What makes you marry the wrong person

You don't have deep emotional communicationThe measure of this is whether I respect and admire the person. This question is not the same as "Do I think he's awesome?"

A Mercedes can also impress us, but we don't respect someone for driving a Mercedes. A person's esteemed character is creativity, loyalty, perseverance, and so on. Another question is, "Do I believe this person?"

Or "Is the person emotionally stable?" Do I feel safe around him? ”

You expect him to change after marriage

This is the most classic mistake. Never get married for the "possibility". The rule is, if you are not happy with him now, don't get married.

A colleague of mine summed it up philosophically: "You can expect him to change after marriage, but in a bad direction rather than a good direction!" So it's best to consider whether you can accept the situation and live peacefully with the other person's beliefs, character, personal cleanliness, communication style or skills, and personal habits.

The bad of being single, the urging of the outside worldThe age of 25 seems to be a dividing line for women, and after crossing this line, there are people urging you to get married and have children, and it seems that it is abnormal not to do so. Helplessly, you accepted the blind date arrangement, stepped on the stable road, and you didn't even understand the convenience of the right person to hurriedly get the certificate and worship the church. It's true that singles are often hit by shows of affection, especially when your closest friends get married, and your topic becomes more and more off-track, you can't stand the continued isolation, and you start to get anxious, hesitant, and finally get married.

Men don't understand women's needsMen and women have their own unique emotional needs, and in fact, men are often in intimate relationships'The one who doesn't open his mind. A woman's unique emotional needs are'To be loved' – that is'I am the most important person in my husband's life's emotions. And the husband needs to give his wife a stable, high-quality attention.

You're too much of an instinctPeople who blindly trust their instincts are often immature individuals, and when we have the right to make our own choices and have the conditions for a romantic marriage, we are more indulgent and unscrupulous. Maybe after a few months of dating your girlfriend, you pull out your ring and propose on your knees under the moon one day, and send yourself to hell in the midst of the clamor and applause of everyone, while thinking you are romantic.

Whether you're married, or you're expecting marriage, you're sure to see it to the end. Of course, we don't want to marry the wrong person, but our strong and irresistible psychology can lead us in the wrong direction for four reasons.

First, we don't know ourselves. Many times, we are emotionally naïve and impulsive, but no one reminds us to find our own problems. Our family and friends are always unconditionally tolerant of us, so much so that we don't know ourselves, let alone what kind of person we are suitable for.

We can ask each other on the first few dates what would you be angry about, but it's hard to know why we're angry.

Second, we don't know each other. We can't even find our own problems, and it's even more difficult to find each other's problems, not to mention that at the beginning, the other party covered up very perfectly.

Third, being single is very painful, and we usually tell ourselves that we would rather lack than abuse, and take responsibility for ourselves to face loneliness. At night and with cold sheets, most people turn a blind eye to the person in front of them.

Fourth, when we think we are chasing happiness, we are actually chasing habits. It's only this thing that sometimes makes us feel tired and confused, even though we know that the other person may be irresponsible, selfish, or someone who can't give us security, but we still throw ourselves into their arms without hesitation. Why is that?

Because the love we yearn for is often not absolutely related to kind, pure, simple, and good people, but to people we feel familiar with. This goes back to our childhood, assuming that our fathers were cold, violent, irresponsible, even if terrible.

One of the things you experienced in your childhood is an intimate relationship, and a certain degree of familiarity and intimacy, even tenderness, will subconsciously influence our view of mate selection. So marrying the wrong person, it's not our fault, it's just because there was no one before. How do we love?

What are the reasons why we marry the wrong person? We will marry the wrong person because people's hearts are unpredictable now, and it is almost impossible to get to know a person in a short time.

The reason is that we do not have clear criteria for choosing a mate, we cannot effectively recognize each other's character, we are too kind, and we will always be easily moved and carried away by love.

Because we don't know ourselves, and we don't know others, being single is a particularly bad experience, and we also want to find someone to rely on, and I feel very tired.

You don't feel secure

You chose the wrong person because he made you feel insecure in your relationship.

Ask yourself the following questions:

Do I feel calm, peaceful, and relaxed when I am with this person?

Are you afraid of this person at some point?

If you are always wary of expressing your thoughts and opinions publicly, it is a sign that there is a problem in your relationship, and beware of those who want to change you.

Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don't feel like someone is trying to control you, and there is a big difference between "controlling" and "making suggestions": getting you to do something for your benefit is called "advising"; Getting you to do something for their benefit is called "controlling".

