What makes a good parent? How to be a better parent?

As a parent, you must have the ability to be self-aware, and often conduct self-reflection to see if your words and deeds have a positive effect on the growth of your child, otherwise you must correct it in time; Don't beat and scold your child, this kind of scolding will make your child grow up in fear and seriously affect your child's self-esteem and self-confidence, so parents should pay attention; Spend more time with your child, love him unconditionally, encourage and guide him more, so that he can distinguish between right and wrong and learn self-control.

There are no parents who are born successful, and there are no parents who don't need to learn, successful parents are the result of continuous self-learning and improvement.

No matter how many outstanding parents are, none of them can easily succeed in teaching their children. In the 21st century, the information society has higher and higher requirements for people's quality, and any position requires training and assessment, but it seems that only giving birth to and educating children does not need training, as if they will automatically go to work and will never be laid off, in fact, this understanding is wrong.

Everyone should learn the relevant knowledge before becoming a parent, and the sooner the awareness and knowledge of how to be a parent, the better, the more fully the better.

Each of us has to be a parent in the future life, however, parents also have good and bad sayings, some parents are good, and the children educated are also very good, both sensible and polite, but some parents do not pay attention to their words and deeds at all, rampant and domineering, narrow-minded, and there is no parental posture in front of the child, so that the child is also lacking in psychology and character, so if we want to become a good qualified parent, what should we do?

As a first-time father and mother, we must also be thoughtful, and I will also be a parent in the future, but I am thinking, if it is my child, how should I educate him, first of all, I will educate her words and deeds from an early age, as the saying goes, disaster comes from the mouth, yes, everything is because my mouth is too broken so it will cause such a big thing. So I will let my children know how to be polite from an early age, say hello to acquaintances, don't say a word, this is the most impolite performance, and there is no swearing in front of the child, in fact, the child's memory is the best, because your words and deeds will be presented in their minds, if you say dirty words in front of the child, hit them, or do something out of line, then he will be branded with the shadow of childhood, which is not good for their future growth. <>

Secondly, we have to cultivate their self-care ability from an early age, now parents are basically only one, most of the family are only children, but is the only child really good, since childhood is the treasure of the family, the pearl of the palm, can not beat, scold, every time the child does something wrong, parents always indulge them, so that the child will have a lot of bad habits, so, we should teach them from an early age what is right, what is wrong, they do wrong things should also warn them, what should be done, how to change, If they are making mistakes, what should they do, don't always make them wrong again and again, which will only ruin them.

Do your best to cook every meal for them every day, and don't always let them eat on the street, because children's health is also the bottom line of being a human being, and eating and drinking is not much good for their health. We also need to pay attention to this, usually study more, listen more, as long as you can lead by example, I believe that your children must be the best.

Be an adult with your eyes open and closed, and don't easily interfere with your child's life. As the old saying goes, people don't get confused, they don't become adults. When children grow up and have their own life values, many times their views may not be consistent with their parents.

However, we have to respect the views of children, who grow up and have their own big characteristics to be themselves. As long as you don't look at him for any principled mistakes, just go for it. At the same time, I also have my own independent life and pursuit, busy before retirement, running for life, to get old, the second spring of life, more to cherish.

You can't rely on the old and sell the old, and you can't be on top. From the moment children come into this world, they are members of society, and their social status is equal, rather than the capital that their parents take in and use. It is the responsibility and obligation of parents to raise children, and parents should also know how to be blessed and virtuous when they are filial to their children.

Respecting the old and loving the young, helping the old and bringing the young, are mutually reinforcing and complementary. Parents can't be proud and high; It cannot be thought that there is no merit and hard work.

Filial piety is a high degree of consciousness and virtue.

Maintain a healthy body and be able to take care of yourself. If you are not in good health, especially if you can't take care of yourself and have to let your child spend a lot of time and energy to take care of it for a long time, to be honest, if this child has no disgust at all, he is simply a saint. There is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time, and an old saying exhausts all the philosophies in the world, and the taste can only be savored by yourself.

