What should I do if an older woman who is not confident is afraid to go on a blind date?

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I'm an older leftover girl, but I'm happy with my life now.

There are no ugly women in the world, only lazy women, your self-confidence can only be given by yourself, and no matter how much others say, it is useless.

Self-confidence is the embodiment of a person's maturity, and it is the perfect expression of inner cultivation. Self-confidence is not about what others say about you, but about self-knowledge. Older leftover women who are not confident dare not go on a blind date, lose their fears, show your advantages, and cultivate themselves to increase their content.

No one is perfect, and if you dare to do it, you will have a chance to succeed.

The need for someone to accompany can imply a single man, depending on whether the future plan of both parties is suitable for you, but don't deceive each other.

If you go out more by yourself, the outside world is very exciting, and you already know why you are afraid, or ask your girlfriend to go with you.

I think if you really don't dare, you can read more books, and then improve your cultivation in all aspects to make yourself look more generous.

I think I can improve myself in all aspects and make myself look better.

It's not terrible to be an older leftover girl, it's scary that you don't know how to dress yourself.

Then work hard. As long as you are excellent, someone will chase you.

Be confident and believe that you can do it. I'm better than anyone else.

I think if you really don't dare to go on a blind date, you can ask a girlfriend to accompany you.

As the saying goes, there are no ugly women in the world, only lazy women, so makeup is still very important.

Maybe it's because of the accelerated pace of life, or maybe it's because of the increasing pressure of life, or because many people are busy with work, learning, growing, and making money, but they rarely take into account their emotional problems.

As a result, there are a lot of older singles. They miss the marriageable age and don't have the energy to have a big relationship.

Although they have always believed that when the right time comes, the destined person will definitely appear by their side, but as their parents, they are extremely anxious.

As a result, "urging marriage" and "blind date" have become a very headache for these older singles.

Netizen Xiao Zhang is one of the older single groups. She had a boyfriend in college, and like most campus romances, they broke up after graduation.

It may be because of the pain after the breakup, or it may be because of the sharp increase in pressure from school to the workplace, in short, Xiao Zhang has put all his energy into work in the five years since graduation.

Although she is a girl, because of her excellent work ability and high dedication to work, Xiao Zhang's career development is relatively smooth, and she became the director of the company before the age of 30.

However, although Xiao Zhang's parents are relieved by the excellent work, because Xiao Zhang has been single, it also makes his parents worried.

knew that Xiao Zhang was busy with work and had no time to fall in love, so her parents arranged a lot of blind dates for her.

In this regard, Xiao Zhang was very confused: "I am 29 years old, should I accept the blind date arranged by my parents?" Huikong".

On the one hand, my parents were worried about my future, and on the other hand, I was afraid of blind dates. "I know my parents are doing it for my good, but I don't know how to deal with it." ”

In fact, in real life, there are many cases with the same confusion as Xiao Zhang, and many people will reject blind dates, but at the same time they don't want to make their parents sad.

One is inner rejection. Many people are disgusted, rejected, and disgusted with the form of blind date from the heart, and feel that they have become a commodity to be sold at a price, and they are picked and picked at will, and they can't get over that hurdle psychologically. In addition, you may meet the opposite of what you like, and even the boys who combine the points they hate, naturally, disgust and rejection go to the top.

Second, the matching degree is too low. Many people have encountered this situation, the introducer always likes to introduce excellent boys and excellent girls, but often to no avail. It must be affirmed that the boys and girls are really good individually.

However, being good doesn't mean being a match. may like and value each other differently, there is no problem with normal communication, and being friends is like-minded, but becoming a lover can probably only be a lover who is not satisfied. Thus, the drawbacks of the introduction are revealed.

However, I would like to point out that even if you are in free love, there are cases where you find that each other is not suitable and break up peacefully, so why should you be so demanding that the blind date must be fate?

The third is that it is too transparent. Almost all married people admit that when they got married, they were more or less confused, and they didn't think about it deeply, so they went with the flow. And now unmarried people, basically have received higher education, have a certain amount of knowledge and insight, plus in the society for many years, know people and things have formed a set of their own unique opinions, can quickly judge whether this person meets their own preferences, can also be said to be not so easy to deceive and easy to handle.

Fourth, they are unwilling to wronged themselves. This is typical of older unmarried young people. Everyone has been living independently for nearly 30 years, many are still only children, and no one wants to be wronged or even compromise for someone they don't like very much.

If your parents and elders are concerned, your thoughts are still stuck in their time. Thinking about the material life is consistent, and does not take into account what the real thinking of young people is today.

This is a question to be answered in two directions.

One is the problem from the direction of the introducer, and the other is the problem from the person being introduced.

One. Introducer's question.

1.This problem is also the problem of the elders, and it is very direct that most of the elders do not have a clear understanding of the real interests of the younger generations when they introduce them to the younger generations, but only match them according to the very superficial one, family conditions and personal income, in fact, most people lack understanding of the two parties he wants to introduce.

2.In addition, many elders are not seriously introduced, but spontaneously, and when they talk about gossip with relatives, neighbors and even colleagues, they arrange blind dates as they wish. You must know that even professional matchmakers may not do a good job in blind date introduction, and they are introduced at will, of course, the success rate is not high.

3.There is another point, sometimes the blind date introduced by the elders may be deliberately arranged to fail. In order to get married to their children, many elders have also put a lot of thought into the blind date.

