Why do good people still feel pain so often

Sometimes,A good person, his moral yoke is heavier。Because he was labeled as "kind", he was on the moral high ground and couldn't get down. Many times he does something not based on his inner drive, not on his inner needs and feelings, but on external judgment and value orientation.

Such a person is actually very tired of life, and it is impossible for a person to pay attention to the needs of others all the time, and the most fundamental and important need of a person is to satisfy himself.

In other words, to understand,Only when people first satisfy themselves can they have the ability to satisfy others, but in fact, a person's energy and energy are limited, and it is impossible to meet the needs of others without limit

Taking care of yourself and not causing trouble to this society is actually making a great contribution to society.

In order to live up to this collective expectation, they can only choose to bite the bullet, in this case, the primitive feelings in their hearts (grievances, resentment, injustice) will run out to haunt him at some point, so the most direct expression of emotions and feelings is pain.

They don't understand that this feeling of their own comes from **, becauseThey can't get consistency and harmony within themselves, and sometimes kind people can't figure out whether some of their kind actions are based on their own inner calling or on worldly perspectives. So their feelings are actually ** inInner conflict

If you don't have a high level of self-awareness, you probably don't know why this is the case.

You can be kind, but your kindness should be a little sharp. Many people's kindness is just to please others, wear a mask to hide their truest self, and hope to get the approval of others by wronging themselves, so when they don't get the corresponding feedback, they will produce an unbalanced psychological state, and this kindness is not unconditional.

If you are too kind, you can't express your true self, all emotions and dissatisfaction will be suppressed in your heart, and over time you will be depressed, because the emotions are not released, and the psychological pressure will form physiological pressure, which will be accumulated at the subconscious level, and 95% of people are dominated by the subconscious, so many people will feel very crying and sad inexplicably.

Intrinsically good is a noble character and good behavior and morality, but not everyone is as kind as you, what you do for others may just be the so-called self-touching, or in the eyes and understanding of others, it is just a matter of course. If you are not strong enough in your heart at the moment, and you want to get the same kindness and love, you are a gentleman, but you can't ask all beings to be gentlemen! Sensitive psychology will be your biggest trouble, and the self-righteous kindness will slowly imprison your heart step by step, and you can't go out and can't change it.

The premise of caring for others is that you must first learn to love yourself and learn to put yourself first.

First of all, I think it should be said that kindness is not the same thing as being open-minded and being able to see and think about everything. Kind people will always think about others when they encounter problems, be kind to others, be willing to help others, and do not ask for anything in return. However, if you can't penetrate the world, can't see through people's feelings, and can't tolerate all kinds of things, you will feel awkward in your heart, or aggrieved, or painful.

Therefore, a kind heart is good and should be fully affirmed, but it is also necessary to strengthen the cultivation of character and make yourself open-minded, so that you can be unmoved and always maintain a good attitude.

Kindness does not mean that you can truly be selfless, and when your own interests are harmed, you will also be sad and sad because of it.

Distress has nothing to do with how good a person is, and distress is only determined by the answer that comes to a person's inner self-evaluation.

I believe that we should often hear this sentence in our lives, that is, the evil lasts for a thousand years, which means that those who often do evil will live longer. But in real life, kind people are often always bullied, so from a psychological point of view, why are good people always bullied, I will analyze it with you.

In general, good people tend not to count too much, and they are always thinking about others, so some people will use these to bully the kind people in their lives, and often do not resist as strongly as others.

I think that's what happens from a psychological point of view, where those who are kind think that they have the obligation to be good to others, and those who are not good-hearted are very vicious.

Because people know that she is kind, they think she is easy to bully, and then they bully her, who is bullied by those who do not bully kind, those "scourges", others dare not bully her, it is good if she does not bully others.

Kindness does not mean weakness, so do what you should do, and you can't blindly back down, so that you won't always get hurt!

Kind people are always bullied, because everyone thinks that kind people are easy to talk and have a soft temperament, and they can push anything to this kind person to do, which is bullying people in disguise.

Because I don't know how to refuse, I am afraid that rejecting others will hurt others, and finally lead to myself being very embarrassed or beyond my ability But in fact, the first thing is to love yourself

Kind people will always have good fortune, don't judge heroes by temporary success or failure, don't look at the momentary damage in front of you, I believe you will definitely have great blessings in the future.

