Why do many people become unhappy after being admitted to graduate school?

Why do many people become unhappy after being admitted to graduate school? It should be mainly due to these reasons:

When I was not admitted, my understanding and cognition of graduate students were full of idealism. It's a wonderful feeling to imagine what it will be like to be admitted to graduate school, and what kind of difference your study life will be like after being admitted to graduate school. With too much beautiful imagination, try your best, sprint hard, and work hard.

On the way to graduate school, the best medicine for customer service is to use a beautiful dream. Through beautiful dreams, we continue to spur and motivate ourselves.

Heaven will definitely favor those who put in the effort, and after doing their best, they reaped the results they wanted. I walked into the study life of graduate students with idealism, and suddenly found that it was different from what I had imagined before. It's not even as good as the study life when I was an undergraduate.

Looking back on my graduate school entrance examination, I found that I had tried my best to get nothing more than this, and this huge gap between reality and ideals caused many people to become unhappy after being admitted to graduate school.

After being admitted to graduate school, the study tasks are heavy, and studying is no longer as easy as in the undergraduate stage. While taking classes to learn theoretical knowledge and completing research topics given by supervisors, the number of virtual tasks suddenly multiplied, making it difficult for many students who were admitted to graduate school to adapt. There is no happy weekend, no warmth and romance at the undergraduate level, and no relaxation at the undergraduate level.

This sense of oppression of huge study pressure makes some students who are admitted to graduate school anxious and impetuous. So I became unhappy!

There may be many people who are particularly interested in a certain major when they first take the exam, especially interdisciplinary students, and are particularly enthusiastic about a certain major. After in-depth study and understanding, I found that it was not the ideal major I loved, and the more I studied, the more I felt it, and gradually became bored, and if I met a mentor who was not very compatible, I might be even more unhappy! If in the process of re-studying, it is found that the employment prospects of this major are not very optimistic, the last bit of happiness of the students who are admitted will be deprived of everything.

Some people are reluctant to go outside to the bustling world after being admitted to graduate school. I often get together with my classmates and classmates who have graduated from undergraduate or graduate school in this major, and I feel a sour feeling when I see them doing well in society and in the workplace. Thinking that he was still a poor scholar and had to ask his parents for living expenses, he felt a sense of jealousy.

If the senior brother who went out complained a few words about the graduate students of this major and didn't treat the company very well after graduation, the mood would be even worse. Therefore, the more frequent you gather and the closer you connect, the more unhappy you will be.

In short, students who are preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination, on the way to the postgraduate entrance examination, don't be too idealistic, don't look like the study life after being admitted to graduate school too beautiful, calm your mind, strengthen your ideals and beliefs, never forget your original intention, keep your mission in mind, and not be affected by the surrounding environment, in order to be happy!

This is because the study career of graduate students is relatively boring, and if graduate students want to graduate, they must publish the corresponding **, this process is relatively difficult, and graduate students also need to pay a lot of energy in order to graduate, so many people will become unhappy.

Big brother, do you really think graduate math is for you to play??? It is estimated that a lot of things, you burn all the brain cells, and it is difficult to solve a lot of rational mathematical problems... The further up the math goes, the more strenuous it becomes. Integral calculus, too, is difficult.

Because after being admitted to graduate school, you also need to live, and you need to focus on your studies, but life also needs to have a certain amount of financial support, so there will be some contradictions.

Because they feel that after being admitted to graduate school, they will have more pressure on your studies, and they will also face a very heavy ** writing, so they are very sad.

Why do graduate students feel more and more unhappy? Let me discuss this issue with you from my personal understanding.

01 The evaluation system is becoming more and more diversified

Since graduating from our bachelor's degree, our evaluation system has become more and more diverse. Because includingAll the entire study career before the undergraduate high school, junior high school, and elementary school are basically based on the test results of the test papers as the only value criterion；But youAfter graduate school, you need to complete a whole scientific research project, and after you finish it, you have to write a few **, and you have to submit it after you write it. First of all, if we look at this project, it may not be possible; After making it, your ** may not be able to write well, because it is very likely that this ** will be written as an experimental rule, and it is difficult to look at this problem from a higher dimension, and it is difficult to look at it macroscopically; Then you finally wrote this **, and all the results were drawn in a particularly beautiful **, and then a variety of special and subtle interpretive drawings were added to the previous calendar; In the end, you throw it and he doesn't necessarily hit.

When we had exams before, it could be said that as long as I worked hard, I would generally be able to achieve a relatively high score; But after grad school, you just work very hard, but you just can't reach it, you just can't send it, you can't get it, you just can't get it, you just have a problem.

02 The future after graduation is uncertain

When it comes to finding a job after graduation, the graduation standards given to you by the boss, all kinds of intrigues, mediation with HR, and preparation for interviewsThere are really more and more things that people have to worry about, and they no longer just need to be responsible for their own exam papers as before。We all agree that the graduate school entrance examination is very hard, in fact, after you are admitted to graduate school, you can see your once simple self, only need to do a good test score is a very happy thing, at that time you only need to put in the effort, but now you even have to do an experiment to communicate with the boss, not just on your own. Another pointPeople's ability to bear pain is basically in proportion to the degree of your current pain is basically a certain amount, that is, at this point in the moment, we will feel that our current thing is very painful for us, and then you look back after a while, you will feel that it is only painful now, it was so happy back then, because now your pain level has increased, and of course your ability to bear pain has also increased.

Combined with the above wisdom points, we can know that the pressure faced during graduate school is huge, but under the pressure, we must also adjust our mentality to meet the future life!

