In your opinion, should you have a second child?

A child is not just born so simple, from the child's food, clothing, housing and transportation, to the child's hobbies, study, work to invest a lot of manpower and material resources, if two children can not ensure the quality of life of the child. Maybe if you only have one child, you can go out with your family every year to relax, but two children can't cope with it on their own. ‍‍

We know that most of the reasons for wanting a second child are because the first child is a daughter, because the traditional concept in our country is that only boys can pass on the ancestry, so there is no son is the bloodline can not be passed on, which is the reason why most people want a second child, of course, with the publicity and education in recent years, this kind of thinking is gradually decreasing, especially the new generation of this kind of thing is getting weaker and weaker. But I think boys and girls can provide for us in old age, and we don't need to worry about gender. ‍‍

When a woman is over 35 years old, her body is going downhill, her ovarian function is reduced, and her chromosome quality is reduced, which will also directly affect the physical condition of the fetus. Therefore, it is necessary to evaluate fertility in addition to routine preconception check-ups before trying to conceive. After all, having a child is not the goal, having a healthy child is the ultimate goal.

A child I can grow up with her, experience a different life together, have a strong heart to cultivate a Guo Jingjing is better than raising ten working boys, live not only to pass on the lineage, but also to have their own life, want to travel and vacation, go to the world, do what they like, and fight with their husband to eat, drink and play Tesco together. It's okay to add one child in, two children are too many. There is only one life, so why live as a money-making machine and an old mother.

As an only child, we can deeply understand that in such a high-pressure social environment, we need to honor our parents, our spouse's parents and our children, we are like a lever in the middle of the dumbbell under great pressure, at this time, if there are brothers and sisters to share the burden, not only for themselves, but also for their parents.

One child is good, there are many contradictions, I am pro-body, buy my parents are farmers and have no money, my sister and I graduated from college, basically have no savings, my younger brother is the youngest, I and my sister give money to go to school, and I also pay money to find a job, buy a house My parents have no money to pay a down payment, in order not to let my parents worry, my husband and brother-in-law discussed it, the family gave 50,000 yuan to my younger brother, he made up a little bit and paid a down payment, there is no money to decorate my sister and I give 20,000 yuan each, and there is no bride price for marriage and 30,000, Now that my younger brother is rich, he doesn't need two brothers-in-law and sisters, no matter how he looks at us, he doesn't like us, and there are no younger siblings who are good to our two sisters.

The economy is the foundation and a prerequisite. If the economy is fine, you can live if you want it. But if the economy is not good, I will be stretched, and if I have a second child, both adults and children will suffer.

To train children from childhood to adulthood, this number is estimated to be not small, and there are many people who want to have more children to share the burden of providing for the elderly, both children can be cultivated excellent, and they can live a worry-free life when they grow up, so that they can support the elderly without worry. How many young people live with mortgages and car loans, and the moonlight days are almost old.

The husband didn't want the second child, and the twelve-year-old Dabao wanted it, but also to tell others that I could still have children, so I had a second child. After giving birth, the whole family was happy, and Dabao was especially happy. For Dabao, there is a younger brother or sister who chats with his classmates at school and writes essays; For Dabao, when our parents died, he still had loved ones who could accompany him.

There is no need to have a second child, since there have been people, there has been no concept of a second child.

The two children are not good, and they will fight for property in the future.

I don't want my child to have no support when he is difficult. When you are frustrated and have a hard time, you have someone to rely on when you encounter difficulties, there is someone other than your parents who can help you find a way to solve the problem, and the first person who can stand up so that you can trust when you go out into society. ‍‍

As an only child, I will also have some character defects such as self-centeredness and lack of responsibility, and although having siblings does not necessarily become responsible, responsible, and shared, parents can better cultivate such qualities in their children. ‍‍

We may not be under pressure in second-tier cities here, and almost all of us are having a second child!

I don't want my child to continue this lonely childhood. As only children, we used to fantasize about our brothers and sisters, that we could be each other's playmates, that we could suffer together when we were punished, and that we could share the happiness we had.

Everybody thinks differently. I don't want it anyway.

I'm not an only child, I have an older brother, I feel very good, my parents have something to do with my brother and me, if I am one, I don't know how to deal with it.

Second child! Ten-year-old daughter wants younger siblings! Husband doesn't want it! I'm 30 years old too!

It is not suitable for 4 families with a second child, don't try it, there is no benefit at all.

Since the country opened up the two-child policy, many parents who have the physical conditions to have a second child and have the desire to have a second child have responded to the national policy and joined the ranks of having a second child, but not all families are suitable for having a second child.

The first type: the mother's physical condition does not allow it.

Many mothers in the introduction of the open second child policy, the body is no longer suitable for the birth of a second child, more than the body's best parenting time, if you insist on accompanying the search to give birth to a second child, it will face a great risk, the mother will have a risk of miscarriage, the baby's growth and development will also be affected, in the case of not suitable for the birth of a second child, do not easily try to have a second child.

Second: the family environment cannot meet the growth needs of the second child.

Economic conditions are also a very important factor, economic conditions can not support the desire to have a second child, so don't make a hasty decision to have a second child, not let the second treasure be born, but can not meet the growth needs of the second treasure materially.

Before giving birth to a second child, the husband and wife should communicate well, plan the plan after the birth of the second child, and give birth to the second child without full certainty.

The third type: Dabao is emotionally strong and cannot accept the birth of Erbao.

Dabao does not accept Erbao, because of the competition for favor and the incident of hurting Erbao is often reported, children are too young, psychologically do not accept Erbao, if they give them a "surprise", the "surprise" becomes "fright", and it will also lay a hidden danger for the growth of Erbao. Therefore, parents who want to have a second child should not add younger siblings to them without Dabao's consent.

Fourth: The father is not careful, and the mother-in-law does not accept the arrival of the two treasures.

Giving birth to a second child is a very beautiful thing, but the purpose of some parents to have a second child is very funny, the husband's mind is not at home, and the wife wants to save her husband's heart through the birth of the second treasure, but the birth of the second treasure has brought trouble to the wife.

The most tragic thing is that the husband is indifferent to his wife, and the mother-in-law is unwilling to accept the birth of Erbao.

Therefore, these four kinds of families must not easily have a second child, so that the quality of life of the family will definitely be affected, and even endanger the health of the body, which is very unworthy.