You always dodge questions

You choose the wrong person because you always avoid contradictions, avoid problems.

Taking out the issues that are bothering you and discussing them together is the only way to assess how well the two of you communicate, negotiate and cooperate. In the process of marriage, there will inevitably be contradictions. Before making a commitment, you need to understand:

Can you address the differences between the two sides? If you are always afraid of being hurt and always avoid conflicts, your relationship cannot be closer.

You can't use marriage to escape personal problems

If you're always unhappy when you're single, you're probably going to be unhappy when you're married. Marriage does not solve a person's psychological and emotional problems. If there really are certain personal problems, marriage will only make them worse.

If you're unhappy with yourself and your life, fix it as soon as you're single. That way, you will feel better, and your future lover will thank you.

Because if the wrong person gets married, it will lead to the wrong marriage, and then the marriage will be unhappy, and who will play and not like to run.

Summary. When a couple gets married, both parties should keep their distance from the opposite sex around them, because it is not only respect for the marriage, but also respect for the wife and husband, but also respect for the other person (the opposite sex).

When a couple gets married, both parties should keep a distance from the opposite sex around them, because Chi Stool is not only a respect for marriage, but also a respect for the wife and husband, and the year is also a respect for the other person (the opposite sex).

Especially men, many times they feel that they haven't broken through the last line of defense, and they feel that they don't have anything to do with it, but another Zheng Na woman will never think the same way. Therefore, if you love her, you will stay away from other women.

Women, as long as the men around her love her, there is still time to think about other places.

So, a married person who makes others like you is your fault, completely right!

1.I got married, only to find out that I chose the wrong person, what should I do?

My husband and I got married after knowing each other for three months, and it was also because of the house demolition, and their family had to do a happy event in the old house before the old house was demolished.

After marriage, my husband and I also didn't know much about each other because of our short relationship. Both want each other to break the habits of more than 20 years to accommodate each other.

At first, we quarreled once every three days, then once a week, then we quarreled for half a month, a month and three months, and when we moved to the new house we were assigned, we quarreled once every six months, and the process was two years, and I ran away one or two times. Now our baby is also forty-five days old.

We are busy and happy every day for the sake of our baby. What I want to say is, give some time to you and your lover, when you get married first and then fall in love, we are not perfect, when you see your wife's shortcomings at the same time, you have some things that she is not suitable for, she also feels, she can adapt to you, indicating that she has love for you, try you to discover her advantages, and a person to get a marriage certificate is also a great fate, don't look at the distance is better than the side, wait for someone to live with yourself, the same uncomfortable, marriage to both parties to work hard to run-in, as long as it is not a principled shortcoming, Slowly you can accept and change.

Try to love and care for her, she will feel and will reciprocate to you, I wish you happiness.

Answer: Yes. Like in the face of reality, it's really not worth mentioning.

Some likes are out of place, like the wrong person at the wrong time, at this time you really have to let go, even if you start to persevere, but you have to believe that there are some realities that we can't change, such as: the identity of two people, cultural reputation, family ......These are all gaps that cannot be changed, even if they start to be as sweet and dreamy as idol dramas, and persist until they get married, they are likely to be separated in the end, because once they get married, they can't like it, but two families or clans. The disparity in the family will inevitably produce all kinds of things, and it is impossible to have the harmony and happiness in idol dramas.

This is the reality of rent, it will make your life tired, only separation is relief, at this time, both parties (or one of the omen) will naturally choose to let go.

Summary. Of course, if you make a mistake, you can get married.

If the person is wrong+ can you get married?

Of course, if you make a mistake, you can get married.

As long as you find him who loves each other, the two of them work hard.

The family will also be happy.

People make mistakes sometimes.

It doesn't matter as long as it can be changed.

I hope you can find him who will stay with you for the rest of your life.

So if you make a mistake and you are locked up and you can't go for six months, can you still get married?

This can't.

To get married, both parties need to go to the marriage registration office together to get a certificate.

But you can wait for you to come out and go together.

If you don't have six months, can't you get married?

No. You can't get married.

Marriage requires the presence of both parties.

Don't you wait for six months?

Actually, I've been staying at home.

You can get married if you stay at home.

Actually, it's just detention, so I don't know if I can get married, so I asked.

As long as the two of you show up at the Civil Affairs Bureau with your household registration book, you can get married.

Do not worry. The detention period is six months, and there is no time to get married.

OK. As long as you can go to the Civil Affairs Bureau.

Both sides should go together.

Thank you, that's reassuring to me.

What's wrong. The other person can't be your fiancée.