it means that you are not sensible... Whether you don't know how to love, or you don't know how to tolerate, or you don't know how to understand. I still don't understand how difficult it will be in the future. And the control is poor. (Puppy love is often just a mutual affection + the other party is not bad.) ）

In fact, China is a very traditional country (ancient Chinese women did not go out of the door, and the feet were even as important as the breasts. ）

Compared with foreign countries, it is believed that early love will make children grow up. (Of course, there are also foreign parents who say, dare to fall in love believe it or not, I jumped at the door with a shotgun every day) because parents in the world are the same, and you live in China, so you only understand China, (relatively speaking, foreign countries are still a little more open).

Puppy love is something that happens to minors, and it is a person with limited capacity for conduct, or even a person with no capacity for civil conduct, and his physical and mental development is not yet complete.

Because the ancient royal family liked to use kinship alliances and children as a price in exchange for trust and interests, which has lasted for thousands of years, therefore, love is not good for the king and must be suppressed in the bud.

Because education in China is still the first goal of universities, students are evaluated based on scores, and any behavior that may affect scores is prohibited. So not only is it early love, isn't it commonplace to change physical education class to math class?

Because the Chinese population accounts for one-fifth of the world, countries such as Iraq give subsidies for the birth of one population, calling on citizens to have more children and contribute to the country. Therefore, do not resist early love and early marriage.

No, the Thai Ministry of Education prohibits intimate behavior among students at any time and place.

China is distinctive, there is no comparison with other countries, many wonderful things only have characteristics, China has characteristics, and China is emphasizing characteristics.

Education in China and abroad are completely two concepts, China's traditional conservatism has not changed much, and foreign countries are different, so in the eyes of Chinese parents, even if you are over 18 years old, you are still a child, and you will advocate when you become a leftover man and a woman.

Actually, one is an ideological problem, the older generation is still in the seventies and eighties, and there is no difference between early love and crime in that era, which can be alleviated in the next twenty years. There is also a material problem, China's competitive pressure is so great, how much study will be delayed in early love, and the future will definitely be unproductive, this is the problem, we are not like India, married at the age of 14. In the final analysis, economic strength is the guarantee, and the ideological realm is the key.

After the Western Renaissance, thought was no longer imprisoned by decadent thoughts, and pursued the beauty of human nature, and at that time, China was still "preserving heavenly principles and destroying human desires", and Confucianism is still respected by the public.

There's also the college entrance examination, right......For parents, early love is equivalent to having no intention of studying, and not being able to get into a good university is ...... for people of their parents' generation（233）

Foreigners are more open-minded, and it is also possible that China's concept is different from that of foreigners.

You'll know when you have a baby.

In China, there is no real understanding of the meaning of love.

Due to cultural differences, China is conservative in nature.

You wouldn't say that after a few years of development.

China is just talking about it, and there are a lot of early loves.

The existence of a family planning policy.

There are too many sheep, and the wolves are very panicked, and it is difficult to manage (

Because your future wife may only be 20 years old, but she is already a veteran driver.

Think about it, at the same age, if you fall in love in high school, you will be regarded as early love, but if you go to work after graduating from junior high school, and you move bricks or open a small shop outside, will you fall in love be called early love? Obviously not, so puppy love is a concept specific to students.

The reason why it is called puppy love, or why it is against it, is because it is a distraction during your school years and will cause you to regress in your studies at least at the risk of regression.

Under China's current system, academic regression and academic risks lead to your poor performance in the exam, especially in the middle and high school entrance examinations, which will have a significant impact on your life, will change the trajectory of your life, and determine the quality of your life and the trajectory of your life development in the future.

So what's at stake is that no one is going to risk it, because the cost of trial and error is so high that the cost of trial and error is even higher than the cost of trial and error if you accidentally get pregnant.

Under such a high cost of trial and error, you tell your parents that hormones are a natural reaction, say that love is great, say that you will have results in the future, say that you are not just playing, it is true love...It's not that parents don't believe you, it's that all of this is not important to parents at all.

Let's put it this way, if our country's economy is developed and the resources are relatively abundant for everyone, instead of the current state of relative scarcity, we can actually find a job with a good income even if I am not admitted to a good university, and the gap between low income and high income is not so big. What is certain is that parents will be much more tolerant of the problem of early love.

On the contrary, the current state is that if you fall behind in one step, you will fall behind in the next step. The end result is a social situation where the income gap is very large and the gap between the rich and the poor is still widening, and in this case, no parent is willing to take risks.

So it's still the saying that the economic base determines the superstructure, this truth will not change, and it has different ways of interpretation in different fields, specific to the field of early love, when you can find a good job if you fail the college entrance examination, the income difference is not so big, and life can be relatively stable in the future, so parents and teachers are not so concerned about this kind of thing. If you don't do well, you won't be able to take the test.

Don't believe those who say that you can promote each other, encourage each other, and finally achieve good results together.

The first is survivor bias, someone who fell in love and did well in the test, it doesn't mean that you can fall in love, and in the end, they hung up together, but they didn't tell you. Second, they always say after the fact, you fell in love and found that your grades were very good after the exam, you can generously say that I encouraged each other when I fell in love, and finally achieved good results, do you dare to say so beforehand? Do you dare to say in your freshman year of high school that if we fall in love and encourage each other, we will definitely be able to get into the key exams?

You don't dare, so parents don't dare to let you try. There is always an essential difference between Zen Ge Liang and the pre-packing ticket afterwards.

In fact, they are more aware of the fact that their thinking is too conservative and traditional, and they think that some bad things will happen in early love, and these bad things are Qing Meng's ode that most people are reluctant to mention.

Because the concept of love is different. The traditional society has a more unified view of the stove in love, believing that people should have feelings for each other under a mature mind. Falling in love too early will hurt him.

Because they think it's a shameful thing to do, and that young people can't just get along without their parents' orders.

The main reason is that parents don't want their children to fall in love early, thinking that early love will affect their grades.

Because in our Chinese grades, it is very important, and early love will affect the academic performance of two people, which is definitely wrong.

This is because for people in our country, their thinking is relatively conservative, believing that children should focus on learning at the age of learning and should not do other things.