Questions about chat topics, personal personality, psychology, etc. Thank you

After reading your question, I also understand your thoughts, you should take the initiative to cheer with others, enthusiastically help and take care of the people around you, so that the people around you feel that only you are the best for her, and only by treating every friend around you sincerely can you get others to care about you.

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Wish: The landlord's wish comes true.

I also hope that the landlord is satisfied!

Thank you all ["About psychological problems, please come in and take a look", please take a look at what I found that your past is really not good, and it is indeed a problem to not know what to do in the face of problems, and it is true that you are careless in learning.

I don't know what topics to talk about, or it can show that your life is relatively dull, or there are not many things that can hit your heart, and life passes like flowing water, so naturally I don't know what to say.

And you are not very able to mobilize and grasp the atmosphere, and you are not able to infect others with your own language.

However, you have a desire for this, so you want to change.

Listening to others all the time is a way to escape your current problem.

However, we can't run away from it, we can not say it, but we should be able to say it when we should say it, otherwise, when it comes to the important time to say it, if you can't say it, it is a pity that you will lose a precious opportunity.

About communication, it is a science, it is recommended that you can read some excellent books on communication at the beginning, there will be many bookstores, the content is similar, but this is only the beginning, you have to practice, to speak, to exercise, to get a real improvement.

This does not mean that introverts do not have suitable jobs, such as the following four jobs, which are more suitable for those who are introverted and not good at socializing.

You have to open your mind, watch more news, and find more topics to talk about with others.

Introverts should cater to their friends more and learn something about their topic!

Absolutely not, while they are having fun, chime in!

1.This one can make you feel cold.

2.Even if you interject, you won't be able to pick up the topic, and it will make people feel bored.

3.Interrupt at the right time, preferably by asking some questions and asking someone else to explain. Slowly blending into it, questioning is also an important form of exercise.

4.This can also take a toll on your self-confidence.

Then it's about listening to them talk a lot, starting with listening to the microphone and slowly turning into a conversation bucket.

The rest is to take care of yourself.

In fact, the main reason is that you have low self-esteem, and over time, you will have a melancholy psychology and a suspicion of depression, but these are secondary, because you are aware of yourself and have a strong desire to change, so you will break through more smoothly.

Introduce you to see: Carnegie successfully studied three books, "The Breakthrough of Language", "The Advantages of Human Nature", and "The Weakness of Human Nature", or it is not very expensive to buy three bound books, bookstores have them! Dale Carnegie's book is very helpful to your above question.

Social skills, mentality, self-adjustment, self-knowledge, and getting to know others are all very helpful. I have a lot of determination about you, including me and many others, and now I have become more cheerful and generous, good at talking and making friends!

In addition, I want to change mainly on my own, change the current state, adjust my lifestyle, expand my social circle appropriately, adjust my personal hobbies and personal habits in a planned way, and think about the understanding of things around me, and don't look at problems with personal subjective wishes, because this will bring you into a closed self-space, which will lead to your own heart and make you more unable to express yourself. I think everyone is very open to staying at home with their familiar friends or by themselves, in front of the public, in front of strangers, why can't you let go, in fact, everyone is equal, we have to learn to open our minds, open our minds to be a true self, I hope you get out of this state to be a confident and happy person.

Hi! Hello!

After reading your question, I admire you for analyzing yourself so thoroughly, it seems that you are a thoughtful person! I am very similar to you, I was also very good in my previous unit, but the difference between me and you now is that I am currently unemployed and looking for a job!

Ha ha. Your personality is very similar to what I used to be, although you are respected in the circle of friends, but your friends feel that you are very bored, and you are very envious of your humorous colleagues, a sentence can make everyone laugh, and you are very popular when you go there, but you can't talk to others after a few words, and sometimes it is so embarrassing! Right?

First of all, you have to realize that your problems are actually common to many boys who study science, especially if you also do technical work, there are fewer opportunities to speak, which is very normal, don't worry too much! I believe that if you are engaged in sales work after graduation, you will not have such troubles now, because the environment dictates that if people who do technical work talk too much, it will make people have a sense of distrust, and the less people will think that you are old and serious, the more trust will be increased. I think you're pretty good right now, really!

Secondly, I estimate that you may have been very strict with your family since you were a child, and your parents must have taught you to be obedient and not to be gossiped about, so you will now care a lot about other people's feelings, which has caused you to always think about what others think of you when you speak, I think it's time to abandon this kind of thought, because the more you think like this, the more nervous you will be, in fact, others will not care so much, and even many people will think that you are very stable, and appreciate this stability, after all, the current society is too impetuous!

Finally, in fact, I used to be the same as you, but I did sales work, now I think I talk too much, I have to tell myself to talk less before seeing customers, my experience is to read any book, I love to read, I rarely have empty hands in the car, I really don't have to read, pick up the roadside supermarket posters are good for a long time, sometimes you will find that this is very useful, such as you go to meet a customer, it happens that he is angry about the company's excess expenses this month, see you nagging with you, and you just happen to see all kinds of goods in the supermarket**** So you found a common topic, complaining about how much pork is a catty, how much rice has risen, and slowly you talked about inflation, and talked about the form of international finance. The more you talk, the more you talk, and finally the customer finds that you are quite a match, and your work is easy to do! The purpose of I say so much is just to tell you that no one or a few books can cover all the questions you want to know, because the people you are dealing with want to talk about are different, and you can only talk freely about all topics with everyone if you turn yourself into an encyclopedia, so I recommend it to you:

Morning! Only newspapers can be unlimited subject matter, unlimited scope, so that you can get a lot of comprehensive information in real time, if we don't have time to read books, then develop the habit of reading newspapers, over time you will find that your knowledge is slowly becoming wider, and the topics of conversation with others are slowly increasing, I did just that, I have insisted on it for several years, very effective!

