What should I do if I feel so tired with the elderly with my children?

In such a situation, you can choose to take the child by yourself, because this has certain benefits for the child's growth and can also make the child healthier.

You should take the initiative to talk to the old man, and then tell the old man that you are very tired of taking care of the children with him. Then you can communicate and discuss it well and choose the easiest way to bring the baby.

You can take care of the children by yourself, or you can tell the elderly your ideas, so that you can get the approval and help of the other party.

We all have a feeling that the older generation of people is very easy to take care of children, but now people are very tired with children, why is this? Based on the analysis, I think there are mainly the following reasons.

First, the requirements are different.

In the past, raising children only required the children to be fed and clothed, and when it came to education and more nutrition, almost no one paid attention to it. At that time, although everyone also went to school, no one would force their children to sign up for various interest classes and training classes, and after school, in addition to doing homework, they also had to help their parents with housework. At that time, many families had several children, and they didn't live as spacious as they do now, nor did they eat well now, but because the vast majority of people in that era were like this, everyone didn't have a heart to compare, and they didn't have any other ideas in their hearts, just thinking about bringing up their children.

Second, young people are ambitious.

Today's young people have a great burden and are more ambitious than those of the past. Especially women, in the past, many women stayed at home to take care of their children after giving birth. Nowadays, women don't have to take care of children and go to work, so they feel tired because they don't have enough time and energy.

Third, there are fewer children.

Our grandparents had many brothers and sisters, and most of us are only children, at most two children. Ideologically, we want to train our children to the elite. Because there are more people, education funds may not be enough, but there are few children, parents want to spend a lifetime of energy and money to train their children and let them get ahead.

It is precisely because of the nobility of children that parents put all their eyes on them, resulting in physical and psychological exhaustion for parents.

In short, taking care of children varies from person to person, and modern people pay too much attention to children, and a large family revolves around children, which is actually not a good thing for children. We should cultivate children's ability to be independent, so that parents and children have their own space.

The older generation with children, as long as they can eat and drink enough, do not get sick, will not care too much about the child's nutrition, etc., but also because when they took their own children, it was the kind of free-range type, and now people, they are afraid that the child will be hurt a little, and the food is the best choice, all kinds of nutrients for the child to eat, as soon as the sick is urgent, so the times are different, there will be such a situation.

The older generation is relatively rough with children, as long as the children are full, it is okay, and now it is too delicate to take children, so that children should go to various tutoring classes, and various feelings of children should be considered.

Because there are fewer children now, and their thinking is different from before, the concept is different, so there will be a lot of differences in the process of educating children.

The main reason is that the conditions of people are getting better and better, and they are also doting on their children more and more, so it is not easy.

Since the older generation is in the period of having many children, it is not uncommon for each family to have five or six children. In order to support the family, parents basically do not take care of their children. Most of them are for older children to take the younger ones.

In this way, parents can concentrate on their work and earn money to support their families. It seems easy, but it's not. Since feeding at least seven or eight mouths is the burden of supporting the family.

During that period, there were many children who died of starvation, got sick and had no money, and there were many children with children, and there were many disadvantages, drowning, falling, falling and other accidents. Most children survive by resignation.

At that time, the quality of life was too poor, so it was difficult for so many children to eat enough, and ordinary people's children had colds and coughs, as long as they did not develop into serious illnesses such as pneumonia, parents would not take their children to the hospital**.

Nowadays, people's living conditions are better, the quality of life is exquisite, most of them are one-child families, and children are the center of the whole family. One or two children in a family, at least five or six adults around, can it be the same as serving the ancestors? How can it be compared to the past?

Parents all feel the same way, today's children are too picky eaters, and in order to let their children eat, the whole family tries their best to coax them. The older generation of people, with so many children, are raised as puppies and kittens. Only one bite of food to eat.

And it doesn't matter to you when you eat, whether you like to eat or not. If you go a little late to eat, you may not be able to eat. Since everyone has very little food, it's good to cook a meal and barely get enough to eat.

A lot of the time I eat half-full, so once a child goes late for dinner, everyone grabs it up, and the one who goes late can only be hungry.

The children of the poor were in charge of the family at an early age, and at that time, the children were very sensible. At the age of five or six, he knew how to help the family. In a peasant family, they learned to cook at the age of seven or eight and worked in the fields with adults.

At that time, the children were all beaten and pressured, and they did not say that they would die or live because of a few words of scolding and unpleasantness from others. Because the children at that time were beaten and scolded and grew up, they were in awe of parents and teachers. At that time, the parent-teacher was the authority.

Children will feel that they should be scolded by teachers and parents.

Looking at today's children, they don't know how to help the family in their twenties, and there are few who can cook. When children raised by their ancestors, they not only have poor self-care skills, poor social adaptability, and poor psychological acceptance. Basically can't withstand the wind and waves.

This may be the reason why many children can't think of committing suicide because of the criticism of teachers and parents, right?

Therefore, I think that raising a child is too delicate and harmful. The older generation of people raising children is worth creating on their own, but it can't be copied either. Due to the high rate of children at that time.

The older generation and the current people are older, there is a generation gap between the times, communication difficulties, and now the phenomenon of only children is more common, and the old people in the family give all their love to their children, and they will naturally be very tired if they love too much.

The main reason is that parents nowadays pay more attention to their children's academic performance and future development, and they used to let their children do their best, and there are not so many requirements for learning culture.

With the increase of capital investment in life, the pressure of the employment environment increases, and the time seems to be inadequate, and the main reason for the greater pressure on teachers and children.

The older generation of parents take their children to take free-range education, and now parents have to consider many factors when taking their children, so they will be particularly tired. And I remember that when I was born in the 80s and 90s, I was basically led by my brothers and sisters. Because there are a lot of children in the family, and the age span is also very large, everyone has no pressure to chase cats and dogs, and occasionally they can fish by the pond, so the children in the past lived more wanton and chic, and as long as they did not have too many accidents, their lives were basically very good.

More importantly, in the past, although a family was poor, they could afford to raise five or six children. Illustrating the methods of the past also has a certain practicality in the process of education. Although today's parents are rich and pay attention to education, their children's psychological problems are becoming more and more serious.

More importantly, every day when parents educate their children, it is like fighting a battlefield with their children, winning the child resents their parents, and defeating the child is extremely arrogant.

Therefore, it can also be seen that raising children requires skills and health to raise children, so that children can love themselves. Parents love their families, but if they use the wrong methods in the process of education, their children will become disobedient as a result. And I think the older generation of people give people the impression that they are simple and rude when they are raising children, and they don't know how to beat and scold children too much.

And they don't know how to consider some of the child's psychological feelings, so they don't need to be particularly sad and troubled because of some of the child's emotional problems when doing things.

Nowadays, children are very different when they do things, the relationship between them and their parents is not particularly good, and because of the wrong education of their parents, the children's psychological problems are very serious, which is probably a kind of miscommunication on age. Whether it is the education of the older generation or the current education, their starting point is for the good of the children. Whether it's a rough education or a meticulous education, they want their children to have a better life.

The older generation is generally free-range, as long as the child can eat enough, not frozen, not lost, not sick can, now with children is not only to live for the child to do well, education, nothing to travel, these have to be considered, and now young people have their own work to be busy, the pressure is also relatively large, plus to take care of the child is definitely more difficult.

It's because the older generation only wants their children to survive, but now people want their children to develop well in all aspects, and now people want too much, so they are so tired.

Because the way of educating children is different, the learning situation of children is different, and there will be different learning atmospheres, so the way of raising children will change.