In the conventional practice, I will deliberately find a few people who are not suitable or have lower conditions than the child's vision, let the child feel a round of frustration first, and then arrange them.

2. Questions from the person being introduced.

The young men and women who are introduced to the blind date actually have some problems themselves.

Many people are singled because they have problems, or even problems with the opposite sex.

Of course, there are many people whose own conditions are not very good, and they do not recognize their own situation, and they have too high requirements for others, and they can't look down on them everywhere.

In addition to the above two points, it is also very important that many young people are more exclusive to blind dates, and many still have expectations for themselves to find a partner, of course, there are also people who do not want to get off the list, and they will not succeed if they are forcibly arranged.

Of course, putting aside these problems, it is not easy to find a partner by itself, otherwise everyone will not always say that fate is rare.

The blind date is actually a quick match of marriage, and when you fall in love, you will often find that there is no match and you will be separated and replaced, not to mention that marriage is a more prudent life event? The blind date itself is a quick marriage match, and it is naturally inappropriate, so it is normal to fail often.

The first is that blind dates always feel awkward. For many young people, blind dates are not necessarily a good thing that can really get them off the list, on the contrary, it may make them feel embarrassed all the time. Because both men and women in the blind date process know that they and each other may be about to match into a couple or about to become a couple, so many times they will be relatively unable to let go.

And in the blind date bureau, everyone didn't know anyone before, but they had to talk about some particularly intimate and private topics, which would inevitably feel embarrassing. It's rare to meet the type of person you really like on a blind date, and most people are forced to eat and chat with someone they don't like, can it not be embarrassing?

The second is that blind dates are easy to encounter. On the blind date, you can meet all kinds of strange characters, with all kinds of things that refresh your three views and bottom line. After all, most of the good men with normal views already have a partner, and only those men who are not quite normal and strange and no one wants are still in the blind date market.

Therefore, it is actually difficult to meet a more normal or good man on a blind date, and many young people will not like blind dates in order to avoid encountering some strange people who cause unhappiness to themselves.

Finally, the object of the blind date has no emotional basis. In the eyes of many contemporary young people, blind date is actually another way of matchmaking by parents, and in their eyes, this is a kidnapping marriage. Most of the male and female couples who meet because of blind dates do not have any emotional foundation, and the two people are just forced to live together because the conditions are very suitable in the eyes of outsiders.

This kind of makeshift marriage is rarely truly happy, and it is not liked by contemporary young people who seek self and freedom, so young people tend to be very averse to blind dates.

To sum up, although in the eyes of most young people, blind dates are not their preferred way to choose a mate, and many young people are also disgusted with blind dates. But we can't deny that there are still many young people in life who find the most intimate and most suitable and loving person in their lives through blind dates.

Some older young people are reluctant to go, believing that it is because he has gone on a blind date, disappointed, and has had a tragic experience, and he feels that he should die alone instead of going on a blind date.

I feel that your blind date has gone into a misunderstanding.

First of all, your side is more introverted and slow to heat, which means that you are not very active type, which is your own characteristic, and it is not a problem. The problem is with the person you're going on. Your parents are feeling a little sick and rushing to the doctor.

I've also been on a blind date a few times, and my current girlfriend also met on a blind date, so I'll talk about my feelings and actual situation. The blind date arranged by the parents, a total of 7 times before and after, and the follow-up contact after eating was 0, and even one was introduced again after a year (the first time was introduced by my father's relatives, and the second time was introduced by my mother's relatives, they didn't know each other, and I was also drunk). Then classmates and friends introduced each other twice, and the follow-up contact was 2, one of which is the current girlfriend.

Therefore, it is the most unreliable for parents to introduce blind dates, and in their concepts, men just live! And they themselves are also asking each other, who is whose friend's fellow scholar is also single, everyone sees. Therefore, they themselves don't know what the situation of the people they introduce is, and many times the introducers on both sides don't know each other.

The people introduced in this way, not to mention the quality of the person, it is equivalent to having no screening at all. The success rate of this can be imagined. And parents are in a hurry, often their children are forced to see a lot like this, and the children themselves are a little disgusted.

Anyway, when I was eating with a few people, it was obvious that the other party was also very perfunctory.

Therefore, I think if you also want to find a partner, the best way is to classmates and friends, they introduce their classmates and friends, so that he is the middleman, and has contact with both people, and has a preliminary screening for both sides, so that the introduction is much more reliable. He won't get someone who doesn't want to get married, and he won't get a too unreliable trick for you. And there is a mutual friend here, he can act as a lubricating person at the beginning, you are introverted, and you need such a person to bring the atmosphere and help you find topics together.

And the parents introduced, the introducer doesn't know each other, that is, two people sit together and you play freely.

So I suggest you can tell your dad that you drag your friends to help you find them, and they have a better way. And don't be like him, it's just luck, it's not as good as a blind date**. **On the drag and** although there are many, but with the heart can still distinguish most of them, parents introduced like this, I really don't know what to meet.

Your friend is misleading you, don't believe it, living together for a lifetime, of course, is not just a matter of money, if you are serious, you still want to be responsible. Don't be unconfident, if you look at the person you talk to, you will have one more chance, how can you know that he is not suitable if you don't look at it? This is something that can neither be casual nor demanding.

Therefore, in the past, if the family situation and education situation of both parties are similar, it is easier to develop a common language and succeed. Some people fall in love at first sight, but this is a minority, and most of them have to be contacted and talked about before knowing whether it will be suitable.