How can I develop self control?

Let's start with the usual little things

For example, if you want to play when you are doing your homework, you must strictly control yourself, and after you succeed, you can give yourself appropriate rewards to encourage yourself to continue to work hard

It is necessary to pay attention to the usually inconspicuous things

Try to start with what you have at hand, and don't aim too ambitious

It's OK to work on your own

If you agree with the 4th floor, it is better to rely on yourself than on others.

We've been confused, we've been hesitant, but we're still here, why? People have different ideals at different stages.

When you go online to a certain extent, you will find that it is multi-modal boredom.

When I was in middle school, I thought that the Internet was the whole of life, and I thought that it was silly to be able to surf the Internet every day. When I worked, I thought that earning money was all there was to life, and I made it my goal to earn more money.

So, you don't have to worry too much, and surfing the Internet isn't necessarily a bad thing. As long as it's done in moderation.

Adjust your mindset.

You should learn to separate things from the heavy. Upstairs is right.

Let someone else come up with ideas. It's still not feasible to be unable to control yourself.

On your own.

You just have to believe in yourself and you can do it!

Don't expect someone to help, believe you can do it!

I'm your brother, focus on it, don't be too wild.

I suggest that you have a word to motivate yourself or to sober yourself, say it whenever you can't control yourself, try to control yourself, and slowly it will be fine.

People's self-control is strongest in the morning, and then as time goes on, it becomes distracted, and it gradually weakens, and eventually it even gets out of control. As a result, successful people tend to prioritize the most important and urgent things of the day.

There are 7 effective ways to cultivate and improve self-control:

1. Meditation practice.

It is possible to spend 10 minutes a day training the brain to meditate:

Sit quietly; Pay attention to your breath, feel your breath, and then breathe in and out.

If you find that your mind is wandering and you forget and stop meditating, pull it back and continue to reiterate.

Meditation is not about making you think about nothing, but about practicing so that you don't get distracted.

2. Remind in advance, practice repeatedly, and form habits.

We can put many things in life and work and correct our shortcomings

Actions that increase good qualities are used as exercises to improve self-control.

Lu Guanqiu, a deceased private entrepreneur in Zhejiang, in his 60s before his death, in order to get rid of his temper tantrums, pasted notes in every room and corner of his home to remind him not to lose his temper.

So every time he loses his temper, he will see a note, realize the problem and press his temper down.

Over time, the consciousness of not losing your temper is formed.

3. Start right away, don't put it off until tomorrow or later.

There is often a false expectation.

For example, I will smoke a cigarette today and quit tomorrow.

I'm not going to go to the gym today, but I promise to go tomorrow.

If there is such a mentality, self-control will fail.

4. Control your emotions.

You need to learn to control your emotions, as bad emotions such as depression, anxiety, anger, etc., will dissolve self-control.

5. Maintain self-confidence and don't have the mentality of breaking the jar.

Breaking the jar and breaking refers to a person who thinks that his whole life is not good when he does one thing badly, and then he loses self-control and indulges himself.

This kind of psychology often does not appear in the conscious, but comes from the subconscious.

Maintaining self-confidence is not to blindly drink chicken soup, but to build on rationality, accept one's own imperfections, and believe that whenever you encounter setbacks or failures, as long as you objectively analyze the problems and causes, through continuous learning and hard work, most of them will achieve certain success.

6. Delayed gratification.

Delayed gratification refers to:

A willingness to achieve more valuable long-term results.

The choice of giving up instant gratification and controlling desires is a necessary condition for everyone to complete various tasks, coordinate interpersonal relationships, and successfully adapt to society.

Li Ka-shing said that everyone should learn to endure, only in this way can you understand what success is."

can feast on imitation of book forbearance and delay gratification, which is also Li Ka-shing's excellence.

7. Goal-driven.

Successful people have one characteristic, they are self-driven, they are the ones who take the initiative to make things happen, rather than passively waiting for things to happen.

They cultivate their passion, pursuit, ideals and sense of responsibility for their career and life, and are good at turning their pursuits, ambitions and sense of responsibility into clear goals and plans.

Then set a goal, it requires corresponding results, be able to overcome difficulties, do not give up easily, and do not give up until the goal is reached.

For successful people, such success is not a fluke but a habit.