How should a cultivated person express his anger? Can you tell me?

You can't destroy the image of a lady.,That's only to draw circles behind your back.,This is what animation taught me when I was a child.。 Anger will only make you make mistakes, let the other person succeed, let others see the joke, and will not solve any problems.

China and the Soviet Union had bad relations, and when the Soviet Union visited China one winter, the Chinese side did not welcome the crowd, and there was not even a red carpet. Only *** person was greeted at the airport. The leader of the Soviet side got off the plane and said to ***

It's so cold in Beijing in winter." The Prime Minister replied: "This is a cold snap from Siberia".

Before the Canadian team members took the stage to accept the award, they swept the podium with their hands. It can be said that it is quite appropriate.

A cultivated person should perhaps not blindly indulge the unqualified qualities of others, but express his anger and show his attitude within a reasonable range.

Unhurried, calmly tell them that this is not right and how it should be.

In the park, there are two tree trees full of pestles, which have just turned yellow. There were two old ladies in the park in full view, and they took hooks to hook and pick pestles. In the middle, someone said that the pistols were not yet cooked and could not be eaten, but the two of them also ignored them.

At this time, an old man stepped forward to dissuade him, saying that this skin is too thick! It's too thick! The two of them took the pestle and explained to the old man, not thick or thick, just go home and put it for a while.

Uncle, I'm talking about cheekiness!

There were people smoking in the elevator. Xiao Douding pointed to a small notice on the elevator and asked me, "Mom, what is this word?" I said to him: "No smoking in the elevator!" ”

Character determines fate, temper guides the future, good or bad temper is crucial to a person's growth, a good temper can shape a person, and a bad temper can also ruin a person. Everyone has their own temper from the moment they are born, so a good temper is not innate, it takes us to accumulate and exercise for a long time, so how can we cultivate a good temper? It's key to do these 10 things well.

Take a deep breath before throwing a tantrum to calm yourself down.

Endure the calm for a while, take a step back and open the sky.

Do things to people, think twice.

Respect for others is the beginning of developing a good temper.

Read more books that purify your soul and be a gentle person.

When you want to lose your temper, go out for a walk more, and when you are in a good mood, your temper will naturally improve.

Pour out your bad mood and let go of the "cause" of your bad temper first.

Think more about the good things, and the bad temper will go away by itself.

Learn to transfer emotions, and bad temper also shifts.

Let yourself keep a normal heart, and if you don't have a winning heart, you will lose your temper.

When a person is "cultivating" a good temper, he must first control his behavior, know what he can't say and can't do, think before doing things, think twice, learn to endure, no matter what situation he encounters, let himself take a deep breath, calm himself down, and then consider the pros and cons of things from different angles. Don't do something you regret because your brain is hot, the gains outweigh the losses. In addition, cultivating a good temper is actually cultivating the mind, and it is necessary to find more ways to calm down one's mind, such as reading more books, going out for a walk, and diverting one's attention with beautiful scenery and stories, which is more conducive to the cultivation of a good temper.

In the end, all the good temper in addition to the aforementioned sensitive spine, more important is whether there is a normal heart, only look down on winning and losing, no sense of victory and defeat, temper can really be controlled.

Hello, cultivated people will refrain from expressing anger or inner dissatisfaction, small things will be more tolerant, big things will analyze things in an orderly manner, and there will be emotions, but the main thing is to be reasonable.

Cultivated people will euphemistically express their bad emotions, even if they are very angry, they will respond elegantly after venting their anger, they will comfort others well, and they will let themselves go. Those who can be forgiven will choose to forgive and improve, and those who are unforgivable will choose to leave rationally!

Family style Qi Yusou, a person's character is the most profound cultivation in a person's heart.

A cultivated person's method of expressing his anger is very cultivated, that is, effectively releasing anger, or turning this anger into motivation for his own learning.

A cultivated person generally does not express his anger, but he will relatively express his dissatisfaction or emotions in a very refined manner, and he will also argue with you.

I'm sorry, you've touched my bottom line, I'm restraining myself, and I hope you can restrain yourself.

