Why are people reluctant to tell the truth?

1. Because telling the truth is often more hurtful and aggressive.

Many times we always have to add a prefix when we want to express our true thoughts.

I'll tell you the truth, don't be angry.

As I put it bluntly. Because we all know very well that telling the truth often makes people unhappy, uncomfortable, and even difficult to accept.

So there is, the ugly words are said in front of me.

2. Telling the truth is more likely to offend people, and sometimes it is even equivalent to low emotional intelligence, which makes your interpersonal relationships strained.

My colleague wore a newly bought dress to the company and was in a good mood.

Everyone else said, "You're so nice in this dress."

Very beautiful and "very temperamental".

Even Xiao Liu, who has always been bad at words, praised "It's very expensive when you look at it".

My colleagues were also very happy to hear what everyone said.

As a result, you take one look at it and say bluntly, "Oops, what are you wearing?" It's like a rag! ”

Not only was that colleague angry with you, but even other colleagues felt that you had low emotional intelligence and were reluctant to get too close to you.

3. Telling the truth often brings you certain troubles or disasters, and not telling the truth is to protect yourself to a certain extent.

The thief on the bus was blatantly stealing the girl's purse, and most of the people on the bus saw it.

But when the girl found that the purse was missing and asked the people in the car, people shook their heads?

The reason is simple, fear of retaliation from thieves.

On the blackboard, a few swear words were written, and the teacher came in, and his face instantly darkened. The teacher asked the students one by one, who wrote the words on the blackboard? Although many people knew, they still shook their heads and said they didn't know.

It's not that I don't want to tell the truth, but I'm afraid of being isolated and being treated like someone in the class who makes a small report.

It's not that people don't like to tell the truth, it's that the cost of telling the truth is often unaffordable.

Because others don't want to hear the truth.

I don't think I'm willing to tell the truth for three main reasons!

The first is that it is easy to offend people by telling the truth

It's a fact that everyone is willing to listen to what is good and not what is going to be disagreed, and this is especially true in the workplace. Then a person, if he always tells the truth, is bound to face the situation of offending people. For example, if you expose a villain, everyone knows that he is a villain, but no one wants to offend him, but you expose him, and you will naturally offend him.

There are also some deceptive things, others don't say it, and you can get the leadership of the unit if you say it.

The second is that to be honest, it is easy to be marginalized

This is because people are social animals and it is impossible to leave a group, so when everyone in the group does not tell the truth, you cannot tell the truth, otherwise you will be excluded. For example, in order to accomplish or achieve a certain goal, everyone does something to deal with their superiors, and they all know each other, but if you have to poke this kind of thing out, so that everyone can't complete the task and can't get benefits, can you not be excluded? After a long time, everyone will naturally be reluctant to associate with you.

The third is that you can embarrass yourself by telling the truth:

In daily life, everyone has a false name and a good face, so everyone flatters each other and picks up good things. If you don't know that everyone says that someone is good-looking, do you have to be truthful and say that he is ** good? Everyone says that someone looks noble in clothes, but you have to say that this person is not suitable for this kind of clothing, even if you are telling the truth, who wants to listen?

The children of each family are used to not talking, no one points it out to their faces, you have to say that this is not good, can parents be happy if they lose face?

In short, I think that the survival of the fittest, the person who knows the times is the handsome, in the context of the general environment does not agree with telling the truth, you have to tell the truth, that is, the IQ balance is insufficient, you can only lift a stone to shoot yourself in the foot, ask for trouble. And if you can't change the environment, you can only adapt to the environment, so everyone is not willing to tell the truth now!

Because the word is contrary to the ear. There are more people who don't tell the truth, and then the people who tell the truth are slowly assimilated. Nowadays, with high emotional intelligence, defined as being able to tell white lies and speak in appropriate situations, such people are often more promoted in the workplace, liked by teachers and classmates in school, and even more status in the family.

I have to say that sometimes telling the truth is really hurtful, so people now speak more tactfully, and even use white lies to deceive each other.

According to the meaning of the landlord, when the general environment surrenders, when the general environment surrenders, when the general environment surrenders, we also surrender, otherwise we do not surrender, when the general environment surrenders, we also surrender, otherwise we do not surrender, we are not good people, we are not good people.

Personally, I think it's better to be sincere, and sometimes I'm afraid of offending people, so I have to tell a lie, but I'd rather not speak than tell a lie.

1. Because telling the truth is often more hurtful and aggressive Many times when we want to express our true thoughts, we always have to add a prefix "I'll tell you the truth, don't be angry." As I put it bluntly. Because we are all very aware of this fierceness, the truth often makes people unhappy, uncomfortable, and even difficult to accept slippery when they hear it.