What truths must be understood before the leftover men get off the list?

Don't take a girl home easily.

We have a lot of men who are inexperienced in both sexes, if they like a woman, or even if they just have a little affection for others, and want to pursue others, they will think and bring other girls home very casually, and even think of using this as a bridge and opportunity, or to express sincerity.

Actually, such an act is so stupid! This is not only easy to attract the disgust of girls, but also brings many particularly bad consequences. The reason is simple.

Men bring women home, it is easy to send wrong information to the family, as well as the society, because the family does not know what is going on in your heart, and cannot accurately judge your psychological maturity, they will only judge by some secular Peugeot sexual behavior, if you yourself are not really thinking about it, taking a girl home at random is easy to provoke unnecessary external interference burden, and even especially easy to dig a hole for yourself.

A man is nothing more than a bad career, a few dollars are missing, nothing else is missing, there is money, and the women around you don't know how much.

The first reason is to be busy with my career.

This reason is indeed easy for people to accept, some people are indeed only busy with their own careers, want to lay a certain material foundation for their future life, and then busy themselves into older leftover men. However, this is only a small part, most of them are due to other reasons, this kind of older leftover man also belongs to the ** leftover man, and he has his own ability and conditions are good.

The second reason is that men are too picky.

This kind of leftover man is the kind that is not high or low, always looking at the mountain high, his own conditions may not be bad, but he can't be qualified, and he only has a wait-and-see attitude towards feelings, and he always feels that he hasn't met the right one, and there will be better ones later, and he has been looking for it, and he has become an older leftover man unconsciously!

The third reason is fear of marriage.

There are many such men in reality, they are willing to fall in love, and they will show their sincerity to get along with each other, but when it comes to marriage, they can't. may have seen too many divisions and combinations, and was influenced by the people around them, and always felt that even if they got married, they might not be able to stay together for the rest of their lives, and they were afraid of getting married. ignores that the purpose of falling in love is to be able to get married, and after a long time, he leaves himself alone.

The fourth reason is that men are not self-motivated.

A man with this mentality is the most terrifying, and he can guess that he will be single for the rest of his life. Mindset plays a vital role in a person's life, and having a positive mindset can make one's life better and better, and it can also affect the people around you. If you are a negative person or a man, it will affect your life, and you will not have a good future, let alone a good family.

This kind of person thinks about the day all day long, and has no motivation at all, although he will not starve to death, but what woman would be willing to give her life to you?

First, the work is too busy and the circle is too small.

Many men have indeed encountered this matter of busy work and too small circles, such as they get up early every day and spend most of their time on work, and they simply do not have the time and energy to contact the opposite sex.

The most worrying thing is that their circle is very narrow, there is nothing interesting in the circle, there are not many friends, and there are not many people who even introduce him to his girlfriend.

In such a situation, it is indeed a very tricky thing to get rid of the single, unless he quits his current job and gets free, but work is precious for ordinary people, especially for the older young man in his 30s.

At this time, once he lost his job, it was difficult to find a new job, so he was deadlocked.

Second, the emotional intelligence is too low and I don't know how to get along with the opposite sex.

Emotional intelligence is really important for a man, and I once met an older leftover man whose conditions are not bad, but whose emotional intelligence is very low.

He has a house and a car, and his monthly income is enough to support his family, but he just can't get married, and many people have introduced him to blind dates, but there is no news after two months of getting along.

Later, I found out that his emotional intelligence is really low, and he completely belongs to the type of straight man of steel, not only can't speak, but also can't do things, so girls don't want to be with him.

Getting along with people depends on emotional intelligence, especially with the opposite sex, if emotional intelligence is too low, it will inevitably become a stumbling block on the road to getting rid of singles.

I didn't find a suitable girl, my vision was relatively high, my economic conditions were relatively poor, and I didn't have a good job.

Introverted, honest, lack of strength, not enough charisma.

Friends gatherings, business receptions, social parties, ......There are many kinds of entertainment for urban beauties, and there are many opportunities to meet new friends. It's common for ambiguities to occur at social gatherings, and Da S and Wang Xiaofei both looked at each other at An Yixuan's birthday party.

I think there must be a reason for a person to become a leftover man, which may also be his active choice, or it may be that he was forced to remain, so the mentality of leftover men is different in different situations.

Second, the boys who are forced to remain are anxious. In fact, they also want to talk about girlfriends, maybe because they are ugly or have no money, and they are forced by this society to be too realistic and materialistic, so they have not found a girlfriend, they also have the belief of longing for love, but this society still leaves them behind. In the face of their parents' urging and friends' jokes, their hearts are also very painful, and their mentality is also very broken, they will feel that they are not too young, and it is indeed embarrassing not to have a girlfriend, but there is no way.

The third is the attitude of indifference. Some boys have actually lost their yearning for love, so they feel numb when they are single, and they can talk about it without talking, and they go on aimlessly, probably because they feel that there are more important things in life than falling in love. For example, playing League of Legends and playing Dota, or they have been hurt by love, so they feel that this kind of thing is just okay, and they don't have too many requirements, they just feel that it's okay to live well, because in their opinion, love is not a necessity in life.

Personally, I think leftover men are also helpless, if there is a suitable girl who likes him, who is willing to be a leftover man. The reason why the leftover men are left is not because they are willing to be single dogs, but because they have to be left.

