If you live with someone who doesn t understand you, should you get divorced?

Updated on psychology 2024-07-09
36 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    My husband's family conditions are very poor, single parent, honest, junior college, at the beginning of the state-owned enterprises under the second-tier factory work, and then jumped to a Japanese company, but just as an operator has no future, the work is tired, not to mention the low salary, I fell in love and got married to make me exhausted, and then he was more hard, jumped to a Sino-US joint venture to do electrical maintenance, the salary is high, always overtime and shifts, went in October last year, now the salary is not high, the average is about 5000, there may be 7000 per month, He thinks it's quite a lot, I think it's very low. His father died early, his mother took him alone, his mother was very strong, and both mother and son had the same disease, stubborn and did not listen to advice, maybe the common disease of single parents was very protective of her son, for fear that her son would suffer a loss, causing his son to be very cowardly, and I am about to collapse now.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Talk about why I got married, my life has become strange when I met him. I am an only daughter, my parents retired from state-owned enterprises, I have a college degree and later a college upgrade, I have been doing business, clerks and other jobs, easy and no pressure, the salary is not high, I can only take care of myself in this city, but I have no pressure, my family bought me a commercial house without a loan, the location is very good. There is a private house for rent at home, and the façade is below, and the parents' pension plus rent income is about 13,000 a month, which is a stable income, which means that there is no pressure if I don't go to work.

    Maybe this income is very low in the world, I am in a second-tier city, the price is not low, and the house price is not low. In short, my family's conditions in this city are average, and there is no pressure.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Actually, there is something about it! It's not that I understand you, no! Marriage is fundamentally up to two people to maintain!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    How unhappy it is to live together like this, don't live together, find someone who cares about you to live together.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    People have to think about themselves, and they have to think about the next generation. If you and your husband are unhappy, presumably your children will not feel happy, divorce as soon as the children are young, but sign a child support agreement with your husband, if the child is raised by you, you must let your husband know that he must be responsible for raising his children, because the child has his surname. Be honest with your children, Mom and Dad are not happy together, so they are separated, but Mom and Dad love you, and Dad will often take you to play.

    Now mom wants to live with an uncle, dad loves you, uncle loves you, and you are spoiled by many people.

    But having said that, divorce is not a joke, please analyze it carefully, I know very well what children of parents think about divorce. My parents divorced when I was 18 years old, I was in the far south, and I broke down at the time, but then I slowly adjusted my mentality, and now there is no problem, as long as my parents are happy, I have no problem. But I can't guarantee that all children will be able to adjust like I did.

    Until a few years ago, I was still hesitant to go back for the New Year, one is that my daughter-in-law and I spent the New Year in the south is actually good, and the other is that I go home for the New Year, I don't know where to go at the exit of the train station in my hometown, maybe I just bought a house in my hometown, but my career is in the south, what do I do when I buy a house in my hometown?

    It's up to you to make your own decisions.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I feel like you don't want a divorce. Isn't he in the same situation as your husband and you now? What doesn't care about each other.

    Something. The man. You can do that to his wife, and you can guarantee that he won't do that to you.

    And the man never told you that he loved you or that he had to be you. He himself also thinks that children can't live without their mothers. Woman: You can't help but be so soft-hearted.

    Eh: I don't know what you think.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    An unhappy marriage should not involve children, at least we should make them happy. If your current husband also ignores and does not care for your children, and now the man you love is willing to accept your children, I think you can end your current marriage, after all, your marriage has made you both miserable. Because everyone should still strive for happiness.

    Of course, the child may still want to be with his biological father, and you have to think about it. I have only one point of view, all for the sake of children.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I think you shouldn't get divorced, you should be optimistic, and the children are so old, as long as you are a sensible woman, as long as you are a smart person, you should learn how to redeem it, not break the jar, moreover, everything should also be looked at, everything will pass, life in the world for decades, how short.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Are you running away from your feelings, are you telling your husband? It's like it's all your subjective feelings. You should ask your husband.

    Why doesn't he care about me as much as he used to, why I don't feel like I'm still getting married, why can I have feelings with that man, why doesn't that man let you divorce, what is he afraid of, ask me why.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    In fact, after love, it becomes family affection. The relationship will naturally become cold slowly, and the rest is firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. Plain is the real sake.

    You have to slowly understand what caused him to change, and then you understand the situation clearly. It's never too late to deal with it. Don't have anything extraneous to affect your happiness.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Generally speaking, if you have a child, you should not divorce, it is not good for the child, and the child's psychology will be affected, you should have a good talk with your husband, it is best not to divorce for the sake of the child, and everyone says that the original match is good, even if you are with the person you love, he will not contact his ex-wife? I have a friend of mine who is a woman, she divorced her husband, married the person she loved, and gave birth to a boy, but his current husband will still contact his ex-wife, make ** texting, she was very heartbroken when she saw it, she said she regretted it, no matter what you do, it is more important to capture the other party's heart, if you really love him, choose to be with him, as if it is gambling, happiness is the most important.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Remarriage is less likely. It is likely that you will get divorced. If this continues, after a long time, you will definitely divorce him. But what he said was true, a child cannot live without a mother.

    But maybe it's also a hint that he's willing to take care of your children and start a new family with you. But you also need to be able to fight for custody of your children.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    They are not at all to the point of divorce because your text message caused them to divorce impulsively.

    If that wife had loosened up a bit, they would have remarried. The man is also planning to remarry. Otherwise, he will definitely urge you to get a divorce.

    The current situation is that he won't let you divorce, because if you get divorced, he will be responsible for you, and he may not be able to remarry.

