If the child can t understand the topic after telling the child several times, why are parents angry

In your daily life, do you have such an experience and experience, that is, when you are tutoring your child to write homework, you talk about it once, your child does not understand, after talking about it twice, he still doesn't understand, and when you talk about it a third time, will you get angry? Then why are you angry? Basically, we think that the reason why we are angry is because the child is not serious, because the child does not want to listen, because the child is too stupid, and we feel quite frustrated.

In fact, today I will subvert this perception for you, as far as the reason why you are angry, is because you can't admit that in the process of talking about the topic, your ability and direction to talk about the topic are problematic. So, we have to find someone to help us carry the blame, and we put this responsibility on the child, it's not that I have a problem with things, it's that you have a problem with receiving, so what about this, the process of narcissism is completed, can you understand?

You can compare, sit down and take a look, and emphasize again, when you say that many times the child is unwilling to listen, or does not understand, or presents a state of scratching your ears and cheeks, you should not exert yourself on the child, it must be that the way you speak is not suitable for him, or the level of your speech is too low, this child has no way to accept it, all, so, I think there is a saying in Chinese tradition that is very good, that is, the form is not good, but seek yourself, just in the process of getting along with the child, As a parent, you will find out more about yourself and take on the responsibilities of parents, you will find that your relationship with your child, including your child's problems, you will not be so crazy and helpless.

We must overcome the fact that in the process of getting along with our children, we are afraid that narcissism will be damaged, and let the children help us carry such a consequence, in fact, it is very bad for children, because children will slowly feel that I am really not good, I am really useless, I am really stupid, uh, remember ha, every child grows in the mouth of his parents, the language of what you say to the child now is magical, he will love you, he is very loyal to you, so, He believes in anything you say, and if you say anything bad, he will believe what the teacher says, and this thing may take him a lifetime to adjust, and sometimes he can't adjust it. So, whoever is the pot is the back, don't be a pot dumper.

Parents may be tired from work, and then they are in a bad mood, and then they explode when they see their children like this. Sometimes emotions come up and you can't control them.

Because parents can't control their emotions well at this time, they feel that if they say something to their children, their children may not be able to understand it well, and parents will be easily irritable.

Love to lose your temper, can't control your emotions, I don't know if you have ever seen such a scene, a group of children are playing, everyone is happy to have fun, but some children just because of a little thing unsatisfactory, began to lose their temper.

At this time, the child is only immersed in his own dissatisfaction with something, and he will not listen to what his hometown says, only obedient to him will listen. However, at this time, parents might as well let their children vent their emotions and then reason.

Because children at this time are completely dominated by emotions in their behavior and reason, they will not listen to reason at all and are unwilling to listen, and if they insist on it, it will cause bad results.

Emotional instability. Children are simple and irrational, and when they lose their temper and cry, their thoughts will be slightly paranoid, and they will naturally not listen to reason.

Because the child is still in the growth period, the worldview is not yet mature. When they encounter troubles, they will take the initiative to vent themselves and release themselves. So when they get angry, they often don't listen to their parents' reasoning.

Parents can wait for their emotions to stabilize and patiently reason with their children.