How to get out of a feudal marriage and family?

Feudal marriage and family still exist today, and their ideas are slowly precipitated by the accumulation of ideas over many years. Although many people now know that they believe in science and are open-minded, there are still those feudal families. They often have some practices that are difficult for modern people to accept, and the best way to leave such a family is to leave.

Because in addition to leaving, there is only a way to improve their deep-rooted ideas, and everyone must know how difficult it is, so leaving directly is the best way. <>

Many families are still patriarchal, and many girls who marry into such families are plagued by the problem of having sons, because there is no direct way to give birth to sons, they are all random, and if they find that they give birth to daughters, they will let them give birth to them, or they will be killed, and even insist on having boys after giving birth to three daughters. If you can't give birth to a boy, you won't be treated by your parents-in-law, and even your husband won't help her wife. In such a family, everyone is forcing the woman to have a child, and even if there are more children killed, she will face the risk of being difficult to get pregnant again, even at such a price, she is still urging to have a boy.

Although there are few such examples, they definitely exist, and their family has a throne to inherit or a boy to live or die, how many women are miserable. Some even thought of suicide, and some families enveloped Feng Shui goddesses. I will also invite such people to help give birth to children, and go to the temple to ask for the magic weapon to bless the birth of a son.

Such family ideas are long-term deep-rooted ideas, and it is certainly impossible to change such a family in a short period of time, and the only thing that can keep oneself from being violated is to leave, as a free person, in an unhappy family life is far from the freedom to live independently.

First of all, if you want to break away from a feudal marriage and family, you need to make a lot of efforts yourself.

You have to know a truth, that is, it is difficult for a person to break through the shackles of the original family.

But if you really want to break away from the concept of marriage in your original family, you need to leave this family.

I don't mean to disown you from your parents or anything.

You need to be able to support yourself enough, even when you talk about marriage in the future.

You don't need to ask your parents for anything, so that you can get rid of your original family's view of marriage.

So you need to work very hard yourself, or you can guarantee that you will get married.

Don't you stretch out your hands and ask for a penny from your parents? If you think it's too hard.

I would suggest that you give up this idea immediately, because once you ask your parents for money to get married.

You have to accept their advice, otherwise they won't give you any money.

In short, it depends on how you do it, and if your parents are good at talking, it would be the best.

You can talk to them about what age they are still doing feudal marriage.

It's good to fight them to the end, or you will suffer in the future.

This can only rely on your own efforts, the process will be very difficult, and you may not be able to really get rid of it, ask yourself in the face of such a result, will you still be willing to put in your unimaginable efforts? If you're yes, then don't be afraid and face your parents, if it's negative, then there's nothing to be done.

Speaking of feudal families, feudal parents, or the feudal village that gave birth to them, in fact, we are not qualified to say anything bad about them. Because when they were as old as us, they grew up in a feudal environment, and what they learned was passed down from generation to generation, and they couldn't choose what to learn on their own, and they had no other learning opportunities except for what their parents handed down.

But just because we have the opportunity to learn, we have the opportunity to question feudalism and have a certain ability. First of all, we still have to talk to our parents, although our parents have also been "poisoned" by feudalism since childhood, parents all over the world love their children, and they hope that their children can be happy no matter what. Of course, if your parents don't accept your attitude at all, you can choose not to live in the house, take a tougher attitude, and let them know that you are determined.

They may think that their thoughts are not wrong, at this time you can say some bad things that happened because of their thoughts, and then show them more news, similar to "fake science" and other news, and watch more easy-to-understand popular science programs Many times they just don't have contact with the outside world to see short, and you give them more opportunities to get in touch will still improve.

1. First of all, what should be determined as the legacy of the Die-Ready Initiator? This is clearly stated in the inheritance law. It is not the general division of the inheritance to the spouse first.

However, if the deceased has property jointly owned with others, the joint property should be divided first, and the property allocated by the deceased will belong to the inheritance and be inherited in accordance with the provisions of the law.

2. Secondly, it should be seen whether the deceased has a will, and if there is a will, it should be executed according to the will.

