Why is a person so miserable and still unwilling to change

Because change is also very painful, only when it reaches the stage where it is really not possible, the final outcome is also change, one is active change, and the other is passive change.

That means you can still hold on, but if you can't hold on anymore, you will find a way for yourself, either to die of depression, or to completely change yourself and pursue a better life.

The instructions are not painful enough. The person is in a state of mind where he is in pain and enjoying this pain.

That is attachment, and if you can change, it won't be painful.

Changing a person's behavior pattern is not a happy thing, changing the behavior pattern means stepping out of the comfort zone of life, stepping into those things that have never been touched before, challenging the limits of one's own ability, failure and setbacks in the process are always accompanied by shadows, the fragility of human nature is always testing us, and success is as far away as a cold star twinkling on the horizon.

Whether to continue to persist or go home has become the watershed between the winners and the losers, insisting on the possibility of success, and returning home means sitting and waiting for death. Therefore, those who choose to persist in change must have ideals and beliefs as the internal driving force in order to continue, and exchange the way of throwing themselves into the furnace for the rebirth of the phoenix nirvana (exchanging wisdom and diligence for a new way of survival).

Most of the individuals who are willing to bear the pain but are unwilling to change the status quo with hard work and struggle lack confidence in themselves, and even adapt to the environment by compressing their own needs, which is a manifestation of human decadence and lack of progress.

Suggestion: - First of all, you must have a desire to stand up psychologically, as long as you do many things, there will always be gains;

Secondly, people's abilities are acquired through training and cultivation, and only by actively participating in social practice can people have practical work experience and then form personal creativity, and only with creativity can they gain the possibility of realizing their self-worth.

Don't drag mud and water.

Leave immediately and stop losses in time. The best thing to do is to leave, away from the person who makes you miserable.

Pain is caused by being hit by a blow that is too much for oneself to bear. There are two outcomes of experiencing painful twists and turns: 1. People who experience pain and then return to normal speech will be more determined; 2. I can't afford to fall after experiencing pain.

With the passage of time, the former type of person has a stronger psychology to resist injury, and the latter type of person gradually recovers and cannot reach the original state. In life, it is inevitable to encounter misfortune and bring pain, so how to deal with it? So how can we change ourselves and avoid suffering?

First of all, we must start by changing the psychology of self-searching, and we must have a firm belief that we are not afraid of pain; In addition, the use of the surrounding favorable environmental conditions and their own mental health preparations to guide themselves and guide themselves. Synthesizing a variety of conditions that are conducive to one's future development and life, starting from one's own goal (reversing the painful situation), until the world travels out of the brink of suffering. Hope to work hard!.

No matter what happens, only you can get rid of the shackles of your thoughts ......You have to be able to see it and let it go....Sebi....Everything can start anew, don't let the shadow of yesterday affect today's original happy life, a lifetime is not long, living in yesterday's state of mind will always be painful and helpless, only the search bureau to live in today's state of mind will have hope and happy ......