What do you do when you find it difficult for you to talk to someone?

Of course, it is simply to keep silent, as the saying goes, there are fewer than a thousand glasses of wine for a confidant, and there is more than half a sentence of speculation, and if you can't say it, you will avoid it.

If it is not important, choose to be silent, and if it is important, you still have to keep your opinion.

If it's me talking to someone and it's embarrassing when it's hard to talk about, when I don't have anything to say, I'll laugh twice and walk away. That way it doesn't look embarrassing.

I'll show him in action.

Find out the reason, think about whether there is a problem with the way you speak, and say it in another way to see how it works! Of course, it is also possible that the other party has a problem with his comprehension ability, no matter what he says, the other party seems to understand or not, making him feel that it is too difficult to speak, at this time, you can also find girlfriends, family members, telling can relieve the depressed mood, and at the same time listen to the opinions of others and adjust the way of expression.

Since it's very difficult to talk to someone, then I choose not to talk to him, anyway, the other party can't understand it, and since I can't understand it, why do I have to talk to him?

If you want to be friends with someone, then do what they like and talk about some topics that the other person is interested in, if you don't want to be friends with the other person, then ignore the other person and say nothing.

I have been a sensitive child since I was a child, and I care a lot about what others say about me. I always try to do my best and want to be recognized and praised by others. But sometimes, someone unintentionally says something that hurts me and even affects my self-confidence and mood.

I remember one time, I participated in a speech contest at school, I prepared for a long time, memorized it many times, and felt that I did a good job. As a result, after the competition, I heard one classmate say to another, "Look at that person, he speaks so contrivedly, it's not natural at all."

They didn't notice me and didn't name me, but I knew they were talking about me. I felt sad at the time, I felt that my efforts had been in vain, and that people didn't appreciate me at all. I cried for so long when I got home that I didn't even want to go to any speaking engagements anymore.

Another time, I made a cake at home and wanted to surprise my mom and dad. I followed the recipe for a long time, and I thought it was pretty good. When Mom and Dad came back, they saw the cake and said:

What are you doing here? It's a waste of ingredients, and we don't eat sweets. "They threw away the stool mold cake without tasting it.

I felt very aggrieved at the time, and I felt that my mind was being ignored. I ran to the room and didn't come out, and didn't even want to cook any more meals.

It's been a long time since I think about it, but I still feel bad when I think about it. I know that others may not have malicious intent, and maybe just saying it casually does not represent what they really think. But for a sensitive person like me, these words pierced me like a knife into my heart and made me feel like I wasn't good enough, not liked, not understood.

Therefore, I hope that everyone can consider the feelings of others more when speaking, give more encouragement and affirmation, and less criticism and sarcasm. Because what you say may have a great impact on others, delay or even change their lives. One word you say can become an eternal scar in someone else's heart.

Sometimes, when you communicate with others, you obviously feel that what you say makes sense, but why, the final communication result is not ideal, maybe the most important reason for failure is here, and listen to my slow analysis.

In today's society, everyone needs interpersonal relationships, and everyone can't do without interpersonal relationships.

First of all, have you ever thought about what the purpose of our communication with others is, which is very important, why we communicate with each other, in order to deal with what to communicate, and secondly, communication is only to share each other's views, not to compete who is better at speaking, not to show off who is more skilled and capable in speaking.

If you understand the above two points, it will be much easier to communicate with others, you need to communicate with others to reach agreement on a certain point of view, or exchange some views, not to defeat the other party, if you are their superior, the situation may be better, because because due to your rank, others may have to obey you.

However, if it is your family, your relatives and friends, and your friends, can you still use the hierarchy to force them to obey, obviously not, otherwise, others will only think that you are an arrogant person, and will not easily agree with you, obviously, communication will only become more and more difficult, and eventually lead to failure, quarrels, and do not achieve the results you want.

Even if you feel that you are very reasonable, and want to persuade and persuade both parties, you should also try to stand in the other party's position and think about what he is worried about.

Remember, communication, not command, communication is not persuasion, at least not to communicate with a very persuasive psychology, communication is the exchange of emotions and language between the two parties, just like you don't like to be blamed by others, when you communicate, you must also avoid hurting the self-esteem of others, you must pay attention to whether your words are friendly.

If you can't do it and completely control your emotions, it is strongly recommended that you do not communicate easily, because communication with emotions will often only amplify anger and is not conducive to achieving results.