3. If there is no will, who should be determined as the heirs? Heirs are in the first order (spouse, children, parents) and in the second order (siblings, grandfathers, mothers, maternal grandparents). After the succession begins, it is the same as if the first-order heirs will inherit, and the second-order heirs will not inherit.

If there is no first-order heir, the second-order heir shall inherit.

4. Finally, it is to determine the share of each heir. According to the provisions of the Inheritance Law, the share of inheritance inherited by heirs in the same order shall generally be equal. Heirs who lack the ability to work who have special difficulties in life shall be taken care of when distributing the inheritance.

Heirs who have fulfilled the main obligation to support the decedent or who live with the decedent may receive more than one share of the inheritance when the inheritance is distributed. If an heir who has the ability and the capacity to support does not fulfill his obligation to support, the inheritance shall be distributed without or less. Where the heirs agree through consultation, it may also be unequal.

Are you a lazy woman in the Chinese Department of Yangjiang Vocational and Technical College, as soon as you do your homework, you want to copy it on the Internet and find someone to help.

Shame on our Chinese faces!!

Secondly: When you talk about the feudal ideology in the marriage system, you are talking about the bride price or something. There is no way around this, and the thinking of the Chinese people is still stuck in the mode of thinking of passing on the family lineage, and family planning has been forcibly implemented for decades!

As a result, there is a serious imbalance in the ratio of men and women! Although the thinking has changed now, there are too few girls now!

There is a small survey, randomly interviewing unmarried women in first-tier cities, if the man enters the woman's house, will the house and car be bought, and who will buy it. The answer is really wonderful!

32% of girls want men to buy it, citing security and self-motivation!

55% said that they would pay together, on the grounds that they and their parents had no money! 2% said that they bought it themselves, the reason was that they were rich, and they came to her house to live and live, so they should buy it from the woman!

The rest is not to marry a man who is rich, the reason is to be rich? That is to say, except for being a man, he can't stand on his own, is not self-motivated, doesn't want to forge ahead, and wants to empty gloves white wolf!

Also, if I have a house and a car, what kind of bullshit will I get in! The wives that the Ming media is marrying have to be Lafayettes, and they dare to join the family? I'm not a masochist!

So, this is just a deformed mind that can develop! There is no such thing as feudalism!

The feudal ideology has been influenced for thousands of years, and it is difficult to completely eliminate it for a while. But slowly it will be fine, a matter of time.

1. The marriage system is conventional, as it is all over the world, and it generally exists in societies of various systems, so marriage is not necessarily a feudal idea.

2. Socialism advocates equality between men and women, and also advocates freedom of marriage, while supporting monogamy.

Little brother, why do you still think that it is socialism now? It's not socialism since the sixties and seventies, okay, although it's under the banner of socialism, but it's not anymore for a long time, I'll take a big risk to tell you, I won't talk about the specifics, think about it for yourself.

It's true, and it requires women to make money, and they also have to do laundry, cook, have children, and raise children, and men can make money, maybe they can only support themselves. So now there are a lot of women asking for divorce.

If you can't find the right one, you can love you, you don't get married, like my parents, I was in junior high school or divorced. I didn't have any feelings with them since I was a child, and now if I can't find someone who loves me, I'd rather live alone and be happy than have children. If you don't love it, what's the use of it.

Not happy either.

Originally, the marriage law is not very perfect, after many years of separation, if one party is unable to divorce on the grounds of illness, it should be separated for two or more years, and the marriage should be automatically dissolved, and there is no need to sue again.

I think that the marriage system has contradicted socialism, and the marriage system has some feudal ideas in it. You can not get married, no one forces you to get married. In addition, all countries in the world, regardless of the system, capitalism, king-monarchy countries also have marriage institutions.

It's not that the marriage system is contradictory, it's that society has become money-oriented, and both people have to progress to wake up.

First of all, you must know that feudal ideology is also a part of our culture, and no matter how the times progress and how the law improves, it is impossible to completely offset the culture.

