A long standing psychological problem, a psychological problem that has been in my own for many year

Did you fall out of love at that time, leaving a shadow on you! Why do you hear that girls are caused and don't like girls! It may be that what happened to you when you fell out of love, and now you are very profound, for example, the hurt is very deep, and you no longer believe in boys from now on.

If you have seen a psychiatrist, what did the doctor say at that time, and whether the doctor caused it because of psychological reasons. But because of the boys, there are serious problems with social interaction. It could be that you are too pessimistic.

I think you still want to have a boyfriend, don't you? That's from a certain point of view, you're still normal. I'll build you to find a more famous, good psychologist and take a look, if you are determined to change this problem, it can still be good, in fact, the problem is not very serious.

Don't worry, it will get better slowly. As long as you have the courage to face and overcome it, the problem of seeing a psychologist is not a matter of looking at it for a period of time, it depends on the individual. Some people will be shorter, others will be longer.

As long as you work hard to overcome it. The situation will gradually improve, first of all, give yourself courage and confidence, and wish you to get better soon.

The things of the past can't be undone, so let it go.

This makes it all the more important for you to be strong.

Even if you're alone, you have to stand up on your own.

It's just a person-to-person conversation, just like when you buy something.

Communication. Everyone has a sense of pause when they meet strangers.

Because it's unfamiliar.

You have to be brave enough to take a step of your own, and slowly you will get used to it.

Because a lot of times, all we lack is the courage to stand up, when you make socializing a familiar part of yourself.

You'll be able to communicate well with others.

Of course, there are two sides to everything.

When you know a lot of people, you have to distinguish what is good for you and what is bad, and you have a more defensive mentality to meet friends, which is the best.

Actually, everyone is in this state at the beginning of their psychological growth, and those who are good at socializing are also accustomed to a way of interacting with others, and you can start to cultivate this habit from now on, participate in more group activities, and don't live narrowly in your own world, everyone has a sad past, whether it is good or bad, they must be a wealth for your growth, not a burden.

Friend: Hello, I can understand your mood and current situation very well after reading your introduction, life is always unsatisfactory, I have also fallen out of love, but the shadow of your lovelorn is much bigger than I imagined, I want to know what the reason for your lovelorn is, although we want to set off your pain again, but we have to analyze the reason why you are afraid to communicate with people, and I can target you when I get the reason. Try to make the truth of the event clear, which is also good for you

It's you who set a limit for yourself Naturally, it's not a big deal to communicate with people more! Don't always live in your own memories.

Counselling is recommended**. Xiaoshan's area is not very clear.

It may be helpful to clarify the following questions:

1. The time when you are dissatisfied with your behavior and painful is not the same time as when you do something concretely.

Second, when doing things, the heart is full of the consciousness of getting by, procrastinating, giving up, and even getting bored. It is only after the fact that there is dissatisfaction and pain that does not help. That's what's happening with you.

3. Believe that you already know what to do, pain is a good thing, it can make you do a lot and do it well. Then it also keeps you away from pain and transforms it into happiness. Or, to put it simply, pain means that happiness is coming, like winter and summer.

The point is that pain must be arranged before happiness, not after happiness.

We are all ordinary people, since we are wrong, why should we be serious with ourselves. Sum up the experience and look forward. In reality, or in the present, don't think about those failures.

Or to change the way I think, the experience of failure in the past is an asset to me, and I have nothing to fear now!

Hello, I am Runxuan's psychology teacher, and there is a saying that says: I do the same thing every day, but I want to have different results; If your state of mind has not jumped out of a limit of your own, then you have been trying to beat in your own circle all your life, so you will never be able to get out of this state.

Whether it is a conditioned reflex or a psychological suggestion, your mental state is like a fishbowl, and your mind is like a fish, no matter how hard you try, you can't get out; You need to break that fish tank, you need to improve your mental state, you need to find your true self, you need to find the root of the problem, you can come out.

I don't know your heart, I don't know what your limits are, you judge and adjust according to your feelings; If not, you can consider participating in professional psychological counseling, there is no need to suppress yourself for so many years, and the accumulation of time will be very harmful to you.

When you encounter setbacks or incentives and are emotionally unstable, you should calm yourself down and make an objective evaluation of yourself, listing your strengths and weaknesses, strengths and weaknesses, or listening to other people's opinions and opinions. There are no perfect people in the world, and there are no good-for-nothing people, you are certainly not as bad as you think, as long as you don't go to prison, you can't change your ways, let alone start over. Look at your future goals, believe in yourself, no matter what kind of influence you are under, don't easily erase your past efforts, and don't forget to keep yourself improving.

I think the most important thing is to be yourself and not care too much about what other people think.

Whether it is failure or success, you can accept it calmly.

People who have lived for decades will definitely encounter some things that they are not happy with, and when you encounter this kind of thing, you have to think like this.

This is life, if you blindly succeed, then do you think your life is meaningful, you have to feel fortunate when you encounter failure, because God makes your life more exciting, don't feel that you are unlucky, because there are more people than you are unlucky, there are more painful people, so you have to thank life, slowly to appreciate him, to make your life more exciting, friends, come on.

This is not uncommon, and it is often the case since childhood that you have been strict with yourself and pursued perfection. It is also possible that they are not paid attention to by their leaders, elders, and colleagues, and tend to be self-attributing. This is not a problem that can be solved by such a question and answer, so please go to a local professional psychological counseling organization for help.