    Even if you divorce and force him to marry you, you must not have a good life, because he is not dead set on his marriage, but because of your external forces, after a long time, he will rely on you for the reason why he lost his family, and your life is not good.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    can only say that after leaving and marrying him, you will find that the current one is better than that.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    I think you should first find out the reason for your discord, why it is very important, don't get divorced and you don't know why, two people's life together is to know each other and understand and support each other. When you just get married, the man may want to make more money because of the constraints of economic conditions, so the work will be busy, and it may be cold to you, so the woman should be more considerate and supportive. Maybe there are other reasons, I think you still have to start from the source, figure out your contradictions, solve them, and there should be nothing wrong.

    You don't have to pay too much attention to your business and the other person's affairs. Think of it as a game, forget about it and you'll feel better. Of course, if you and your husband really can't continue, then there is only divorce.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    I'd rather tear down ten bridges than regret a marriage.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    First of all, you have to understand that lifestyle habits are acquired and have nothing to do with divorce! As long as two people have a good relationship, as long as you don't care about it and can tolerate each other's shortcomings, what does it matter if you have different living habits! Divorce for these little things, you will regret it.

    Looking back once in 3,000 years, meeting true love is a person's luck in life. It's a shame to divorce for trivial things, and if you love him enough, none of this is a problem!

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    You don't make excuses, it means that you don't love her, and you start to hate her. If you think it's boring, leave as soon as possible, otherwise it's not good for anyone to drag it out.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Then communicate with him well, and hope that you can influence him with sincerity and make him sober.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    If you feel that there is really no affection between the two parties, there is no common language. Then maybe a breakup would be good for both of you. Although persuasion and non-persuasion are separated, it is uncomfortable to be reluctant to be together without feelings!

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    I think there is a saying that the one who is close to Zhu is red and the one who is close to ink is black, the girl and you should slowly influence her, give her time and give her a chance, let love change a person is your merit, divorce is not the best policy.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Whether you should get a divorce or not is up to you, can you accept a lazy woman for a lifetime. Although it is said that with a lazy woman, you may feel more tired. When an adult is with a self-motivated girl, you will feel comfortable.

    The question is that this girl can accept a divorced boy? I'm afraid that if you divorce your daughter-in-law, and that girl can't accept you, I'm afraid that the bamboo basket will be empty.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    If your happiness is so lazy, you should have divorced early in the morning, don't drag such a woman together, you won't be happy.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    It shouldn't, it shouldn't. Even if you are a motivated person, you must have a certain organizational talent, and you can't even take your daughter-in-law, so how will you lead in the future? Therefore, you have to improve your own quality cultivation.

    Deeply analyze the reasons in the depths of your daughter-in-law's thoughts. Then prescribe the right medicine, do the ideological work of words and deeds, and fly like wings.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    You say you're in the company of a motivated person? Female? Didn't you know your daughter-in-law before you got married?

    Now it's not pleasing to the eye, then you are an irresponsible person, always see the shortcomings of others, you will be okay with everything, I think you have a fancy to others, like the new and hate the old, don't put the responsibility on others, daughter-in-law is her own choice, don't dislike it at the beginning, don't be picky now!

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    You shouldn't get divorced.

    People's moods are constantly changing, and maybe in a few years, you won't be motivated.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Make a request to your daughter-in-law, marriage is run by two people together, and no matter what, you have to pay something.

    Either work, or logistics, both are indispensable for the health of marriage and the integrity of love.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    If you both don't want to love anymore, then don't be together, don't be so tired.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    You have to talk to her so you can live a good life.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Don't get divorced! Marriage is not a feeling, it is a feeling, everyone will go through a period of not feeling, when you don't feel it, think about the good things before, try to change your lifestyle and habits! The other party did not make any mistakes, just because you didn't feel it, you let the other party get hurt, you not only hurt her, you also failed the responsibility of marriage and love!

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Are you sure you don't feel it? Have you ever wondered why you don't feel it anymore? In fact, two people have lived together for a long time, and they will have this feeling when they are familiar to a certain extent, in fact, this is not without feeling, it is also a process that every pair of lovers will go through, please don't blindly think about divorce, this is definitely a mistake, if you go through the next marriage, there will still be such a process, then will you choose to divorce?

    So I want to advise you to cherish today's life, cherish the people who love you, you will understand after a long time, believe me, that's right!

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    We should get divorced, because we are also emotional animals, and a family without feelings is boring and cool

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    The key is your husband's attitude, whether he is good to you, whether he has the ability to take care of you and the children, if he just talks about it, and he does not have the ability to cherish you, then it is recommended to leave quickly.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    However, I have also heard that many remarried families are not good for their children, if it is for the good of their children, they should not be married, and they are not their own children, it is normal to be wrong, if you can't bear it, you can only divorce.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    The question is how is your current child? His family is not good for the children, and the current one is good, so you should move out and live alone, and don't be with their family. If the current is not good for the children, then if you pay more attention to the children, and the current one does not solve this problem for you, then you can only divorce, for the sake of the children, and he doesn't particularly care about you, so he can only divorce, and wait for the children to be older, or there is a better person to choose again.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    I think, instead of this, it's better to get a divorce, you can measure it, you can't get the hair from the current one, except for the mouth will coax people, but, through this, I think you also have a problem, simple and naïve, they are all people who have children, and they are not little girls, do you think, he may be good to you? Besides, you still have the child, he has no money, what can you use to support your child? In your current situation, it's okay to leave!

    A woman who has a child and has to raise a child needs to be remembered. You're not a little girl anymore, do you think you need rhetoric? You're looking for someone you can live a solid life!

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