Why many people become unhappy when they are admitted to graduate school, I will analyze it with my own example

1.The interdisciplinary postgraduate examination is not familiar with the knowledge

I am about to be a second-year graduate student, and I believe that there are many graduate students who are interdisciplinary like me, and the first thing such students face is a new field, and everything has to be learned from the most basic things, but the teacher will not start from the most basic things in class, and need to find time to supplement from scratch, and the scientific research process will also stumble because of the weak basic knowledge, compared with other students, there is a lot of learning pressure.

2.** Pressure

Nowadays, many schools have graduation requirements, and how many core journals need to be issued to allow research Cong Chan students to graduate, and the slow progress caused by various unfavorable situations in the scientific research process will cause great psychological pressure on themselves.

3.Peer pressure

As a graduate student, the classmates around him are naturally also graduate students, and some of them are particularly good and very diligent and hardworking, and when their own efforts are still far behind others, there is a lot of psychological pressure.

4.Nothing to spare

Although there are no courses for graduate students to the second year of graduate school, no courses do not mean that there is free time, no classes represent heavier scientific research tasks and pressure, and the time to go out with friends is greatly reduced.

5.Confusion about the future

Even if you go to graduate school, you will still worry about your future, now there are more and more college students graduate students, will you have a better way out after you go to graduate school, will you have a better future, what if you can't find a job, most graduate students will definitely have such confusion I am no exception, but the most important thing is to take every step of the present down-to-earth.

As a graduate student, I am deeply touched by why I am not happy when I am admitted to graduate school, and in my own experience, the reasons are mainly divided into the following aspects.

1. The loneliness brought about by new relationships.

Whether you are going to this school or a foreign school, you will face the problem of building new interpersonal relationships, and the dormitory of graduate students is more like a hotel, and it is difficult to find a common learning goal like an undergraduate. When you take the entrance examination to this school and find that you are no longer the same friends as before, you will inevitably have a feeling that things are wrong with people. Or when you're alone in a new school, you'll inevitably think of your old classmates.

2. Graduate student life does not meet psychological expectations.

Not as laid-back as undergraduate, real graduate life can be a little boring. In the second year of graduate school, students who spend all day soaking in the laboratory for graduation, running around for experimental results, and doing something free and casual during the undergraduate period will feel a little painful.

3. Employment pressure with uncertain prospects.

When you are admitted to graduate school, you will find that your future employment situation is almost as uncertain as that of undergraduates, and you will doubt whether your choice to go to graduate school is correct, because in the two or three years of your graduate studies, the students who graduated from the undergraduate program have already accumulated a certain amount of workplace experience, and you are just a blank slate, with no experience at all. Only you know why you went to graduate school, and no one will wonder if you went to graduate school because you wanted to escape something, because everyone else thinks that the choice to go to graduate school is the right one.

4. Greater pressure in life.

I believe that most of the students who are in graduate school, or those who are about to enter the hall of graduate school, most of them are parents. Everyone wants to be independent from their parents and become an independent person on their own, but the current situation is not satisfactory, and you need to focus a lot of energy on academics in graduate school, and it is difficult to achieve financial independence. This creates a sense of powerlessness in life.

In the above situation, what we have to learn is to adjust our mentality to face it, so that we are good enough, and you will have the self-confidence capital to face all the uneasiness!

As a senior sister majoring in urban planning, I have deep feelings about why I am not happy after being admitted to graduate school. In my own experience, I think there are several reasons.

1.The teacher's training style does not match his own interests. The teacher's training style (academic, project-based, and scumbag Zen is free-range), if it does not match your field of interest, it will be very painful.

My original intention of studying in graduate school was to improve my planning and design skills and professional literacy, but I chose an academic teacher for other reasons, and from the first to the third year, I was tormented by whether I could publish in core journals**.

2.Professional self-confidence was hit. I was full of confidence and was admitted to graduate school, and I thought that I would have attainments in planning and design or scientific research and academics, but in fact, I was helping my brothers and sisters with chores all day long, and I was writing all day long** that I couldn't publish or didn't help me much**.

I also found that the content I was responsible for was far behind my classmates, and the teacher couldn't use it if he wanted to. Or**The topic is thoughtless, and you can never write what the tutor is satisfied with**. I thought I would be a sparkling piece of gold, but it turned out to be just a mediocre and insignificant grain of sand.

3.Interpersonal disharmony. If you want to say that the most painful time of graduate school is the first topic, then the other one must be with a fellow abusive relationship.

When you are not strong enough, there are always people who come to bully you, and in the face of her year-long PUA, I am already so depressed that I go to see a psychiatrist. Fortunately, under the denial of her by two other classmates in the same class, I gradually realized that I was PUA, constantly adjusted my psychology, and successfully got rid of it.

4.I found that I was not interested in graduate school or my major. After spending more than two years of graduate school, it is difficult to be interested in both projects and scientific research writing.

For the things that interest me, now I am under pressure to graduate, or the requirements of my mentor, and it is difficult to have time to develop. In this environment, I can't do what I love as a precious girl, and it's really hard to be happy when I do something that doesn't help me much in the future and changes my positive and sunny personality.

During graduate school, the unhappiness also includes the loneliness of being far away from home, the confusion about the future, and the helplessness of the present....... Of course, many unhappy factors can also be avoided, such as early consideration of the choice of supervisor, school selection, assessment of the necessity of graduate school, and so on. Finally, Yi Lu Bai talked about it in "The Underlying Logic".The underlying logic of all human decision-making must be a set of successful choice logic derived from the past"Encouragement!