You don't let go, that's why you're suffering, you're living with a heavy burden every day, why can't you just look forward and let it pass???

Caused by too much mind.

Gu Yun: Let go and it will be Da Luo Immortal.

Can you understand it?

Who asks you to do it well?

In fact, many of the problems are our own overthinking.

Think about it simply, is it aimed at you that others are spitting? You haven't asked anyone, so I'm not sure it's going to be you.

Then your answer is this: probably.

So since it is "it may be", is there no "may not be"?

Even if you take a step back, those people just don't have quality, they just spit on you, that's their business, it's their character problem. And you want to live your own life, so in front of these people, you must raise your head and walk proudly in front of them. Because your life is up to you.

Again, if you don't feel like you have the courage to live, what about your uglier classmate? What did she do? I don't know what the girl you're talking about is, but I've met a girl out there with a very strange face.

She had three friends next to her, two girls and a boy. They bought clothes together.

Then you don't have to be like this at all. Let go of your heart.

To be honest, it hurts to see what the girl you heard from above. No one is born to vomit on others. No one.

Not any living thing. Anyone who can be called a "person" has no right to dictate to others, especially their appearance, and they have no right to spit on others.

There is a saying that you have never heard, "Not all people in the world are human." ”

When they do something that is not human, forgive him. If you deal with this group of things that can't be called human, then what have you become, haven't you?

Our parents gave us life, but they couldn't decide whether we were beautiful or ugly. What we can do is to live well and repay our parents. Repay them for their kindness to us. Although there are many tribulations in this world, there is also a lot of laughter and joy, isn't it?

I hope you, and that classmate of yours, can live a wonderful and beautiful life. Remember, life is yours and it's up to you to decide what color your life is.

Let me tell you another secret that is not a secret, I have chronic pharyngitis, do you understand how uncomfortable I used to be when there were many people who would rather hold my breath than cough? But I can control it, cough a little less, and I have no fewer friends around me.

I think if I'm with you, maybe we'll be friends, the one who won't let you scare you away because I cough.

Because those so-called "people" are not necessarily people. And I, on the other hand, decide for myself what kind of person I am. You can too.

You have to know that people's hearts are good, the vast majority of people are not willing to hurt others, they are respectful of others, only a very small number of people do not know how to respect others, and when they are young, children are not sensible, sometimes hurt each other, you must know that adults do not think about this, you don't close your soul in your own small box, don't understand others so simply, all thoughts are the replay of painful memories of the scriptures. The innocent soul is imprisoned by the idea that you are hurting, please don't hurt yourself, no one wants to hurt you, everyone wants you to be happy and free. You think that everyone observes you, in fact, everyone is thinking about their own things like you, you can understand that you are a sensitive child, but we have to grow up, we have to liberate our own pain, memories are not the present life, he is the pain of the inheritance, we can't use the pain of the inheritance to imprison our current happiness.

Don't struggle in your heart, please let yourself go, don't let your beautiful and complete heart be shattered, let go of the entanglement of history, let's return to reality, I inherit the same thing, extremely sensitive, see the shortcomings of others, I think I am the same I feel sorry for myself Later, I slowly got better, it turned out that my previous thinking was so ridiculous. People are kind and don't like to hurt others, in fact, you are the same, isn't your heart also kind, you don't want to hurt others, why wronged others. For example, according to a certain standard, there are a lot of ugly people in the world or in the cities we live in, and if people spit when they see a bad person, they will not be dehydrated if they walk around the street that day, and they are not children With this childish expression, why bother thinking so, you should grow up, communicate with people more, and don't lose understanding of yourself because you have been isolated for too long.

This universe is infinite, we are so small Don't take everything for granted, pain is thought out, create an image for yourself, a state of affairs and then let yourself believe instead of looking at reality Situation, no, we want you to be happy, don't protect yourself like this Don't use offensive language Put a thorny armor on your pure and beautiful heart, as if to protect yourself In fact, it has caused , people can't understand you, they can't get close to you, and no one wants to hurt you. Liberate yourself from those unrealistic memories. Let yourself live, life is only once, why be unhappy.

Oops, there must be more people in the world who are uglier than you, let alone men. Now the ratio of men to women is 3:2, and no matter how ugly a girl is, there can be a bunch of men to beg!

Be confident, those people vomit because they are low-level and uneducated, they are not good to go, out of sight is pure. Even if you don't have some other beauties, don't be afraid, let's pay attention to cultural accomplishment and connotation. What lies in front of you is to study hard and fight for your dreams!

Be more ambitious, read more books, and there is no need to pay attention to these small problems. When you reach a higher level because of your efforts, I believe there will be many people who will appreciate you.

Cheer up, the outward is only superficial, the spiritual is real, you listen to a story:

There was a boy who had a big birthmark on his face, which looked ugly to others, but he didn't care, he spoke actively in class, played with friends everywhere after class, and once in a speech contest, he walked to the stage and the audience was amazed, he was still generous and won the first prize.

Later, someone asked him why he was so confident that he was so difficult not to be shy? But he said, "Shy?

Why? My dad said that the birthmark on my face was a mark left by an angel, and while I know it's not true, it proves that I'm unique, why be shy? ”