What are the common misconceptions that men have after marriage?

The wife should only care about her mother-in-law's family and ignore her mother's family

The water spilled by the married daughter. In the feudal society, men are inferior to women, and after the daughter marries, she has nothing to do with her mother's family, and she has no relationship with her mother's property, so she is no longer a member of her mother's family. From the moment a woman passes through the door, she can't take care of her mother's affairs, otherwise she will eat inside and out.

In today's post-80s and post-90s, although there are not too many traditional men like this, the old ideas still have a great influence, and a correct understanding of bad habits is of great significance for establishing a harmonious marriage.

The three minimum principles of interpersonal interaction "equality, respect, and tolerance" are not easy to use properly in the life of husband and wife. After all, society is progressing, civilization is developing, and some things are just not turning for the time being, and a little thought will suddenly open up.

Husbands and wives often refer to each other as "husband" and "wife", which contains the desire to "love each other for a long time". If this wish is to be realized at this stage, it is necessary to live a good life with sincerity: the five principles of equality, respect, tolerance, understanding, and mutual appreciation.

5 common misconceptions that men have after marriage.

The wife should cook, do laundry, and take care of the children

Influenced by the sequelae of traditional conservative thinking and machismo, "male dominant, female dominant" is a matter of course, and the concept of women taking care of household chores has a deep foundation in the hearts of Chinese. Even if you watch your wife busy and enjoy tea and read the newspaper leisurely, you will not feel a little guilty, but feel at ease. The food comes to open the mouth, and the clothes come to stretch out the hand.

My wife should do whatever I tell me to do

Both men and women are the founders of historical civilization, but the status of women has always been low except in the matriarchal period. Ancient Chinese women were even more bound by the "three obedience and four virtues", which were "unmarried from the father, married from the husband, and the husband from the son"; The four virtues are "women's morality, women's words, women's appearance, and women's work".

At present, the status of women has indeed improved, and the requirement for men to go to the "three obedience and four virtues" also has a new meaning: what is the "three obedience"? It is "to obey, to obey, to follow"; "Four Virtues"? It is "to remember the birthday, to understand the mind, to be willing to spend money, and to endure beatings".

But a deep-rooted influence is subtle, and even if there is some improvement on the surface, it still requires a long process of understanding in essence, and it is still a transitional period. The wife is a tool for discharging desires, and the machine for housework is a manifestation of inequality and disrespect, such as: not considering whether the other party agrees, forcibly requesting, and working hard during menstruation.

It's so strange that the ideas that the man is carrying are wrong except for the idea of breaking the law Except that Huai ordered to mess things up and fail, there is nothing wrong with other ideas.

Different men think differently, and this one is also divided.

Because men are more likely and more likely to make mistakes in a marriageHigh。As a result, people will form a more fixed thinking, that is, once there is a party who makes a mistake in the marriage, then most of them think that the man makes a mistake, so if a man wants to change such a situation, then he must do a good job of establishing a good image of a male marriage, and don't just spend time outside drinking and messing around.

Because men's status in marriage is still relatively high, many things are taken by men, so it will be a man's mistake by default.

Because men have a lot of responsibilities, first of all, they have to afford the family's finances, and then they give their wives a sense of security. So these two things are basically difficult for men to do.

Because women are in a vulnerable group, many people have held this view until now, so there are many things that naturally default to men's mistakes.

Because as a man, you should be responsible, you should protect your beloved, and you should also understand and tolerate each other, only in this way can you make your marriage happier.

Because men are the pillars of the family and are responsible for the life of the family, and women are a vulnerable group, it is easy to win everyone's sympathy.

I made two mistakes: (1) I often used cold violence after a quarrel and (2) I felt that the child's education was enough as long as the mother participated, and I was absent from the child's growth.

It's still a lot, especially good-looking, emotionally unstable, impulsive, and often confused about some things.