Children are addicted to sabotage, and the more they train, how to use the decreasing reward method

First of all, we should understand what is the method of diminishing rewards? In fact, to put it simply, the diminishing reward method is a way for us to educate children rationallyThat is to say, to educate children to divide sensibility and rationality, and the perceptual education method is based on our subjective assumptions, that is, we feel that we are right, so we educate, but the facts show that what we do is not necessarily correct. The rational way of education is based on objective factors to judge the results, so as to determine a way of education, of course, the rational way of education is better, and the method of diminishing rewards is a very rational way of education, its specific practices and grasp of the elements, need to pay attention to the following points:

1. Reward is mainly supplemented by criticism

That is to say, our reward is greater than criticism, under normal circumstances, our children need the encouragement of others when they encounter difficulties, because at the beginning the child's psychology is fragile, if they encounter difficulties, we often give him encouragement and support, this time will be a good exercise of children's resilience, so it should be based on rewards.

2. Decreasing rewards for disciplining "bear children".

I believe everyone has heard a story, that is, an old man in order to let the child stop making trouble, give them 5 yuan on the first day, encourage them to continue to make trouble, give them three yuan on the second day, and only give them 5 cents on the third day, as a result, the child feels that he gives very little, so he plans not to listen to the old man, of course, he will no longer make trouble, in fact, this is a very good method of decreasing rewards.

The above two are the essentials and principles that need to be mastered by the diminishing reward method, and we can use this method appropriately when educating children in our daily lifeHowever, it is important to remember to grasp the above two principles, otherwise this method is likely to fail.

If the child behaves well, he should be given some spiritual and material rewards, on the contrary, if he keeps doing sabotage, tell him that we are disappointed, temporarily take back the previous reward, and when he behaves well next time, he can not only return it, but also reward him with a new gift, so that the child gradually becomes sensible.

You can tell your child in good words that if you don't destroy it for a while, your mother will fulfill your wish.

Yes, just give the child something they like, so that the child will be obedient.

When a child does a good deed, parents must reward him, and if he continues to destroy things, he will be punished accordingly.

If your child behaves well, you can reward your child with a favorite toy or take your child to an amusement park.

You can give your child some appropriate rewards and praises, so that your child will slowly improve and get rid of many bad problems.

You can tell your child gently, if you are a good mother, I will reward you with a lollipop.