1 Because they are kind 2 Because people are selfish 3 People change with the change of environment.

Because goodness has good fruit, and what you sow, you will reap it.

Society is like this, the more honest you are, the more you are bullied.

Because good people tend to give.

More or less benevolent, friendly, generous, and easily trusting others are often used by others because of this.

Being bullied, taken advantage of, and deceived.

So it's easy to get hurt.

Amorous people are always sad because they are ruthless, so why bother to cling to who is more sincere to whom)

If not, then why are they called good people?

Ma Shan is the same as being ridden.

If you feel that the pain is due to your kindness, then it is likely that you are not really kind, but you do not know how to reject others, or you care too much about what others think and feel. Your understanding of goodness may be skewed.

Kindness is a virtue, but kindness is not high, knowing defeat is weakness, and it is not pandering to others. Kindness is more manifested in having empathy for others, being able to empathize, being able to consider problems from the other person's point of view, and is more of a rational choice. It's just so kind, because we may choose not to be kind, to put it bluntly, we have to have a bottom line and principles, not to be submissive, not to be at the mercy of others, otherwise it is not kindness, it is a good man.

Kindness depends on who the object is, and if you use the wrong person in the wrong place and still be kind, it can only be your own ignorance and weakness. Refuse when you should refuse, say no to Qi Trembling decisively, let people know that they have an attitude, an edge, and a personality, otherwise they can only bring pain to themselves.

As the saying goes, people are good at bullying, horses are good at riding, don't blindly do things that make yourself miserable and others open, occasionally show your edge, shine a sharp thorn, the sky can't fall, it's no big deal. Being kind to yourself is definitely not selfish, you are the most important thing, and do less stupid things that are good in the eyes of others.

Because it's just a law of nature.

People are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden!

Kindness is not rewarded accordingly. And even by the infinity. Will you still insist on kindness?

My mind is not that high. I don't think I'm going to hold it anymore. I would choose to ignore it.

Or pretend not to see. Don't do those good things anymore.

In the news or other interview-like programs. You can always see people who do good deeds. Anti-falsification.

You're falling like some old man. The young man went and lifted the old man up. The old man said that the young man had knocked him down.

There were even reports at one time that said. Do good deeds to help up the old man who has fallen. He was also ordered to lose money by the court.

Because there is no corresponding evidence to prove it. Therefore, the court can only decide on the basis of facts. If there is monitoring, that's good.

Now there are places. It is not possible to monitor all of them. So when you do good deeds, you really have lingering palpitations.

But there is a kind heart. Maybe I will do it when I encounter something. I haven't been falsely accused.

But I did come across an elderly man who fell. I looked around. It seems that there is really no monitoring.

I didn't dare to help me and walked over. But as I walked, I kept looking back at the old man. It's really conflicted inside.

Hold it up for fear of being falsely attacked. Because we really don't have a mine at home. I really can't help it.

No, no. I also feel that I can't be a man who can't see death without help. So I'll walk about 10 meters.

He came back and helped the old man up. Fortunately, the person was not thrown very hard. It's just that it's a little difficult for him to get up on his own.

After asking, the old man is 78 years old. This old man is okay. Thinking or something is still relatively clear.

I called her child on my mobile phone. I said that I fell and someone else helped me up. But he still let me go.

He said he could just sit on the side of the road and wait for the child to pick him up. I don't know what kind of psychology this old man has. I'm afraid that her children will come to slander me.

I don't think there's anything wrong with the old man. I just left. I'm also afraid of getting into trouble.

Anyway now. In real life. Didn't think about not doing good things.

But if you don't reciprocate something good. I don't need anything in return, but as long as he doesn't lie to me. If he slandered me.

I will definitely not insist on kindness in the future.

A kind person may not be loved deeply, but he will definitely be hurt; Kind people often think about others, but they are always bruised; A kind person chose to be a sheep, but inadvertently met a wolf. Kind people do things for others, always worry that they will not do well, others are satisfied, their hearts will be at ease, others are not satisfied, but they will feel indebted. I often don't care.

Those who suffer losses always bear silently, and such people naturally suffer more. However, good people are very open-minded, so even if they suffer, it is just an excess for them. At the same time, the psychology of not caring also makes the suffering not so serious that it is unbearable.

This is also a kind of mentality of kind people, a very open mentality, which makes suffering very small, and emotional intelligence is also high, and many times it will automatically disintegrate negative energy or harm caused by others.