Willpower seems to be gone? Are you aware of the weakness of willpower?

For doing push-ups for this thing.

Now you have an easier time than before.

So I don't feel the "sense of mission" in my heart

So whether you talk about willpower, or the momentum to fight to the end, it will fade immediately.

The best way to make you feel like willpower is still there.

You're asking yourself to do 200 push-ups a day.

If you are determined to solve the problem.

I think there will still be.

All the questions depend on your heart.

To be honest, I am aware of the problem of weak willpower, sometimes, in the face of some problems is not firm enough, not decisive enough, easy to compromise and escape, often tell myself to be stronger, but once faced with some difficult problems, it is easy to be weak, can not change, destined to become a big thing, can only live a plain day.

Sometimes you will feel that your mind and intelligence are relatively weak, when you are very hesitant in the choice, at the instigation of others, you will agree or support his ideas, then your own decision is not important, at this time you are your willpower is weak, you do not have your own opinions, then there is no way to judge.

Of course, willpower is closely related to itself, family education, living environment, and people in contact. There are parts from oneself and some that are learned.

1. Why is self-discipline difficult? People who want to quit smoking always feel that they are weak-willed and can't quit smoking. But people smoke because they know that attraction can bring them a feeling of comfort such as "feeling good and relaxed."

If they have a sore throat, difficulty breathing, nausea and vomiting as soon as they smoke, they will not smoke. But we also know that smoking can lead to serious diseases such as lung cancer, and many people want to quit smoking in order to avoid these outcomes. These bad results are not immediate, and they are not inevitable.

Results that can be obtained immediately can have a decisive impact on human behavior compared to uncertain results long after. It's the same thing: you know that eating dessert will increase your weight, but you still plan to eat dessert.

Gaining weight is a matter of a few days later, and it's possible that it hasn't even gained so much. In contrast, delicious satisfaction is an immediate and tangible result. Therefore, the reason why you can't hold on is just because of human nature, not because of your willpower.

This is important, because if we blame ourselves too much for our lack of will, we will have a deep sense of frustration that is what really keeps us from making changes. In our consciousness, when faced with what is happening in front of us, we constantly have thoughts that have nothing to do with it. It is said that each person thinks automatically 700 times a day, some of which are clear and some are vague.

It is precisely because of this kind of thinking that we have cognitive biases and fall into cognitive misunderstandings. This kind of cognitive bias often leads us to think "I'm hated", "people laugh at me", "it's just my bad luck", "I can't do it anyway", "I'm sure I'll fail again", etc. None of this is true, but you are convinced that it is true, and all sorts of problems arise.

Last week, I studied the book "Willpower" and talked about many ways to strengthen willpower. But does willpower really exist? If you hear someone who has been doing something for several years, you will feel very admired.

I can't help but think about how this person's willpower can be so strong? Waking up early is a popular trend now, and there are many communities that get up early to punch in, but if you just know how to check in as the community knows how to check in, and you may even receive red envelopes of different amounts after the number of days is reached, does it mean that you are a person with willpower? Because of the red envelope incentive, or perhaps the influence of people in the community, you insist on getting up early.

It doesn't seem to have much to do with willpower. Because you're just getting up early with a purpose. And if there is no purpose, can you still get up early without this environment?

When you have a goal, you can naturally stick to one thing, or if you get some kind of satisfaction or some tangible benefit through perseverance, then you will naturally stick to it. We all know it's necessary to wake up early to exercise, but why can't many people get up? Is it that they don't have the willpower, or do they prefer to enjoy short-lived comforts?

Everyone admires Kobe Bryant's workout at 4 a.m. every day, but is that really willpower? Isn't it that he has become accustomed to it, and this kind of persistence has made him feel the benefits and brought him more benefits?

So willpower may not exist, but they are willing to continue to persist because they have a long-term goal in mind and feel the benefits when they stick to it. And after a long time, it forms a habit, and it is not enough to talk about willpower. Defining a goal and feeling the benefits as you move forward is the main thing.