First, because the conditions are too poor, there are no girls who look at them, then singleness is inevitable, and secondly, the vision is too high, high is not low, if the conditions are poor, then it is likely that there is a girl who likes him, and they will lower their posture to try to say goodbye to their singleness, but it is difficult to find a girlfriend if the vision is too high, they feel that their conditions are very good, and they deserve to have better people. But in the eyes of others, this is not the case at all, and if the stalemate continues, he will definitely become a leftover man.

Most of the leftover men are unwilling to be left, so they will use various methods to get rid of the title of single dog, such as blind dates, online dating, these are the most used methods.

Compared with leftover women, the pressure on leftover men is greater, because they still have the responsibility of passing on the lineage, and if a woman doesn't get married, it's just that she will be alone for a lifetime and no one will take care of her. And men who are single are not filial, and their pressure can be said to be very great. It can be said that the leftover men are angry and pitiful.

There are some people who may not be able to get rid of the ending of leftover men for the rest of their lives. Whether it is left or not, a person's life should not be limited to things such as love and marriage, and striving to make one's life colorful is the most correct attitude towards life.

Most of them are waiting and waiting, or they just think that they can't find a girlfriend at all with my conditions.

There are many who don't want to find a girlfriend at all, or their own economic conditions don't allow it.

So let's rationally analyze where the older leftover men are mainly concentrated.

Mainly in remote areas, or even in third- and fourth-tier cities, how many men want to be leftover men if their mobile phones don't sound good?

It's not because of some special reason that this phenomenon is caused.

There are also some men who don't want to find a girlfriend at all, because they think that even if they live on their own, they will be fine.

He doesn't need it at all, such men can't be called leftover men, they are the real bachelors.

But leftover men are those who are in a hurry to find a wife but can't find them.

One is that it may be that one's own conditions have led to one's singleness.

The second is that as you get older, you have higher requirements for your other half.

is the reason why I am very old but I haven't found a girlfriend.

In today's society, there is a group of people who call it "leftover men and women". These people are often very old, but they still don't have a partner. This makes some people unable to understand: why they are so old, but they still haven't found a suitable other half.

There are many reasons for becoming a leftover man, the first of which is that no one looks down on him. Because of his own reasons, no one likes him. It is often very simple for boys to find girls, just one requirement, that is, to be beautiful.

And girls often have many conditions for picking boys: handsome, rich, good personality, gentle and considerate, car and house, successful career......Some people even feel that these conditions are not enough. But if none of the above conditions are met, then naturally no one will look at it.

And then there's no one to look down on. This is a little different from the above, the above is picked by others, and this one is picked by yourself. Some boys want to find a girl who is as good as themselves because they are good enough.

But after all, there are only a few excellent people, and they are unwilling to lower their requirements and settle for themselves, so they have been waiting for their destined people to appear.

Of course, there are some people who just don't want to get married. Nowadays, there are more and more people in society who don't want to get married, and there are many reasons why they don't want to get married. Some people do it to avoid responsibility, some people want to be free, and some people don't want to be pressured ......Marriage may sound great, but it often means more responsibility, more pressure, and a constraint on their freedom, which they hate.

So for the sake of their own happiness, they gave up their marriage and chose one person instead.

The term leftover man doesn't seem to be very common, it seems that in people's fixed thinking, there are more leftover women, this is because girls in their early 20s don't get married as if they become leftover women, but men will only be called leftover men if they don't get married when they are almost 30 years old.

Generally speaking, due to the different social responsibilities of men and women in society, men's dedication is generally heavier than women's, many men feel that they have not yet started a business, they are not qualified to talk about starting a family, of course, there are also some men who have limited conditions themselves, and have not met a suitable girl before becoming a leftover man.

One of my leaders is my girlfriend in school, the two have been in love for 7 years, the girl wants to get married, but my leader feels that he has nothing to struggle, he can't give the girl happiness, and wants to delay it for a few more years, but the girl feels that she is older and asks for marriage, but then the two broke up, and my leader became a leftover man at the right age.

There are many such examples, of course, there are those whose own conditions and family conditions are relatively poor, and no girl is willing to follow them, so it is more tragic for such leftover men.

I found that older men usually have the following mentality: 1. It's not that men don't give older leftover women a chance, but that older leftover women arrogantly don't want a chance! At first, the leftover woman was ready to leave her male friend behind, but later found out that the rest was herself.

2. What older men hate the most is that older women (over 27-29 years old) do not know the current affairs, have no self-knowledge, hold themselves, do not give men timely like, appreciation and even admiration, either demanding men or hurting men's self-esteem; 3 As far as I know, the criteria for choosing a mate for older men are relatively low, as long as the woman is healthy, good-looking, sympathetic, has a relatively stable career and income, and is not too old (preferably not more than 27-29 years old). 4. Older men like women who are not too good and take the initiative to extend an olive branch to themselves, and will like to appreciate and admire their own advantages, tolerate their own shortcomings, and care for themselves, so older men will definitely accept this love in time. This is especially true for women who are not too old (27-29 years old).

5. But female friends should never make older male friends wait too long. If you wait until you are over 30 years old to extend an olive branch to a male friend, no matter how beautiful your appearance is, how superior your conditions are, and how good your quality is, even a male friend around 40 years old is not willing to be a pick-up man, buy the last batch of products on the shelves or even take them off the shelves. In short, if female friends can accept male friends around 35-39 years old before the age of 27-29, there are still a lot of high-quality men among them.

If female friends are over 30 years old before they know that they can relax their standards and take the initiative to find a good relationship to have children, it is really difficult to go to the sky!