Are the three views more important than matter? Is the three views important?

In April 2017, the big data report writing team conducted a large survey on marriage and childbearing among college students in several 985 colleges and universities, with a total of 500 valid questionnaires, of which the ratio of male and female students was 1:1.

When I was a child, the fairy tale ending of "The princess and the prince lived happily after getting married" made many post-95s have a beautiful vision and expectation for marriage. However, after entering the university, the heavy social reality gradually forced the post-95s generation to wake up from the marriage fairy tale and show varying degrees of confusion in the concept of marriage and childbirth.

In this survey, 72% of boys said they would get married in the future, while only 51% of girls said they would get married in the future. Twenty-one per cent of boys are uncertain about their future marriage, and the proportion of girls is more than double that of boys, reaching 45 per cent. The proportion of non-marriage is in the minority, of which 7 per cent are boys and 4 per cent are girls.

In the sample of those who are willing to marry, it is found that 74% of college students think that it is most appropriate to get married at the age of 26-30, and only 1% of college students choose to get married at the age of 36 and above.

Nearly 60 percent of college students in the survey accepted premarital sex. In contrast, boys are more likely than girls to support premarital sex. As for the issue of "unmarried pregnancy", the acceptance of post-95 college students is very high, with more than 75% of respondents saying that they will "get on the bus first and pay the ticket later", of which the proportion of men is greater than that of women.

In terms of the choice of marriage method, 54% of the respondents chose "travel marriage". Respondents also had a high level of acceptance of "naked marriage", although there was a large difference between men and women, with boys supporting about twice as much as girls among those who could accept "naked marriage".

In terms of premarital property notarization, 40% of all female respondents will have premarital property notarization, while only 28% of male students will have premarital property notarization, indicating that male students' acceptance of premarital property notarization is still low.

In the survey on the concept of fertility, it may be inspired by the country's "two-child policy", and the proportion of respondents who choose to have a second child is relatively high, of which 68% of boys choose to have a second child, and 52% of girls choose to have a second child. <

Suddenly, I found that its three views were more and more inconsistent with my three views, and the goals of life were also inconsistent, and there was no common language, so I had to give up in this case.

Clause. First, the three views are very important.

A person's three views are directly linked to his spiritual world, so if your spiritual world can't be the right one, then your three views may be difficult to agree, two people with different views live together, it is very tiring, and marriage will naturally be useless after a long time.

Clause. Second, the goal of life is dusty.

In marriage, the husband and wife will be able to achieve long-term harmony if they have the same life goals, but if the husband and wife are inconsistent in spirit and ideas, then it will directly affect the goals and structure of the marriage.

Therefore, many people do not care about the family background and family background when they get married, thinking that as long as they have feelings, they can overcome the habits of these original families with clans, compared to these, the spiritual door is more important, because it will directly affect whether your married life is relaxed and spiritually happy, so if you want to have a happy marriage, you must not ignore the spiritual chaos of the door and the right one.

Clause. 3. Common language.

The most direct manifestation of the spiritual level is whether there is a common language, you are talking to him about the world political situation, but he replies to you trivial, like a chicken and a duck talking, you can never find a topic to chat with, slowly you will be alienated, and the spiritual world will feel very lonely.