There will be no loud noise, no hysteria, Jian Douyuan, but if you observe his behavior carefully, you will see from the small movements and micro-expressions that you are not in the same mood and depressed. But soon his self-cultivation will adjust and everything will be good.

Most people in life are not as broad-minded as politicians and saints. When they encounter something infuriating, they are generally very angry and even furious. People who are born with no temper are naturally not very good at blindly tempering their tempers, and we don't need to discuss them here.

A cultivated person should not show his anger directly, but only prove his anger with his actions...

Cultivated people express anger, which in turn translates into motivation to solve problems. And ordinary people will only vent their anger, but in the end, they will lose both.

Director Dung is expressed in words, not in the facial expressions of voice.

<>01 "Sing" your anger You can listen to the ** that accompanies the anger emotion. You can also feel free to sing it and create sheet music and lyrics that perfectly match your feelings. Even if you don't understand it, what you create can make a difference, because you use your own voice, and the way, to express your inner voice.

Try to create your own "rage" song! 02 Learn a ball gameYou can learn to play tennis, golf, table tennis, volleyball, etc. Or put on boxing gloves, punch a punching bag, and imagine you're hitting the person who angered you.

You can also go to the gym to practice weightlifting, or just go for a run or swim. 03 Write down your angerTake a piece of paper and a pen and write down your feelings in detail. 05 Dance Your Anger In a non-continuous rhythm, in your home, let out your anger with dance.

06 Draw Your Anger Take out a pen and paper and draw or draw whatever comes to your mind. 07 Gestalt Psychology** – Empty Chair Technique Imagine that your angry person is sitting in a chair. You can talk to that chair, tell that chair everything you're hiding inside, scream at it.

Another safe way to express your anger is to put a couple of bulging pillows on the couch, wait until you're home alone, and then slap those pillows and yell at them to pretend they're the one you're angry about. Within minutes, your pent-up anger will be vented, and you will become more relaxed and objective. 07 Then, you will be able to talk to the person naturally After using one or more of these techniques, when you feel less emotional, talk directly to the person you are angry about, calmly explain why you are angry, gently explore different ways to solve the problem, and propose countermeasures to prevent similar incidents from happening again.

If you really don't want to pay attention to this person, then ignore him and stay away from the object of your anger. Everyone has experienced anger. The question is:

How do we deal with this feeling? Do we have action? Do we keep it in our hearts?

If we act on our anger, we may harm others. But if we keep our anger to ourselves – studies have shown that if we suppress our anger, the hormones adrenaline and cortisol that we are born of stress are secreted, making us more susceptible to cardiovascular disease. So at this point, we will hurt ourselves, not others.

So, use these techniques to express your anger in a cultivated and healthy way!

A well-cultivated person will not vent his temper of calling himself stupid and calling himself on the surface, and will always find a place where he looks like himself.

Rationally expressed his anger and anger, Qing trembled slowly and never looked back, making people feel that he was really angry.

You can scold people without swearing, or you can show your anger with your facial expressions.

When a person with cultivated thoughts wants to get angry, wait for 10 minutes, and if there is still such a thought after 10 minutes, then let it go. These 10 minutes are used to consider the possibility of doing all the jujube parts, pure rotation.

Simply tell the other person that I am unhappy, and pay attention to the tone and words, so that people will be more accepting and understand the meaning of their expression.

Uh, I don't seem to understand what you're saying, do you mean yourself? Mu annihilation of cultivated people will generally change the battlefield, so that they who were originally going to be angry can hold back. The answer was originally a game, let the other party step on the thunder and explode. Why not.

Smiling, nodding, saluting, not swearing.

Vent in a different way, right things and not people.

Speak calmly.

It's good to ignore him, and people or things that don't matter are not worth being angry about.

We want to express anger gracefully.

In the face of anger, we should first understand "where anger comes from and who makes my anger".

If we always think that others are responsible for our anger, the result can only be: we can't punish others, so we suppress our emotions; Or punish others by blaming or even violently. However, if we realize that others are not the real cause, but that the real cause is our own unmet needs, then, focus on our own needs and ask more "what is my need in this matter".