In fact, it's really just very simple, it's just not confident, in the past, people practiced speech and host singing, so they picked out loud singing on the street with a lot of people, or rather, to connect their own courage.

In fact, these are all created by your introverted personality It doesn't matter that you are only 24 years old and the road is still very long After the experience of life can not be so rich But you have to learn more When you are with friends, see how people interact with each other How you talk and behave More time with cheerful and outgoing people You will be infected after a long time When you are with colleagues, learn more about other people's philosophies and ways to deal with problems You don't have to worry too much Don't be afraid to say the wrong thing or anything The more you are like this, the more you will not be able to reflect yourself You understand When you decide to speak, speak slowly Give your brain time to think about it.

In fact, why is your personality bad, it is good for you to talk less during work, but you have to be more extroverted with your circle of friends, since you are friends, they will not be angry because you say the wrong thing, you don't have to worry about this.

Books and things are dead, but life needs to be used flexibly, usually make friends, learn more when you are with colleagues, and you can also open your heart and talk to them about your own thoughts.

Generally speaking, people with a wealth of experience and knowledge are more talkative and will not be cold. So you need to know your age, low self-esteem is generally easy to fail, failure will become more introverted, this is a vicious circle. We need to solve the problem one step at a time.

First of all, a fulfilling life is necessary, and a fulfilling life does not give you much time to dispense with fantasies, but more practical actions. It's about how you fill your life to the fullest, maybe reading a book, maybe learning a new dish, maybe getting fit, maybe ... Anyway, you need to gain something, because every next step is related, even if you read the magazine, you have to be a caring person, try to record what you see in your head, for example, after you finish reading something about luxury, you don't need to remember too many precise numbers, but you can use your own words and your views to probably tell others, this is very necessary, this will be the capital of your conversation, anything can be communicated, through a little trick to share what you know to it.

But only if you can say it. Therefore, it is necessary to improve your experience at all times, and travel is a very good and valuable experience. This way, you'll get friends and talk to the bubble mm without getting cold.

Get used to using adjectives to make what you say more appealing, and you'll love talking. Then get on the right track.

It's inevitable to go to KTV to sing in social interactions, I believe this is your dead end, you must be holding your mobile phone to play to the end. It's time for you to fight back, because you have low self-esteem so you don't dare to sing, and the lack of opportunities to sing leads to singing really can't sing. First of all, you need to practice one or two songs silently, practice until you feel good, pluck up the courage to go to KTV with your friends to sing it, you will have the experience of daring to sing for the first time, and from then on a virtuous circle, full of confidence.

You can slowly try to get close to a person, get to know him, if he has a crush on you, you can confide in him some of the secrets of your heart, if he also confides in you, you may become the most intimate friends, bless you! Come on!!!

Chat is a necessary way of communication in each of our lives, and we can't see who you are without chatting in life. And the expressions and actions you make in the chat will show your personality. InThe art of recognizing peopleLearn how to tell a person's personality from a chat.

The eyes look downwards and the corners of the mouth droop.

When listening to someone talking, people who look down with their eyes down and the corners of their mouths drooping are often trying to maintain their authority and dignity. If the eyes are closed, it may indicate that he is very tired, and the person speaking should pay attention and either stop at this point or change the subject.

All the time smiling at each other.

Some people listen quietly and look at each other with a smile all the time, but this does not mean that they agree with the other person's point of view, and smiling is usually just the most appropriate way to disguise their heart. The personality of this type of person is usually that they do things without showing their edge, do not like to show their true thoughts, are moody, cautious, and can navigate even in complex interpersonal relationships.

Frowning. When listening to others, there are people who always have the habit of frowning and rarely expressing their opinions. In fact, this does not mean that they are against what the speaker is saying, but it may be that they are listening carefully and thinking deeply.

Such people are usually critical and always try to come up with a different opinion. Others frown because they disagree with what others have said.

Biting the lip and tongue.

People who are accustomed to doing this kind of action, from the perspective of personality, are generally distracted and moody. If some people do this when listening to someone, it means that they are not very interested in what the other person is saying, or they want to express their opinion, but they don't know how to say it.

The face did not move, and the corners of the mouth were slightly backwards.

This gesture shows contempt and disdain for your words. At this time, it may indicate that the other party has ridiculed or despised the meaning of your words, and it can also be seen that the person has a little conceit.

You're afraid to go it alone.

Show that you are not sure and confident in your heart, and you are afraid that your ability will not be able to do well. There is also a serious herd mentality.

You don't like crowded places and like the quiet. It has to do with your natural personality and it also shows that you are insecure. I can't show myself well to the crowd.

How to face the crowd and stop being afraid?

The easy way is to participate in social activities and adapt yourself to the group life. It can be a headache and a lot of headaches at first, and you have to stick to it. Only by constantly putting yourself in the crowd can you understand that the crowd is not so scary.

At first, it will be difficult to express your wishes, but as you get used to it, you will gradually express it coherently and appropriately.

It's like an example of a student doing a problem, practice makes perfect.

You always avoid them, and you will always be a beginner's child. Students who don't go through the tactics of the sea of questions will never be inspired when it comes to exams.