If you compare your heart to your heart, you may not be able to do it yourself. Being healthy and self-care is an important prerequisite for a good life in the twilight years.

You can't be nosy and self-righteous. In front of their children, parents always point fingers, shout and shout, and are accustomed to judging and talking about long and short. But when the children grow up, they should let go and let them play and create on their own.

Moreover, the old vision does not recognize the new problems, and the previous empirical methods are outdated. Talk less and do as much as you can.

As parents, we must keep pace with the times, society is developing, and our thinking must also progress. Especially now, life is changing too fast, and the old thinking and old concepts must be actively changed, and they must not be stubbornly unchanged. For example:

Dietary customs, hygiene habits, personal preferences, etc., should be adapted to the new situation as much as possible.

Self-esteem and self-love do not affect the child's social reputation. When he was young, he may have been high-spirited, he did something foolish, he was condemned by society, and his children were small, so he was humiliated and unable to resist and was helplessly suppressed in his heart. And old, the so-called forty is not confused, fifty knows the destiny of heaven, has seen all the vicissitudes of life, still don't know how to feel, do what you only care about your own feelings, without considering the psychological and social impact that seriously affects the child, when you can't play, you encounter the child's dislike, you can only say that you can't live.

It is necessary to ensure that the two sides are on an equal footing. Try to avoid moral kidnapping and the coercion of a sense of giving, don't take out a handful of and a handful of urine at every turn to pull you up, you should be how you should be, but no matter what the problem, don't always measure it by whether you owe it or not. And don't always use "I'm here for your good" to intrude too much into your children's lives.

Respect the laws of nature, stop striving for excellence, and accept life as it is. Don't restrain children's nature, impose their regrets, routines or something on children, and stifle children's innocence and dreams. Healthy and free growth is really good for them.

Family is the first environment of life, parents are children's natural teachers, good family education can guide children to form a correct outlook on life, morality, and help children to succeed.

Some parents have the same fixed role as the leader of the child, the judge of the child, and the control of the child, and there is always such a reason to be an excuse for unqualified mothers, to use identity authority to suppress the child, to ignore the child's feelings, you should, you can, you must, let us get farther and farther away from the child, your anxiety, your helplessness, all your children can feel and be greatly affected. The day before yesterday, I went to the pediatric department of Xijing Hospital, and was surprised to find that the other departments were very deserted in comparison, and there was a long queue in the mental series of departments, and there were children of all ages. Those immature eyes made me infinitely distressed and fell into deep thought.

I remembered my original intention many years ago, "At that time, my mother sincerely wished you physical and mental health and a happy life", but the original intention was easy to obtain, and it was always difficult to keep, and my mother forgot it when I walked.

I listened to the lecture of the teacher of Yicuiyuan Middle School on "The Role Positioning of Parents in Family Education", and I gained a lot. As Mr. Tao Xingzhi said: "We must be able to change, in order to be worthy of being a child's gentleman" Role change can be seen so important in education, in thinking about children I think three roles are very useful, first:

Become a role model for children to learn, we want our children to be what kind of people we want to become, friends in life have no intention of evaluating your positive energy, children will be proud, will learn and imitate.

Second: Be a friend of the child, a good relationship is better than a good education, empathize with all the things she cares about, don't encounter things with different views and immediately blow up, take care of the child's self-esteem, safeguard the interests of the child, sincerely communicate with each other, and do equal relations, no evaluation, no nagging, no command.

Third: be a child's flashlight, educate three points and teach seven points, etc., patiently wait for the child to be given time and opportunities, communicate effectively, and do not control high-latitude guidance.

Let children become a better version of themselves, first of all, we must become better parents, people are different, we must allow different existences. Take care of yourself. Take the child as the core, help her become her own master, come on!