Expressing one's own needs is better for solving problems and releasing anger than judging others.

Since we are angry with our own needs, we need to pay attention to our inner feelings and express our unmet needs.

Good communication can be achieved by expressing needs. Before learning to express your needs, understand that you are responsible for your own needs. Avoiding misused language about needs, such as expressing one's own needs by conveying that "it is the duty of others to meet my needs," or blaming others for one's own needs as a matter of course is still an accusation.

Consider the difference between these words:

Why are you late! You're so slow, why did you come, I'm tired of waiting...And so on (accusations).

The expression is: your behavior makes me very uncomfortable.

You're late, and I'm in a hurry, because I wanted to see you sooner and talk a little longer, because I wanted to have an ice cream ...... earlyAnd so on (feeling + expressing the need).

The expression is: I am anxious that my needs cannot be met.

Although it is their own needs that are not met, the former is to blame others, and the latter is to express needs.

In the same way, for example, the child does not put away the desk:

Why don't you clean up your desk (accusation).

I was a bit disappointed that you didn't clean up your desk because mom especially needed to have a tidy environment (feelings of disappointment + unmet needs).

This sends a signal that I need you to help me meet my needs, not that I accuse you of not meeting my needs. On this basis, if you want your child to make adjustments in time, you can add your own euphemistic request. Then, the chances of your needs being met are far greater than blaming your child.

When you accuse others, even your own face is hideous.

Expressing anger gracefully starts with learning to express your needs.

Everyone has the desire to satisfy others, especially those they love, but no one wants to be blamed and dictated. Expressing the need, in a sense, is also a force to show weakness.

Let's take a look at how a cultivated person should express anger.

In this modern society, we are talking more and more about human design. We don't just label others, we get asked for by someone. Warm man, scumbag, Fu Mei, green tea and ......We use this term to understand others, expect their performance, and manage our own image.

Take a look at Goku's Q&A and Zhihu's long list of questions, just a little bit different words:Emotional Intelligence Table

What now? How should introversion and distancing change? We can know how much people care about their good image.

I wish I could get better, and of course, there's nothing wrong with that. However, if I just perform according to people's designs, then even the best qualities can become a mask, a false self that binds me.

For example, many people believe that a cultured person will behave calmly, be clear-headed, and have a light wind.

He doesn't get angry easily, or he can express or defuse anger with great skill. Therefore, when many people try to perform this kind of performance, they are more likely to overly suppress and disguise themselves, asking them to remain calm and accept calmly in front of whoever they are. However, as time went on, his heart became more and more uncomfortable.

Why?

Because anger is a very normal emotional response in humans。We need to release the negative stress in our hearts and adjust our relationships with others by venting and expressing anger. Without the power of "anger", we are likely to gradually become apathetic, stiff, or weak.

Therefore, anger is never a bad thing. As long as it is handled properly, it can have a very positive effect.

If a cultured person is skilled at dealing with his anger, he will first categorize the things that cause anger and find out whether it is "mine", "yours" or "his". If this anger is caused by his own personality and the complexities of his past, and the person in front of him is only a fuse, or even a reflection, then he will not spread his anger to others.

Exercising, singing, talking to friends or advisors, writing letters. He will know how to vent his anger and mend his heart in a way that suits him. If it is "your business", then he will express his inner feelings in a serious and depressed way, and he may be deeply moved and angry even if he encounters something extremely unfair and painful.

I, the Buddha and the Buddha, will inevitably roar like a lion, "not to mention that we are ordinary people."

At this point, the power of anger can form boundaries and deter others. However, if it is "his business", the "he" here refers to objective force majeure factors such as fate and human nature, and he will try his best to understand it with his current strength and try to get along with it.

In the process, he may have a negative emotional vent towards his loved ones or fall into a depressed stateBut this is a normal manifestation of the power to dissolve fate, and there is no need to criticize yourself too much.

That's my take on the problem. The above is purely my personal opinion.