What is it that makes you glad that you are not an only child?

I am not an only child at home, and I have a younger sister who is a year younger than me, so I have to share limited things with my sister since I was a child, so I often think how comfortable it would be if I was the only one in this family, I have all the good things I want, I can have what I want, my parents will not spend the same amount of money again, and the financial burden of the family will be much smaller.

However, since I was a child, I have never lacked anything more than my sister, but I feel that I can live a happier life with my sister. When I was a child, I didn't play alone, and my sister, although we often got awkward, fought or something, but we can always face anything together, as the saying goes, blessings and hardships are the same, it should be said that it is like our brothers and sisters.

When I was a child, my parents often went out to earn money and couldn't stay at home during the day, so I had to stay at home with my sister. At that time, when we were children, we didn't have much fun, just a few children went out to play hopscotch, jumping rubber bands, playing cards or something, which was much more interesting than today's children who stayed at home all day to play on the computer and mobile phones. So, when I'm fine, I go out with my sister to play with the neighbors, but sometimes there are special times.

This afternoon, my sister and my friends went to work at my uncle's house, which was to help deal with the lobsters. Hehe, what I'm thinking of is me and my sister, we have two people, how can we be alone like their only child, we can earn much more than them, and the benefits will be more. That's when I thought:

In fact, having a sister is also a good life. Of course, my sister and I returned home that afternoon, who called us brother and sister, family!

Now that I'm older, I realize how happy it is to have a friend to talk to. The only child is just you alone at home, there is no partner who can listen to you, after all, there is a generation gap between parents, and some things to tell them will not help, at this time there are brothers and sisters around you can chat with you or something, you can't tell your parents, you can tell them, because you are in the same age, so you can better understand your mood, and you can also help you very well.

So in my opinion, having a brother or sister in the family is actually a gratifying thing, there is no need to envy those only children, although you don't experience any benefits now, but when you grow up, you can really rely on your family! You should be happy, don't you?

Only children are generally pampered at home, so they are more likely to be crushed in the face of setbacks and difficulties, but for people like us, haven't we been competing with each other and taking care of each other since childhood? We are more adaptable to this society than they are, and this is our advantage, so there is no need to be presumptuous!!

Overall, it's nice to have a family with siblings!!

I used to be envious of only children.

When I was a child, I quarreled with my brother, whether I was right or wrong, it was my fault;

When I met someone I liked in adolescence, I wrote a lot of emotional diaries and put them in my drawer, and one day when I came back from school, I found my sister sitting at my desk and flipping through my diary;

Dad came back from out of town and bought a lot of delicious and fun food, and in the end I found that none of those things were specially prepared for me, and my sister was proudly wearing a new T-shirt...

There were many moments when I felt so resentful and wished I was an only child.

It wasn't until I grew up that this perception gradually changed.

The first time this kind of change happened was last year, when I was struggling to revise for my final exams, and suddenly I received a ** from my sister, and she told me that my father was sick and now in the hospital. When I heard this, I was anxious, and I hurriedly asked if Yan was serious, when was it, and what should I do? At that moment, I found that I was terrified, I had no master, and I urgently needed someone to help me calm down.

My sister comforted me and said that there was no need to worry, she had just finished the exam, and now she is taking care of my dad in the hospital, as for the rest, I will talk about it when I go back after the exam, and then, she tells me every day about my dad's improvement, so that I can review with peace of mind, and the exam is very good.

After the final exam, I didn't even pack my things and ran back to see my dad in the hospital. There were a lot of people in the hospital, and in a walkway, the crowd was bustling, and I noticed a girl sitting in a chair with her hands clenched, and next to her sat a person who resembled her father, both of them with anxious eyes, and at that moment, I thought of myself. If I were an only child, if something happened to one of my parents, and I had no one to talk to, no one to share the pain with, would I be so embarrassed?

At that moment, I was extremely glad that I was a person with a sister and a brother.

Our family is not a child, I am the eldest, I also have a younger brother, he is two years younger than me, it turns out that I hate that I have a younger brother, because I always feel that everything has to be robbed with me, there was no computer before, when there was no smart phone, he grabbed the TV with me, with the computer he grabbed the computer with me, with the mobile phone he grabbed the mobile phone with me, so I especially hate him, every time I will ask my parents why they want to have a younger brother, if there is no younger brother, I can enjoy the love of my parents alone, Until I was twenty years old, I still had this idea, that is, I didn't want to have this brother, but one thing changed my mind. That's a TV series, what kind of TV series, it's the hot search TV series "Surgery" a few months ago.

It is mainly a patient's mother who is sick and hospitalized, her father is in prison, and he is separated from his mother, but when her mother needs to sign for surgery when she is hospitalized, when her daughter is about to sign, her father is suddenly seriously ill again, and her daughter has not finished signing, so she immediately ran to the emergency department to see her father, when my mother was watching this TV series, my mother said that it would be a loss to the two of them, if it was you alone, how tired it would be, after listening to this sentence, I didn't know how, All of a sudden, I warmed up, hey, yes, I also have a younger brother, and we can take care of each other in the future, and I changed this idea at that time.

Another time was the Chinese New Year, grandma because she had diarrhea, no one took care of her for a while, she lived alone in her uncle's house, and sometimes she couldn't take care of herself at all, but my uncle had to work again, so I had no choice but to take advantage of the New Year to run relatives and let all the children discuss it together to see what to do.

Therefore, there are still more benefits to having two children in the family, although the pressure on the two children is relatively large, and the burden is heavier, but in exchange for twenty years for a lifetime of happiness, you still earn more money, of course, there are not too many children, two are the best, regardless of men and women.