The institution of marriage you are talking about is monogamous? What socialism you mean is that everyone is equal and things are shared? At this stage, the current marriage system must be the greatest common divisor of society, and it will not be turned upside down because of the will of individuals.

As for the feudalism you are talking about, I don't know what you are referring to, since it is a system, there must be rules and regulations, and its attributes are constant.

Everyone will have psychological pressure, especially in modern society, work, house, marriage, relationship and other problems make our psychological pressure more and more great. For psychological stress, we must not only learn to adjust to it, but also learn to make an appointment for it.

You shouldn't be an ordinary person! Specifically, the contradiction between the two is **? The feudal ideology in the marriage system is reflected in **? If you make this concrete, this article submission may lead to a revolution!

Tell me where it is? I think that the content that can best reflect the marriage system in our country at this stage is the marriage law, and there is no trace of feudal thought in this system, what do you say?

People don't care. There has to be a system. Of course, good people don't have to worry about it, and they have a sense of responsibility.

It is true that marriage is beneficial to men.

After thinking about it for a long time, I guess you are referring to the issue of bride price, otherwise I can't see the feudal idea in **

Do you have a problem, the traditional virtues have changed you.

No, but the morality of modern man has fallen.

"Home", a long story by Chinese writer Ba Jin**, the first part of the "Torrent Trilogy", the other two are "Spring" and "Autumn". The ** describes the crime and decay of a big feudal family in Chengdu, Sichuan Province in the early 20s of the 20th century, indicts the destruction of life by the feudal system, and praises the anti-feudal struggle of the younger generation and the awakening of democracy.

It is written about the collapse of the marriage of three people and the revolution of feudal society.

"Our Family" mainly tells the story of a series of joys and sorrows that happened in a traditional Chinese family in the nineties of the last century. Guo Hu and Chu Lan's love has been strongly opposed by their families and coerced by their enemies Simao from the very beginning, in the traditional concept of parents and siblings, they do not accept the reality that Chu Lan is older than Guo Hu and has been married and has children, but Guo Hu disdains this and still sticks to the position of love with Chu Lan. In order to break up Guo Hu and Chu Lan, Simao tried every means to sabotage in secret, and even created a vicious incident that caused Chu Lan to become a vegetative person, after experiencing the accident of the little sister falling and hurting her leg, the twists and turns of Ai Hong's deceptive marriage to Guo Hu, and the sadness of her father's death with hatred, Chu Lan finally woke up miraculously in the call of Guo Hu's love, and the relationship between the two was finally recognized and blessed by the family.

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My mother is also a very feudal woman. Maybe it was because of the influence of my grandmother, who married my dad at the age of 25 and then got married and gave birth to me. After all, in that era, getting married at the age of 25 was already an older leftover girl, but my mother felt that it was good to get married at the age of 25, and it would be talked about by others if she fell in love early, I don't know what kind of thinking she had, although my mother and my father got married because of a blind date, not because they were in love.

Now that I'm grown up, I'm 20 years old, and I'm in college, so I think it's normal to fall in love now, and on college campuses, you can see couples on the road every time, and if you get married in college, you can add credits! But my mother doesn't think so, she doesn't allow me to fall in love in college, she said that the love in college is very unreliable, and the society is not sure that she is working in ** when she comes out of the society in the future, and it is difficult to survive if she has a long-distance relationship. Of course, I know my mom is doing it for my good, but she just thinks that I fell in love too early and lost her face.

She wanted me to wait until I graduated from college to find a stable job in society, and then find a suitable marriage partner in my company. At that time, they were all in the right place, and the work was very similar, and it was great that two people could help each other together. But I don't like the man I work with, just like I won't be looking for a male classmate with my major as my boyfriend.

I think that's too monotonous, and if you think differently in the future, you're likely to get into a fight. And the two of them are engaged in the same career, after all, they both say that their peers are enemies, and I am afraid that I will compete with him for jobs in the future. But my mother's words, I can't ignore it, so now that I have a boyfriend, I still hide it from my mother first, I want to wait until I graduate from college and go to work, and then tell my mother that I was the boyfriend I talked about at work, so that even if I am not in a job position, she can't say anything.