As an only child, we face a lot of problems when our parents are getting older and need to be cared for. Here are some of the issues you may face:

1.Take all responsibility alone.

As an only child, we need to take on all the responsibilities of caring for our parents. Without the support of our siblings, we may feel even more lonely and helpless. Sometimes, we may feel a psychological burden and loss, which may affect our work and family life.

2.You need to balance your family and work.

While taking care of our parents, we also need to manage our own family and work. This can be very stressful for us and can have a negative impact on our health and well-being. In this case, we need to find the right balance so that we can both continue to care for our parents while remaining healthy, happy, and satisfied in the process.

3.Pressures in terms of time and money.

Taking care of an elderly parent takes a lot of time and money. This is especially true in terms of long-term care, medical and medication costs. This pressure can cause our financial and personal lives to be disconnected from our ideals or have to face more financial pressures.

4.Mental health issues.

The process of caring for our parents for a long time can have a negative impact on our mental health. This can lead to increased stress, emotional instability and loneliness, and may even lead to depression and depression.

In general, while it is our responsibility and obligation to take care of our elderly parents, there are many challenges as an only child. These are issues that we need to face, and we need to find a balance and find the right solution. For those who are only children, they need to find a balanced model that will help them take care of their aging parents, while also taking into account their own health, happiness and satisfaction.

In addition, we can also seek the help of professionals or organizations to work together to deal with these problems. In any case, we must try to find reasonable solutions to make our parents and ourselves live a better and happier life.

Vary. Loneliness is not the crux of the matter.

The issue of the only child, the only child over the age of 40, has the most say. The only child at the age of 30 has just stepped into the threshold of the right to speak.

The only child is a historical legacy of that particular era, and we can't choose, so let's face, accept, and understand! Objectively speaking, the difference between an only child and a non-only child is indeed quite large. Looking at the whole world and all mankind, China's only child in the past 30 years is the only strange thing in human history.

The accumulated problems are too serious!

When the only child grows up and needs to shoulder the responsibility of the family, when he reaches the age of "the old and the young", he realizes that our life is actually a total of thousands of loneliness.

The "high risk" of a one-child family lies in the fact that it is the most unstable "inverted triangle" structure, which means that the entire burden falls on the only child.

The middle-aged child of an only child is most afraid of hearing the news of his parents' illness, which is like a time bomb, ready to destroy a family's years of hard work and accumulation. Only children with no siblings and no way out have to bear double or triple the financial pressure.

According to statistics, at present, there are more than 42 million disabled elderly people over 60 years old in China, accounting for about the proportion of the elderly population over 60 years old, in other words, 1 in 6 elderly people in China cannot take care of themselves. According to a demographic study by Peking University, by 2030, the number of disabled elderly people in China will exceed 77.65 million, and the disabled elderly will experience an average of years of disability before they die.

What is most important in the 21st century?

Talent? No, it's a caregiver!

The monthly salary of many only children who work hard in first- and second-tier cities is just enough to pay the wages of caregivers.

I saw someone on Zhihu asking: What is it like to be an only child in one sentence? Among them, the highest praise said: I dare not be poor, I dare not get sick, I dare not marry far away, and I don't even dare to die, because my parents only have me.

It is said that thirty and stand, forty is not confused, but really standing at the fork in the road of thirty and forty years old and looking up, there are people who rely on us in life, and there is no one we can rely on. There are no siblings to discuss, friends can never empathize, children are still at the age of waiting to be fed, but the parents have already crippled their bodies.

This is the reality.

I once read a sentence: "Children who marry far away are all children lost by their parents." When it comes to this topic, we must mention "distant marriage", because this is a topic that has been mentioned repeatedly, but it will always poke people's hearts.

For only children, they dare not work and live far away from their parents, let alone marry far away. "Your dad is lying on the ground, but you're in the address book. "It's the farthest distance in the world.

The only child does not dare to be poor, because the future of this family has to be supported by one person, and he does not dare to get sick because his parents are getting old. Even if there is a younger brother and sister, they can bring us a lot of warmth, know how to guard, a responsibility, and never give up. It's a pity we didn't!

But we still have a dream, a dream ...... that will never come true

Only children enjoy a unique pampering, but when they get older, they will feel inexplicably lonely.

As an only child, you will face the following issues when it comes to caring for your elderly parents:

1.Financial issues.

Since an only child does not have siblings to share the cost of caring for their parents, there will be a certain amount of pressure on the financial side. An only child needs to bear all the costs of caring for their parents, including medical care, nutrition, housing, etc., which is a huge burden for families who are not very well off financially.

2.It's a matter of time.

An only child needs to take care of his or her own family and elderly parents at the same time, and it can be difficult to allocate time. When parents need to take care of them, the only child has to give up their jobs or other things, especially when the parents have diseases to take care of, it is even more necessary for the only child to give up their time and fight hunger to take care of their parents.

3.Psychological problems.

An only child will have a certain amount of psychological pressure when taking care of their parents. With no other siblings to help take care of their parents, an only child can experience negative emotions such as loneliness, anxiety, nervousness, etc. At the same time, when there is a problem with the physical condition of the parents, the only child will feel a great responsibility and need to take on more pressure.

4.Health problems.

As an only child has to take care of an elderly parent, they may neglect their own health issues. While busy taking care of their parents, only children may neglect their own health problems such as diet and pre-luck differences, resulting in problems with their physical health.

In conclusion, as an only child, there are many problems that you face when it comes to caring for your elderly parents, including financial problems, time problems, psychological problems, and health problems. Only children need to recognize these problems and take appropriate measures to solve them. This includes improving one's financial situation, managing one's time wisely, adjusting one's mindset, etc.

At the same time, only children also need to take care of their health in order to better take care of their elderly parents.